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You are responsible for your own well-being and no one else!

You are responsible for your own well-being and no one else !




No ifs, no buts, no “I am just unlucky,” no “these people are so mean to me,” and no "it's his/her/their fault." The only exceptions are extreme cases like forced violent crimes.


To every bully there need to be someone who lets himself bully.


To every conned person there needs to be someone falling for it.


You end up once with an abusive partner? Can happen. You end up several times with an abusive partner? You most likely haven’t learned your lesson.


You feel like people don’t love you? Chances are you don’t even love yourself.


The list goes on endlessly. I might care about the reasons, but I honestly don’t care about all your possible excuses coming up. Obviously it will be difficult. Life is difficult. We grow on difficulties and all you are doing with using excuses is stunting your growth. It’s like you are forcefully keeping a wound open so it can’t heal.


About a year ago my then employer royally screwed me over. Instant dismissal while I was for 2 weeks in holidays including a 200.000 bucks lawsuit against me demanding my wage back while leaving me with no chance to get money for a while due to my countries laws.


Now I could start talking about how I worked my ass off for him, didn't let me get extra pay for overtime and weekend work. I could talk a lot about what kind of major douchebag with narcissistic and sociopathic tendencies he is.


In the end though while he was the major player here in causing this situation, it was my fault. There are always two sides of a coin and I didn’t pay attention to all the red flags I have seen. When my dog always barked at him, I just excused this with my dog having had bad experiences. When I saw off behaviours of him, I excused it with him being a creative worker and they had to be weird.


I could give all these excuses, but truth be told. It was my fault for not doing anything. That does not mean I go all out guilt-tripping from it, but it means I had to learn from it and I did. While the lawsuit is still running its course since the law is always slow, I have learned a lot from that situation and the chain reaction of it. I have learned and grown as a person and my life is now at a better place than it was before because of this experience.


Opposite to popular belief it is not the experiences which shape us per se. It is what kind of conclusions we take out of it what differs us and makes us who we are. Life is full of opportunities and every experiences - especially the disastrous ones - are one of the biggest opportunities to grow as a person.


We accomplish a change of external outcomes by creating growth internally.


Life is about growing. Life is to walk a path. There are two differences though. There are the people who walk their own path and eventually take detours, get lost occasionally and have to work to find their way back to move forward. And there are the people who keep running away from responsibility and from their path until their legs get tired an they break down.


There are only two choices though:


Progress or stagnation. We only can move forward or give up.


Naturally some people will get defensive, some will even get aggressive, because the truth can be hurtful at times. But you know what? The truth might be hurtful for a while, but lies will keep eating you up from the inside until only an empty shell is left behind. Instead of finding excuses, forge your own fortune.


And as some last words because people these days seem to obsess over labels and disadvantaged minorities: It does not matter, if you are black, white, yellow, brown, green, straight, gay, bi, male, female, christian, jewish, muslim, hinduist, buddhist, atheist, liberal, conservative, vegetarian, meat-eating, vegan, bdsm-loving, obese, anorexic, transsexual, a feminist, a mra, a furry, an Alien-Overlord, have OCDs, autism, depression, anxieties, addictions, personality disorders, idendity disorders, suicidal thoughts, PTSDs or whatever label there is.


The end result is always the same. Everyone has their own baggage to carry. And what can seem super easy for you can be incredibly difficult for someone else and vice versa.

You are responsible for your own well-being and no one else!
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