Age doesn't bother me eather its the person that counts , are is just a number , i know plenty of Girls that are a lot. younger then me and they have amazing. personalities so age doesn't really play a factor in my attraction towards them as long as they are legal lol
Partly stigma, partly cus a woman ages more than men therefore when a lass is 40 she'll look the same age as a 50 yr old bloke. I'd say it's normal to have a gap of around 12/13 years older than that then it's a bit urgh. Especially when it's like 20+ years, for me that'll mean I'm dating someone who's older than both my parents yuck
I think it comes down to two things: 1. Jealousy, a lot of people don't like to see other people living their lives on their own terms and being happy. 2. Moral posturing, people feel that they need to feel morally superior by passing judgment on others.
Hahahaha π so this is why GAG has promoted this question and peoples opinions "or assholes" on those 2 getting married. They should try to starve and get their priorities right.
"Men date younger women all the time and it's "normal"
Its not as "normal" as you think. My experiences on this website shows that a lot of women are against, borderline disgusted by, guys dating younger women. Most women prefer an age gap of a few years and the younger the girl gets compared to the guy, the more they view him as a pervert.
People are just judgmental and try to fit you into their little box. If you don't fit they'll just shame you until you do.
They shouldn't judge. Not sure why they do but all I know is that my girl is unique. When we go to the club it exlpodes, the whole world sees her and they ask if she's with me and she only wants to be with me. She has so many abilities and she knows what she gives. She brags to her friends that she is with me because she's unique.
@JubJub_Hi yeah different cultures are definitely different. i've been to places where people tend to simply withhold judgment in general. but certainly in many cultures we for some reason find it very necessary to judge.
i for one may personally judge in my head but i rarely ever express negative judgments when not needed
Honestly, I don't know... I don't judge that at all... but i imagine there are people who are just dicks... whatever tho, there's hypocrisy regarding everything these days. You date to match with someone at your pace, life's too short to date outside the demographic that works for you.
Hmm. I think people would judge a male female age gap of 10 years as much as a female male age gap of 10 years. It's boils down to an inequality in realtionships. Typically it shows the older wants to be controllin , and the younger to be controlled. That in itself is note wrong, so long as you are both happy what's the harm but, it signals a failure of healthy psychological balance on both parties in the relationship. And that illness is the problem.
I like older women, well and from my age now, so I don't see the problem.
I think society have many prejudges that they must review and that one goes to the list. By the way, I prefer a mature woman that a young childish girl. do you know the pleasure of talking as adults? without things like:
Am I fatter?
Yes You are being rude.
No You don't see me well
An independent woman who knows what she wants is a pleasure to date.
May be society isn't able to appreciate those things
I date older men and i know from the looks we have gotten at restaurants there's talk. I love it let people think what they want, its two adults that are enjoying life
I dont know why people can't accept women dating younger men. Age really is irrelevant. I've dated both older and younger women and at the end of the day it's what you feel that matters dont let the haters bring you down
Yea but I feel like a 20yr dating a 60yr is a slight issue. But that's just me. I think an age gap of more than 20 is a bit much cause that person would literally be old enough to be your parents but that's just me.
Just because we wouldn't do it doesn't mean others shouldn't and if someone finds happiness to me in this age we live in that should be celebrated and praised because who are we to judge.
I don't have a problem with it. I think that from a long term relationship perspective, it makes more sense for the woman to be the older one in the relationship than vice versa, because women tend to live longer.
For 9 months I dated a cougar who wad 42 years old and I was 23. We were together almost everyday and just had a blast, the connection we had was strong and the sex was amazing and took up a lot of our time, partly cause I'd heard about and had been doing the Kegel exercise. These are the words of the cougar, April Godwin, "I don't see why there should be a problem with us being together cause at 23 you're in ur prime and me at 42 I'm in my prime."
Society dictates that the male should be more mature and wiser. Hence, why when the female is older, it creates a deviation in what is expected. I honestly don't care and don't judge them because it think I'd be hot to be with a mature woman. They'd be able to teach you a lot, if you know what I mean...
I think the limit is around 3 years regardless which sex is oldest. You can determine how odd the relationship is by the age of the oldest, when the youngest was born. If the oldest is old enough to be a babysitter, then it is pretty odd.
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Age doesn't bother me eather its the person that counts , are is just a number , i know plenty of Girls that are a lot. younger then me and they have amazing. personalities so age doesn't really play a factor in my attraction towards them as long as they are legal lol
Partly stigma, partly cus a woman ages more than men therefore when a lass is 40 she'll look the same age as a 50 yr old bloke. I'd say it's normal to have a gap of around 12/13 years older than that then it's a bit urgh. Especially when it's like 20+ years, for me that'll mean I'm dating someone who's older than both my parents yuck
My 40 year old female cousins look about 22-25, so that's not always true. They are Asian though.
I think it comes down to two things:
1. Jealousy, a lot of people don't like to see other people living their lives on their own terms and being happy.
2. Moral posturing, people feel that they need to feel morally superior by passing judgment on others.
There are still a lot of people in this world, who have the same old mentality of men dating younger women.
I wonder how are they coping up with the fact that Priyanka Chopra (36) and Nick Jonas (26) have married :p
I heard about that, yeah.
Hahahaha π so this is why GAG has promoted this question and peoples opinions "or assholes" on those 2 getting married.
They should try to starve and get their priorities right.
@Unit1 legit!
