Are women's standards for men too high?

Question

Our society seems to be fixated on this image and standard of gender roles and what people are supposed to be like. However there is very objectionable and unjust ideas going around particularly about men. Men are criticized, judged, and labeled so strongly by women, and yet we are silenced for speaking out about it. The inequality of the matter is evident. Women have it so much easier in the dating world. If a female has trouble dating, there's an entire pity party waiting to listen to her complain that she only matched with 4 ugly dudes, and guys are so shallow. Meanwhile men are literally committing suicide 3x more than women because we can't get so much as a single match on dating websites, or even in person. We're even criticized for approaching in some cases (this has happened to me before) mean mugged, and given obviously fake sympathy. Instead of being comforted for our pain, we're criticized for it, as if there is some universal law that men cannot have feelings. All a woman has to do to get attention is be sexy. LITERALLY! Some women don't even have to lift a single finger. Meanwhile men are expected to be professional bodybuilding thug gangbangers that are both sympathetic and aggressive with a 6 figure paycheck. I get it. Women want a man that can protect them and pay the bills. A relationship is pretty much a necessity for a woman, but it's also a necessity for men too. It's difficult to survive on your own, and we do get lonely. Some of us are actually trying to become better people, and have interests besides joining a gang, killing people in other countries, and throwing a football around. Some of the best films, ideas, music, and artwork has been created by people who have defied traditional gender roles. Not everyone is going to be as good as everyone else. Can we please stop holding such high standards and expectations for what we envision our partners to be like?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah I do think standards are getting high. Don’t fret though because you can’t choose who you fall inlove with.
I get the impression men are picky and due to a past of rejection I can stand behind that but I do see how woman expect men to have money, cars, and height, and a jawline and etc.
its not nearly as bad as men wanting big ass and tiddies though I do blame men for the shitty beauty standards woman have. Man want “curves” but like I don’t have any curves and I’m not slim thick so I don’t know what to do, but anyways.
i agree woman are getting very picky.
its kinda fucked up that most girls just completely cancel short men as invalid to even date which is jacked, but men don’t cancel skinny girls or small breasts girls and such so it’s pretty unfair when you think about it

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

In some ways I think women’s standards are much too low or just misplaced in areas like attitude, behavior, and maturity. A lot of women are putting up with way too much bs in these areas.

Even professional bodybuilders can be shitty boyfriends.

lnva87 · Accepted Answer

I have seen this that even conflicting things are expected of men.
Yes I understand that girl might want athletic, rich, gentle man.
But I think persons expectations should be somewhat in line with what they have to offer.

I take my self as example. I admit guilty for not going for fat girl, how ever im not even near of ideal male body. So Im good if girl is somewhere around normal.
Same goes on many other criteria I keep. Not expecting more that I can offer.
Ofcourse when you and right one meet both will let go of some expectations.

But I have seen girls who don't work, aren't pretty nor athletic and not very gentle, but require man that would be this near perfect.

Im not saying there wouldn't be men who are guilty of similar unbalanced expectations.

ScottSummers · Accepted Answer

You are absolutely right dude, you are telling the truth. and you know what? The truth is uncomfortable, not everyone wants the truth, some people would rather the blissful lie.

I was making 114k a year playing soccer, just when my contract was about to end and i was in negotiation with my club to sign a new one i hurt my damn knee so bad that i will be out for 6 months or maybe even more so my club won't sign a new contract with me for now.
Guess what my girlfriend of 4 years did? She left me ofc.
In this society we (men) we are a disposable utility, once we dont earn enough money or whatever we are completely useless especially to women.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the problem is the whole society has told women that they are fabulous and flawless and that they deserve everything. Their ego is so huge that they can't picture themselves being with a decent average guy, when in reality 99% of women today are inferior to the average guy. Whether it's on an intellectual or physical basis, women are behind men. I wouldn't have any problems with a woman who's a 10 thinking she dereves a guy who's also a 10. It gets ridiculous when 1s and 2s think they deserve men who are 10. And most of these women don't even realize their 1s and 2s as you can already tell by reading their comments to your question.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Well I think most western people have standards that are just unrealistic and misguided. Male and female. Get back to the basics of why you want someone in your life and keep it to just that. I like OSHO's recommendations on love. Don't be come dependent on one another. It seems western love has this as its basis. Strive to be independent complete people apart from your relationship and share your lives without piling up your crap on your partner.

Daylight7550 · Answer

Women faced inequality in the US for almost 2 thirds of it's existence and is still no equal today. It's men that created laws to keep women down. And no, I do not support feminism nor am I a liberal in any way. It's simple history. Women in the US have had the right to vote for only 100 years. That's right. Only since 1920.

Anonymous · Answer

That hypocrisy and double standard is very well known.

All women care about is looks... more than any personality traits or even their children. such as Diane Downs, who on May 19th 1983, tried to murder her 3 children because the asshole that got her wet didn't want kids. She killed her 7yo but the 4 and 9yos survived She got life + 50 for a hot guy.

Twalli · Answer

My paycheck is a lot more than 6 figures the most recent one was $0000000000000.00. More than 6 figures there, unfortunately I don't get bonuses. Yet I have a girlfriend. It took me a while, but I was single because I didn't talk to women, not because I didn't try. Be kind and courteous to everyone and girls will see that and realize that if you treat strangers like that you will probably treat people you know better.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes i do think so as far as making a lot of money goes

MannMitAntworten · Answer

In seeing women date, I often wonder if women have any standards beyond, “he took me on an actual date once...” and keep living for that moment. Any “high standards” that women have seem to exist alone within an effeminate man’s head.

Anonymous · Answer

Ya you have to have a 6 figure income be 6 feet tall and have a 6 inch package 666 wait I think I’m onto something here lmao

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think they are and always have been and ever will be, But it is still understandable. It is just still hard and upsetting for us Shy Guys though.

Kingfish3447 · Answer

I agree with you bud.

Anonymous · Answer

Since when did staying healthy, protecting your wife and paying bill's become to high of a standard? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you just sound lazy af.

Anonymous · Answer

Look incel. You are looking for wrong women. Every woman is different. I prefere young virgin average looking and i am ok with providing him because i am little bit dominant. Go for dominant women then

Anonymous · Answer

They are far too low.

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