Everything is frowned upon. Don't get enough sex, you're a loser. Get too much sex, you're a slut. Can't win. That's because the world is filled with self-important shitbags who think they have some sort of cosmic mandate to tell the rest of the world how to live. Fuck them. Live the way you want.
I "frown upon" promiscuity (having many transient sexual relationships) because it usually involves people (mainly men) using others for what they can get out of them. There is also often deception involved, like it says in the book "Are Women the Stronger Sex" by Josette Sona. Too many men will pretend they love a woman so they can have sex with her, and then move on to another woman and do the same to her (thus being promiscuous). When the previous woman finds out what the guy is doing; that he didn't really love her but lied to her and used her, she is often devastated.
it’s funny how women view men as “users” when they’re promiscuous but, at least in my experience its the opposite. mostly the ones who use the other are women
Some people just don't like the possibility of getting with somebody who's been with a lot of people. I have a couple under my belt, I wouldn't say it's a crazy number but it's double-digits and I'm disease free also have no kids. I see nothing wrong with sleeping with other people like you said if you're careful and it's your lifestyle. Personally I thrive with the casual or friends with benefits type of situation. Less heartbreak and both people are sexually satisfied, I hope... Some people can't please you.
Some are actually envious and wants to do the same pretty much. Others have a difficulty drawing the line between others and theirs, thinking they're somehow affected by people's differing choices.
And recently we have just as obnoxious poly-people who shit over folks who went and married their high school sweet hearts.
The solution is easy. Envious people, stop whining and go out there and make an effort to get laid a lot. Buy prostitutes if you have to, so long as it makes you shut up.
Monogamous fixed-relationship types of people go to the left. Promiscuous people go to the right. Stay in your respective corners and don't try to date someone on the other "team". :)
I don't bully people for that, but it's not something I like. I wouldn't date a person who sleeps around. If you do it with anyone then how is more special if you do it with me? How can I be sure you'll stop to me if it's so easy for someone to get into your pants? That is why so many people cheat. If you only sleep with people you have a connection with you have more chances of staying faithful than somone who would bang anyone they find attractive. At least, i don't see how I could ever cheat as i don't feel comfortable with sleeping with someone i am not emotionally attached to.
When someone has casual sex, they're demoralizing themselves. Telling themselves it's ok to fuck everyone. (I'm not saying it's not, this is just how some people feel about it, not me tho.) the first time you have casual sex you're setting yourself up to be objectified.
I consider it bad because it devalues sex. It's nothing special, it's meaningless, and it's a commodity when done often. And since for most people sex is half the relationship, i can imagine if half the relationship is meaningless and valueless, with the rest being equally easily replaceable, it makes a relationship have no value or anything unique to it.
Basically, it devalues something that is considered special and meaningful, and makes it trivial and meaningless.
It’s because when they get involved with a potential partner they’re subjecting them to various std’s along with the possibility of that person not being faithful to the other person and their partner having a reputation of being easy which is frowned upon because guys can brag how they fucked so and so’s chick which causes problems with other guys. Because guys don’t want to be seen with a ho. Then there’s the risk of unwanted pregnancy and birth control isn’t always fully preventable and then you have guess who the baby daddy game is. Trust me there’s lots of reasons for it. Career wise the woman will be thought of as someone who slept her way to the top to get that promotion over someone who deserved it and earned it based on merit and job skills alone. Like I said there’s lots of reasons it’s looked down upon.
Then you have the whole rape allegation contend with ie her having regrets for having sex with the guy so she cries rape. Or she could actually get raped but no one would believe her because of how she acts and her behavior
I mentioned above that I’m talking about promiscuity among people who are honest about their sexual habits, use birth control (Yes, I know birth control can fail, but in a hypothetical situation where it doesn’t), and respect professional and legal boundaries.
Sure respecting people’s lifestyle is something we can all agree however I’m certainly allowed to disagree with it. If you’re and obvious whore and/or using sexuality in order to draw attention then I’m well within my rights to criticize you for it. Sex is a beautiful and natural thing but some people use it to take advantage of others.
It’s fine to disagree, but I don’t think it’s right to criticize promiscuous women who are honest about only wanting casual sex. Of course, criticize away if she’s trying to take advantage of people or lead them on.
