Some strange reasons why coming out as a trans woman has been the best thing in my life

[Anonymous]

Even though i will only be happy after i transition because i identify as a woman, so far the consequences of coming out have been largely positive. here's why.

I'm a 5'4'' biological male and I've been hated on for that for many years now, especially by women. The hatred often even takes the form of physical violence but most importantly it leads to a life of isolation and emotional deprivation. Now that more and more people know that I'm trans it turns out life had some surprises in store for this occasion.

My feelings now matter

I can talk about the issues i face without being dismissed as whiny. I'm not longer told that if i were a real man this or that wouldn't be a problem. I'm not a real man and there's nothing wrong with it. I have even been called brave.

"You call yourself a man?". Ha! Here's the thing, i don't! And for the first time in my life there's nothing wrong with it.

Cisgender women don't hate me any more

Women sure hate very short men, but trans women? That's a different matter, provided they know you are one. Sure I still can't have a girlfriend and it sucks but it's still nice to be able to talk to women without them telling you not to show up until you grow, or to "please" end your own life. Of course it still happens with women i don't know, but al least those who know me don't openly hate me any more and are even friendly to me.

At LGBT meetings i can talk about any problem i face without the need to walk on eggshells not to upset women. If anyone is upset by what I say they won't be able to shut me down just by bringing up my height. I'm a trans woman and i can afford to be short.

My experiences matter just as much as everyone else's. I no longer have to please everybody. I have unexpectedly gained dignity.

The latest period has been the most emotionally validating in my adult life

Even though it's still hard for me to build connections outside of LGBT groups, this is the first time in my adult life where people treat me as a peer. I am given the opportunity to speak my mind, make jokes, express my personality, disagree without it being put down to my height. It's not much to most people, but to me it's indescribable how good it feels.

Overall, my height doesn't matter as much and I have become a worthy human being

which largely outweighs the opposition I've received from intolerant relatives. Fortunately i live in western Europe, a rather modern and open-minded society which is, by and large, on my side when it comes to transgender discrimination.

Sure I've been told that I'm mentally ill, degenerate, an attention whore, childish, a pervert and whatnot, but while it happens often it's for from universal. Being short still has a heavier impact on my life as i haven't transitioned yet thus not everyone perceives me as a trans woman but things have unexpectedly taken a turn for the better.

[MackToday]

Women don't say things like that to a man for being short you must have done something else to get that reaction. Probably wearing women's clothes or some sick shit. No matter how much you chop yourself up or the amount of carcinogenic chemicals you inject you'll still be a man the rest is all an illusion. The problem is in you head not your body. The people you think are backing you up are lying to you, they're using you to destroy the society you live in and when they're done with you they'll either shoot you or put you in a labor camp.

[myTake Owner]

women are extremely and gratuitously nasty to short men. you'll find many tweets by women asking short men to kill themselves. about destroying society, i don't know what you're talking about

[MackToday]

Never once have I seen a woman mistreat a man for being short especially the things you're saying they have done here. My guess is those women are mad about you doing something sick.

[myTake Owner]

if you were 5'4'' you would. doing "sick things" like dressing in a feminine way is what got them to stop

[MackToday]

They lost interest all together and left you to the stinking commies. They're going to kill you when their done by the way.

[myTake Owner]

despite all that has happened to me i genuinely feel bad for you

[MackToday]

lol worry about yourself you're the one at risk of suicide every day and incapable of being honest with yourself. Oddly enough people like me would have been ding the actual work of finding out what is wrong with your head and creating an actual treatment instead of hacking up your body and injecting you with cancer causing hormones like some Frankenstein monster.

[myTake Owner]

what is stopping you from becoming a psychiatrist and do exactly that? the commies?

[MackToday]

I'm not interested in psychiatry.

[myTake Owner]

"people like you" who aren't interested in psychiatry are not going to "do the actual work of finding out what is wrong" with anyone's head. how could they?

