I'm 17 I'm a little confused my teacher has been a little flirty in my opinion. So he's 25 I'm his assistant. So he's always bragging to everybody about me. Always complimenting. He'll always stand really close to me and lean in even if he's not having trouble hearing, (like were always touching when we talk either arm to arm, leg to leg, something) he's always really smiley when we talk, winks at me (he doesn't wink at anyone else I've more than paid attention) when I'm talking he like gazes into my eyes, but when he talks he usually just gets his point across, he'll listen to personal things in my life and ask questions then joke around with the stuff later, he's always talking about me because every time I see him and someone else is there he's always like oh well speaking of her there she is. He seems to act really different around me and has a closer relationship with me. But it seems to be only when were alone. One time I was just fixing myself and he walked into the room and was like trying to look good for that weird guy (a boy who interviews me sometimes) and I was like no ha ha and he almost sounded annoyed that I was doing it when he said it. This may not matter but I had a dream the other night that he liked me and was being very flirty in front of everybody and didn't seem to care (my dreams seem to always mean something). So the next day I had to go give him something and he looked very excited to see me was smiling the entire time and winked at me for no reason and told me he'll see me later (and the semester ended this week and he knows it so unless he came to talk to me he wouldn't see me) he never checks my work either and if I try to offer it he's just like don't worry about it and smiles or says just show me later so I don't know but between the winking, personal conversations, talking about me a lot, smiling all the time different treatment, I just don't know what to think. I mean I know he doesn't like me but whether he has a sexual attraction to me I don't know. If it helps I'm not trying to sound cocky but I'm very pretty, and he's married. I just want to know if it's harmless flirting, or I'm reading too into it. But he definitely acts different around me. Thanks so much for any helpful advice!:)
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My name is Jessie, im a senior at a inner city public school, my pursuits are health related sciences, and track. Im currently doing a exam on my English course for University credits. I have the same problem as you do, teachers would come to where I am sitting and flirt with me. One time a math teacher came up to me and was trying to teach me how to do the homework I had been doing, I never asked for her help but she insisted anyways. She was talking very fast, and was rather abnormally anxious. She would point to my work, and then write some stuff on my workbook, then unintentionally touch me in the hand or something. it was a weird experience, but it happens to me a lot. I dont consider myself to be an exceptionally good looker, I never felt that way, but every time I walk down the hall all the pretty girls just look at me. When I sit down at class, girls just try to get my attention, I try to ignor them and do my work, but sometimes I look and it irritates them becuase they think im playing them. Im not delusional, a lot of girls look at me, even when on the bus, pretty girls make eye contact with me. There are some good in it, being people treat me better. But also it brings some bad. When I was working at a resturant I had a employer who would ocasionally slap me in the behind, and this would go on for days. I told my superviser about this and she stoped. Dont get me wrong, but when your teacher flirts with you it could escalate into sexual misconduct. There is a power difference between a teacher and a student, as for my employer and myself. This can lead to exploitation for you, as it did for me. It is wrong morally for a person of authority to do such unprofessional actions. It does not represent what the school system stands for, and it is horrible for anyones reputation to exploit a minor. I feel bad for you so this is why I write to you.
1. Tell him you do not like it, and tell him to stop. Your teacher will not know until you tell him. be frank, and direct, show some seriousness as the situation is not torlerated. Do this now or as quickly as possible. Most admiriors think their crush likes them back, or likes the attention they give. So continue to pursue even when it obveously disturbs the victim. If he does not stop go up his level and tell your principal about it. I have done this to a female teacher and now she leaves me alone.
2. Ignor him, cut all ties with him. Burn all bridges to him. Never talk to him again.
Drop from his class. The quicker you do this the better. I had a class with a flirty student she was sucking my emotional energy by constantly talking to me, and trying to get my attention. My grades dropped from 90s to 60s the next term. I regret not changing classes when I had the oppurtunity to.
3. Dont show you are interested in him, keep your eyes from making eye contact. When talking to him, so not smlie or laugh, but remain calm, and serious. I always do this whenever a flirty teacher comes approaches me. A teacher was laughing out of nowhere when I asked her to use the bathroom. I retained my compsure and politely asked again, she contiunued to laugh, but it showed I was in control.
Im ganna get this straight, teachers dont give a shit about you, all they care is about is summer holiday. They get by their boring work by flirting with their students, and gossiping amongst staffers. Through all my flirting teachers non of them gave me a achedemic advantage or helped me in anyw
They dont even care about me other than think of me as a sexual object. They dont even respect me, or have interest in my research. They flirt with other hot guys, and teachers, and do the same with me. They act nice to me, but It was just a form of manipulation to get me to like them back, or be more nice to them.