Single mothers as a group are regarded as having made bad life choices. Sometimes unfairly. And regardless of their efforts, generally speaking, children do worse in such situations. For 14, you ask a mature question and frame it very well. Better than some of the adults. :-)
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There's a difference between hate and having preference. I think single mothers do a great job on taking both roles as the parent, respect where it's due.
However, personally I won't date a single mother, at the end of the day that's just my preference, doesn't mean I hate them.
Men hate. because maybe they want u. and u shine them off. plus men are pricks. im a man. but men are self centered nachos, think they have all rights, think they are smarter than women and they are doing women a favor. and see them as sex objects, and maids. and have major egos.
90% of the single mothers i know chose to end it despite being married to great men, and they ended up sleeping around... nowadays single mothers are women that want a change so they divorce the dad and live their life alone, no sane person (man or woman ) can ever respect that.
I certainly appreciate that single mothers, as long aa the father was abusive or passed. To cut a man out of his children's lives for convenience or for spite is an issue. To me the default should be joint custody in a divorce, unless there is compelling reason to exclude a parent. Unfortunately this common sense situation is being fought by many feminist groups. So what you are seeing is backlash against this lobying not backlash against single mothers.
Sometimes single motherhood has to be done. But it is not something that should be normalized at all.
The issue is that single motherhood is being intentionally done with women going to sperm banks and INTENTIONALLY having fatherless kids. That is such an evil disservice to the children. Jesus is coming soon.
All single moms excepts widows either chose a bad boy showing they are immature and make terrible life choices and expect a "nice guy" to clean up their mess OR they are so shitty they scared the man away like he couldn't bear to be in a relationship with her she was that shitty.
Widows make up about 1% of single moms so that's a red herring and nobody looks down on them anyways.
There are too many factors involved here for a single answer. However, it can be percieved as a red flag. If the father was a bad person why did they wait to have kids before leaving or the non-committal theme that is sweeping through various parts of society rn. I would never have a problem with a widow because that's stupid, not their fault. Generally people won't have a problem with you if your thinking before you do things and doing whats best for your family and future.
I was raised by a single mom as were pratically ALL my friends. Single moms are CRUEL to their sons and project a lot of hate and anger of the mmen that abandoned on them on to their kids. Another thing is that raising kids alone is hard and single mothers are notorious for treating their kids like shit because of how hard it is.
I'm not particularly hating on her but she made a LOT of mistakes and they were mistakes that I know see younger single mother's in my family making. I also work in social services and I see the way these stressed out single moms treat 2 and 3 year old little boys. It's sickening.
I live in a "white" area and I saw a white mother mistreating a little boy the other day. Please don't try it. I also have a feeling that not all of your friends were abused by the women raising them. It doesn't sound very realistic.
@ShineDJJ "I also have a feeling that not all of your friends were abused by the women raising them. It doesn't sound very realistic." - Oh boy... you sound pretty sheltered. Yes... practically every single one was abused.
ronaldo75!! My Brother i wish all great things to come for you. I know a little secret my friend and i share a trickle of experience and/or Advice to the woke
I agree 5000 percent with you. My mother raised me and my 3 siblings on her own. There were nogovernment handouts or other help, she did it all on her own. Good for you if you are a mother or father raising and looking safter your children on your own.
I don't hate them, but it does disturb me how society is alright with no dad in the picture. That's not how is supposed to be. Yes some things are unavoidable like a death, but leaving a woman with the kids, so you can have conquests and fulfilling some mid life or a general crisis, just because. Thats messed up.
Baggage, baby daddy drama, made up family that is not his, set in her ways , ur an outsider, lots a bills, kids are not urs or will respect u. Plus you will have to deal with the rest of the shit that relation ships deal with. That's why. I would not call it hate I would call it fear. Red flags all over the place. Most of the time.
I don’t hate single moms. But I most certainly get annoyed when they try to date me... I’m not a bank account for your mistakes and I’m not raising a child that isn’t related to me.
Many guys dislike single moms because single moms tend to have babies with the bad boys and then expect the nice guys to help raise their babies.
I believe a supernatural experience, and a gift from God takes place with a Mom and her new baby. And ladies holla cause you know what i mean, lol. And i know certain women, that have had a kid, and experienced the power of this LOVE and PROTECT ION and all your questions about out unkown origin, purpose, ability, and where we get to go when we die, and our creator he loves us and everything is gonna be alright
What about single fathers? No one ever talks about that.
People also don't like celebrating single motherhood BECAUSE it's not ideal for the child, NOT because it's difficult. It's comparable to saying someone is a good cook because they tried.
There's also a misconception because men don't want to date women who already have kids. Why would they? That's a huge responsibility that men AND women don't want until they've been together (usually) for years.