[MackToday]

I sure wouldn't be stopping those who do now would I?

[myTake Owner]

and who is?
also forgive me the following assumption: you're a conservative who doesn't care for relieving student loan debt (an exclusively American issue). you also oppose tuition-free college (like in germany, austria...) or otherwise lowering the cost of college from the exorbitant price students pay in america to a more reasonable income-adjusted fee of the kind other developed nations have adopted. this does prevent many people from going to college and college is necessary to become a psychiatrist as well as many other things. so in my view people like you are discouraging and even stopping people from becoming psychiatrists, provided my assumption about you is correct. if it isn't i apologize.
now, in your view, who is stopping people from finding out what is wrong in people's head? who are the "people like you" who wouldn't or would take on the issue themselves?

[MackToday]

In my view Marxists ultimately controlled by global finance are stopping it. Marxism believes in equality of outcome not equality of opportunity. It's easy to convince a loony useful idiot that tranys are normal or that men can become women etc if you fuck with their heads enough. Then you've got an excellent weapon against society. A weapon that can help to disrupt it utterly. That way you can tear it down and replace it with a Soviet style state capitalist system. The financial elites will then be at the very top and everyone else basically a slave. That's why the constant pandering to every fringe group they can find.

[myTake Owner]

you're entitled to believe whatever you want but your view are way too incoherent to put you in a position to call others insane and at risk of suicide.
the financial elites are the polar opposite of marxist and how does equality of outcome equate with there being masters and slaves, or the fact that income inequality has never been so high in all of history? and what does it all have to do with transgenders? what's my weapon to disrupt society? cross-dressing?

[MackToday]

You are being used to disrupt society. They use the Marxists too. It all ends in a Soviet style state capitalist system with them at the top. It's a scam simple as that. Why do you think the leftists pander to you and your "trans rights" and then turn around and bring in far right Muslims by the boat load who want to throw you off a roof? Think, these people aren't actually on your side. They know your sick and vulnerable.

[myTake Owner]

the only coherent thing you said in my opinon is that about muslims so i'll address that one first:
just because i abhor far-right views, including in islam, that doesn't mean that those who hold them don't have the right to seek asylum or a better life after we destroyed their countries and supported radical islam in a (successful) effort to defeat secular arab nationalism. this doesn't mean we espouse their ideology. now, there are some who seemingly do, namely many feminists. i don't consider feminism to be left-wing movement in any respect but if we delve into that we'll never come out of it.
i would like to ask you the following: how do you account for the fact that the financial elites are already at the top and dictate all the policy. i don't see any marxists in the trump administration or the obama administration for that matter. and what does this have to do with equality of outcome? isn't it the exact opposite? we are, i repeat, seeing the highest level of income inequality in history. hoes does this equate with equality of outcome?

[MackToday]

The financial elites always want more power and more money it's never enough. Therefore they will continue to try and gain power for themselves. Marxism is the tool they choose to do this and it has layers, them on top, then paid off politicians , media, college administration , Marxist professors then at the bottom, useful idiots who want equality of outcome. No winners, no losers you get a medal for participation, some skinny 90 lb woman gets to play in the NFL or be a cop and so on. You can see it all around you. The same with you you get to be a "woman" even though you never can be.

[myTake Owner]

"The financial elites always want more power and more money it's never enough". this is a marxist statement which i agree with.
the rest sounds very incoherent to me. how do the pieces fall into place? what do skinny women or be becoming a woman have to do with the elites taking on more power? you keep repeating the same things but you never explain

[MackToday]

You just don't understand what I'm saying, tranies like homosexuals and discontent minority groups are a way to break down society and replace it with a Marxist model. Ignorant pawns in the game. Of course like in the Soviet Union it will not be truly Marxist as the elites will still be at the top raking in the cash much like Bernie Sanders has done. The difference is that now they will have much more power.

