Absolutely not. "Spanking" is just an innocent word for physical abuse. Like calling torture "enhanced interrogation".
It is scientifically proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that physical abuse affects children very negatively. Children who receive corporal punishments are far more likely to suffer from mental illnesses such as depression and borderline syndrome when they grow older. The humiliation they experience leaves lifelong scares. As adults, such people are less confident, less trusting and less capable of building lasting relationships.
However, that's not even the worst part.
The two worst things about corporal punishment are that it teaches children that:
1. Violence is an appropriate solution and
2. You should never question things rationally; you should always mindlessly bow your head to the authorities
Both of these things are HORRIBLE lessons to teach a child. The first of them is partially responsible for the fact that many victims of corporal punishment later become perpetrators; be it by bullying other children in school, or by abusing their own children later on.
The second one shows how idiotic corporal punishment truly is. If you simply scare a child into discipline, the motivation is purely extrinsic. This means that as soon as you take away that source of violence, the child finds it impossible to be disciplined. It has never learned any forms of intrinsic motivation. That's why, ironically, "spanking" has the exact opposite effect. It makes children LESS disciplined, not more.
Corporal punishment is counter-productive when raising children. It is a clear sign of bad parenting and helplessness. Skilled and loving parents do not need such brutish methods because they can solve problems much more productively.
First of all, it is important to make a child understand WHY something is wrong. If you want children to have values and critical thinking skills instead of blindly following an authority, you need to teach them these things. For example the "Golden Rule" comes intuitive even to children.
Secondly, good punishments should always fulfill three criteria:
1. They should be related to the misdeed
2. They should follow immediately
3. They should be adequate in severity.
By the way: the fact that you complain about antifa when there are right-wing extremists sending literal bombs to political opponents and killing innocent people in synagogues is absolutely disgusting and cynical.
There's no need to politicize this topic.
No, spanking is never a good solution. Parents that use violence toward their children would learn them that violence is a good solution at problems and that people who are bigger/stronger have the right to use violence. The society don't get less violent if violence is the norm.
There have been several studies proving that violence toward children are child abuse and that it gives negative consequences like mental illnesses and children who were spanked are more likely to hit their children too. They're also more likely to be violent and many criminals were abused by their parents, uncles/aunts and so on.
Same thing with criminals who've been sent to prison. Harsh sentences and physical punishments just made them more aggressive.
No. I used to be for physical "discipline", but I'm not for it anymore. I don't have kids yet, but when I do, I don't plan to hit them.
Black and Latinos notoriously spank kids, yet we are the highest demographics to commit crimes. So I don't believe this whole "spank your kids so they'll be good people" crap.
I don't believe violence solves many issues. This is one of them. Also, psychologists seem to agree. I believe there are better forms of discipline.
If you hit your spouse, it's domestic abuse. If you hit your pet, it's animal abuse. But if you hit your child, it's discipline? No, it's also abuse.
Spankings? No. Good non-physical discipline encouraging understanding and fair consequence? Yes.
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No. There are other ways to teach discipline and spanking or any physical hurting is definitely not appropriate.
My mother slapped me hard when I was 7 because she caught me stealing money from her purse. That was the only time ever she did that. It was a hard slap, half on the cheek and halfway on my head, hitting my ear in between. My ear was swollen afterwards and we had to see the doctor. I still remember it and whenever I see her getting angry, I swear I get the same tingling & numbness in my head which I experienced when I was 7. I am never comfortable with that and I try hard to avoid such situations. Physical punishment is never okay with kids, because they remember. I didn't know why I used to get that uncomfortable whenever my mother got angry. Until recently when we discussed this event. She didn't want to hit me but she couldn't control her anger at that time. That's what happens when you get physical with someone. Most people don't know how hard they can hit. So there is nothing like a casual slap or spanking. Physical punishment comes with long term consequences. Millennials turned out to be outspoken for many more reasons. This is not an answer for their behaviour
Yes I do. To a point, there’s a difference between a beating and a spanking. I got spanked when I was a kid, turned out pretty good after 10 years in the service, now working in the medical industry in a prison. I will say that spankings don’t always work though, after a while to some kids it’s nothing. So you have to get creative in your ways on how to keep your children in line. I have 3 brothers and 3 sisters, all were spanked. My second two youngest brothers joined the military, the other is a firefighter. My sisters work as well, one is in school. We turned out pretty descent. I can’t say spankings work for every child, but it did for us. Myself, I’ve spanked my son a few times. But if I do I always make sure to explain to him why I did it. Not simply because I’m an adult who’s bigger so I can do as I please. I will say right now at the age of 11 he’s turned out better than myself. He gets As and Bs in school, plays sports, kickboxing, music instruments. Very helpful and respectful to people in saying thank you, please, opening doors for people. This is just me, again I’m sure it won’t work for everyone. But something needs to be done. I do this because I know as a father one day I won’t be around. I need to know that he can make it w put me one day.
Yes.
Look, there are a lot of things better about the world now vs. the past.
The thing is not EVERYTHING is better. Kids not be babied so much and being disciplined when young and having to do the family chores and have responsibilities in the past wasn't such a bad thing. I mean we have these pathetic people now offended by EVERYTHING, having mob protests at college because a university administrator wore a sombrero for their Halloween costume, kids living at home until 25-26, staying on their parent's insurance until 26. Youth talking to teachers and adults with zero respect and politeness. Thinking the world owes them something.
There is a LOT wrong with many of the world's youth now in the USA and west.
