So I had a talk with my fiance and his family; my fiance is mixed half black. His mom is white and his dad is black, so we somehow came up with different kind of stereotypes. Then unfortunately we started talking about African American women stereotypes. It was very uncomfortable hearing what his mom and family had to say, and he was embarrassed. It started some conflict and I kind of felt they were being racist...but they where just expressing their opinions.
I asked for their honest opinions so I couldn't get too mad. It just bothers me that people think this about black women. Not all black women are the same, of course. Some people just generally think this of most black women. The majority of black women are just like any other women in America and I hate when people stereotype us black women...but this is the kind of world we live in. Here's a list of things that are often said:
1. Welfare Queens
People say we;re lazy, jobless and count on welfare benefits. First of all, this has nothing to do with race. People in general are just lazy and jobless and live in poverty. I see a lot of black women with careers and working there asses off, and iI'm one of them. Society thinks otherwise.
2. Overweight and out of shape
Most black women are thick, not out of shape. Being overweight has nothing to do with being a black women. All women come in all shapes and sizes.
3. Can't grow natural long hair.
Black women can grow their hair as long as they want, as you can see; if you don't take care of your hair and damage your hair then it won't grow at all. It will fall out. Most black women with short hair either cut their hair or its just really damaged to the point that it won't grow. All hair can grow long if you let it.
4. Darker vaginas...some say "purple"
I hear this one a lot. My Mexican friend a few years back asked me if this stereotype was true and I told her hell no. Not all black women's va jay jays are purple. They're pink too just like they are on any other woman. Some black women may appear darker but purple...?
5. Loud, Ghetto/Bad attitude.
Yes, some black women are ghetto and have no common sense and this is me when i see this behavior:
While most black women do have some sense, this also has nothing to do with race. Some people are raised in the ghetto and are just loud, period. I can catch an attitude at times and most women do; women can get really moody especially when that time of the month comes around lol.
6. Other races dating black women is a fetish.
They call this jungle fever...but no this is love. No fetish.
7. Have ghetto names.
Hahaha. Yeah, but not true and it's cause their ghetto mamma named them. I have a normal basic name " Erica" and most black women do have non-ghetto names.
8. Smell funny.
Yes some black women keep products in their hair like grease, which is really good for hair. so it might give out a smell that other races are not used to. My friend back in high school, she is white and she thought I smelled funny because of the grease i was using in my hair. I used grease because it made my hair very soft. She thought I smelled weird lol but I explained to to her that it was the grease in my hair, and why I had it in my hair. Then she totally understood. She later married a black men they had a daughter together and now she's also using the same grease I used in my hair for her daughter. Now she tells me she loves the smell lol.
So lets just say I looooove being a black women, and just being a woman overall. I hate these lame stereotypes. Any thoughts on this please comment.
Thanks for reading.
Top 8 Negative Stereotypes About African-American Women
These stereotypes are one of the reasons why we are considered the "least attractive race of women" and other negative connotations. The stuff that I hear about black women over the Internet is disgusting, and they make me feel bad about myself because I do not fit into the stereotype, and people assume that we are all like this when that is simply not the case. I was thinking about writing my own version. Let me go through each point:
1. I'm at the top of my class in my school and I plan on getting a higher education.
2. I eat healthy and workout 4 days a week.
3. Look at my profile picture. That is my REAL hair.
4. Um, mine is pink lmao. Makes me mad that people say we have beef vaginas. Not true at all for most.
5. I'm quiet and well-mannered according to my teachers.
6. Nope. This is just dumb and I hate people assume this. Maybe they actually love the woman for who they are? Why does it have to be a fetish?
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stereotypes (whether positive or negative) are not good. it only perpetuates the notion that we can label people (individuals) by groups rather than understanding people as individuals.