[myTake Owner]

bernie sanders is the poorest member of senate. his money come from having written best-selling books (an admirable self made man from your perspective). he's been fighting for 40 years without no benefit for to himself. the policies he supports are basic social democratic reforms all other developed nations have. all other presidential candidates take money from big donors and you go after the only one who doesn't. don't you see you're the pawn regurgitating infowars nonsense? this is arms-dropping

[MackToday]

The guy's a communist surrounded by violent Bolsheviks who have shot people and called for gulags. His holdings are pretty vast compared to the average man. If you want to know what's going to happen to you in the end let an ex KGB agent tell you. https://www.bitchute.com/video/KvdknPVCt1kc/

[myTake Owner]

you think you're woke but you're just regurgitating red-scare state propaganda. sanders has a record of fighting against big money interests like wall street and the military industrial complex. hating on sanders is exactly what they want you do to. have you noticed how all of the corporate media hate him and slander him? if they want him why is that the case?

[MackToday]

Sanders is an outright commie he probably endorses the violent Bolshevism of his supporters. No way I'm going to back a totalitarian scum bag.

[myTake Owner]

when students were protesting ann coulter speaking at their campus bernie sanders insisted that they tolerate views different than their own. he's also written bills for democracy in the workplace. his campaign is funded entirely by small dollar donations and he rejects donations greater than 100 dollars. how's that authoritarian? if you believe that it can only mean you don't think with your own head and have relinquished your critical thought to some authority. it's ironic you're calling the least authoritarian American politician authoritarian. he even got arrested during the civil rights movement. i really hope you start thinking with your own head and abandon your own authoritarian mindset

[MackToday]

Means nothing, he's surround by violent Bolsheviks calling for gulags and his supporters have carried out shootings and a truck attack. Sanders has not disavowed any of it.

[myTake Owner]

he has in the example i've provided. also i don't see many violent bolsheviks among his supporters. they're just calling for basic social democratic reform. hell, most of it would simply entail catching up to all other developed countries! you're going after the last people worth going after

[MackToday]

His supporters were caught on video calling for gulags and threatening to burn down cities. One shot political opponents and another carried out a truck attack. The guy's a communist thug.

[myTake Owner]

it baffles me how you can believe anything you hear provided it comes from the people you've pledged unconditional loyalty to. my advice remains the same. you're rightly upset against the system but you're looking for answers from the worst kind of establishment goons who impressively pull off this trick of pretending to be edgy outsiders whereas they're really power-humping sycophants. i give up. good luck fighting against your own interests and the interests of all working people too

[Mikemarston30]

Personally I despise transgenders , they have a good functional body and mind ( that's debatable )

Yet they undergo surgery just because they feel like they are the opposite gender

I have an autistic cousin who is unable to function without someone being on his side

The fact that there is no surgies to treat an autistic child but there are surgeries to change genders is honestly what makes me sick

But since your human and never done anything wrong I have to respect your decision despite my views

[myTake Owner]

just because something is easier it doesn't mean it receives more funding. does it also make you sick that we have a cure for blisters but not a cure for cancer? just honestly curious

[Mikemarston30]

Obviously but those things are something that people never asked for

Transgenders have a choice instead of accepting themselves and the gender they were assigned during birth they decided to change their gender because of what they "feel"

[myTake Owner]

i mean it doesn't have to be as a result of receiving higher priority. by the way i'm sorry for your autistic cousin. there is evidence that many pollutants for examples particulates and pesticides increase the incidence of autism and many other cognitive dysfunctions. whenever people try to do something about it they're opposed by the same people who despise the LGBT. i hope it's not your case but i have indeed noticed a correlation. if fewer people were opposed to environmental regulation there's a chance your cousin wouldn't be autistic

[Mikemarston30]

Well that's something we can agree upon but I don't actually hate the lbgt community

They are weird but hey I seen weirder things so I'm willing to accept and respect them

Besides pedophilia and necrophilia are far more concerning and dangerous issues

I would like to believe that it was the environment that caused my cousin to be autistic but I really don't know

My family made it simple and told me he was born like that

What truly makes me sad is that he's inability to function without his mother and family

I can't imagine what would happen to him if he was alone and that he can never fit normally among

And I know damn well there are people who will take advantage of him

[myTake Owner]

what are the things people never asked for?

