I think most people are filled with all kinds of insecurities about their own shortcomings, and many people soothe that by throwing stones at others. Deep down, we all know none of us are doing life perfect, and it’s easier for our psyches to turn their backs to internal issues and instead be like “hey! Look at what THAT person is doing!” It’s a lot easier to throw a stone than to get hit by one.
Your point is well taken about single moms, there are so many variables that can be at play, and even if you did make a poor decision, so the fuck what? Show me a person that’s never made a poor decision and I’ll show you a leprechaun riding a unicorn.
But rather than delve into all that, I take pretty much all instances of critical people as folks who are either running from or blind to their own shortcomings and missteps, in general, period.
If you see somebody in need - you should either feel sorry for them and try to help them - or respect them and move on - and if you really can't accept them - ignore them and ghost them. But being proactively mean when it's not necessary is not smart.
As a kid raised by a single mom I don't think she did a particularly good job Even compared to other single moms. I dont resent her for it though it is what it is
Many kids resent that their mom couldn't make things work with their dad, they don't understand the intricacies of things. But they understand how they felt. If I ever became a dad, i would never abandon my woman, and try my hardest to be their for them. How can someone abandon their kids, or the mother of their children...
Wish no kid has to go through life without a dad... shame on the father's who abandon women...
“Fathers typically offer economic stability, a role model for boys, greater household security, and reduced stress for mothers. This is especially true for families with adolescent boys, the most crime-prone cohort. Children from single-parent families are more prone than children from two-parent families to use drugs, be gang members, be expelled from school, be committed to reform institutions, and become juvenile murderers..”. Sources: www.ncjrs.gov/.../abstract.aspx?ID=167327
The government did a study that a majority of people who are in corrections, jail or prison have one thing in common. They were raised by single mothers. This is one of the reasons why people look down on single mothers.
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Because *some* single mothers complain too much or are a burden, in a sense. For example, a single mom may leave work early and give (force) her work for some younger person to do, causing that younger person to adjust his or her plans (and other inconveniences). Sometimes, corporations will not even recognize or pay that younger person for that work. It's unfair for the younger person to be FORCED into helping that mother.
In addition, single moms complain a lot more as well.
The biggest part of the situation is having to put up with the drama of the baby daddy being a jealous asshole that will do anything to make the mom miserable even at the demise of the kid and an awesome future with a guy that actually cared. And the fact that for some reason the single guy that doesn't have any kids that chooses to date the single mom "knows nothing about raising a kid" so they don't have a say in how the kids is raised or how to be disciplined for they way they act. Taking this feature away from the guy you are dating that isn't the father that actually chose to stick around and be there for you and the kid, will also derail his interest in you for the same reason that the other guys out there won't even look your way. Just because it's your problem doesn't mean you have the only solution so you are better off taking the advice from someone on the outside, than not taking the helping hand while sitting in the mud trying to figure out how to get assistance yourself.
It's just people in general. Both sex's are losing their way. Our DNA has been tinkered with a little and is helpinh throw things off as well. It may sound kind of stupid, but the decreasing of our testosterone and the accelerating of women's estrogen levels I believe is in the top three of our biggest problems
I didn't know women get so much judgement being a Single Mom for fuck', s sake people divorce. And divorce is usually the best thing for the child overall. LOVE should be environment they're around. , mom and dad fighting all the time causes emotional damage, and takes away the parents Focus on raising a child cuz they're busy fighting all the time. A divorce can allow the parents-to-be parents and do their part individually to make beautiful child into an amazing adult
Those shaming single parents need to shift their blame towards deadbeat parents who abandon their kids. I was raised by a single mom and found it funny growing up that she got shamed for raising me alone but nobody shamed my father for abandoning us and not paying child support.
My mom always said the biggest mistake she ever made was marrying my father
That's the main thing about single motherhood I cannot ignore. All in all, the woman had poor taste and chose a bad father for the kids. She failed in one of the most important aspects of human existence.
@Prof_Don simple minded man right here. I didn't choose a terrible dad for my son. He passed away fighting for his Country. The fact you have expressed this opinion. Says a lot about you.
"Sometimes these dudes weren't asses and became asses" I wonder why the change? Even if all of a sudden? ! Did he just want a baby out of her? ! Did he just want to be married for the sake of being married? ! This is exhausting!
