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There are things I angry about, related to overt and covert ways women are devalued in the world. But it doesn't come close to hate at all. I love men in general. I have men in my life that I am incredibly close to because I genuinely like friendship with men. I have been influenced by many great men, in a positive way.
My anger is much more at the political level, not the individual hatred level.
Some people don't understand how you can be angry without hating.
For me, I use my anger as a motivator to help me seek creative solutions to cultural and social problems. I don't use anger to abuse others. I don't use it to fuel any sort of hatred.84
In the past, I would at times feel some level of bitterness, but not outright hatred. Usually it was just after or for a few weeks after something was called off. In high school and college, I was the kind of guy who would pursue a girl if I thought she was already into me and if I was wrong, which I usually was, I'd feel like she had been leading me on. There was one girl who did some serious emotional damage to me, but I have since recovered.
What really changed things for me, other than maturing and becoming more bold about pursuing a woman's heart, was actually just going out on a couple of dates and things not working out because it simply wasn't a match or we realized one of us wasn't ready or we wanted different things.10
It's ridiculous to be that angry to all members of the opposite sex. I can't imagine what could motivate someone to be that angry.41
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Not necessarily hate, but I resent them mostly because so many men will not admit when they are wrong and they think it's okay to treat women like crap. Either we say something and we're 'bitching' or we remain silent and get run over.
I'm just a little over the male gender. It's like they can't take responsibility for anything. At least, not the ones in my area. And I do mean 'area', not the ones I dated. None of my female friends have had positive experiences with men unless they're married and the only positive experience they had is with their husband.13
No... I generally don't feel hatred against other people.
I also don't think it would be fair to generalize people like that. For example let's say I made bad experiences with five or ten or even fifty Brazilian people. Does that mean all Brazilians are terrible, vile people worthy of being hated? I certainly don't believe so.0
I don't hate men. I dislike the way that most of them behave in my experience with them. But I don't hate them. I don't hate anyone. Hate is too heavy of an emotion to carry around.120
Never ever in my life.
I dislike individuals, not races, genders etc.0
Once in a while10
Is the poll asking if I hate "women"?
Because I don't - that would be dumb.
I don't have anything against feminists either, although some of the black and white rants that eminates from the extreme fringes tend towards branding all men oppressive rape-enablers. But I file that under a general dislike of extremists. Human society is a varied and confusing place. Any attempt to explain it using a rigid set of axioms is bound to go badly wrong somewhere. Feminism has its fair share of morons with tunnel vision, but so too does every other political and social movement in human history. You set up a cause to make the world a better place by righting some injustice, and a lot of people join it because they agree with the cause. Others think that joining it will help them in their career. And still others sign because they like the sound of their own voice.
So frankly, I struggle to find anything to dislike about women as a category. And even the loonier feminists have yet to out-loony MRAs, Incels and all the other self-appointed spokespersons for All Men. Those fuckers can jump in a river.0
I don't feel hatred toward people - I feel annoyed or frustrated or bothered.
I don't like people having power over me and allowing someone or an idea of someone to hold real estate in your head is handing them power. They take chunks of time and energy from you but it doesn't effect them at all because they either aren't aware of it or don't care. So you expend all this time and energy and thought for what? Hatred is rarely productive and is usually one sided. My time is more valuable than that.
I don't care what people think of me and I don't let other's opinions influence how I feel about myself. Random people aren't important enough for me to hate them or love them because I'm not going to be thinking about them in the future.29
If anything I feel hatred against my own gender. Not all of them but the ones who are feminazis and put men down and make life harder for men. The fact that men are afraid to interact with women in the workplace in fear of being accused of sexual harassment or assault is terrible and I pity the innocent men who have to worry about that.82
Because I know not all guys are a certain way. I judge people's individual behaviour and character. If I met 1,000 guys who behaved in a particular negative/bad way, I wouldn't judge ALL guys that way. I'd judge those 1,000 guys as individuals
However, I do understand why people judge others based on their own negative experiences. For example ; if a man had been cheated on by every , or most , girlfriend's he's ever had, he'll automatically assume ALL women are cheats.
