Has the #metoo movement changed how you look at potential romantic relationships?
I'm, genuinely, so glad that men/boys women/girls will finally think twice before they try to do anything with anyone. Though, some still send a totally unwarranted, "are you horny" or "send pics" anonymous private messages because they won't be reprimanded publicly.
I'm SO grateful for this movement as it has brought justice for little boys and girls on the USA gymnastics team that has been dealing with 30+years of pedophilia: www.nytimes.com/.../...lympics-nassar-justice.html
It's one major example that deserves its credit.
I'm grateful that I know i'm not alone with many men and women who have also been raped. I'm grateful for the movement because it has taught me and little boys and girls around the world A LOT on how to stand up for myself. There is now just so much awareness and there can only be more exciting progression!
I'm also glad because female and male radicals expose themselves and it helps me know who to avoid or be careful around. As well as, exposes ignorant women and men who don't care to consider how this movement has truly helped SO MANY others.
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This is common sense to realize the #MeToo movement doesn't target men just because they "hugged me when I was angry" or "cast a glance" over at me. It's about ACTUAL assault. About molestation. About sexual abuse. The #MeToo movement is primarily aimed at men because 9 out of 10 rape victims are female. Because 38% of women's rapes are by relatives and 21% are by strangers. (Not shaming male victims, just an FYI if you want to come for me for that reason.)
If you genuinely think that #MeToo implies you'll get framed for assaulting someone and traumatizing, then maybe you shouldn't go near any fucking human ever. Especially women if you think most of them are lying about their experiences.
Not really because I was taught good manners and good dating advice as a kid and throughout my life. If it doesn’t work then why do it?
It’s a good conversation that needed to be heard but it needs to have guidelines on what we consider harassment and inappropriate behavior such as unwanted advances and stalking.
I think some guys honestly have no intention of hurting women and probably just made a bad decision in their actions such as hand on the lap or sexual flirting.
However the ones who feel entitled to women in some way are the ones who are scrambling like roaches when you turn the light on. The random dick pic sending, flirting repeatedly when they clearly state not interested then throw a temper if you get resistance is the ones I’m referring to.
if she says no bro, just move on to the next one, save that persistence shit when you two are already in a relationship, trust me guys you’re gonna need it 😂
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No. I'm in a committed relationship and I always view consent as Paramount
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As far as I've witnessed the #metoo movement was nothing more than a trend that has been and gone
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Nope. Never had an interest before and less now.
even if I did, respect is always key. For self and others
It renders #METOO, null and void - 679 opinions shared on Women's Day topic.
No more than usual but I've been out of the dating scene for a few years anyways.
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No... I don't know why it would
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No it has not, i was already aware you need multiple consent forms, video tapes of consent, blood samples at the moment she has given consent, a hair from both of you in laminated paper that says you consent, multiple eye witnesses when giving consent but also during the act to ensure consent is not violated. A lawyer present in the room at all times and consent from every family member before you are save from this nonsense.
Jokes aside people who actively take advantage of this are very cruel and it does mean you should think twice before having sex with someone you don't know well because as a guy the deck is stacked entirely in her favor where her claiming you did something wrong is enough to destroy your life.
But ultimately its a small group of very evil and sad individuals who exploit this so its not as bad as it may seem. Most people do not taking these minor things as sexual harassment but as good old flirting. And those who do take it like this go so far in the nature of dating that i can't help but think they will end up sad and lonely and once there biological clock starts ticking regret they didn't spend the time dating instead of scaring all there potential partners away with there indoctrinated nonsense.
Disclaimer: This is written knowing that the #metoo movement derailed and is now mostly used for feminist propaganda and to slander innocent people so they can participate by claiming they are violated because of the most ridiculous things. The original meaning of having a method of coming out as a rape victim was well intended, but its execution went off the rails. - 1.1K opinions shared on Women's Day topic.
It hasn't affected me in the least.
I work, or rather worked, in a job that was dominated by women. It wouldn't affect how I interact with them at all.
However, I was raised by parents who taught me not to interact with people in a way that might make them uncomfortable. Hence, I don't send dick pics, I don't grab people, I don't touch them in ways that would make a reasonable person feel uncomfortable.
Thus, good parents are worth a billion #metoo's. I have doubts the movement is having much affect on the socially awkward (or socially clueless).
For those who claim that the #metoo movement doesn't include things like unwanted hugs, awkward flirting, unwanted flirting, I say this: THINK AGAIN.
