Saw a question about feminism possibly “killing off” marriage.
This will be short and I will be deleting this Take.
I am not going to get into the feminist movement because that’s not what this is about.
Are women just supposed to not able to provide for themselves?
Are we supposed to be helpless and ignorant to adult responsibilities such as being able to feed yourself or sustain a home of your own?
In a lot of situations where men are traditionally called to provide, they get advance in self sufficiency when those are skills that everyone, regardless of sex and gender identity, should know.
Overtime that just creates a culture where women are almost thought of as children or incapable similarly like children. Not that there’s anything inherently wrong with being a child, but my point is that if men feel like they can’t marry because they prefer women who are held back in progressing to their level or higher, then how are women supposed to digest that and be content without acknowledging a superiority complex that exists in most “traditional-minded” men?
No one wants to feel inferior or intentionally put down or held back due to another’s insecurity.
There is no other way around that. That is TEXTBOOK insecurity.
That “I don’t have this, therefore I’m less” mentality!
Even I think more highly of men than that.
Don’t complain about the lack of “real love” when love obviously is not your priority. Structure is. And that’s fine. Just SAY that!
And with that, acknowledge that not everyone wants the same structure as you and if the collective happens to change their mind together well then...you’re just gonna continue to be mad? Baby, that’s evolution in culture and group thinking. You are wing left behind and it scares you.
Men have more to offer than just resources and women have more to offer than just babies. Even when it comes to other animals the females aren’t just tending to their young. The only reason why that’s so important is because the babies clearly cannot physically function in wild without getting its nutrients available only through the mother. At that point make or female, that “child” learns independence from both mom and dad. That is how it works In many species.
We can say that the males are primarily responsible for protecting the “pack” but that doesn’t mean the females are supposed to sit on their asses and whine if they happen to be threatened.
No, they take their babies and find shelter because they keep the species alive and don’t have a problem with incest 👀😂
But guess what? We are not in the damn wild! We aren’t living in a hunter-gatherer world where those behaviors would be necessary.
In case some of you have failed to notice...we have...EVOLVED.
So it’s not entirely fair to compare humans to everything else that exists on this earth to heavy extent when they have rules and habitats of their own.
We’re the only ones placing emphasis on gender roles because we are more social and more willful creatures that aren’t slaves to instincts.
Men (who are insecure) benefit from gender roles more so than women (who are too comfortable).
Because with time, that insecurity gets ugly. Life happens. Circumstances change. And *enough* of those women were no longer comfortable. They got irritated *enough* to take it upon themselves and shift the culture, no matter the consequences.
And yeah, there were A LOT of consequences 😂
So that whole narrative that marriage is supposed to have a male provider or sole bread winner is entirely made up...by us. Humans. We made rules just because and over time some of us didn’t like those rules and decided to do something else because they can and they want to. Like what do you think was supposed to happen?
by the way, please don’t take my words the wrong way. I’m just confused as to how people Think gender roles and certain social rules are supposed to live in a rigid box when we are too fluid intellectually and emotionally?
Yeah we should have standards but we’re talking about marriage. Two people spending the rest of their lives together. Millions and maybe billions of pairs. You can’t set a standard for that kind of thing and hope things don’t change.
Excuse any typos please. I’m not going back into it. If you get it, you get it. Also English is not my first language.