Being open with your sexuality I’d say is a positive. Why should we attempt to hide what is only a natural part of life? Just don’t be constantly and self righteously talking about your cooch all the time and we’ll be good. 😀
Well the religious reasons typically reach towards premarital sex which is put in place to encourage self control over your urges and as a result can make it more meaningful. It allows you to build upon emotional affection rather than just pure physical attraction. I personally don't agree with promiscuity because I see it as not really taking the health risks seriously enough. Yes ik you can use condoms and such but a lot of people I know ended up having a one night stand without protection because they either forgot to bring one along, or thinking that they won't catch anything. This is most common in straight people from what I've seen but that is most likely different in other people's experiences.
So basically some people don't like it for symbolic reasons, and others for medical reasons.
Because people are so narrow minded and jealous that they don’t have the courage to stand out from the traditional monogamy crowd. They only think their way is the right way and that everyone should abide by the same “moral code”. But promiscuity has nothing to do with morals. —coming from a girl who has lost interest in sex! ☺️
Because people want other people to believe what they believe and act how they act. And if they are different, its "wrong and sinful". People need to realize that you dont have to be promiscuous or like it even. Just get over it and let people live lol.
Ahhh, the moral majority speaks, I say get it out of your system, besafe, get tested twice a year minimum. And listen to your innersences. And for those that don't feel its for them. Good for you...
It spreads STDs. Why shouldn't people judge that? Those who engage in risky behaviors and thereby make themselves a higher risk to others should be judged as being a higher risk, and I see nothing wrong with both avoiding them and warning others so they can make an informed decision if they want to avoid them.
Coming from a guy who has never had sex (yeah, I said it!!!) and voluntarily at that, I raise my eyebrow at anyone who casually has sex and a lot of it. Especially with the increase in risks and potential pregnancies. Hey there's always the chance you might forget your pill, or whatever.
I just see the type of people who sleep around as having no self control and only interested in self gratification. Hey, but that's just me.
@stuie74 Not until I'm in a loving relationship that I know will last. I don't view sex as just something to be done for the fun of it. And no, condom's are not 100% proof. I'm not taking chances.
@stuie74 Dude, whatever! That phrase, "you only live once" is so backward. Why the hell would I ever bother risking myself on an activity that could potentially end things sooner then if I were cautious. This is my last response to you, I can tell you're just some jackass trying to have a bit of fun at other peoples expense. So up yours.
I've noticed it too and I agree with you, especially about using protection, as it's important to stay safe from any form of STDs or accidental pregnancies.
If it is frowned, like it does seem to be, then surely both genders should be hated on evenly, not men more than women or women more than men.
I'm a virgin and have never been with anyone so and there's probably a lot more to it than I've stated and/or know.
If you can read pages 224-227, I think it answers the question of what sex has become, and why we have an unconscious repulsion to it. It's not that sex is wrong, but the way we embody it, rather.
The people who judge others for having sex, are holding back the human race. They're just a bunch of fucktards.
I think we've gone backwards as a species. When people lived in caves, everybody fucked everybody. Now, nobody fucks anybody. Tell me how that's an improvement.
They're not holding back the human race, that's impossible to happen
They're just sick and tired of the new generation which is disgusting because of the huge increase in single parents and poor ways of raising, as if like normal parents weren't bad enough
I think the only problem with sleeping with a bunch of people is that you’re more open to STIs and STDs. Condoms do protect you but not fully. Some people don’t even use protection and then some people don’t even know if they have an infection but they pass it onto someone else.
It is I guess a natural reaction because until modern times there was little protection against STDs. So, promiscuous people increased risk of infections. Most societies use social stigma as a tool to discourage behavior that negatively affects society.
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Everything is frowned upon. Don't get enough sex, you're a loser. Get too much sex, you're a slut. Can't win. That's because the world is filled with self-important shitbags who think they have some sort of cosmic mandate to tell the rest of the world how to live. Fuck them. Live the way you want.
This.
I "frown upon" promiscuity (having many transient sexual relationships) because it usually involves people (mainly men) using others for what they can get out of them.