1. My family has NEVER been on welfare... also, I grew up with my father. 2. I'm literally 100 pounds on a good day (lel). Skinniness runs like WILDFIRE in my family, and we're mostly full black. My mom was 99 pounds in college, my sister weighs 115 pounds, I have three aunts who pushed out about five kids each and their bodies still look the same (they are more than likely under 150 pounds). I also have a cousin who works as a fashion model. 3. Tell that to my great grandmother who had waist length hair (okay, she was half Indian, but you get the point). A lot of my family members have 4c natural hair past their shoulders. Mine is currently getting there (armpit length natural hair). I have a friend whose hair reaches the middle of her rib cage and I had a former classmate whose hair reached into her lower back and guess what, they are all natural hair. 4C natural hair to be exact. Also, not every black woman wears weave. 4. Purple? Who came up with this? Last time i checked... forget it. O_O 5. Because of this stereotype, I am often labelled as an 'oreo'. -_- 6. I doubt the white man who married one of my cousins was fetishizing her... also, my cousin doesn't 'hate' herself. 7. Most people in my family have some basic ass names... 8. I get a lot of compliments saying I 'smell nice'.
This was a good, well written take. A lot of these stereotypes I really don't fit and some people are surprised about my interests when they get to know me better... :/
Thank you, very sad how many people are actually trying to say they're true. We aren't all the same. Then you have people being like "well I'm white and I've got stereotypes"... lol no one said you didn't, not everything has to be about you. We are talking about black women, write your own MyTake.
I'm not American, but I'm black and I get pissed off when I read comments about black women (in the US) on the Internet. Not everyone is the same. And people shouldn't base their opinions on stereotypes.
@RainbowFanGirl I looked at them. It makes me sad and angry. Unfortunately, some people use the Internet to say things they can't say in real life. Sometimes I wonder if these comments represent the opinions of Americans, or if it's just the people on GAG.
My suggestion for anyone who has these thoughts and opinions is to actually go out and meet people. Make more friends and acquaintances and you'll realize that people are individuals. You can't paint everyone with the same brush. We forget that people are individuals.
I also don't see how 3 is a negative thing. There are plenty of beautiful hairstyles that don't require someone to grow their hair long.
I think it's true that African people (male and females) grow less hair, even Neanderthals (white and short and hairy humans who lived before us in Europe) were way hairier than homosapiens (our predecessors).
but lemme say something guys, my best friend Sam is a black African guy and guess what? he's the most loyal friend I've ever had, he doesn't forget me and he even texts me to ask my mood and he's a true friend, many of my white friends don't even give a damn about me, so don't judge all of them because you had some bad experiences with some black people.
#9 black women giving a f about these lame ass stereotypes that others think about them. F those stupid lame pieces of dog shit Its like black people don't have any self pride anymore and always looking for acceptance from others f these fools that stereotype us. I have the dignity not to go out my way to prove to anyone that i'm not a stereotype, because if any of these Sandusky copycats are dumb enough to generalize blacks, why should I give a F about their lame ass opinion?
I love black women, I think they're fantastic and I have long since wished that they would stand up collectively and make their voices heard because I dislike the amount of negativity that is thrust upon them. Sure if you search and reach hard enough you'll find some black women that fit these stereotypes but in the main I have found black women to be pleasant and I found numerous black women to be very attractive and I love their natural hair, the frizzy hair, I think it's awesome. I just love black women (but I too get the whole "you have jungle fever shit) because none of my friends including my black friends like black women, they all prefer white women.
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Your take failed to dismiss anything. Fact is the majority of single mothers in America on Welfare are black and are more likely to be obese. And yes by in large they do have ignorant bad attitudes, I recently watched a documentary about Obama and how people dislike him and the black women were ignorant and just liked Obama because he was black and anyone who criticised him was either racist or an uncle Tom. Yes I agree there are many hard working career women that I would date in a second, personally I would choose to date an actual African woman as I have a hard time dealing with Black American women and their negative combative attitudes, its not just myself a white man who will tell you but many Black American men just can't deal with the negative attitude, hence all the single black mothers.
@RainbowFanGirl Sir that is incorrect information. Most of the percentage of people on welfare are caucasian americans. Please check your facts and not create false ones based on stereotypes, negative experiences or bias. Please and Thank you.
