I would go with having women simply accepting the words a man says as being what he actually means. Now, admittedly, some women do this. And, some men don’t deserve it. But I’ve known an awful lot of men who experienced no end of frustration because their simple words were interpreted to mean drastically different things than what they actually meant. The flip side of the coin is that in return, women get frustrated with men for not understanding what they (the women) mean when they didn’t actually say it. “Wasn’t it obvious what I meant?” is a phrase I’ve heard more than one woman say to her man — to which the usual reply is, “How am I supposed to know what you mean if you don’t tell me?”The fact is, most men aren’t sophisticated enough communicators to mean much beyond what our words say, nor to pick up on much beyond the words we hear. So it would be nice if women would understand that.
Gonna repeat after what somebody already has said. Ladies - make the first move! So if you want something? Do what we do and get it and ask your crush out on a date! You'll lose almost nothing compared to missing out on that chance. I know I'll love to be asked out by women!
Ahahahaha 😄 why thank you kind lady! But make no mistake. I may not make everything about the money but money remains my obsession. Can't change that. This is modern survival in society, where money is more important than ever before. Without it I'm homeless and starving and women don't like that at all (and neither do i).
You do realise that, in "modern" times, civilizations rise and fall, while cultures that have been existing without money (or without even a mental notion of such a thing as possession) for thousands of years persist through the ages. Even in today's western countries there are people, and occasionally entire communities (Marke Boyle in the UK and a small community since, for example), that live completely without money - off-grid, growing their own. It is not that hard, really. Anyone can buy a second-hand caravan, put some solar panels on top, and have electric heating, cooker and shower. No gas bill, no electricity bill, and no water bill (collect rain water, which can be filtered), no rent or mortgage, and if you grow your own no shopping. Thousands live like this already, meet them on YT on the channel "exploring alternatives". Of course if you're a consumer-fetishist reliant on the plundering of the Earth's resources robbing future generations of a life in dignity, or someone who is addicted to have their cerebellum entertained by gadgets and distractions, you will find switching to a SUSTAINABLE existence a tad hard.
@cunnilinguist OK, and? I still like to travel to places and going for swims. Or hiring courtesans. Also are these moneyless societies buying fridges, washing machines, detergents and these comfort electronics? Or are they building it themselves? How are they getting those materials without money?
"Of course if you're a consumer-fetishist reliant on the plundering of the Earth's resources robbing future generations of a life in dignity..." alright now, linguist, settle down.
Human beings have been living on this planet without "fridges and washing machines" for thousands of years. If you were to manufacture one of each of these for every human on the planet you would run out of raw materials. What does that leave to the next generation? I get that it is easier to puch a button on a machine that uses electricity that comes from the burning of fossil fuels that pollute the atmosphere than washing up your dishes by hand. Believe it or not, people washed their clothes long before the washing machine was invented. The air and waters were unpolluted in those days - the air that plants and animals breathe and the water they drink. Today it's all polluted (smog, oil spills, acid rain, etc.) and then people are surprised they develop allergies and grow tumors and die from health issues. I must admit, playing around with fuel-refinement until the exhaust fumes are transparent was a nice trick, it makes you think the billions of cars on the planet ain't polluting the air every day, and who cares about the 1.4 million people that die in road accidents every year? But yeah, buy a car too. Or do you already have one of those too?
@cunnilinguist Yeah, shit happens with the environment thanks to the humans. Hence I am childfree. But why are you telling me any of this? It's not like I can stop any of that. Do you have any of these items yourself? I see you must have at least electricity, internet and an electronic device (mobile or computer) to post here.
I am happy to answer your questions, with the understanding that just because you see others CAN and DO live sustainably will have no effect on you anyway. Yes of course we use electricity, it comes free from the sun. I wash by hand. Yes I do have a laptop from my old days that I still use today. But you can get them free on freecycle websites. And I use the wifi of a neighbor with their permission. I am a non-driver by choice - I do not own a motor vehicle. I distil my own water. I make my own toothpaste from natural healthy substances. I bake my own bread. It's easy, healthy and tasty. But why ask if you won't change your ways even when you see it's possible? It feels like you are trying to find a fault so you can "strike back" instead of taking a critical look at the consequences of your own lifestyle on the life of the people around you and the immediate environment you live in.
1. "Sustainability" cannot be put down to a single perspective. Each context demands its own way of approaching sustainability in relation to the life of the people living under different circumstances or places.
2. "Electricity" is free. Well if you believe this is true, why not implement a small scale system yourself and start running some of your devices at home from it?
To produce electricity 24/7, we need an energy source. Therefore, we need a "conversion device". The source is pressurized water from a dam (hydroelectric), or from the wind, or from sunshine, or natural gas, nuclear energy or coal. All of these are energy sources, but in a form we can’t transport easily to our homes and factories. So we convert the energy to electricity, which is easy to transport.
