I'm jealous of the pretty, popular girls at school! Help!

[Anonymous]

You know, the only ones that guys really go for, or are always hanging out with. I am sort of pretty, I guess, but not popular or 'hot'. I don't really get male attention unless it is saying I am ugly or giving me a rather disapproving look. I feel absolutely worthless, and I have never had a boyfriend. I know that many high school relationships don't last but it would be nice to know that a guy had positive feelings for me. I doubt that any guy has ever liked me. I mean, I get looked at sometimes by this one boy, but I am sure it doesn't mean anything. I need help!

[Xailon]

First off you're certainly not worthless. Try your best to keep positive. Hypothetically why would your looks make you worthless?

You seemed to have immediately dismissed that guys attention as nothing, how can you know if it's nothing unless you act on it?(this is coming from a guys perspective, so I don't know if you want to approach him)

It's obvious that your self-esteem has taken a beating. However its good that you can still consider yourself pretty, so why don't you try changing little things that will make you feel better about yourself? I'm not very attractive but I make myself tidy, wear bright clothes and set my hair right each morning, so I can feel better about myself. I don't know how well that will translate to you but I'm sure you can think of something to do.

Let's be honest pretty much everyone who is not included in the "popular" group feels the same at some point.

Calling you names and giving you dirty looks is just horrible and sadly it's not uncommon. Grin and bear it or stand up for yourself (I don't mean go nuts insulting them because that will just get you into more crap).

Yes it would be nice to have a relationship but there's no rush. Just chill with your friends, keep busy and enjoy yourself.

[Prometheus]

Don't be jealous of them, they are nothing special trust me. Temptation gets shoved in their faces so often a lot of them end up cheating, plus they are high maintenance and sometimes spoilt. Guys hit on them mostly to sleep with them. So they may get the attention but they will probably also get used and hurt a lot.

Unfortunately jealousy makes people bitter, then they become cold and withdrawn and people won't approach them. You need to learn to love you for you, be happy with yourself and let that shine through.. you will then become attractive to others :) Trust me, I've developed feelings for girls that weren't what you would call pretty but their personalities were amazing and I just loved being around them and then wanted to be closer to them.

[prashest92]

I'm a girl but can I comment? good thx. I used to be this ninety-pound, pasty 14-yr-old, never been kissed, shy, acne, etc. then I got done with puberty and guys wouldn't leave me alone. at first I liked the attention, but then I realized the only reason they were nice to me was because they wanted something. you have to be super guarded because you can never be sure who really likes you- and good chance you'll get used and hurt A LOT. prometheus u've got a lot of insight into that for a guy...

[Anonymous]

If you are sort of pretty then you're pretty. Girls always underestimate themselves, you probably look better than you think. And who cares if you're not popular? At my school some of the most beautiful girls were not in the popular group but everyone was too dumb to realize that while they were caught up in the high school rat race. Girls who are popular are automatically considered the prettiest girls whether they truly are or not, it's that pack mentality thing.

Don't be down on yourself. If you don't feel good about yourself how can anyone else? If someone says something negative to you stand up for yourself, you don't have to take that. If someone gives you a disapproving look hold your head up high. Who are they to grant approval to anyone? They ain't sh*t anyway!

Pamper yourself and do things to make you feel prettier, that's what those popular girls are doing. get your hair done, do your nails, wear clothes that make you feel cute

[SweetestSinxxx]

Try being popular yourself. Get more active at school, don't talk to losers, do stuff that tlets your talents show. you'll like it!