@SueAnon84 yeah... come to think of it, having a baby takes quite a bit of time to plan and execute. If you can't figure out that your guy's abusive by the end of the abortion window at least, you might have a judgment problem. That goes double for women who refuse to get an abortion for unexpected pregnancies when she barely knows the guy at all.
Because they are held up as virtuous and strong when they were gullible enough to take their pants off and get knocked up by a bum. And since when is being a tramp slut a virtue?
Thinking you knew how to pick a good man, not maintaining communication so there were no "irreconcilable differences" All of that your failures. "Being drugged at a party" Do you really want to stand on that being anyones fault but your own? Leave it lay dont race to embarrass yourself. Good night.
Good answer that from your original stupid logic and draw parallels you immature retard. I am reflecting your analogy. Eye for an eye. Single parent : slut And actually a ghetto girl who bends over like a slut she's accusing a mother of : to being immature.
Good luck to you. I'm a dentist and not a dumb ghetto girl who settles with crumbs that life throws in her face
I laugh how someone with such low self-esteem to give themselves a name like GhettoGirl, can then tirn around and be so smug and think she is better than everyone!!! Sweetie, it's ok we know what you're really doing behind closed doors and dumpsters...
It's not mature to make irrelevant analogy. I beg her to answer one question about finding the right man and being immune from deception by her mature thoughts on 'not being gullible'?
What do we all need to look for and how are we permanently immune from choosing incorrectly? Ok I stepped my line I apologize for my personal attack it was awful of me.
It makes me livid to read or come across a holier than thou art attitude.
To be a Mother is what God gifted and what a couple decided incidentally.
She's probably seen only such examples doI can't blame her. However relationships are a thriving industry as is the foundation of this app. Why? If it were the garden of Eden no divorce no single parents no war no tragedy no war occur. No suffering right?
No market no demand. No clothes because the concept of shame is non existent.
I won't continue with your maturity level, I doubt any conversation we find ourselves in will turn out better so go on somewhere else with the childish blabber and unwarranted fashion attack. Good night.
I actually agreed with a lot of what you said Ghetto Girl and the people that attacked you were VERY immature. It's hard to believe they're actually parents! What kind of example are they putting out for their child? ! I think the points you made in your answer made a lot of sense! Some people just don't know how to pick good men and or they are too horny for their own good and then they blame outsiders for their stupid choices!
@SueAnon84 yeah... come to think of it, having a baby takes quite a bit of time to plan and execute. If you can't figure out that your guy's abusive by the end of the abortion window at least, you might have a judgment problem. That goes double for women who refuse to get an abortion for unexpected pregnancies when she barely knows the guy at all.
It has nothing to do with being horny. Do all tinder or hook ups end up with bells, a wedding and a baby?
So please stop Ill founded association i. Lust with conception.
They are. on far ends of the spectrum. As to @SueAnon84: have you read psychology at all? Have you come across books or audio books to prevent or avert misfortune? If not start there sweetheart you’ll be in for some mind altering psychological issues with both genders.
Firstly men and women are not stock to be selected, chosen or bought. Attraction is based on many factors. Attraction need not be heterosexual for you to comply to one’s ideas over the other. Attraction can be relatability and concepts of personality you envision for yourself observed in others.
That is why you are quick to chastise what is unfamiliar yet so obvious. Your own family and your experience may have influenced you regarding parenting ideals and values.
One thing I’m certain of is the incorrect assumptions of lust with parenting or outcome as a single mom. Are all single moms promiscuous? I don’t think you know the United States family law and how critical it is. You single women are more promiscuous than us and viola no responsibilities either ! How audacious are you to suggest that we don’t choose the father well when you may never arrive at the footsteps of parenting, because either you have high opinion of yourself and are liable to be used like toilet paper on tinder.
Like Beyoncé says “ if you like it you gotta put a ring on it.” You might not be of such value to begin with.
@smg99 I'm not single I'm engaged. I don't go on Tinder. I had for like a week back in 2015 but I realized it was a useless (not to mention dangerous and stupid) app. I HAVE read many psyche books and I have two associate degrees (not in psychology but in Real Estate and Communications).
"You single women are more promiscuous than us and viola no responsibilities either !" Just because I don't have children... yet, does NOT mean I am irresponsible. I have a job and I pay my ways to live. ... So in conclusion, I don't know if you were referring to me but what you have described that you thought were bad qualities, does not apply to me whatsoever. Thanks.
