I think many of them are genuinely confused and lost, and often truly mentally ill – however, that doesn't excuse the incredibly toxic, hateful and bigoted attitudes prevalent in incel spaces. Incel culture isn't the solution. It just misleads them and feeds them incredibly wrong-headed notions about women and what they truly look for in a man.
It's disheartening that these guys don’t even bother trying to improve their situation and instead blame others. I have sympathy for those who genuinely try to do better with women and relationships but fail. However, once they start shooting up schools and running over pedestrians in the name of some "beta uprising” (I can’t believe this is a thing, but it is), all bets are off.
And it gives them a victim mentality that they then project on their archenemies, along with many other nasty attitudes. They just decide to go down a road of self-loathing, which means that they face an important choice: they can decide to spend the rest of their lives feeling sorry for and hating themselves, or they can just get on with things and strive for greater things in life. Many incels use their lack of success with sex/relationships as an excuse to give up on themselves, their careers, and their overall success in life in general.
Like, do you want to spend the rest of your life hating yourself for something that, although important, is relatively trivial in the greater scheme of things? Are you going to use this as an excuse to completely give up on your development as a person? The choice is yours.
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I genuinely feel sorry for people who just can't seem to find a partner in their lives, romantically or sexually.
I do not feel sorry for people who actively despise women and blame them for their own failures or lack of luck, who actively spread their anti-women rhetoric on internet forums, and who actually believe women owe them sex merely for acting (fake) polite towards them.
And I sure as hell do not feel sorry for people who decide to go murder innocent people. I'm so sick of this focus on the perpetrators instead of the victims. I do not care how desperate they were. There are people who rob and steal because they have no food and no one even remotely tries to understand them and just wants them punished. But some sexually frustrated milk face executes inoocent people and suddenly we're supposed to talk about their backgrounds and trying to understand their situations? I refuse to do that.
I can understand why you would sympathize with them, but I feel like these men are a little confused. I mean personally, I don't have high expectations for a guy appearance wise. That's not what matters to me. And a lot of other women are like that. Granted not every woman ever, but we are out there. I believe that there is the right person out there for everyone, and I mean everyone. So I feel like these so called "incels" are too quick to become bitter just because of a few shortcomings. Maybe they are depressed and give up too easily, I don't know. But I find it wrong for someone to become antagonostic and violent.
It's not wrong to feel bad for them, it shows empathy, but you shouldn't agree with their beliefs that you have to be superman to get a girl, that you're entitled to love, or that women are bitches because they're not attracted to you.
You don't like team sports or you're not good at them? Doesn't matter, there is a wide range of exercise you can do - almost everyone can walk/hike, you can lift weights in your own home. Get out of the house and do something in the community, find out about local social groups, whatever they do, and pick ones because they interest you, not because you think you'll meet girls.
Get a job, and work hard at it. Get your hair cut regularly. Shower and shave (or trim) frequently. Learn stuff, read books and magazines, read around subjects that interest you.
Rejection is normal. It's never nice, but it happens. Just accept that it happens, and don't hang on in relationships that aren't working, it's OK to reject other people, too.
Oh, and finally, it's not a numbers game; if women see you asking out every woman you meet, they'll know they're nothing special to you.
It's not wrong, cause it is a shame that they feel loneliness and then hopelessness on top of that.
But it really is a shame that the only solace they can find are forums filled with hatred, that only justify hateful ideas and encourages them
I can't feel any empathy for those like the guys in the photos who turn to violence to punish others for their misfortune though, (at least the guy on the right I haven't read much into left).
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Women’s standards are too low, not too high.
Although I don't think it's wrong for you to feel sympathy for incels, I believe it's of paramount importance for everyone to recognize that providing sexual relief for incels with no strings attached is an error in judgment by society.
To the contrary, I think that every pussy free wimp who isn't getting any pussy should be required to work off his debt and make himself useful financially and as a general laborer.
I wouldn't want to be incel.
I'd look around to meet a female incel, rather than the hottest girl of the town.
(That's why some incels are incels: too picky).I feel bad for them too. But the majority of them aren't really ugly (like the boys in the pictures), its their behaviour that dont attracts girls, but they think the cause is their look.
There was a period in my life in which i thought i was extremely ugly and that i would have never find a boyfriend, and its horrible, so i understand them, but honestly i have never wanted to be violent againist other people for my situationI mean, I feel bad for them in a "Man, you guys really suck" sort of way. Can't actually sympathise with them since they're disgustingly offensive.
As a former incel, I do feel bad for them but most of the times it's their personality that puts people off not their looks, or they're too entitled for their own good.
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I am an incel myself too
I am ugly not muscular even skinnny
I never even talked to a girl in my life for more than 10 seconds :)No one is involuntarily celibate. Because you are an asshole, you are voluntarily celibate.
I feel bad for them too
I wish I could've guided them onto a different pathIf that's what incel means, then I'm an incel too 😂😂😂
I feel bad for society. Those guys must be locked in a nuthouse.
I don't feel sorry for bad people. Period.
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