Why "The Friend Zone" isn't a dead end for relationships

[jackaquack]

In our society, we create, "The Friend Zone" to assume any girl/guy that doesn't look like they are attracted to us, have "Friend-Zoned" us and our chances are over. But being friend-zoned is the first step to a relationship.

1. What "The Friend Zone" actually is

If we have been "friend zoned," it doesn't mean he/she has no interest in you, he/she could just be taking things slow, or not be ready to have a relationship. None of these reasons should stop you, but only challenge your social ability. Understand everyone starts out in the friend zone..

2. Signs you're in "The Friend Zone

• When you invite her out, she wants to bring other friends


• There is little to no real eye contact (you know when it's real)


• He/She doesn't care about her physical appearance around you

3. What to do if you're in "The Friend Zone" and want to get out

Reciprocate their energy. If he/she is always excited to talk to you, be excited to communicate too! If she looses interest (Or acts like she's lost interest and it seems like she's pretending, she wants you to initiate the chase.), pretend like you lost interest too. You'll send her on an emotional rollercoaster. If you do this right, her attraction for you only gets stronger. Don't be afraid to fess up your feelings for her!

I hoped this helped and remember, the friend zone IS NOT a dead end for a relationship :)

[Dandeus]

This take can be summed up in one word: DENIAL.

The friend zone means no relationship. It's really that simple.

[PhiOmega]

Lol,

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Haha, he's only 15, don't go too hard on him

[jackaquack]

Never say never! :D

[Anonymous]

What about the girl's point of view in the friend zone? You mainly only talked about guys chasing girls.

[jackaquack]

I think I explained everything in a girl and guy perspective, but if I didn't, generally you do the same thing as far as observing how he reacts towards your actions. You still reciprocate the way he acts towards you. There's not much of a difference for either gender as far as how to play the friend zone.

[Drake]

i keep saying it:doenst exist. Even most of my girlfriends say so to. You can have sexual contact with any girl, as long as you show them. Dont make it creepy, do it slow. Show your interest, in her as in her body. "im friendzoned" is just a way of saying: i was too lazy to pursue her in real time, and everytime i saw her or had contact with her, i blanked out= thus resulting in awkwardness. As long as you can take a girl on an emotional ride, get her to listen to you, piss her off and make her smile at the same time=you win. When she threats you like garbage and tosses you around like some banana peel, than it means you didn't ap"pealed" and you seeked this kind of treatment

[jackaquack]

Drake, you are spot on. I hate when people say they've been "friendzoned." That should only make a challenge for you to go talk to her and put some emotional effort into your communication with her.

[graffiti_guy]

The only way to escape the friend zone is to stop talking to the girl for a reasonable amount of time over 3 months I think is fair and then approach her in a different way because I think the way you approach a girl has a lot to do with being friend zoned

[jackaquack]

This works really well. The more time you spend away from her, the more she starts to realize the qualities she treasured.

[muzzfin]

Because the relationship we have with a person be it romantic, platonic, co-workers, friends, family etc... They all continue to develop and we can't always foresee how one particular relationship will turn out. Well that's my opinion.

[jackaquack]

well someone gets my point! XD

[M_A_X]

Nobody is that excited to talk to somebody that they have friendzoned. You obviously don't know what the word really means.

The Friend Zone actually IS a dead end for relationships. When a girl tells you that she won't date you because she doesn't want to lose you as a friend, that is friend zone. When a girl tells you that you feel more like a brother, that is friend zone.

[DocT1977]

I admit that this does give an interesting perspective. I will state that I do believe in looking at the obvious. You know the saying "If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, that it must be a duck". To me, I tend to take it like that when dealing with people. There is no need for guessing games. I like everything straight forward and honest. If someone does not appear interested, Stop right there. No need to continue wasting your time.

[jackaquack]

Very good point. But would you rather be affectionate towards someone who has no affection towards you, or understand they don't like you and lay off for a while? And I'm not saying to always play this game. When it becomes obvious they are interested in you, ask her out on a date! This is what I recommend for people struggling with the friend zone.

