Homophobe, bigot, sexist.
These are some of the widely used insults these days. While some people deserve to be called by them, others do not deserve them at all. From my point of view, some people actually do not even know the proper meanings of these words and when to use them. As a bisexual person, I thought of talking about people being labelled as a “homophobe” or a “bigot”.
Homophobe is a person who hates gay people. Literally anyone who hates, discriminates or lowers gay, lesbian, or bisexual people can be known as a homophobe. Homophobes find gay people to be disgusting or basically they do not like to accept the fact that gay people are also humans like them. A homophobic person will humiliate you if you’re gay. They will consider you to be inferior to them. Sometimes they may not even want to work together with you.
So now what if you don’t support LGBT? Can you be labelled as a homophobe?
There are some people who support LGBT, and of course you can’t call them as homophobes. Then there are people who are completely against LGBT people and their rights, now these people are the ones you can call as homophobes.
But what about the people who neither support nor oppose? Can you call them homophobes or bigots? No.
I don’t consider people who find them to be neutral on this topic to be bigots. There are people who are apolitical, which means they are neutral when it comes to the topic ‘politics’. Such people may neither agree with a political party nor disagree with it. I don’t see anything wrong with it. Sometimes being neutral is the best decision you can take when you’re unsure about picking a side.
Just because someone is neutral doesn’t mean he/she hates you for being gay. They may still consider you to be their friend, brother, sister, cousin, best co-worker, etc.
I had to mention this because I’ve seen people, especially straight people who support the LGBT movement call such people (ones who are neutral) “bigots”.
Then what about straight people who reject proposals brought by gay people? Let’s assume you’re straight, and there is a gay person in your class/office/neighborhood who is crushing on you. They come to you and ask out or confess their feelings. You reject. Are you a homophobe or a bigot now?
I say no.
What if a straight man go and confess to a lesbian woman and she rejects? Is it agreeable to criticize her for it? No, you can’t! If she is only attracted to women, then she can’t force herself to fall in love with you. It’s the same with a lesbian woman confessing to a straight woman. A straight person can’t force themselves to love someone from the same gender.
If someone knows that I’m bisexual, and they study with me, work with me, play with me (no pun intended hehe), considers me as a friend, hangs out with me, share meals with me, then I can’t call them a homophobe. Basically if they don’t care the fact that I’m attracted to both men and women, then I can't call them homophobic.
Someone is not interested in watching a romantic gay movie? Homophobic? No.
Someone thinks gay characters need to be banned from movies? Homophobic? Yes.
Someone doesn't like LGBT parades? Homophobic? No. Even some gay people don't like certain things about the parades.
Someone attacks the people in the parade? Homophobic? Yes.
You can love black people but still not participate for a BLM protest. Does it make you racist? No! You're not racist because you don't hate black people. Look at LGBT in the same way.
I wish people understood this. I don’t like seeing conflicts, the society has created too many boundaries. I don’t know how many people will agree with me. But, as long as you don’t hurt me because I’m different, as long as you are not disgusted or enraged because I’m bi, as long as you don’t humiliate me for my feelings, and as long as you see me as another human, you’ll never be a homophobe or a bigot to me.
If someone doesn’t attempt to hurt you in any sort of a way, don’t hurt them back.
~(Pardon me for any grammar/spelling mistakes)~