There is also often deception involved, like it says in the book "Are Women the Stronger Sex" by Josette Sona. Too many men will pretend they love a woman so they can have sex with her, and then move on to another woman and do the same to her (thus being promiscuous). When the previous woman finds out what the guy is doing; that he didn't really love her but lied to her and used her, she is often devastated.
it’s funny how women view men as “users” when they’re promiscuous but, at least in my experience its the opposite. mostly the ones who use the other are women
and why is it viewed as “men using women” if he has sex with her casually? aren’t women also enjoying it? most of them don’t even complain
Some people just don't like the possibility of getting with somebody who's been with a lot of people. I have a couple under my belt, I wouldn't say it's a crazy number but it's double-digits and I'm disease free also have no kids. I see nothing wrong with sleeping with other people like you said if you're careful and it's your lifestyle. Personally I thrive with the casual or friends with benefits type of situation. Less heartbreak and both people are sexually satisfied, I hope... Some people can't please you.
Some are actually envious and wants to do the same pretty much.
Others have a difficulty drawing the line between others and theirs, thinking they're somehow affected by people's differing choices.
And recently we have just as obnoxious poly-people who shit over folks who went and married their high school sweet hearts.
The solution is easy. Envious people, stop whining and go out there and make an effort to get laid a lot. Buy prostitutes if you have to, so long as it makes you shut up.
Monogamous fixed-relationship types of people go to the left.
Promiscuous people go to the right.
Stay in your respective corners and don't try to date someone on the other "team". :)
I don't bully people for that, but it's not something I like. I wouldn't date a person who sleeps around. If you do it with anyone then how is more special if you do it with me? How can I be sure you'll stop to me if it's so easy for someone to get into your pants? That is why so many people cheat. If you only sleep with people you have a connection with you have more chances of staying faithful than somone who would bang anyone they find attractive. At least, i don't see how I could ever cheat as i don't feel comfortable with sleeping with someone i am not emotionally attached to.
When someone has casual sex, they're demoralizing themselves. Telling themselves it's ok to fuck everyone. (I'm not saying it's not, this is just how some people feel about it, not me tho.) the first time you have casual sex you're setting yourself up to be objectified.
I consider it bad because it devalues sex. It's nothing special, it's meaningless, and it's a commodity when done often. And since for most people sex is half the relationship, i can imagine if half the relationship is meaningless and valueless, with the rest being equally easily replaceable, it makes a relationship have no value or anything unique to it.
Basically, it devalues something that is considered special and meaningful, and makes it trivial and meaningless.
It’s because when they get involved with a potential partner they’re subjecting them to various std’s along with the possibility of that person not being faithful to the other person and their partner having a reputation of being easy which is frowned upon because guys can brag how they fucked so and so’s chick which causes problems with other guys. Because guys don’t want to be seen with a ho. Then there’s the risk of unwanted pregnancy and birth control isn’t always fully preventable and then you have guess who the baby daddy game is. Trust me there’s lots of reasons for it. Career wise the woman will be thought of as someone who slept her way to the top to get that promotion over someone who deserved it and earned it based on merit and job skills alone. Like I said there’s lots of reasons it’s looked down upon.
Then you have the whole rape allegation contend with ie her having regrets for having sex with the guy so she cries rape. Or she could actually get raped but no one would believe her because of how she acts and her behavior
I mentioned above that I’m talking about promiscuity among people who are honest about their sexual habits, use birth control (Yes, I know birth control can fail, but in a hypothetical situation where it doesn’t), and respect professional and legal boundaries.
Sure respecting people’s lifestyle is something we can all agree however I’m certainly allowed to disagree with it. If you’re and obvious whore and/or using sexuality in order to draw attention then I’m well within my rights to criticize you for it. Sex is a beautiful and natural thing but some people use it to take advantage of others.
It’s fine to disagree, but I don’t think it’s right to criticize promiscuous women who are honest about only wanting casual sex. Of course, criticize away if she’s trying to take advantage of people or lead them on.
Being open with your sexuality I’d say is a positive. Why should we attempt to hide what is only a natural part of life? Just don’t be constantly and self righteously talking about your cooch all the time and we’ll be good. 😀
Well the religious reasons typically reach towards premarital sex which is put in place to encourage self control over your urges and as a result can make it more meaningful. It allows you to build upon emotional affection rather than just pure physical attraction. I personally don't agree with promiscuity because I see it as not really taking the health risks seriously enough. Yes ik you can use condoms and such but a lot of people I know ended up having a one night stand without protection because they either forgot to bring one along, or thinking that they won't catch anything. This is most common in straight people from what I've seen but that is most likely different in other people's experiences.