[Mikemarston30]

Being infected , having a disease you think people want that? Or being born with a genetic disorder

[myTake Owner]

you're clearly in pain for your cousin so i don't want to be a dick about this. you said you respect me despite despising me so believe me, this isn't personal. i'll try to illustrate my points and i hope i'm polite enough.
1) i do believe our priorities in public spending are fucked up, as evidenced by the fact that most victims of disease die from preventable and treatable diseases, but since they have no money treating them is not profitable and big pharma would rather invest in curing wrinkles for rich people. in fact it's illegal in anglo-american law for a corporation to indulge in anything that isn't profitable. whenever corporations claim to be charitable they must be hypocritical or the people involved in such charity are committing a crime. speaking of public policy allowing the government to negotiate drug prices would enormously lower the cost of prescription drugs and help many people. all the people who hate on the LGBT also tend to be perfectly ok with this as anything different would be marxism and therefore bad. they also oppose medicare for all deceptively claiming it's more expensive than the current plan while having no issue on trillions of dollars being basted on endless wars, which leads me to my second point.
2) when people oppose environmental regulation that have been shown to decrease the incidence of many disorders, especially cognitive ones, they're basically asking for their children to have such disorders. that is unless they are rich and can live in uncontaminated areas and consume high-quality food and water.
wrapping up) since you went out of your way to tell me you disparage trans people and in my experience this correlates with harmful stances on public health issues, maybe you should ask yourself where you stand in all of this. now maybe i'm wrong and i'm picking on the wrong dude but chances are i'm not and i hope what i said can be beneficial to you.

[myTake Owner]

some typos and bad use of punctuation but i think i got my point across

[Mikemarston30]

I suppose your right , I don't trust the government for one second and I can't provide charity because I know there are people who misuse it for their own benefit

The people who are against lbgt community are also racist and sexist as well who think that's it's perfectly normal to have sex with a child

I despise them more than anything

Perhaps your an exceptional transgender , because the ones online have been very spoiled and think they are special

I'm happy your not one of them

[myTake Owner]

in that case we probably held very false assumptions about each other

[Mikemarston30]

I guess we did

[myTake Owner]

about autism, there are genetic factors and environmental factors and it's impossible to tell which had the most play. you see, exposure to certain chemicals in the uterus, before one is born, can have huge impacts on the baby's development, so just because someone is born a certain way it doesn't mean the environment didn't play a role in it. most of what the environment does takes place before birth

[Mikemarston30]

Just spoke to my mom turns out he was born like that

[myTake Owner]

all autistic people are born that way. exposure to certain chemicals in the uterus as well as genetics play a role in whether a baby will have autism. "innate doesn't necessarily mean congenital" -dick swaab

[Vencam]

I got nothing to do with this and don't even agree with most points... But I wanted to convey how reading your back and forth felt heartwarming to me. By that I mean seeing two people of very different standings finding a common ground with such a polite conversation and getting to understand and respect eachother despite their prejudices. I think many could learn from this kind of conversations

[myTake Owner]

@Vencam i just regret i didn't manage to get the point across that the environment can affect your chances of developing autism BEFORE you're born. so much of this conversation must have seemed quite pointless to mikemarston.

[Vencam]

I think he at least changed a bit his ideas about transgenders being dicks (pun intended) and "spoiled people who think they are special", to use his words

[Denvss]

I am so happy to see this! Transitioning is the best decision you can make! I transitioned in 2010 and it was very hard but it paid off. I love being a woman so much! It will be a little rough in the beginning but the hormones will make you look more and more feminine every year.