People who do not like single moms are just to ignorant to understand them ! The father of the children may have passed away or the father was a drunk or abused them ! Single moms should join a site for single parents to have male friends ! Thanks
The hate is to single mothers that had a kid outside a relationship/marriage. It shows lack of self control, awareness, and maturity. Kids born in this type of environment statistically do worse than kids born in stable relationships. Look at how people in jail were raised. ~75% come from single motherhood houses. Coincidence? I doubt it.
Obviously it's possible for a single mother to do a great job, it happens, but usually single mothers aren't the best individuals to raise kids anyways, hence why the are single mothers.
Well, tbh, because they need that societal support in order to raise kids. Also, there's the issue of some of them being abusive, using men for sex, getting the kid, and using the Male as nothing more than an income, and using the kid to get welfare/assistance from the state...
What does it take to get such assistance? Simple. Tell them the male was abusive. Poof. Easy $...
See the problem? Or are you going to have to find out the hard way by your future ex-girlfriend?
"the Male as nothing more than an income" More like free sperm for said child! ... What? ! Just stating the obvious! ... But really, I don't HATE on single moms. It's their life and their business and what's it to me? ! I get Welfare but it's little and the requirements are a lot to get it. If I had any dependents, I'd probably get Welfare on that as well but I don't. Children are innocent so you shouldn't bag on them for exsisting. It's BOTH parent's responsibility to raise the child but if one isn't available or the parents need some extra help for some weird reason, then unfortunately they qualify! NOW THE PEOPLE WHO DAMN ABUSE/CHEAT the system is what I hate! Single moms? ! I feel sorry for them.
Right. I wasn't trying to trash on moms doin what moms do. Moms do what moms gotta do, and society does what society's gotta do. It's the hucksters and fraudsters that are using the system for "an easy life" that aren't helping anyone but themselves, and doing harm to everyone else in the meantime, whether they're aware of it or not.
Also, when the system *automatically* cuts the father out of the family, or simply takes an account of abuse at face value, they do a disservice to society, and civic oversight needs to better handle situations of abuse by sensitively analyzing the dynamics in an unbiased manner. So far, the civic system hasn't progressed much beyond the Salem Witch Trials in that regard; whether they're demonizing the Male, or the female, makes no difference.
If society butts into people's lives, then it should probably do so as a physician more than a wrecking ball. We pay these people to help repair society when it gets torn; not playing bowling with "people pins"...
Single mothers who became widowed are respected. Single mothers who slept with bad boys and ignored the nice guys during her prime years, and then got pregnant by one, only for the bad boy to leave, forcing said single mother to go looking for s nice guy to support her child, are not respected.
Then that's their fault. They should've properly screened their boyfriends before marrying them. They should've delved into their past to see if they were mentally stable. This suggests that they didn't spend enough time getting to know them and were hasty with their marriage.
The responsible fellas with no kids, and an eye open at all times cause the one I'll fall for and know is from God. The little scared boy bitches have a pattetn of blasting some shit out of your little premature ejaculating pecker and just being a loser. It's a blessing to see such ones are the problems and which are not.
We need to separate ourselves from the things in the world that are superficial, artificial, narcisistic sociopathic... turd burglars. Now us Alpha make types that know the importance of the , connection needed 4 a real relationship and marriage. Thus leading to good parenting skills thus leading to a new generation of young adults who from mine do are getting out of control and deteriorating so I'm ready to help in any way I can anytime if you need me lol just kidding
Women are the ones with pretty much all of the reproductive rights, but with that comes responsibility too. Bringing a child into this world is a huge responsibility and shouldn't be taken lightly.
When a woman makes poor life choices that result in a child who doesn't have a father, or worse, makes the conscious choice to conceive and raise a child without a father, they are and should be judged for that. Children raised without a father are at far greater risk for a long list of problems. The high rate of single mothers has had a huge negative impact in society.
And by the way, deadbeat fathers are judged for the same reasons, as they should be.
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I have no issues with them.
Only, when they think that world owns them everything, because she is single mum.
There is some of them who are not mentally stable stable and get men to insanity stage ( I'm not searching for any excuses in man behaviour here!!!)
In UK a lot of them just have kids and no husband so they can get welfare money, house and... Yes, now it is hard to get, but it stoped not long time ago.
From my position, if I would decide to get in to relationship with single mother, I would have to pay for her child from previous relationship and no right to have any influence on that child and father would be visiting... Another interesting thing most of those kids are kept secret untill you move together... WHY?
