The Real Answer Versus The Right Answer: A Consideration of Social Hypocrisy

[Anonymous]

A user posts a question asking, "What should I do if I have been sexually harassed?" and describes the situation in which their assailant is acting. The responses are however never aligned with the answer, "tell the authorities, go through the proper channels and get society on your side", but instead riddled with all sorts of interesting remarks such as ignoring the problem or even generating personal backlash and trying to harass the person into submission and disinterest in return.

The same people who post their #metoo stories will turn around and give terrible advise to other people about how to handle these situations and it dawned on me that there must be some kind of disconnect between the lines. If society is going to state outright, and this is not popular just here but any forum and even in person, that one should take sexual harassment as some kind of pedestal to stand upon whilst also exacting personal revenge and refusing to get tangible help then what is the point of any initiative?

It is strange in fact that many suggestions are almost always driven by personal vendetta and management as if it were weak to rely on authorities or public services such as police. In cases of bullying the posters and all the rigorous advice of the billboards and the like state to tell someone but the personally delivered advice is the literal opposite. The name for this opinion comes from the fact there seems to be a real, or mandatory, answer and then an underlying true answer on how to manage these things. The people screaming "Rape Culture!" turn on their heels and suggest that reporting others is foolish. Why does this happen?

I believe that if we are to truly advance any further as a society we must not continue to diverge on these issues but instead to converge and agree on a method of management of these situations. The contradictions are too common, too widely expressed, and too diversified to be some fluke or some anti-group sentiment. If even women are giving poor advice to other women as victims and men are supporting the circle of violence that bullying profoundly is known for then what does that really say about us all?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I've gotten a lot of flack here for saying that rape doesn't have a true definition and that anyone who tries to claim otherwise is catering to the moral high-ground..

.. but I think this MyTake pretty much settles it.
Pay up GaG.

[Anonymous]

So, what you're saying is we all need to agree. Good luck with that.