Not everything is better than it used to be. Women can vote, blacks have equal rights, we have the internet, we have vaccines for many diseases... etc. There is a lot better about today's world.
Not EVERYTHING is better though.
Yes they do.. There is a difference in correction discipline and beating. Correction let's the child now they have done something wrong you don't sit them in the corner and tell them no no they will not learn respect that way and they will not listen they will just sit there for five minutes knowing that once they get up there crime has been forgiven.
Discipline lets them know that they have done something wrong by a physical action such as a belt or fly swatter. I was disciplined as a child and I learn respect off of it you don't tell your mother to go to hell you don't tell your dad Fu you did you got a whooping and you learn not to do it that was called respect back then now it's called you go to jail
I don't think spanking is bad. Not every punishment should warrant a spanking the more serious situations. It should be explained as to why they are getting one and they need to explain why they are getting one also and what they can do better next time. Also spanking sho8od only be on bottom with hand. I'm sure its part a discipline problem but not totally. Parents are to busy trying to be their friend or the cool parent that they are setting their child up full of entitlements instead of earning their wants etc.
I can't imagine myself ever having children for this reason as well as others. I would never want to put my hands on a child like this. I do understand that some children act so awful that I totally get why someone would want to physically harm them to knock sense into them, but there has to be a better solution.
When I was a kid I got spanked and experienced some other forms of physical abuse from my father that I will not mention. I don't even think my behavior was bad enough to warrant that type of punishment. I either made innocent mistakes or I was standing up for myself. My parents thought that corporal punishment was the way since that's how they were raised. However, I don't think it was right because it is part of why I suffer from mental health issues and I don't have the best relationship with my parents to this day. We get along fine, but I prefer to be alone or with people who are very loving.
Spanking is a tool that may never be needed in the lifespan of a kids childhood. It should just be an option for specific children, under specific circumstances with parents who specifically know how to go about it. Some people, even if their kid needs a spanking are emotionally incapable of doing it properly themselves. It's not a one size fits all sort of thing. It's like asking if giving your kid a "time out" is required for all children. For me as a kid that literally never worked. I had/have a strong imagination and just entertained myself when staring at a wall.
I doubt spanking have anything to do with it, societies change over time, every generation has different political views than the one that came before it. It's always happened, and it always will. In terms of why we have people who whine and complain and think they deserve everything for free, one reason I heard is actually because of daycare.
Think about it, toddlers crave attention, and when you have 20 toddlers and maybe 2 or 3 people to take care of them, it's hard for them to get attention. So if they want the adults to notice them, the only way is to scream, cry, or hit the other kids. It sends a clear message to them very early on, which may stick with them into adulthood.
So give your kid attention early in life so they don't try to get it as an adult.
I think spanking parents need spankings.
Children should NOT be spanked.
It teaches them their mom and dad consider violence a good way to solve an issue.
After that , don't wonder why your society is violent.
No, that's demaging to the kids. And society would benefit heavily from refraining from spanking your kids.
There are many ways to teach your kids lessons and to show them consequences. Whether that's grounding or taking away privileges (all accompanied by explaining the "why" to them, by the way). If you have to resort to physical or verbal abuse, you have failed as a parent.
Every research says spankings are BAD for ALL kids. Only an uneducated person would state otherwise. If I saw my man beating , spanking our children and not feeling bad about it/wanting to change it/thinking he was in the right that would be reason enough to divorce him on the spot.
It is the memory about your parents unconditional love, protection and care that makes the small individuals strong. How can you ever be strong, trusting and forming attachments, be confident, etc if the person whi was supposed to love you and protect you, the ones you should be able to trust, were the ones hurting you the most. And I feel the same thing about parents letting their baby cry themselves to sleep.
very much so, i did. and not beating but just spanking. act bad enough need to learn that acting bad in life has bad consequence
do you have ANY proof that most millennials were not spanked? also, why are you dragging politics into this?
i Think there are better methods to discipline a child than whacking at them.
i think teaching the child to communicate their way through a tough situation is better than responding to unwanted behavior with physical violence. it just shows them to fear the parent and that violence IS a good response to a tricky situation. that's a horrible lesson.
Spankings should stay for as long as parents raise children should parents chose to. I also think the violent change in economy and income has disallowed parents the time to properly raise resectable kids. Most parents I know work their asses off. The actual quality time may not be as good as they think.
F*ck no. There are so many other methods of discipline. I don't really get why this is even a debate for so many people since there have been many studies that show spanking does more harm than good for a child. Violence isn't the way to solve bad behavior.
I think spanking should be like a last resort. And tbh I think grounding is a very bad idea for a punishment.
Cause kids have smartphones now. Hell they might even enjoy being grounded.
Anyways I'm not entirely sure who is to blame here. It's that nature vs nurture thing.
I'm not really sure if spankings or grounding works. I probably won't spank when I have children, but I'll use another method my dad used a few times, which was basically using Army Calisthenics as punishment. That being said, Antifa need a serious belt/switch/chancla beating, the holy trinity of beatings.
No. I'm 45. My dad apologized for all the times he spanked me before he died.
I only spanked a child once. I regret it. I told her not to do something, and she did it anyway. It was the wrong way to handle the situation. Thankfully, she's older now and doesn't even remember it. My opinion: abuse is not ok.
When I was young in the early 90s through beginning 00s. I didn’t deal with spankings. I had to put up with the belt, slippers, remote control, hangers, and hot wheels racing track. Couldn’t sit on the toilet 🚽 when I needed to go at school cause of the bruising.
I think its all feminists fault, feminists need good spankings.
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