You are so right in your thinking. Of course you wanna try to keep a relationship between kids and their Dad. But on occassion, Dads turn and run and never to be seen again. Or they are around, but they're on drugs, abusive, or worse. But if all this fails, then super Mom gotta save the day. Be the 1 of the 2 people needed to nurture your child's development.
I know I may be saying this the wrong way and that I'll catch a lot of flak for this opinion but, personally, I have no problem with there being single mothers. I just wouldn't date one because personally, I don't want to be left to raise another man's child. I wouldn't want another man to raise my child either. I have nothing against single mothers, nor is there anything personal against them.
I did never hate single mothers. I don't know why some guys have such aversion to them. I understand that a man who doesn't have own kids won't accept to be a daddy for her kids, but as sex material are single mothers definitely better than 18 girls who want to cheat on their boyfriend.
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I think most people are filled with all kinds of insecurities about their own shortcomings, and many people soothe that by throwing stones at others. Deep down, we all know none of us are doing life perfect, and it’s easier for our psyches to turn their backs to internal issues and instead be like “hey! Look at what THAT person is doing!” It’s a lot easier to throw a stone than to get hit by one.
Your point is well taken about single moms, there are so many variables that can be at play, and even if you did make a poor decision, so the fuck what? Show me a person that’s never made a poor decision and I’ll show you a leprechaun riding a unicorn.
But rather than delve into all that, I take pretty much all instances of critical people as folks who are either running from or blind to their own shortcomings and missteps, in general, period.
excellent
If you see somebody in need - you should either feel sorry for them and try to help them - or respect them and move on - and if you really can't accept them - ignore them and ghost them. But being proactively mean when it's not necessary is not smart.
As a kid raised by a single mom
I don't think she did a particularly good job
Even compared to other single moms. I dont resent her for it though it is what it is
Many kids resent that their mom couldn't make things work with their dad, they don't understand the intricacies of things. But they understand how they felt. If I ever became a dad, i would never abandon my woman, and try my hardest to be their for them. How can someone abandon their kids, or the mother of their children...
Wish no kid has to go through life without a dad... shame on the father's who abandon women...
Single mothers are a failure to society.
“Fathers typically offer economic stability, a role model for boys, greater household security, and reduced stress for mothers. This is especially true for families with adolescent boys, the most crime-prone cohort. Children from single-parent families are more prone than children from two-parent families to use drugs, be gang members, be expelled from school, be committed to reform institutions, and become juvenile murderers..”. Sources: www.ncjrs.gov/.../abstract.aspx?ID=167327
The government did a study that a majority of people who are in corrections, jail or prison have one thing in common. They were raised by single mothers. This is one of the reasons why people look down on single mothers.
Because *some* single mothers complain too much or are a burden, in a sense. For example, a single mom may leave work early and give (force) her work for some younger person to do, causing that younger person to adjust his or her plans (and other inconveniences). Sometimes, corporations will not even recognize or pay that younger person for that work. It's unfair for the younger person to be FORCED into helping that mother.
In addition, single moms complain a lot more as well.
But I mean I respect them.
As I said above.. ^
The biggest part of the situation is having to put up with the drama of the baby daddy being a jealous asshole that will do anything to make the mom miserable even at the demise of the kid and an awesome future with a guy that actually cared. And the fact that for some reason the single guy that doesn't have any kids that chooses to date the single mom "knows nothing about raising a kid" so they don't have a say in how the kids is raised or how to be disciplined for they way they act. Taking this feature away from the guy you are dating that isn't the father that actually chose to stick around and be there for you and the kid, will also derail his interest in you for the same reason that the other guys out there won't even look your way. Just because it's your problem doesn't mean you have the only solution so you are better off taking the advice from someone on the outside, than not taking the helping hand while sitting in the mud trying to figure out how to get assistance yourself.
I think many people assume they have unprotected sex with different men and get on public assistance and get the man for their money...
I don’t think that’s the case for all women.. but simpleminded folks might say that
It's just people in general. Both sex's are losing their way. Our DNA has been tinkered with a little and is helpinh throw things off as well. It may sound kind of stupid, but the decreasing of our testosterone and the accelerating of women's estrogen levels I believe is in the top three of our biggest problems
I didn't know women get so much judgement being a Single Mom for fuck', s sake people divorce. And divorce is usually the best thing for the child overall. LOVE should be environment they're around. , mom and dad fighting all the time causes emotional damage, and takes away the parents Focus on raising a child cuz they're busy fighting all the time. A divorce can allow the parents-to-be parents and do their part individually to make beautiful child into an amazing adult
Those shaming single parents need to shift their blame towards deadbeat parents who abandon their kids. I was raised by a single mom and found it funny growing up that she got shamed for raising me alone but nobody shamed my father for abandoning us and not paying child support.