[myTake Owner]

about the physical changes do you pass well or do you just appreciate them on your own?

[Denvss]

I pass completely. It’s because I transitioned young.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you were bullied into submission instead of standing your ground. At least the outcome turned out well for you, according to you.

[myTake Owner]

5'4'' man who stands his ground is shamed for having short man syndrome. you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't.

[hobbledehoy]

What I'm reading is you're being bullied into being something. If being trans was a target for hate? Would you find a more comfortable label or group? That isn't a criticism. You deserve to be safe and express yourself. But if you have to escape yourself or change physiologically to evade cruel treatment this isn't okay. I'd hope for you to find the faith in yourself and id hope cruel people would stop pestering you like lower level gouls of hell.

[myTake Owner]

as far as i can gather being a very short man is way worse than being a trans woman. i've diagnosed with dysphoria too so i think this the way to go. i appreciate your kind words.

[hobbledehoy]

That's okay. You aren't short, you genetically match with many other people in the world. Don't let other people's false judgment cloud your own. We shouldn't compare people. Put it this way... From comparison we can tell these "tall" people are fickle and cruel in comparison to you, but this doesn't mean you are the best you can be or even better than your average state simply because in comparison you are not cruel. Keep improving your standards and you'll find the confidence to embrace who you are and it is good to explore these other avenues. You don't need to change through drug manipulation to be trans. A trans person defines what that is. Trans is a good label for you to carry for this transition to your better self. Because you are transcending human habits of ridicule and being ridiculed. Let what people say about you only be a comment unto themselves.

[myTake Owner]

i'm glad you don't condone their behavior and i appreciate your support. at the same time though i must accept that the world is the way it is and that it won't change without my lifetime. it's a jungle for short men and seeing all the good simply coming out has done i'm starting to think transitioning would be the best route even if i didn't identify as a woman. i don't know how i would feel if that was the case. i'd certainly be more comfortable in a male body but being universally hated on would still drive me to desperation. i feel sorry to all those short guys who aren't trans. what's their way out? even 5'8'' guys are hated on and for me being short has defined my life even more than being trans. it's amazing but that's the world we live in and i can't do shit to change it

[myTake Owner]

*within my lifetime

[hobbledehoy]

I'm sorry you feel so judged and that people can be so judgmental and this over shadows your experience of other

[Shamalien]

yeah, everyone around you is on your side now that you wanna destroy yourself instead of build yourself into a man. Welcome to cultural marxist hell

you will grow to regret this transition, I promise you

[myTake Owner]

cultural marxism is an oxymoron and marxism in general has nothing to do with transgenders. how am i even supposed to build myself into a man? limb-lengthening is way too expensive for me and not covered by my taxes.

[Shamalien]

kid u can start by reading a book

[myTake Owner]

it's a rare book that links transgenders to marx. even in jordan peterson's bibliography

[Shamalien]

Do you actually want to learn or do you just wanna crack jokes little boy? If you want to learn, you can start by researching what cultural marxism is instead of trying to discredit the term like the NAIVE LITTLE CHILD you are

[myTake Owner]

it's not much of a joke. i'm familiar with it enough to realize how meaningless it is and calling me names won't change that

[myTake Owner]

it also baffles me how the "you don't have the right to be offended" brigade are the quickest to lose their temper. i haven't said anything sassy or witty and yet you've already lost your mind and called me names in all caps. you expect others to immediately crumble in tears and when they don't, because they don't fit the description given by jordan peterson and glenn beck, you get scared and become even more insufferable than an SJW

[Anonymous]

You are still a male, all the operations and chemicals do not change XY to XX. But now you can go march in parades, be on talk shows and have special laws to protect you.

[myTake Owner]

no don't get me wrong. i'm not seeking attention. you're not the first to think so but i really just appreciate my newly found dignity. it doesn't mean i'll go on parades or anything.