So basically some people don't like it for symbolic reasons, and others for medical reasons.
Because people are so narrow minded and jealous that they don’t have the courage to stand out from the traditional monogamy crowd. They only think their way is the right way and that everyone should abide by the same “moral code”. But promiscuity has nothing to do with morals.
—coming from a girl who has lost interest in sex! ☺️
Because people want other people to believe what they believe and act how they act. And if they are different, its "wrong and sinful".
People need to realize that you dont have to be promiscuous or like it even. Just get over it and let people live lol.
Ahhh, the moral majority speaks,
I say get it out of your system, besafe, get tested twice a year minimum. And listen to your innersences. And for those that don't feel its for them.
Good for you...
It spreads STDs. Why shouldn't people judge that? Those who engage in risky behaviors and thereby make themselves a higher risk to others should be judged as being a higher risk, and I see nothing wrong with both avoiding them and warning others so they can make an informed decision if they want to avoid them.
Coming from a guy who has never had sex (yeah, I said it!!!) and voluntarily at that, I raise my eyebrow at anyone who casually has sex and a lot of it. Especially with the increase in risks and potential pregnancies. Hey there's always the chance you might forget your pill, or whatever.
I just see the type of people who sleep around as having no self control and only interested in self gratification. Hey, but that's just me.
@stuie74 Not until I'm in a loving relationship that I know will last. I don't view sex as just something to be done for the fun of it. And no, condom's are not 100% proof. I'm not taking chances.
@stuie74 Dude, whatever! That phrase, "you only live once" is so backward. Why the hell would I ever bother risking myself on an activity that could potentially end things sooner then if I were cautious. This is my last response to you, I can tell you're just some jackass trying to have a bit of fun at other peoples expense. So up yours.
Really, you are so much of a loser , get real, get laid
Be positive, at least you can r
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Fuck you loset
I've noticed it too and I agree with you, especially about using protection, as it's important to stay safe from any form of STDs or accidental pregnancies.
If it is frowned, like it does seem to be, then surely both genders should be hated on evenly, not men more than women or women more than men.
I'm a virgin and have never been with anyone so and there's probably a lot more to it than I've stated and/or know.
If you can read pages 224-227, I think it answers the question of what sex has become, and why we have an unconscious repulsion to it. It's not that sex is wrong, but the way we embody it, rather.
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The people who judge others for having sex, are holding back the human race. They're just a bunch of fucktards.
I think we've gone backwards as a species.
When people lived in caves, everybody fucked everybody. Now, nobody fucks anybody. Tell me how that's an improvement.
They're not holding back the human race, that's impossible to happen
They're just sick and tired of the new generation which is disgusting because of the huge increase in single parents and poor ways of raising, as if like normal parents weren't bad enough
It's much deeper than what you're saying
@Syrian_survivor 🤦♂️I can see talking to you is going to be a real chore...
If you can't handle a discussion with me then sorry if I was too much bro
You don't need to talk and waste my time, rest those fingers my man 👌
@Syrian_survivor I'm saying you're too dense to think outside of your own box of rocks
Your point?
You just clamied I was close-minded for no reason and with no evidence, that's a pretty bad way to discuss a subject brother
@Syrian_survivor why don't you go back to the beginning and reread everything
Already done my man, anything you want me to focus on?
@Syrian_survivor insinuation, inference, metaphor, possible parables, etc
"it's much deeper than what you're saying"?
You're not helping here
@Syrian_survivor then you can't be helped
Then you should reread what I said and rest those fingers
Good day
I think the only problem with sleeping with a bunch of people is that you’re more open to STIs and STDs. Condoms do protect you but not fully. Some people don’t even use protection and then some people don’t even know if they have an infection but they pass it onto someone else.
It is I guess a natural reaction because until modern times there was little protection against STDs. So, promiscuous people increased risk of infections. Most societies use social stigma as a tool to discourage behavior that negatively affects society.