My mom always said the biggest mistake she ever made was marrying my father
Some women are single moms simply because of their choices in life. They decided to have children with sorry ass dudes.
and yet they continue to do it with no regard. TOXIC
Sometimes these dudes weren't asses and became asses
That's the main thing about single motherhood I cannot ignore. All in all, the woman had poor taste and chose a bad father for the kids. She failed in one of the most important aspects of human existence.
@Prof_Don simple minded man right here. I didn't choose a terrible dad for my son. He passed away fighting for his Country. The fact you have expressed this opinion. Says a lot about you.
@Xvgbsxv of course becoming widowed is an exception. #Triggered
@Xvgbsxv I don’t think he named you.
Asker why do you think they became an ass
"Sometimes these dudes weren't asses and became asses" I wonder why the change? Even if all of a sudden? ! Did he just want a baby out of her? ! Did he just want to be married for the sake of being married? ! This is exhausting!
@SueAnon84 yeah... come to think of it, having a baby takes quite a bit of time to plan and execute. If you can't figure out that your guy's abusive by the end of the abortion window at least, you might have a judgment problem. That goes double for women who refuse to get an abortion for unexpected pregnancies when she barely knows the guy at all.
@DonCachondo she shouldn’t be having sex with a guy she barely knows...
Because they are held up as virtuous and strong when they were gullible enough to take their pants off and get knocked up by a bum. And since when is being a tramp slut a virtue?
When it happens to you and your husband thinks he can do better than you maybe he can :) then you'll know
Someone could drug you at a party rape you and you wouldn't know that could happen to you
Thinking you knew how to pick a good man, not maintaining communication so there were no "irreconcilable differences"
All of that your failures.
"Being drugged at a party"
Do you really want to stand on that being anyones fault but your own? Leave it lay dont race to embarrass yourself. Good night.
You aren't even worthy of a man look
At you
Sure you embarrassed yourself actually. I said those examples because judging from your attire you look drained out , of poor taste that's why
Your bending for a droopy boob sagging already 😂
When you can't win the issue you attack the way I'm dressed? That's so 5th grade, go to bed child it's the adults time now.
Looked at your pick too. You look like you used to be a man named Felix. Hmmm.
Good answer that from your original stupid logic and draw parallels you immature retard. I am reflecting your analogy.
Eye for an eye.
Single parent : slut
And actually a ghetto girl who bends over like a slut she's accusing a mother of : to being immature.
Good luck to you. I'm a dentist and not a dumb ghetto girl who settles with crumbs that life throws in her face
I laugh how someone with such low self-esteem to give themselves a name like GhettoGirl, can then tirn around and be so smug and think she is better than everyone!!! Sweetie, it's ok we know what you're really doing behind closed doors and dumpsters...
with exception to Moonchild (still a pile of salt), you guys need to go back to grammar school before talking about maturity.
It's not mature to make irrelevant analogy. I beg her to answer one question about finding the right man and being immune from deception by her mature thoughts on 'not being gullible'?
What do we all need to look for and how are we permanently immune from choosing incorrectly?
Ok I stepped my line I apologize for my personal attack it was awful of me.
It makes me livid to read or come across a holier than thou art attitude.
To be a Mother is what God gifted and what a couple decided incidentally.
She's probably seen only such examples doI can't blame her. However relationships are a thriving industry as is the foundation of this app. Why?
If it were the garden of Eden no divorce no single parents no war no tragedy no war occur.
No suffering right?
No market no demand. No clothes because the concept of shame is non existent.
I won't continue with your maturity level, I doubt any conversation we find ourselves in will turn out better so go on somewhere else with the childish blabber and unwarranted fashion attack.
Good night.
Can’t we all just get along and be happy.
THESE SINGLE MOMS SHOW THAT THEY LACK WILL POWER AND WISDOM.
"Happy" ? "Happy" ? Who the hell is happy ?,?
I don't want to take part of this. Can't you all debate as grown adults?