Yes, those things have been included by a minority in the #metoo movement. I was listening on NPR just last week to no less than Gloria Allred has filed sexual harassment charges for clients, some of which included unwanted hugs, unwanted flirting, and one (incredibly) was someone outstretching his arms as if to hug. So don't give me this, "Oh, things like that aren't included in the metoo movement." Yes, they *are* included by a small minority in the metoo movement. The fact that it's a small minority doesn't excuse it, and women in my opinion *should* be bothered with this, just as men should be bothered with guys who send unsolicited dick pics. Murder is committed by a small minority, but it bothers me. A small minority do include unwanted hugs in the metoo movement, and it bothers me. -
It hasn't really changes how I view potential romantic relationships. But I'm in ish the same boat as someone here. While I don't really point at the #metoo movement and say that people are lying, I what I do say is that a gender-spesific focus can never be right, whatever the facts in some areas may say. I've never sexually harrassed a woman. I use to say that genders are social constructs and that a woman and a man, can achieve the exact same thing in an ideal world where there are no discrimination. I don't mind women being businessleaders, political leaders, my boss or anything. Infact I want our society to be as equal as possible. I can go on and on about it really.
However, I do feel judged. I don't feel like I can flirt or almost talk with women without asking myself "does she see me as a potential sexual harrasser". I find it hard to ask my female friends out for coffee or just for a walk. Because I'm constantly asking myself if I in any way seem threatening. In other words, I feel like I'm some sort of monster, but a good monster that looks very evil. I don't know if my point gets across.
I see this as an internal thing, so I try not to reflect it outwards but it happens. Wish i could say everything.
Lastly, the numbers where i live of reported rapes is 14% females raped, 12% males raped. Is 50/50 perps being male/female -
Honestly? No. But that's because for one, I'm polite & respectful to women & men already. =) Two, I've never had a girlfriend. =P
BUT I'm more cautious now about being alone in a room with a girl of any age. I went on a 2 year Mormon mission, then on a mission there are lots of rules (& guidelines). If you're interested in a sample, DM me.
Anyways one was to keep the other missionary companion in line of sight, except anything involving restroom stuff of course. This rule is to protect any member or non-member from a stupid-acting missionaries (hey, they're still teenage boys). Also though, to protect the missionary from any false claims by non-members, OR members.
So now w/ #metoo even though I'm too nice of a guy, I'm beginning to be afraid to be by myself in the office w/ two women, help a little girl find her mom (like today), or the like. =(
I love the whole movement & awareness, but there are downsides people forget or even don't know about. =/
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Absurd.
Less than 90% of #MeToo even mentions a name to begin with, tf. People are so damn paranoid from what I see in the responses from guys on this post. You’re more likely to be in a fatal car accident than being falsely accused. Doesn’t stop you from driving though does it?
And I’m somehow bad for being involved in the #MeToo movement (not even mentioning any name) from actually having been raped? ffs gimmie a break 😑 No ones just gonna accuse you of rape for saying hi to them, geez, no need to be so goddamn irrational. Paranoia at its finest. -
Well I was MGTOW before this anyways but what you are going to see men are going to distance themselves from women. More and more men are discovering MGTOW everyday and the MeToo movement these women are just shooting themselves in the foot. It’s one thing if you got sexually assaulted yesterday and notify the authorities but years later? Personally I feel the women who are in this movement are nothing but bitter women who can’t shame men anymore and now they are using false allegations. Then these are the same women who wonder where all have the good men gone? You chased them away dumbass!
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Metoo has just added more reassurance on why i dont talk to random women on the street. I found one cool female and i am sticking to her. I dont need anymore women in my life anyways. I have some guy friends, a cool female and my family but THATS IT. If i have kids i will tell them the same thing. Stick with one you trust and Dont acknowledge the rest and move on with your life. There is no excuse for this horrible behavior. Men are human beings and we shouldn't have to be worried about stupid things like this.
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''Going up to a girl in a library and saying: "Hey, can I ask what book you're reading" is totally different from "Hey baby girl, looking mighty fine today, care to come up to my apartment"... ''
What a load of bs. If that woman in the library decided that asking what book she was reading was inappropriate, then that;s what it would be... she could easily say she felt threatened, or the guy was acting in a manner that made her uncomfortable. This is something women cannot seem to understand.