@SmandyCandy Welfare Demographics Percent Total Number Percent of welfare recipients who are white / caucasian 16.8 % 11,405,000 Percent of welfare recipients who are black 39.6 % 26,884,000 Percent of welfare recipients who are Hispanic 21.2 % 14,392,000 Percent of welfare recipients who are Asian or Pacific Islander 18 % 12,220,000 Percent of welfare recipients who are Other / Mixed 4.4 % 2,987,000 I realise there is good reason for these statistics after years of racism and no self belief that African Americans can succeed but Obama has proven otherwise and change is on the way.
@thesweetestsin I can sense shade being thrown. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ... but i'm neither participating nor admonishing it. lol jk, but seriously dont let people like him get you angry. 1.) it's not worth it, we're better than this 2.) it's best to defeat an opponent with logic and not anger 3.) this website is full of them. I am dead serious... it's hella full. '-' So! don't expend so much energy on it! ^-^
@TokyoGhoulLover my statistics come from the federal government not a statistical study from a leftist blog, if the figures were negative would they have released this story. The fact is the African American community has a problem with large numbers on welfare and large numbers involved in criminality but things are getting better.
mhm, sure dude. whatever you feel is right. ^-^ You won't receive a drawn out argument from me as people like you have done in the past. It's childish, you Won't change your mind either way, You'll convince yourself that you're right and will follow it with comments "confirming" this statement, and I would have wasted three days of my life. So kisses, patronizing nods and trust me Mexicans and Spaniards are Two Separate People~. lol
dude you're a grown man, please fill your life with something else other than starting fights with women on the internet trying to troll you. (I was not by the way to stop any follow up questions lol, but seriously I'm leaving now. Refer to post number 3 for any posts you submit to me. thanks! ^-^ and have a Wonderful day)
@YourName123 @RainbowFanGirl actually @thesweetestsin "your dick is not big enough for most black American women like me. we dont care if a white guy doesn't like us" said that, I only ask her if thats what she was saying. No racism involved, not everything is about race, for example if I dont like Obama's policies its not because im racist.
Some of these Sterotypes are true. Doesn't mean they apply to you individually but they are true. I see how you responded to some comments so let me say that I'm a White woman, I grew up in the city and have a number of Black female friends and family members.
Curious, you say that most black women have basic names. Well I don't know many black women under the age of 30 with common names. My 19 year old daughter goes to college and rooms with a girl named Hennessy (birth name) and she graduated with a Nivea (like the Lotion). Just saying.
I'm sure every area is different but around where I live I know many very strong and proud African American ladies that I admire a great deal. They take care of themselves (more so than I see most white women) and they don't take shit from anyone. Though it did take me a while to get used to how they talk, I always thought they were yelling at me, but they were just loud lol
Statistics are mean and racist though. Reality is, many stereotypes don't come from nothing. If you aren't one of those stereotypes, blame your fellow blacks who created them.
Self-responsibility seems to go past the head of all the downvoters. So you are one of the few agreeing though. Seems like when it comes to blacks people throw any common sense out of the window.
I'm a black female from Africa 😑, i just understand stereotypes, every race has them and as you said there is a reason why, stereotypes are basically what the majority are inclined to do. But they do not give any account for the exempt minority thus they are not reliable.
People just generalise in order to speak easier about a certain group. You can't make it right for every individual, so generalisations about demographic groups happen.
Nothing wrong about it as long as the individual is given the chance to show that they aren't necessarily part of said generalisation.
However the stereotypes of blacks is using the minority to represent the majority, the stereotypes are based on "African Americans", but people always forget that they are other blacks in the world and rule out a whole continent called "Africa", majority of the blacks you meet outside American are more likely to be African, so you see these stereotypes are not reliable outside the US.
Even amongst the whites the stereotypes at least give some form of exemption like white Americans have their stereotypes, British have theirs, Scottish people have theirs etc they have variety but for blacks? No their like fuck Africa no one cares how they act, lets just stereotype every black like the African American.
The thing you need to know about stereotypes is that, even if not all applies to everyone, they exisy for a reason. Lots of this seem to be true with a lot of black women, in my experience.