If you "dont want no part of this" why the hell you sticky your chicken ass beak into it then? Jesus puuleazze.
Stop being mean to her..
Hey if your gonna continue this could you PM each other, so we don’t have to see this?
How about you just go ahead and put the block on with your whiney self.
shouldn't have stuck your nose into it and you wouldn't be seeing it your feed.
I actually agreed with a lot of what you said Ghetto Girl and the people that attacked you were VERY immature. It's hard to believe they're actually parents! What kind of example are they putting out for their child? ! I think the points you made in your answer made a lot of sense! Some people just don't know how to pick good men and or they are too horny for their own good and then they blame outsiders for their stupid choices!
@SueAnon84 yeah... come to think of it, having a baby takes quite a bit of time to plan and execute. If you can't figure out that your guy's abusive by the end of the abortion window at least, you might have a judgment problem. That goes double for women who refuse to get an abortion for unexpected pregnancies when she barely knows the guy at all.
srry posted that in the wrong thread xD
It has nothing to do with being horny. Do all tinder or hook ups end up with bells, a wedding and a baby?
So please stop Ill founded association i. Lust with conception.
They are. on far ends of the spectrum.
As to @SueAnon84: have you read psychology at all?
Have you come across books or audio books to prevent or avert misfortune?
If not start there sweetheart you’ll be in for some mind altering psychological issues with both genders.
Firstly men and women are not stock to be selected, chosen or bought.
Attraction is based on many factors. Attraction need not be heterosexual for you to comply to one’s ideas over the other.
Attraction can be relatability and concepts of personality you envision for yourself observed in others.
That is why you are quick to chastise what is unfamiliar yet so obvious. Your own family and your experience may have influenced you regarding parenting ideals and values.
One thing I’m certain of is the incorrect assumptions of lust with parenting or outcome as a single mom.
Are all single moms promiscuous?
I don’t think you know the United States family law and how critical it is.
You single women are more promiscuous than us and viola no responsibilities either !
How audacious are you to suggest that we don’t choose the father well when you may never arrive at the footsteps of parenting, because either you have high opinion of yourself and are liable to be used like toilet paper on tinder.
Like Beyoncé says “ if you like it you gotta put a ring on it.”
You might not be of such value to begin with.
@smg99 I'm not single I'm engaged. I don't go on Tinder. I had for like a week back in 2015 but I realized it was a useless (not to mention dangerous and stupid) app. I HAVE read many psyche books and I have two associate degrees (not in psychology but in Real Estate and Communications).
"You single women are more promiscuous than us and viola no responsibilities either !" Just because I don't have children... yet, does NOT mean I am irresponsible. I have a job and I pay my ways to live. ... So in conclusion, I don't know if you were referring to me but what you have described that you thought were bad qualities, does not apply to me whatsoever. Thanks.
People who do not like single moms are just to ignorant to understand them ! The father of the children may have passed away or the father was a drunk or abused them ! Single moms should join a site for single parents to have male friends ! Thanks
Single moms are twice as likely to be ‘nuts’... mood disorders, mental diseases. This is a scientific fact. www.psychiatryadvisor.com/.../
Well I don't think so, I've seen many and I loved them
I know it's another group of girls i can't have in my date option ever in my life.. Lol... c cause u ma'am are correct.
I'll know when a woman is by 38 you get a little wisdom toward things
The hate is to single mothers that had a kid outside a relationship/marriage. It shows lack of self control, awareness, and maturity.
Kids born in this type of environment statistically do worse than kids born in stable relationships. Look at how people in jail were raised. ~75% come from single motherhood houses. Coincidence? I doubt it.
Obviously it's possible for a single mother to do a great job, it happens, but usually single mothers aren't the best individuals to raise kids anyways, hence why the are single mothers.
Same thing applies to single dads.
Well, tbh, because they need that societal support in order to raise kids.
Also, there's the issue of some of them being abusive, using men for sex, getting the kid, and using the Male as nothing more than an income, and using the kid to get welfare/assistance from the state...
What does it take to get such assistance?
Simple. Tell them the male was abusive.
Poof. Easy $...
See the problem? Or are you going to have to find out the hard way by your future ex-girlfriend?