If a woman has been played by every, or most , guys she's ever met, she'll automatically assume ALL or most guys are players.
If most of your experiences with females (and that of people you know ) were all or mostly positive , your view of females in general would be mostly positive
Experiences colours people's view in General14
Men and women occasionally hate eachother because of their bad experiences with a handful of individuals but as long as you admit that fact to yourself and realise they aren't all bad you should be good. Also I know it hurts to realise but you are not owed love or sex by anyone, here's a little experiment (next time you get a girlfriend notice how you stop expecting reciprocate gestures from other girls. Because you don't care about them, you already have access to a woman. This is how it feels to be a woman, you don't care about what you have immediate acess too. Playing hard to get is the way forward, beat them at their own game and thank me later.0
I already expressed many times that I am a womanhater. A misogynist if you will.
A common criticism I get is "anyone who hates all members of a race, sex, etc, without knowing them, is irrational".
Let me tackle this argument once and for all.
I do not hate every woman. I do not KNOW every woman. What I am though, is skeptical of and prejudiced against women. This is based on my negative experiences, and patters that I see in every or almost every woman I have ever known.
Additionally, obviously misogyny is not a rational reaction - it's hatred, dislike, prejudice. It is a fundamentally emotional response. But I have damn good reason to be emotional about it, and ironically enough by mocking me for it, you actually strenghten my dislike of the "fairer sex".0
No, never hatred, but definitely frustration, a lot of frustration but again, never hatred. Its not productive and it just creates a bigger barrier which itself exacerbates the issues. Plus not all women are the issue, in fact its not really women in general that are the issue so much as ideas and ideologies that they believe in (and many believe in them because they are bombarded with it at all times so even then its not really their fault if they have never been allowed to develop their ideas and beliefs on their own).0
If you look for reasons to hate others you will find reasons to hate others
If you look for reasons to love others you will find reasons to love others
In the end whatever you want to feel whether it is hatred or love
Or arrogance or humility
you will be able to find things that reaffirm that believe
However people who hate aren't truly happy39
Yes I do direct some inner-hatred towards "men in general" on occasion, though I'm fully aware it's not rational and I don't take myself seriously. It's mostly me being annoyed with the same things guys get annoyed at girls over: the mental differences. For me, it's the thoughtlessness and insistence that it's "us" who are the problem in any given scenario where it's clearly gender causing something (them refusing to take any responsibility whatsoever even if I'm insisting it's both sides), or having my own mental processes and purposes fed to me by some retard who uses evolution or something to explain away every aspect of our behaviour.10
In regards to the male gender, I hate that some of them are (globally, not just in the west) violent and use that overwhelming physical force on those weaker than him. That pretty much forces some of us to start taking an interest in a self-defense class.
Do I hate men? Nope. Not all of them are like that as well as not all women are saints. Before you misunderstand my post, I'm aware there are some crazy women out there too and they deserve the same sentences but this post is specifically asking if we feel hatred towards the opposite gender. No, I don't feel hatred towards men overall.
Do I hate those that rape kids and abuse women? Hell yes10
No. I don’t hate anyone. Besides, most of the men I interact with on a regular basis are very nice people. Most of the people I interact with at all are very nice people. Because most of the people who go to my school are very nice. Mean people get annoyed by all the niceness, because they don’t trust it, and then they leave. Only the nice people are left.12
I'm 28. In my younger days I did. Mainly because I was a good man who had a lot of ambition, lived my life correctly and could never get laid or meet women. They always cast me to the side and went to go fuck some loser.
Even today, I don't get women. Lol. M older brother who is 40 has a lot of bad habits. He is messy, instead of using tissue to wipe his nose, he will you his hands and wipe it on the clothes, doesn't wash his hands when he uses the bathroom and doesn't use deodorant. YETTTTT... he get's laid all the time. I never understood that. Lol.
