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Revised Masculine/Feminine Take: What I Was Actually Trying to Say.

I wrote a take 5 days ago and it was titled "Feminine and masculine; why we have to stop putting labels on It " What I intended that take to be about, is not how people took it. I suppose it could be because I suck at explaining myself or because I made the stupid mistake of using the word "label" (which people focused on, like a dog with a bone). So, I decided to revise that take and explain what I was actually talking about vs what people took it be about.


Let's start with.....


What everyone thought I was saying: Everyone seems to think that because I used the word "label" that I wanted to do away with terms masculine and feminine from people's vocabulary's.


They seem to think I don't know that there are certain traits that are male and female and that those traits help differentiate between the two.


They seem to think because I said I think "every man is masculine and every women is feminine" that I'm some kind of feminist who's wants men and women to be the same.


So, now let's go to.....................


What this take was really about: I may have used the word "label" but that's not what this was about. It was about random lists that people make to declare that men who do those thing are masculine macho men or a delicate feminine woman. And the take was inspired by one I read listing 7 things that a woman should know about masculine men. None of the things on that list have anything to do with being man but instead is just general random stuff that any guy would want. I also just saw a take about 16 things that make a woman attractive and these list are what I was talking about.


The one about masculine men said "masculine men like adventure". So, that means that any man who doesn't want to bungee jump off the Golden Gate Bridge is someone less of a man? That seems fair to everyone? Because, it doesn't to me. Liking adventure doesn't make you a man, it just means you like adventure. So, the guys that aren't adventureous shouldn't feel like they are somehow unmanly because they don't. That's what I meant.


No man or woman should have to feel like they are less then because they don't do those things on the lists that people make and that's all I was trying to say.


As for what I meant by the statement I made: I suppose I probably should have phrased it differently because what I actually meant got lost in translation. What I meant was, I don't look at a guy and think "he's a manly he-man and that one over is a big wimp" or "she's feminine and lady like and that one over there is so unbelivable butch". When I see a guy, he's just a guy to me and when I see a girl, she's just a girl to me. I don't stand there and analyze there masculine or feminine characteristics. So, when I said that I was just saying a man is a man to me and woman is a woman to me, I see them for the gender they are. It's not more complicated then that.


For the record: I'm chick with all male friends, so if anybody knows that men and women have traits that make them different, it's me. I'm very a aware how different men and women are, believe me and I don't have problem with that.


All I wanted to get across in that take, was that telling men and women that certain things like owning a Harley (if your a guy) or getting manicures every week (if your a girl) makes them more masculine or feminine then the men or women who don't do those things, is wrong. Because, owning a motorcycle doesn't make you a man, it just makes a guy who owns a motorcycle. Getting a mani/pedi every week doesn't make you feminine, it just means you like to get mani/pedis. So, all I'm bascially saying is random things we do shouldn't be use to define how masculine or feminine one is because it usually has nothing to do with being that gender and everything to do with just a personal thing they like. That's all meant and all I was every trying to say.


I'm not sure if this clears things up or not, I hope it does. If you have any questions about what I wrote just ask. Thank you for your time.


Revised Masculine/Feminine Take: What I Was Actually Trying to Say.



Revised Masculine/Feminine Take: What I Was Actually Trying to Say.
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