Sissy, single fathers aren't treates like heros and kings but they are treated as attractive to women because women see that as a man who accepts responsibility and can handle having children with her.
Single mothers aren't treated like heros or queens but they are also not treated as attractive because no man actively wants the responsibility of raising another man's kid unless he's in love with the mother or looking to adopt. ^ I feel like that's what Sue was trying to say however cuckold probably isn't the right word because by definition that's a man watching the woman he's with get railed by another dude and then staying with her after the act.
I think it's mostly because they seem to love the title and demand respect. I got an example of this. One of the women I met, has a daughter that she "raises" that she says is "her world." The whole schpeel. Now what really happens is she is on disability, that makes it so she can't work, but will go out clubbing 2 nights a week. She has her close friend watch the child 4 or more days a week, but she still claims that she's doing it on her own. It's the title demands that people hate.
Shaming is a universal tactic to pressure others into behaving in a way that appeals to oneself. In the case of single mothers, many view them as the fallout of the traditional American family's breakdown and would highly prefer future mothers to take notice and stop the pattern.
Not my belief by the way, just my observation of others' criticism
It's simple others kids are extra package that is unwanted or add extra complications. Things are simpler with no kids in the picture, no need to deal with extra relationships such as with the kids and their father.
Hi all you amazing, God given companions lol. I'll take it to an even more honest tone. God damn are u kidding? A true hottie with a heart, that has experienced that intensity of love. I know what occurs. And as a man, it makes a woman sexier than anything to me. Oh you better know That we're out here, and u don't get insecure, or have doubts about your being desired. I look for women in their 30's or late 20's that have a kid even. You have special powers and love me some cute Angels
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It’s not hating if they don’t want to date a single mom. I don’t want to date single dads. In fact, I’ve rejected single dads.
Not dating and hating is different.
I don't want to date a black woman since I'm not attracted to them but I defenatley don't hate them
Single mothers as a group are regarded as having made bad life choices. Sometimes unfairly. And regardless of their efforts, generally speaking, children do worse in such situations.
For 14, you ask a mature question and frame it very well. Better than some of the adults. :-)
There's a difference between hate and having preference. I think single mothers do a great job on taking both roles as the parent, respect where it's due.
However, personally I won't date a single mother, at the end of the day that's just my preference, doesn't mean I hate them.
Men hate. because maybe they want u. and u shine them off. plus men are pricks. im a man. but men are self centered nachos, think they have all rights, think they are smarter than women and they are doing women a favor. and see them as sex objects, and maids. and have major egos.
Thank u sue.
90% of the single mothers i know chose to end it despite being married to great men, and they ended up sleeping around... nowadays single mothers are women that want a change so they divorce the dad and live their life alone, no sane person (man or woman ) can ever respect that.
I certainly appreciate that single mothers, as long aa the father was abusive or passed. To cut a man out of his children's lives for convenience or for spite is an issue.
To me the default should be joint custody in a divorce, unless there is compelling reason to exclude a parent. Unfortunately this common sense situation is being fought by many feminist groups. So what you are seeing is backlash against this lobying not backlash against single mothers.
Sometimes single motherhood has to be done. But it is not something that should be normalized at all.
The issue is that single motherhood is being intentionally done with women going to sperm banks and INTENTIONALLY having fatherless kids. That is such an evil disservice to the children. Jesus is coming soon.
Because all single moms come with baggage.
All single moms excepts widows either chose a bad boy showing they are immature and make terrible life choices and expect a "nice guy" to clean up their mess OR they are so shitty they scared the man away like he couldn't bear to be in a relationship with her she was that shitty.
Widows make up about 1% of single moms so that's a red herring and nobody looks down on them anyways.
There are too many factors involved here for a single answer. However, it can be percieved as a red flag. If the father was a bad person why did they wait to have kids before leaving or the non-committal theme that is sweeping through various parts of society rn. I would never have a problem with a widow because that's stupid, not their fault. Generally people won't have a problem with you if your thinking before you do things and doing whats best for your family and future.
I was raised by a single mom as were pratically ALL my friends. Single moms are CRUEL to their sons and project a lot of hate and anger of the mmen that abandoned on them on to their kids. Another thing is that raising kids alone is hard and single mothers are notorious for treating their kids like shit because of how hard it is.
So you're hating on your own mom?
I'm not particularly hating on her but she made a LOT of mistakes and they were mistakes that I know see younger single mother's in my family making. I also work in social services and I see the way these stressed out single moms treat 2 and 3 year old little boys. It's sickening.
Sounds like you were just raised in a toxic environment. Myself and other people I know had caring and functional moms who raised us alone.