It is not 'free' for a reason that people shouldn't waste it.
3. Strictly speaking, earth will never run out of resources. Natural resources will not run out — we are not depleting the number of atoms of each element, we are simply redistributing them. Even our so-called garbage dumps will become treasure troves in future as the metals that have been discarded are mined for reuse.
Besides, i do not think you'll live long enough to worry about it. You definitely need more education to be coming up with all that stuff above and that is definitely not how "science" works.
@cunnilinguist well. At least i learned something. That kind of lifestyle wouldn't suit me at all. What about medical conditions, which require a surgery and cost a fortune? Say like a wisdom teeth removal for example.
I can't think of anything I would want to "fix". I think women are great even though they are... different.
There is something on my mind that is based on a recent conversation. I would LOVE for women to be granted the willingness and ability to articulate the physical experiences of being made love to in detail. For example, I once asked a girlfriend what it felt like when I caressed and suckled her breasts and all she could say was that it went straight to her pussy. I could understand what she meant. The comment was illuminating but not very detailed. So it's the experiences that are uniquely female that I want to know. In addition to physical sensations, I want to know what goes on in their heads - their thoughts, as well as emotions. I know that's an impossible request, although I have gained some really good insights here on GAG.
All I can know are my own experiences as a man. I don't know why I am so fascinated by the question.
Someone recently asked what you would do it you could be in the body of the opposite sex for a day. My thought was to hook up with a hot lesbian. I can't bring myself to want to be with a man. But I'd love to experience what women experience when being made love to. What is it like to have erogenous breasts, to receive oral, be fingered, penetrated by a dildo, to orgasm?
It must be wonderous to be a woman even though I love being a man and would never trade places. I just want to hear more about it. I hope that doesn't sound perverted.
Interesting again, Lliam. Well all that stuff feels great. The more intense you (well ok, I, since I'll speak only for myself here) feel for that person, that lover, the more sensitive the body is, especially when reacting to their particular touch. (Separation and longing that builds intense desire is the biggest predictor of this, I have found.) And I guess the specifics of that are just about like how men would experience it - because our hormones are not all that different. We have different proportions of them, but they exist in both bodies. I would imagine the locations on the body are not all that important. Except the 'in' on women and the 'out' on men. That difference is pivotal, probably. It would be very cool to experience an orgasm, just once, through the other. But unfortunately most of us will never know (do sex change operation people get to feel both?) We can only describe.
And it is in that description that many people fall short. It takes thinking about it deeply, and being able to express oneself. And I am finding that detailed or very thoughtful, carefully constructed writing is more rare than I would have thought. And yet to share it, not only is it very personal, but it can also be taken (stolen/shared/profited from.) So it's rare to find others who have the intensity of these experiences and can write, and even rarer still to find those whom it would be appropriate to share it with, even if it is just in writing, not in practice. I think culture is changing. Every country and region is also at their own pace... some wanting to expand and explore, and others wanting to preserve and protect. Even this still seems to be at odds, philosophically. I am a progressive, so I look ahead, though I might add still with reverence for the past. History actually matters more to me now than ever before. But maybe in a 'look how far we have come', or 'let's keep in mind who we are, and who we have been the rest of the 500,000 years on Earth' - it's really just a drop in the bucket, these last wild west 100 years.
Good thoughts on the question of our sexual experiences, Amanda. I agree that the "in" versus "out" is the most mysterious. Also the question of ejaculation versus orgasm. Everything else is similar, as you said. Although there is still the difference in mindset that allows women to open themselves and enjoy being taken as opposed to men being more like aggressors. Not that women are passive.
In regards to descriptions. It does require thinking deeply. But it's probably only a skilled novelist or poet who could articulate what I seek. After all, what I'm talking about is deep eroticism. The only difference is, I'm seeking knowledge, not porn.
I'm on the same page with you regarding culture. Cultures are extremely valuable. They have so much to teach us. We have lost and continue to lose them. When that happens, it's like an animal species going extinct. I also have progressive values. I absolutely share your value for history - deep history. Not the crap we are taught in school. Anthropology and paleontology go with it hand in hand. "History actually matters more to me now than ever before. But maybe in a 'look how far we have come', or 'let's keep in mind who we are, and who we have been the rest of the 500,000 years on Earth' - it's really just a drop in the bucket, these last wild west 100 years." Yes!
I wish for men to understand that it is not that women doesn't like sports, it just that some women have a lot to take care of than sitting and watching football. And some of women are scared to play fotball because they think that period is gonna be in therir way or that their boods are goona be destroyed if a ball hit them hard.
I like sports, but i dont have time to watch it on tv, to go to the sport stadium or to memorize all the player and their sport team. When we had sport competition i always play with the boys instead of girls because they didn't want to or were scared to get hit of boll, fall, pump into someone, their hair or nails to be destroyed. But there are a lot of women that does have time for sports too.
