So I’m sitting here at work. Yet again on another night-shift writing binge. Chilling on Netflix and watching The Addams Family [movie], when I suddenly thought about my partner wanting to buy me roses like Morticia has [just stems] because I’m obsessed with this movie. And I also thought about how similar our relationship is to Morticia and Gomez’s.
And now I’m thinking about #relationshipgoals in general and how incredibly stupid they have become.
I’m not saying that me having a relationship goal similar to the Addams’ is smart. It's just a HELL of a lot better than some of the goals these days.
Girls looking up to Rihanna and Chris Brown [abuse] or Beyonce and Jay-Z [supposed infidelity], etc.
I mean since when is it ok to idolize shit like that. To be totally ok with abuse and cheating because “he/she loves me” or because “but omg we are so hot together”. I mean unless you got some Stockholm Syndrome shit going on you shouldn’t idolize that behavior [and even if you do have Stockholm Syndrome you shouldn't tolerate that shit but medical brain shit ok]. You should want/expect/require better than that.
And while the Addams’ are a fictional couple/family, despite theit alternative [weird] lifestyle they are [in my mind] a perfect example of what goald SHOULD be.
Morticia and Gomez love each other. Yet they also recognize each other’s faults. And still love those faults. Gomez treats Tish like a QUEEN and Tish treats him like a King. They co-parent their children instead of one parent being more involved than the other. And while seemingly neither of them have jobs [filthy rich] in the sequel when they go for broke Tish and Gomez both go hunting for and for a brief moment hold down a job instead of one working while the other slacks off.
Thats the kind of relationship y'all need to be looking up too.
Where you and your partner are EQUAL. and you both put in the damn work.
Even when I was broke and jobless I would use my last dime to pay for something if my partner let me. I would at the VERY least offer [to which 6/10 times even if I had the money I would get denied]. My partner takes care of me. And I to them.
You can’t drive a ship solo. You need a trusty partner. A co-captian. Not a slave.