[LexyIsSexy23]

You are promoting mental illness.
How dare you.!

[myTake Owner]

i have (cis) women to thank for pushing me to come to terms with my transgenderism. their constant bullying and humiliation over my short stature was the final straw that convinced me that the benefits far outweigh the hassle. if women had treated me nice who knows how long it would have taken me to make this decision. and you have the guts to ask "how dare you?". how dare YOU!

[LexyIsSexy23]

APA is waiting for you. God bless your soul

[myTake Owner]

what's APA?

[Anonymous]

You need professional psychiatric help dude. Butchering your sex organs won't achieve anything, statistics proved that a long time ago.

[myTake Owner]

very few transgenders regret transitioning and psychiatric help is necessary to transition. i have to see a psychiatrist for quite a while

[Opinion Owner]

First of all, it's not "very few". Second, more importantly, even those who don't necessarily regret it, still get no improvement from it either. Suicide rates, substance abuse rates, depression, anxiety etc. all stay the same in the "trans" community, regardless whether the person is pre op or post op. In other words, it achieves absolutely nothing. Not to mention that all those rates are like 5 times bigger than those of mentally healthy individuals.

Butchering your body for no reason is never a good idea.

[myTake Owner]

regardless, psychiatric help makes you accept your dysphoria and act accordingly. few psychiatrists are opposed to transitioning a priori and they don't work in clinics for transgenders. you used the cheap "you need psychiatric help" insult in the worst possible context. you can say that i'm crazy if you want but you would have to disagree with psychiatrists. not that they're necessarily right of course

[Opinion Owner]

it's not a cheap insult, it's factual state. the whole bullshit about someone being able to be the opposite gender despite the way they are born is textbook severe mental illness. Just like the guys who believe they are Jesus Christ, or a bunny. The only statement that the propaganda uses to try and differentiate those two cases is the "gender is a social construct" bullshit, which not only has no evidence to support it and all the evidence to the contrary, but also has no way even theoretically to be possible, as its in direct conflict with a lot of other facts we already know are true. So whatever psychiatrist accepts your bullshit and sees it as a 'dysphoria' or whatever, needs to be checked how he got his licence

[myTake Owner]

i didn't say gender is a social construct. if it was then i wouldn't need a transition now, would i? trans men have brains more similar to men and trans women have brains more similar to women. realizing this doesn't imply believing that gender is a social construct. quite the opposite in fact. you hear what you want to hear.
the question still remains: whom am i going to get "professional psychiatric help" from if not psychiatrists?

[Opinion Owner]

So we can both agree that it's not a social construct? Ok. But then you realize that there is literally no difference between you and the guy claiming he is a bobcat, right? It's the same type of illness, just a different fantasy.

And yes you should get help form psychiatrists, nobody denies that, I'm just saying that which ever psychiatrist told you that either bought his licence, or went a little crazy himself, because that is really against the rules

[myTake Owner]

the psychiatric consensus is that transition procedures are a legitimate way to treat dysphoria so most psychiatrists won't tell i'm no different than someone who thinks they're a bobcat. that thing i said about transgender brains should make me different from such people. psychiatrists in general don't consider gender dysphoria to be the same as believing or wishing you were a bobcat. maybe they're wrong but my point is psychiatric help doesn't agree with you. clearly we agree gender is not a social construct and nearly all people will. i've gathered there's people on tumblr who claim otherwise i doubt wither of us has ever met one of those

[Anonymous]

Let me get this straight; you became a woman because you couldn't get laid?

[myTake Owner]

no. i don't think i'll ever be able to get laid. i'll certainly have more chances as a trans woman than a 5'4'' male but they're still very slim

[Cahittinsan_]

I think this is not good. 😣.

[Anonymous]

I am happy for you and good take 👍🏻

[Browneye57]

So lost. Oh well.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Good mytake