Everyone is Different

[Anonymous]

Before anything else: TGIF G@Gers!

With that out of the way, there is something I want to address, something that I think is so obvious yet it still needs to be said. If you look through my mytakes, you’ll find that I did an article voicing my opinion on who women dress for, titled: Who Women REALLY Dress For – A New Theory in a Age Old Debate. I still stand by that theory mind you because I feel it has merit, but I came to realize something when I was reading the comments: a lot of people have a lot of different opinions. I can't lie and say I haven't been closed minded in the past and unwilling to see other opinions, but I am now making an effort to being more open to new ideas.

I began asking myself why it was so many people have a tendency to fight, argue and disagree on the actions of the opposite sex; most commonly why men or women do particular things/have particular behaviors. Naturally, everybody has their opinions: Women dress for men, all men are pigs, men shouldn’t be sensitive, women friendzone every guy who isn’t rich and hot – you get the gist. I naturally have my own opinions on each of those subjects, but it isn’t uncommon to see so many differing views, and it is even more common to see people with opposing views who actually have a point. It leaves me questioning myself sometimes, and then it hit me….

Everyone is different!

Everyone is an individual, meaning that their behaviors are more likely attributed to who they are as a person than it is attributed to their gender. Sure, it may be more common to see particular characteristics in males and females, but how they view the world and behave is derivative of their own personality. Let’s keep with the “Who women dress for” subject: a common argument is that there ARE women who dress scandalously for the sake of male attention, or who simply dress to impress men in general. There is TRUTH in that statement, but it isn’t the only correct one. There could very well be women out there who simply love miniskirts and red lipstick while still having no desire for male attention – after all, why else would they reject the guys that approach them at bars? My point is, is that everybody does things for different reasons, and rather than assume that we can generalize everyone like its absolute fact we should try to consider that not everyone interprets behaviors the way we do. So, instead of assuming someone wants sexual male attention, or assuming that the guy you just met is cheating on you because he hasn’t texted you back after 20 minutes, we should take the time to consider that we have no way of knowing this until we really engage that person about it directly.

So, what I’m saying is this: take into consideration that not everybody does things for one particular reason and be open to considering new ideas. Does that mean we can’t make generalizations? No, generalizations often do hold some truth, but we have to tread with the idea in mind that generalizations are not supported by 100% concrete fact when applied to a demographic of billions. I am guilty for it too, so don’t worry.

Be open to new ideas, consider new avenues, and have yourselves a nice day.

[KDA20]

I like that take - Sometimes here you see sweeping generalisations and you can almost see fuel being added to the fire - I have often found that if I go into bat for the people being generalised against if I adopt the tactic that agreeing their may be some people like in their opinion but not everyone is like that, I often get agreement of the majority of the opinion holders that sweeping generalisation may not be so sound.
Back to your take I don't know when it happened but somewhere along the line I took your idea on board that everyone is different. As you say there are some things certain groups are more likely to do but to get a true perspective you have to view people as individuals. In reality I don't fully understand myself so how can I claim to fully understand someone else and by extension claim to have concrete proof of a trend among a group of people made up of individuals not one of whom I fully understand.
Okay so if I am ever in a bar and I meet or am approached by a girl I won't make a snap judgement before she opens her mouth, I will wait a few minutes talk to her and slowly form an opinion of her.

[Anonymous]

Great Take! 👍 i enjoyed reading it and i agree with all you stated!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you my dear.

[Anonymous]

The time of tolerance is past. So sick of asswipes.

I tried being understanding. But people just take advantage of it. Any openings you give simply advance their causes. So it's win or lose.

I'm tired of both liberals and conservatives. They're equal liars and thieves.

I want this fucking country to burn. I want blood in the street. A fucking genocide is necessary to get people back in line.

[Drednaught]

The state of chaos doesn't make you want to help it become something good? Why destroy it if we can have a better system instead of no system at all?

[SIGguy]

@Drednaught It'll never get better. Even the Bible says the shit will hit the fan, so does every other religious text.

[Opinion Owner]

@Drednaught
Helping people is a fool's errand. People don't actually want it! You try helping, and you get backstabbed and bitched at. People who don't rely on themselves are almost universally ingrates, I've come to learn.

I used to be idealistic like that, volunteering and whatnot. But I was wrong. It was a foolish waste of time and energy.

People need to die. There needs to be bloodshed. People need to fear, people need to be crushed. That's how they learn.

Blood on the streets is what we need.

[myTake Owner]

Dude, I was ignoring this because your attitude is extremely petty and because you lack the balls to do this non anon - but seriously, I feel SO BAD for you.

[JackTyler]

Yeah I totally agree. I can't count the number of times people have assumed that my mind works exactly like theirs.

[tscumeses]

yes, state self-evident points on human nature.. haha.

[Leaflar]

No two people are not on fire.

[godownliketreysn]

alright fucking mark twain

[myTake Owner]

That's me, buy my album.