[DocT1977]

Me personally, When dealing with someone who does not appear to have interest, I stop there. If there is interest, Then yeah. I would consider a date and and take a bit more time to learn about her. But long and short, The interest has to be a two way street, whereas, both the man and women must be interested. So long as that element is at work, Then it's all golden my friend.

[jackaquack]

Good opinion! Respect my dude! *fist bump*

[Peter0]

So you're saying the "friend zone" is when guys and girls haven't jumped into each other's arms, and if a guy is interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman with whom he is friends, rather than asking her on a date, he should pretend to only want to be friends with her?

[jackaquack]

not exactly. Just match her mood. If she's feeling flirty and interested, then match her mood, this will draw her in. If she plays hard to get and stops paying attention to you, or just looses interest, act like you've lost interest too. Matching her mood will drive her insane, and only make her attraction towards you deeper.

[jackaquack]

I also forgot to add, don't keep playing this game with you if you are finding the same pattern happen. Don't be afraid to break the ice and ask her out on a date! I think there is some confusion on this post. I hope I clear it up!

[Peter0]

So... you're first recommending emotional manipulation, as opposed to expressing an interest in her and seeing if she reciprocates?

[jackaquack]

If I wrote the whole 360 degrees of this topic it would take too long. When you first meet someone, how are you supposed to gauge her interest in you? If you are interested in someone, express it! But if they aren't attracted to you back, giving signs to her that show you're interested will only ruin your chances. You don't want to come off as a creep. OR, you can just straight up ask if she's into you, but that shouldn't be soon after you meet her. I really hope this is making sense :/

[Peter0]

You end up spending a lot of energy on something that's not even a relationship, that might not even turn into a relationship (because... she might not be attracted to you! And there's no guarantees about changing that, you know?). So instead of expressing interest and finding out if there's anything to pursue, you play mind games hoping to find the optimal time to express interest? And then of course, you're still only guessing if she's interested; maybe she makes lots of eye contacts with her friends, you know? (yep, known those girls) I think waiting more than a short time is a good way to waste your time... It's also a really good way to get frustrated with someone - unfairly. If you spend weeks playing games like these and things don't work out... too many guys will blame the girl. WTF? She didn't ask for it, you know?

[jackaquack]

Of course you shouldn't be playing mind games for weeks. At that point, you should already have a good idea how interested she is in you and make your move. Don't leave her hanging!

[bang678]

Every time a guy complains about being in the "friend zone" i ask them why they'd rather lose good friendship because a girl won't have sex with them. And if thats true, then obviously she's not very important to him.

If she's that important then the guy should be happy she's in his life at all

[Kshppatel]

Being in the friendzone isn't always about sex

[AllWomenLie]

I'd rather eat dog turds then be friends with a girl and never having a chance.

[bang678]

Do you not value friendship? Girls get "friend zoned" too. If a guy didn't also share Romantic feelings for me id still value them as a friend. I would want them in my life because i care for them. And if that means just being friends id accept that because id rather that than not having them in my life at all.

[TheSpartan]

Getting friend zoned and staying friends with a girl is kind of like having your testicles cut off and staying friends with the person who did it. If that makes any sense.

[bang678]

No. It doesn't. Its not her fault that she's not romantically attracted to someone. You can't force that.

[PhiOmega]

Yea, i disagree mainly because i feel ur definition of "friendzone" is inaccurate

if she's not ready for a relationship, she's not ready, u friendzone someone u don't want a relationship, it's not uncommon that one person is friendzoned and anothers advances are reciprocated

Friendzoning is particular to said person being friendzoned

That's y guys can build a house and love there while their interests goes on dating others

[PhiOmega]

2nd'ly

No, not everyone starts out in the friendzone

[jackaquack]

There's a difference between the "friendzone" and being "friendZONED." You are referring to the definition of someone who is "friendZONED."