However, at my age, I don't hate the opposite sex and I stopped trying to wonder how some men get laid while others don't. I just don't care. Besides, I have a girlfriend now and she appreciates me. So... if women want to date loser men or be with men who don't have much going for them, that's fine. It's not my problem.12
I wouldn’t consider myself a mysogenist. However I dislike, but not hate probably 95% of the women in our society. Many try to act like men and do a poor job of it. There are also many degenerate women in western society. The bottom line is I do not trust women on the whole, I despise feminism and I think women today are mostly useless to me as a man. They have few qualities, abilities or willingness to be traditional that would complement me and be useful to me. I’m a traditionalist and in favor of absolute return to a patriarchal system. So I mostly avoid women now. They have little to offer me in terms of what assets they would be to me.12
When it comes to politics and employnment, yeah. But only towards the women who show hatred against all men. Liberals / feminists / misandrists. They can't close their mouth and open their ears. They demonize men, they don't care about men's problems, they physically and verbally attack men and get away with it. And I'm supposed to accept that? F**k you (those women).0
I don't group an entire gender into a single emotion.
I hate individuals. Hating an entire group of people because of the behavior of a few of them is basically everything that's wrong with the world today.
The exception is groups based on common ideology. For example, I hate every member of the KKK, and anyone who calls themselves a neonazi.0
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No, I don't ever feel that way. Sure, some men are jerks but most of my interactions with the opposite sex have been quite positive so I don't base my opinions of all men from the actions of a few. I'm sorry you have had that many negative experiences with women to make you feel this way.
I know that repeated personal insults can eventually eat away at a person's self-esteem and alters their view of themselves as well as others. It takes a lot of time and hard work to recover from things like that. It can be done though if we put effort into it. The women who were hateful to you were wrong but if you hold grudges and assume other women will treat you the same way, it's only going to push the good women away too.
Also, consider if there is any behavior or actions you are doing to cause other people to react to you this way. Maybe it's not even something you're aware of. And no, I'm not saying you are automatically to blame for all of those negative interactions with women. I'm just saying that we can't control the actions of others, we can only control our own words and behavior so sometimes it's worth doing some self-reflection to see if there is anything we can change that may make a difference in how others perceive, and subsequently, treat us.
Either way, I hope you will be able to change your mindset and learn to just ignore those who may mistreat you. Even though your reaction is understandable, people like that aren't worth your time or emotions.
Well, it usually goes that I approach them or give a compliment, and they jump to thinking all I want is sex or that I'm trying to lure them into a trap, which obviously makes me angry because it's not true. I've gone as far as saying that if I was planning on hurting them, they wouldn't see it coming.
Well, in cases like that, it sounds like miscommunication...or, maybe other men have only approached her for sex or have tried to lure her in a trap, so she immediately puts up her defenses because she thinks all men will be the same (which is just as wrong as men jumping to conclusions and thinking all women are the same).
It's just a never ending cycle at that point. I know it's easy to get frustrated and angry at people, but if you just take the time to put yourself in someone else's shoes and see it from their perspective, it can go a long way in helping you understand other people's behavior.
I try to, but I find attempts to reassure them at that point to be useless
I've been threatened, used, and lured a lot as well. So I can empathize with that, but I'd rather be prepared for that to happen then make assumptions on every guy that talks to them.
I understand. When people get hurt, it's natural to be wary of others to prevent it from happening again. It's a defense mechanism, but in doing that, it can inadvertently push good people away too which may lead to a very lonely life. We just have to constantly remind ourselves that not everyone is the same as those who hurt us. Anyway, I hope things get better for you. <3
Bravo! Bravo! (tossing a rose on the stage) Bravo! Bravo! MHO right here!
As usual, xHoneyxBeex restores my faith by giving an impeccably correct and insightful opinion.
To this I might add, Rangers, that if you consistently getting a response from women that they think all you want is sex and you're trying to trap them, then as I see it there are two probabilities. You are (somehow) coming across in the wrong way. Perhaps your tone of voice. Perhaps your posture. Perhaps your eye contact. Who can say for sure? But there may well be something off putting in your interactions with them. Or you are frequently misinterpreting women's reactions to you. Perhaps there's some confirmation bias going on.
@Bluemax haha Well thank you, Bluemax. :)