I would like if many didn't just say that they are busy and not explaining why they are busy, or not saying to their partner that they are struggling and could use of some comfort or help. If they dont explain it makes women missunderstand and think that men are cheating. I wish for them to sometimes put their tuffnes a side and just talk out, women could understand your problems. I dont k ow why both women and men hide their struggles just to not worry each other because they care. If you trust each other then just try to comunnicate about it.
Just want femals to be wise in judging creeps, playboys from other decent men. Generally looking at flirty nature of creeps and playboys girls fall in love with them later after getting sex those boys leave the girl and goes to next one. Althoughwe men are wise enough to know which guy is a playboy and creep but girls don't care about other mens advice as they think we are jealous of them. And then girls end up saying 'ALL MEN ARE THE SAME F***ING CREEP' which is not at all true. So hope girls can differ between creeps and other boys so that they don't blame that boys are not as loyal as they are.
I just think your idea is interesting. If girls are often picking a certain type of guy, and those guys turn out to treat them a certain way (as creeps), then it gives the girls the impression that there are many more of them than there may actually be.
Its not at all interesting when such situation comes back to you. When you go out to help someone and other person (if not their friends hammer) thinks that he will help you and use and try to convince themselves that every man will just help them so that they will fall for them and we will use them and throw away. When such things are thrown on your character just because someone is helping others its not at all interesting. If I try not to help them then their friends will be like he is so arrogant and mean that he is not even helping even though he could have and many more possibility are there. Some creeps make life hell for others out there.
Well yes it sucks for you, but it is still interesting to me. There are not so many novel ideas brought up here that I haven't read yet. I'd like to pass this one around somehow. Thinking...
So it's between two things for me 1. Be more reciprocal. Meaning like, so many girls want 1 sided relationships. Dude pays for everything, dude gives her all the attention, all the caring etc. I've literally have heard multiple women saying they don't give their boyfriend compliments because they don't want them to have an ego. Meanwhile women have a massive chip on their shoulder and we still gas them up
Or
2. Make them as into guys as guys are into them. That shit would cause world peace I kid you not. If guys could get laid as easily as girls can, there'd be no more war
Please bestow your spell of transformation upon all guys from a two minute "One and Done" to a Magical Mystery Tour with hours of Multi Orgasmic Splendor Ms Amanda! ... lol
Awe... One and Done again?Yes! ... let's go for a fourth!!
Thank you!! I cannot thank you enough for endowing us all with the ability to easily have multiple orgasms, you are the best thing that ever happened to us! I've always wanted to be able to have multiple orgasms and keep going, and you have certainly made that dream come true.
Out of all the girls on here, your wish is literally the best one.
Their moods wouldn't shift so much every month and wouldn't feel awful. I'd make the offspring chute program release, or maybe each is different... like pull on both ears, touch nose plus some other special sequences... that would release an egg... lol.
I'd make men live longer cause I consider health whenever I meet a guy cause I'm don't want to be widow - so I would make sure all men magically live long and healthy lives so I don't have to consider their physical fitness when trying to decide if I should date them.
Can't argue that, you have a point. Plus, the guys would say they have a lot of stress, dangerous jobs, mandatory war service, etc. to contend with. I think I recall you are high on fitness so you should prioritize that.
It's hard to say a Gender as a whole but if I could generalize I would say for men to stop being so stupid and immature. I really hope iv'e just met and talked to all the wrong guys but so so many of them just seem like cave men. I want a smart diligent guy who can obviously still be childish at times but has goals and knows when to be serious and get shit done!
I think there's a good chance you'll find that even out as you get older. It's why I dated older ever since I was 19. High school boys were a hot mess. But I married someone the same age. And have met a couple of really great guys who are much younger starting 25+. And there's some pretty thoughtful and clever 19+ yr olds on gag. So I think these proprotions will change for you eventually. (Hopefully. People aren't learning as many life and communication skills nowadays, so they say.)
I would change men that dont like showing their emotions. Let them all know its completely okay to cry and be emotional. It makes it extremely difficult to read men when they are constantly putting on a front of being tough. Tbh men like this annoy me so badly😑
Yes. So many of them believe this is a terrible mistake. I don't know if that's more to do with a particular past ex's reaction to it, or their belief, from what they see in society, that it would not go well for them. Society's changing. Gender traits are more fluid now. Particularly in developed nations which are more egalitarian.
And then there is the doozy of them wanting girls to be more logical and less emotional. Interesting how these seems to be two sides of a coin. One wanting less, and the other wanting more.
It’s like girls that say they want a manly man, if any guy hears that he’s definitely not gonna try to be weak in front of a women. That’s why if women want men to act a certain way you gotta stop contradicting yourself
As a girl who experiences a wide range of emotions I’m sure you think that men are the same way, but trust me a man who can’t control his emotions is dangerous. But now we’re literally going into why men want women to act like us and why you want men to act like women. We’re just not built the same way.