What black women have you been around? None of these apply to me or a lot of black girls at my school. Many of them are kind, well-mannered, and intelligent.
There is no way to post that comment and not look like an a$$hole, but you must not give a damn. Believe me, I could say a lot of things about black because a lot of them do not seem to like me... but I don't because there is no need step on a group that's already oppressed.
@RainbowFanGirl You're 17? Take this as an early life lesson: only care about the opinions of the people who care about you. Everyone else is just background noise.
@RainbowFanGirl@Guy83 I never said there aren't well-mannered and intelligent black women out there, or that you fit the stereotype, but you have to thank those that aren't, and fit most of these stereotypes because you know there are a big number of black people that fit them.
As for black people being oppressed, please. Racism exist, sure, but it goes both ways. Both black and white people suffer racism (and it goes beyond stereotypes), but actual hatred. It's not a one way street.
@Guy83 I think we were talking about stereotypes, which every race, culture, country, etc, suffers from. All I think about stereotypes is that most seem to be true about a big number of a certain group of people, period. I don't think it applies to everyone in that group, but it doesn't necessarily make them false to most.
If you really want to go there, though, which is definitely a whole different topic then you'd know by now almost 1000 people killed by police nationwide, over 50% of those were (drum-roll)... white males. So what's the story ender?
White people make up... what, 70% percent of the population. So that number is a lot less impressive when compared to the number of murders in a 12% group? If you're gonna pull statistics, do better...
@Guy83 So you're denying this, and racially-specifically calling it "a white people make up". Umm... Based on FBI date, for 20 to 24-year-olds, the murder rate among blacks (109.4/100,000) is 17 times higher than the rate for whites (6.4/100,000). Among 15 to 19-year-olds, it is over 20 times higher. The average for all ages is 13 times higher.
Speaking on black-on-white crime, it is substantially greater than the reverse. Blacks kill as often as whites, although blacks represent only 13% of the population. Note also that black-on-white murder is more than double the rate of white-on-black murder (409 to 189).
Of the 509 officers feloniously killed in the past 10 years, 46 percent of the perpetrators were black, despite their representing only 13 percent of the population.
So don't come here with a condescending attitude because I know my facts well, even though these seem to be rather "inconvenient" to the average black person, and libtards. You're welcome to consult these figures directly from the website: ucr.fbi.gov/.../...ce_and_sex_of_offender_2013.xls
Im from the UK so Afro caribbean? I didn't/don't have any of the issues you mention Apart from worrying if she will think that i have "jungle fever" early on which is related to 6 just the other way round i think? I have some others that could maybe be made in to just one? Though less so as i'm older I still worry might say something stupid or one of my relatives might say something stupid? Her or my relatives reacting differently and it becoming awkward?
Appearance wise is all positive. I feel like you actually put in more work than caucasian women and I notice that. Also either they seem to show up less or you do more to cover them but you seem to have less blemishes. Thats a time im not 100% sure if it's offencive to say that?
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Yeah!! Number 5 isn't so cut and dry!! I know many black woman get told that there typical black woman and thats not always true. But most black girls I know ( and am friends with) are like this.
There's combative and confrontational. They do get loud and when arguing go for roasting and trying to personally attack rather than come to an understanding. A mutual agreement. This is just how it is.
It is so!! But like someone said below to disagree here is an automatic cause for attack from people who agree. But like someone else said, these stereotypes exist for a reason. They may not apply to all but they do apply to a large percentage. Not saying the majority, but a large percentage.
No rascism here I have black friends who are like family. But I do also know how they are. Some of them.
Hello, my name is Jennifer, I am a black American Female, and I am proud! Most black females I know do not live by these sterotypes. The only ones I really see are on TV ( God forbid the news. 😭) if you would like to meet an educated black female I am more than happy to be your friend. I offer my friendship to those who are ignorant and have socialized little with the African American Women in their community and believe these stereotypes to be true.
The struggles of a blck women and honestly black people in general are always getting stereotyped. Thats why the police are killing us dead in the street. Its hard being black in america i dont even feel safe anymore.
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