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Dude, I don't have time to wait around for her to come around. I place a high value on my time and on myself. The only people who wait around hoping that she might someday, by some miracle, decide to date them frankly have little to no self-value, self-respect, and little to no options.

If she isn't on board immediately, she gets written off. There are too many women out there who are thrilled to be with me to wait on someone who is insecure, on the fence, or uninterested.

[jackaquack]

Just because you're in the friendzone doesn't mean she's not into you. Escalate you emotion with her and see how she responds.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Kid, you'll excuse me if I don't take advice from people lacking experience. You are setting yourself up for a lot of wasted time and frustration using that strategy.

[jackaquack]

You are obviously too lazy to put any actual effort in.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Haha, sure kid, that describes me SO accurately ;)

[madispute]

Or, you can grow up and acknowledge that the friend zone isn't a real place and they just don't want to date you.

[jackaquack]

madispute, if you play your cards right this isn't always true. Unless there was a situation or there is a solid reason for them not liking you, don't give up on who you love. Attraction towards people change all the time.

[madispute]

The friend zone is just a term to make rejected people (specifically "nice guys") feel a little better about being rejected.

[jackaquack]

not always. The friend zone also comes from getting vibes that someone isn't (or doesn't act like) attracted to you.

[madispute]

If you feel like you're getting certain "vibes" from someone, be blunt and ask them about it. Playing games is stupid and gets you pretty much nowhere.

[PineappleBreath]

This is awful advice it's so Damn reactionary. Lead the girl, don't be afraid to initiate physical contact, try and kiss her, tease her and build up the sexual tension. Don't let her cut your balls off and make a party hat out of it

[jackaquack]

Try and kiss her? I'd really like to see that work

[PineappleBreath]

Well there is a reason your in the friend zone

[jackaquack]

EVERYONE starts out in the friend zone. You don't start making out with someone you met 5 minutes ago...

[PineappleBreath]

Your are not friends with a person you met 5 minutes ago either, real friendship taKes time, just because you hang out with someone doesn't make them your friend.
Its really not that hard to kiss someone you just go for if they reject you cool but at least they will know your interested and will be thinking about you in a sexual way.

[jackaquack]

I wouldn't wanna risk it with a random girl. Unless I knew she was that type, i'd just start friendly conversation

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

You sir, are correctamundo! When I like a guy, I try to be friends with him before a real relationship,

[M_A_X]

But here is the real question. Are there any guys who you are friends with, that you wouldn't date?

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

There are guys that are my friends who I would not date, but I make my intentions as clear as possible, if I like you there will be some subtle differences in the way I treat you. And if you are interested, then you will surely notice.

[M_A_X]

I think you are in denial and those guys would date you, or they're using you for relationship advice that they can use on other women.

[Macrick]

BS, friendzone is whereby people are being string along. Author is definitely being naive.

[Keepitsexy]

Could you explain what you mean?

[Anonymous]

I did exactly this to a girl who said I was out-of-her-league and who only saw me as a "brother" ... I banged her 2 weeks after she said it lol. This will drive her insane trololololol

[Opinion Owner]

by the way this only works if you want to fuck... I wouldn't advise this if you want a relationship!!! trolololol

[Notedkibbles]

Girls don't put guys in the friendzone Guys do! Its either she gives it up or not...

[jackaquack]

It can go either way, it really depends on the situation.

[Kountry_King]

Hmm very interesting never looked at it this way. I've got someone to try this with

[Isaacnotthetre_33]

I think it's possible to get out the friend zone but for a guy its impossible

[been_waiting]

Basically you're saying that if you're not REALLY "friend zoned" you have a 'chance"...

[jackaquack]

You are obviously old enough to know how "friend-zoned," you are. YOU be the judge. If there really is no chance, just lay off.

[AllWomenLie]

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA.

[HeadOVerHeels907]

Thanks for sharing!

[jackaquack]

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