You seem to forget that a man has been arrested for looking into a pharmacy window in the general direction of a woman... and the woman claimed he was starring at her..
The fact is this. It does not matter how or what you say, it can be interpreted and over blown as harassment. A man's best option is to simply stay away period. -
I don't think so. It makes me lose a lot of respect for women though. They constantly want to be the victim. There's many women who voluntarily have relationships with their superiors or trade sexual favors for career advancement, and then years later they spin it around to make it look like abuse. Why not go to the police? Harvey Winesteins still making movies and Matt Lauer is probably drinking pina coladas on some beach somewhere. These women have no interest in bringing sexual abusers to justice and just want to take a crap on men.
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Yes. I already got anxiety to approach anyone, because I think it's unwanted, stayed alone until I was 27, am still very alone.
Now it's even worse with the additional fear of being accused just for asking her out, and making any steps towards her at all, because anything could be unwanted.
Might be a good movement for women to vent their experience, but it won't stop any of the guys who do these things, and is an awful movement for nice guys who now will feel even more restrained to make any move at all. - 7.5K opinions shared on Women's Day topic.
No, I don't see why it should have. I view sexual assault as exactly the same as I did before the metoo thing, wouldn't do it without consent.
The actual likelihood of ever being involved in a case of a false rape allegation are infinitesimal. There is no point in refraining from doing things you might enjoy because of an incredibly small chance of anything bad happening.
As of right now, I also have not seen any shifts in the juristic system regarding innocence until proven guilty or whatsoever. So the actual chance of a false allegation of rape ending into a sentence is even smaller.
I don't see why I should look differently at potential romantic relationship. If you don't commit sexual assault, the chances of you being accused of it - like in the metoo thing - are neglectable. - 420 opinions shared on Women's Day topic.
No. That doesn't mean some need to learn to keep their hands and inappropriate comments to themselves. Because this movement was born from the older generation, I'd say it was more intended for them where it's more prevalent. I hope the younger generations are more ahead of the curve and regard this kind of sexually inappropriate behavior innately unethical.
It is a bitch though maintaining a professional, platonic relationship when an attractive girl dresses provocatively in the workplace while trying to treat her as a person. To me, that's cruel, unfair, and irresponsible on a girl's part. I think most who are secure have that figured out though. And what's considered provocative varies from environment to environment. If you are outside in the heat sweating profusely, no one should be forced to cover up and risk heat stroke. That's stupid. So it would be expected to bare more skin. In a climate controlled office, those rules are different. Applies to both sexes. -
It's more about men in positions of authority over women, who abuse that power by making a woman's career success or failure contingent on a sexually related demand.
These men know exactly what they are doing and that it's wrong, but have done it and gotten away with it, because they knew their power would also give them an advantage, if anyone were to accuse them of misconduct. They knew these women's word wouldn't be believed over their own.
It's the blatent abuse of power, that is the biggest issue. - 863 opinions shared on Women's Day topic.
Nope. Seems a pretty pointless “movement” to me.
I was raped before it was “popular”. Nobody supported me before, I had to learn to be a person again alone. Now this hashtag comes alone and it does naff all difference. Doesn’t stop me being raped. Doesn’t change the way men act. Doesn’t change anyone’s viewpoint. -
Sexodus. all these movements have gone way to far, there is no rape culture, society does not promote rape. people are buying way to much into media, Remember it takes 2 too tango, even if the party is under the influence, they know what they are getting into. Feminism has destroyed marriage, relationships and dating, its even gone into a behavioural/approach hostility environment where one sex (Males) is being punished becuase we are males. yea i do think that women having equal rights is fine, pushing it to this level is absurd and proves nothing, Women have set them up for failure so badly becuase, once this comes into effect, women will find it harder to seek out mates becuase men will want nothing to do with them, any women that complains about MGTOW is hypocritical becuase their feminist movements have created it in response to them, everything has an effect in society, both sexes need to fight against feminism and mgtow and remove is from society
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Not necessarily. But it further proves how much of a cancerous movement feminism really has become, and how anyone who decries themself as a feminist nowadays is considered a toxic endeavor to understand and be friends with.
It's a waste of time, because isn't about woman's rights anymore. Feminism is now about fighting the nature of our biology to love the opposite sex, and making the lives of young men completely miserable, because a so called "Rape Culture" claims all men are predatory.
It's shameful how these feminists are content with ruining these men's lives.
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