@ShineDJJ NYC is pretty much flooded with toxic single minority mothers who abuse their sons. I see it on a daily basis.
I live in a "white" area and I saw a white mother mistreating a little boy the other day. Please don't try it. I also have a feeling that not all of your friends were abused by the women raising them. It doesn't sound very realistic.
@ShineDJJ Don't try what?
@ShineDJJ "I also have a feeling that not all of your friends were abused by the women raising them. It doesn't sound very realistic." - Oh boy... you sound pretty sheltered. Yes... practically every single one was abused.
Before you all reply to people's comments u should get into a comfortable setting, and prepare to have your eyes opened
ronaldo75!! My Brother i wish all great things to come for you. I know a little secret my friend and i share a trickle of experience and/or Advice to the woke
I agree 5000 percent with you.
My mother raised me and my 3 siblings on her own.
There were nogovernment handouts or other help, she did it all on her own.
Good for you if you are a mother or father raising and looking safter your children on your own.
Thank you. I may be one by in vitro one day if i dont find love. Thank yiu
Aren't you already in relationship tho?
@Twenty2 i broke up with that bastard early January
Why? XD
@Twenty2 we had same future goals but wanted them at diff times. Plus we had diff hobbies that we just couldnt cope with
That sucks! Hope you find what you're looking for.
I don't hate them, but it does disturb me how society is alright with no dad in the picture. That's not how is supposed to be. Yes some things are unavoidable like a death, but leaving a woman with the kids, so you can have conquests and fulfilling some mid life or a general crisis, just because. Thats messed up.
Baggage, baby daddy drama, made up family that is not his, set in her ways , ur an outsider, lots a bills, kids are not urs or will respect u. Plus you will have to deal with the rest of the shit that relation ships deal with. That's why. I would not call it hate I would call it fear. Red flags all over the place. Most of the time.
I don’t hate single moms. But I most certainly get annoyed when they try to date me... I’m not a bank account for your mistakes and I’m not raising a child that isn’t related to me.
Many guys dislike single moms because single moms tend to have babies with the bad boys and then expect the nice guys to help raise their babies.
I don't know anyone who hates single moms. Seems to me they get the most consideration
They even get love on fathers day.
I believe a supernatural experience, and a gift from God takes place with a Mom and her new baby. And ladies holla cause you know what i mean, lol. And i know certain women, that have had a kid, and experienced the power of this LOVE and PROTECT ION and all your questions about out unkown origin, purpose, ability, and where we get to go when we die, and our creator he loves us and everything is gonna be alright
What about single fathers? No one ever talks about that.
People also don't like celebrating single motherhood BECAUSE it's not ideal for the child, NOT because it's difficult. It's comparable to saying someone is a good cook because they tried.
There's also a misconception because men don't want to date women who already have kids. Why would they? That's a huge responsibility that men AND women don't want until they've been together (usually) for years.
Proplem with anon is people do talk about single fathers their treated like hero's and kings
Some (a lot ) of guys don't want to be cuckolds.
Sissy, single fathers aren't treates like heros and kings but they are treated as attractive to women because women see that as a man who accepts responsibility and can handle having children with her.
Single mothers aren't treated like heros or queens but they are also not treated as attractive because no man actively wants the responsibility of raising another man's kid unless he's in love with the mother or looking to adopt.
^
I feel like that's what Sue was trying to say however cuckold probably isn't the right word because by definition that's a man watching the woman he's with get railed by another dude and then staying with her after the act.
I think it's mostly because they seem to love the title and demand respect. I got an example of this. One of the women I met, has a daughter that she "raises" that she says is "her world." The whole schpeel. Now what really happens is she is on disability, that makes it so she can't work, but will go out clubbing 2 nights a week. She has her close friend watch the child 4 or more days a week, but she still claims that she's doing it on her own. It's the title demands that people hate.
Shaming is a universal tactic to pressure others into behaving in a way that appeals to oneself. In the case of single mothers, many view them as the fallout of the traditional American family's breakdown and would highly prefer future mothers to take notice and stop the pattern.
Not my belief by the way, just my observation of others' criticism
It's simple others kids are extra package that is unwanted or add extra complications. Things are simpler with no kids in the picture, no need to deal with extra relationships such as with the kids and their father.
I feel bad upvoting it but it's very true!
Hi all you amazing, God given companions lol. I'll take it to an even more honest tone. God damn are u kidding? A true hottie with a heart, that has experienced that intensity of love. I know what occurs. And as a man, it makes a woman sexier than anything to me. Oh you better know That we're out here, and u don't get insecure, or have doubts about your being desired. I look for women in their 30's or late 20's that have a kid even. You have special powers and love me some cute Angels