It is really pitiful to see people always justifying themselves to others. Sometimes, it does get annoying and I think it should be stopped.
Whatever your reasons maybe for explaining yourselves to others, whether it be fear of being judged, avoiding conflict, trying to please others or any other reason like that, you seriously need to stop.
Why you need to stop it.
1. It isn't always necessary.
It doesn't always require long explanation for the reason you aren't willing to do a certain work.
2. It vanishes the value of your words.
Always pouring in lots of words for your explanation makes you seem nervous and unsure about yourself. It kills the value of point quite often and creates confusions.
3. Makes you seem timid/intimidated.
Really people, it makes you feel you're scared of something/someone which is not right. People may make use of you.
4. You become an 'easy' target for others.
It is you who paves the way for people to come and toy with you. You sometimes will not even come to know that you were just a butt of ridicule.
How to stop it.
1. Value yourself.
Many a times saying a 'no' to someone is just more than enough. You don't always need to specify your reasons. You're self esteem is of prime importance.
2. Hold yourself.
It may seem hard initially, but you gotta work on that. You must think about all those things that are just enough for someone to know. You can't be forced so don't be.
Try saying shorter sentences and limit yourself to specific words that are reasonably enough.
3. Be comfortable with yourself.
You can't control yourself from explaining yourself unnecessarily to people unless you aren't comfortable with yourself. Don't mind what others say, you do your own thing. Give more time to yourself.
4. Be assertive.
Don't be shy telling people about you're likes/dislikes as when required. Talk to the point and make yourself scarce. It'll boost up your self respect and self worth.
That's all people.
Thank you for reading it.
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