"the Male as nothing more than an income" More like free sperm for said child! ... What? ! Just stating the obvious! ... But really, I don't HATE on single moms. It's their life and their business and what's it to me? ! I get Welfare but it's little and the requirements are a lot to get it. If I had any dependents, I'd probably get Welfare on that as well but I don't. Children are innocent so you shouldn't bag on them for exsisting. It's BOTH parent's responsibility to raise the child but if one isn't available or the parents need some extra help for some weird reason, then unfortunately they qualify! NOW THE PEOPLE WHO DAMN ABUSE/CHEAT the system is what I hate! Single moms? ! I feel sorry for them.
Right. I wasn't trying to trash on moms doin what moms do. Moms do what moms gotta do, and society does what society's gotta do. It's the hucksters and fraudsters that are using the system for "an easy life" that aren't helping anyone but themselves, and doing harm to everyone else in the meantime, whether they're aware of it or not.
Also, when the system *automatically* cuts the father out of the family, or simply takes an account of abuse at face value, they do a disservice to society, and civic oversight needs to better handle situations of abuse by sensitively analyzing the dynamics in an unbiased manner. So far, the civic system hasn't progressed much beyond the Salem Witch Trials in that regard; whether they're demonizing the Male, or the female, makes no difference.
If society butts into people's lives, then it should probably do so as a physician more than a wrecking ball. We pay these people to help repair society when it gets torn; not playing bowling with "people pins"...
Single mothers who became widowed are respected. Single mothers who slept with bad boys and ignored the nice guys during her prime years, and then got pregnant by one, only for the bad boy to leave, forcing said single mother to go looking for s nice guy to support her child, are not respected.
That's another story there is those who divorced because their husband was abusive etc..
Then that's their fault. They should've properly screened their boyfriends before marrying them. They should've delved into their past to see if they were mentally stable. This suggests that they didn't spend enough time getting to know them and were hasty with their marriage.
Exactly Physics-Man! Too quick to bed but not too quick to get to know!
Hells yeah thank u for opening the door to this truth
The responsible fellas with no kids, and an eye open at all times cause the one I'll fall for and know is from God. The little scared boy bitches have a pattetn of blasting some shit out of your little premature ejaculating pecker and just being a loser. It's a blessing to see such ones are the problems and which are not.
We need to separate ourselves from the things in the world that are superficial, artificial, narcisistic sociopathic... turd burglars. Now us Alpha make types that know the importance of the , connection needed 4 a real relationship and marriage. Thus leading to good parenting skills thus leading to a new generation of young adults who from mine do are getting out of control and deteriorating so I'm ready to help in any way I can anytime if you need me lol just kidding
Women are the ones with pretty much all of the reproductive rights, but with that comes responsibility too. Bringing a child into this world is a huge responsibility and shouldn't be taken lightly.
When a woman makes poor life choices that result in a child who doesn't have a father, or worse, makes the conscious choice to conceive and raise a child without a father, they are and should be judged for that. Children raised without a father are at far greater risk for a long list of problems. The high rate of single mothers has had a huge negative impact in society.
And by the way, deadbeat fathers are judged for the same reasons, as they should be.
I have no issues with them.
Only, when they think that world owns them everything, because she is single mum.
There is some of them who are not mentally stable stable and get men to insanity stage ( I'm not searching for any excuses in man behaviour here!!!)
In UK a lot of them just have kids and no husband so they can get welfare money, house and... Yes, now it is hard to get, but it stoped not long time ago.
From my position, if I would decide to get in to relationship with single mother, I would have to pay for her child from previous relationship and no right to have any influence on that child and father would be visiting... Another interesting thing most of those kids are kept secret untill you move together... WHY?
You are so right in your thinking. Of course you wanna try to keep a relationship between kids and their Dad. But on occassion, Dads turn and run and never to be seen again. Or they are around, but they're on drugs, abusive, or worse. But if all this fails, then super Mom gotta save the day. Be the 1 of the 2 people needed to nurture your child's development.
I know I may be saying this the wrong way and that I'll catch a lot of flak for this opinion but, personally, I have no problem with there being single mothers. I just wouldn't date one because personally, I don't want to be left to raise another man's child. I wouldn't want another man to raise my child either. I have nothing against single mothers, nor is there anything personal against them.
I did never hate single mothers. I don't know why some guys have such aversion to them.
I understand that a man who doesn't have own kids won't accept to be a daddy for her kids, but as sex material are single mothers definitely better than 18 girls who want to cheat on their boyfriend.
I saw very immature user on this question and they need get out of the trash bins brain that they have. I don’t really care about single mum any way.