"Men date younger women all the time and it's "normal"
Its not as "normal" as you think. My experiences on this website shows that a lot of women are against, borderline disgusted by, guys dating younger women. Most women prefer an age gap of a few years and the younger the girl gets compared to the guy, the more they view him as a pervert.
People are just judgmental and try to fit you into their little box. If you don't fit they'll just shame you until you do.
They shouldn't judge. Not sure why they do but all I know is that my girl is unique. When we go to the club it exlpodes, the whole world sees her and they ask if she's with me and she only wants to be with me. She has so many abilities and she knows what she gives. She brags to her friends that she is with me because she's unique.
because people judge people.
I hate humans because of that.
It is true! In my culture people are more quiet and not public about the ideas they have others. Other cultures judge in different way.
@JubJub_Hi yeah different cultures are definitely different. i've been to places where people tend to simply withhold judgment in general. but certainly in many cultures we for some reason find it very necessary to judge.
i for one may personally judge in my head but i rarely ever express negative judgments when not needed
I don't personally think that it's wrong for women to date younger men. when older men date young girls. 😎
I once asked a question on here about me wanting to dare a man 7 years older than me.
I was bum rushed by both men and women telling me that men mature much slower than women.
I guess thatβs the issue people see with it.
Date*... freaking autocorrect...
1. Women mature earlier than men. So if a woman got a man as soon as she could, which is ideal, he would always be older.
2. Women become infertile in later years. A man dating an older woman has less time to have children.
3. Men are supposed to be protectors, and it's easier to protect a younger woman.
And of course, "men age with gravitas, while women just wither away."
Don't worry about the haters and miserable people @BeautifulGoddessx 😊
Age is just a number so it shouldn't matter whether an older woman hookups with a younger man who she has good chemistry with 😉
I've had a number of FWBs and serious relationship partners in the past where they were all older women.
Sexually an older woman and younger man are abetter all rounde combination too 😉
Honestly, I don't know...
I don't judge that at all... but i imagine there are people who are just dicks... whatever tho, there's hypocrisy regarding everything these days.
You date to match with someone at your pace, life's too short to date outside the demographic that works for you.
Hmm. I think people would judge a male female age gap of 10 years as much as a female male age gap of 10 years. It's boils down to an inequality in realtionships. Typically it shows the older wants to be controllin , and the younger to be controlled. That in itself is note wrong, so long as you are both happy what's the harm but, it signals a failure of healthy psychological balance on both parties in the relationship. And that illness is the problem.
I like older women, well and from my age now, so I don't see the problem.
I think society have many prejudges that they must review and that one goes to the list.
By the way, I prefer a mature woman that a young childish girl. do you know the pleasure of talking as adults?
without things like:
Am I fatter?
Yes
You are being rude.
No
You don't see me well
An independent woman who knows what she wants is a pleasure to date.
May be society isn't able to appreciate those things
I date older men and i know from the looks we have gotten at restaurants there's talk. I love it let people think what they want, its two adults that are enjoying life
I dont know why people can't accept women dating younger men. Age really is irrelevant. I've dated both older and younger women and at the end of the day it's what you feel that matters dont let the haters bring you down
Age is very very much relevant depending on how old the pair are
That's only in concern to minors and no minors. And that comes in terms of legality. So let's over here take non minors only.
Yeah I was talking generally within the confines of the law
Yea but I feel like a 20yr dating a 60yr is a slight issue. But that's just me. I think an age gap of more than 20 is a bit much cause that person would literally be old enough to be your parents but that's just me.
Pardon me, @uktocan. I should have mentioned, I was replying to @shaunx1's comment.
@shaunx1 Well, sure yes. But who are we to judge? If they're happy, then they're happy with it. Let's not rain on their parade now shall we?
@Stellastarling Yes yes. I'm not gonna force my opinion down their throat. It's just my thinking on it. You do you, I do me. π€·ββοΈ
Just because we wouldn't do it doesn't mean others shouldn't and if someone finds happiness to me in this age we live in that should be celebrated and praised because who are we to judge.
@uktocan I agree with that
I don't have a problem with it. I think that from a long term relationship perspective, it makes more sense for the woman to be the older one in the relationship than vice versa, because women tend to live longer.
For 9 months I dated a cougar who wad 42 years old and I was 23. We were together almost everyday and just had a blast, the connection we had was strong and the sex was amazing and took up a lot of our time, partly cause I'd heard about and had been doing the Kegel exercise. These are the words of the cougar, April Godwin, "I don't see why there should be a problem with us being together cause at 23 you're in ur prime and me at 42 I'm in my prime."
Society dictates that the male should be more mature and wiser. Hence, why when the female is older, it creates a deviation in what is expected. I honestly don't care and don't judge them because it think I'd be hot to be with a mature woman. They'd be able to teach you a lot, if you know what I mean...
I think the limit is around 3 years regardless which sex is oldest. You can determine how odd the relationship is by the age of the oldest, when the youngest was born. If the oldest is old enough to be a babysitter, then it is pretty odd.
A 9 y. old is old enough to be a babysitter?
I think a 5 year gap is ok too
9 y olds can babysit their own little brother/sister for an evening.
5 is okay too. It is not hard, but a guideline
I'm finding out that people just like to complain and judge seems like everything these days.
Its a crybaby circus of butthurt babies whiny like nagging babies that won't grow up
@danielmeegan yaaaaassss
Hand out the diapers & tellem change your own Lol