@chris_987 I dont think showing how you feel is a womanly thing to do. It's a normal part of life. If you're seeing crying and showing emotions as a women thing to do then you're definitely wrong. Men are told to hide all those emotions that they have, if they were naturally emotionless then y'all wouldn't need to put on that face and hide it
No I’m saying men and women are different, like it hard for men to tell women to think with there head rather than there heart but it’s easy for men because we’re are more concerned about the outcome, like a mother will let her daughter be a stripper or a porn star because she just want her to be happy, a father will feel bad because he knows the outcome will be undesirable. It’s a crude analogy but it simplifies what I mean about how men a women approach emotions differently. Hopefully that makes sense.
@chris_987 bad thing to compare it to cuz my father in law was so supportive of my sister in law being a stripper. He was the happy one and my mother in law was like wtf that slut needs to get a real job
Well I’m not sure what you’d think of me... a few years back I had a minor neurological event, a minor stroke. Some of the brain damage was in a very small area of my brain that controls emotions. Ever since then I tear up at the drop of a hat. If I see a puppy chow commercial on tv, I’m balling. When my most fav9rite songs come on, I’m weeping my ass off. I cry at the most inappropriate times, in other words, not when I’m sad. I cry when I’m happy, sad, just any super strong emotions. So now what do you think of me?🤷🏻♂️ Moral: Be careful what you wish for. 😎
@Girther10 That's interesting. Yes brain injuries (and neurological events) have wide ranging consequences and are so difficult to treat. There's no pills to fix those, typically. This reminds me of that laughing condition (it inopportune times) portrayed in the Joaquin Joker movie last year.
@AmandaYVR- you can’t “treat” lost brain cells. That’s what happens when any part of the brain is deprived oxygen delivered through blood. Mine was very minor, thank God. It happened in my sleep, in fact I woke up not even knowing it happened. Until I looked down to see my left hand not doing what I thought it was doing, turning on the radio. My hand was temporarily paralyzed, it came back slowly in the following days. I’ve been left handed all my life, but I was never again able o write. I had to learn to write right handed, you know what it’s like to never again have that same signature? The paralysis was temporary, but the muscle memory for writing is gone forever. But I’ve adapted, I had to.
I have three sisters, who still look to me for strength in times of crisis, as does my daughter.@Amanda YVR is right, you can be strong and show it, even if you cry. I learned to do it, that kind of strength is just part of who you are, regardless of whether or not tears come out your eyes
Probably being more open to dating someone if they're not a super obvious choice. Like around here, it seems like it's ALL about looks, body, job with current income. All the details don't seem to matter. For me, those details matter as much (or more) than those "surface things."
Or at the very least... if you don't have whatever skill or ability, that they don't demand I have it.
I agree with you. It seems pretty brutal out there. I dated for 10 years, been married for 20 now, and keeping an interested eye on things. There's so many factors I guess (and I won't get into listing them again here) but suffice to say people seem to be so commodifized now. It's easy to do - we're just one step away from China's current social scoring system. We're all in the matrix, online, plugged in, in the ether, and our actions are monitored, our values are calculated, and we all vote on each other constantly. This feedback loop is pretty disgusting. I don't know if people really have a sense of self anymore. You're absolutely right, people are much more than these "surface things." I feel sad for so many (as you see on gag) who don't feel valued... discarded, even.
There is nothing to fix there are only things to improve I wish there would be more understanding and effort during communication. I put everything aside when she speaks nothing is more important than her so it's not a matter of a lack attention on my end. It seems I talk to walls when we talk. I don't feel the things I say leave an impact unless there are tears behind it I'm tired of having to be emotionally drained to get real regard for what I am saying.
And on top of it all I totally suck at small talk I'm always on a deep conversation level so I keep my mouth closed most of the time and it makes me a boring person so it's hard to find anyone to pay attention to me anyways. Try being the guy yearning for somebody without the ability to make anyone smile or laugh it's a hard knock Life for me
I think I'm a bit similar to you. I find superficialities much more difficult than depth. There is nothing worse than the idea of cocktail party small talk. I feel like, "So... you... like... stuff?" (that's a Ralph Wiggum from Simpson's line)
I like how you think because I was thinking about responding with a line from a movie to begin with but I didn't because I didn't think anyone would notice
I love that we have similar views and I would love to hear some of the stories you have. at any point if you feel like talking to me please inbox me. although I do like phone calls more than text because I feel like texting everything you have to say is more exhausting and leaves more room for misinterpretation
Talk less. Most girls in my family, female friends and some dates... omg... just talking Bout nothing then repeating the story and changing it... like I'm a good listener and its exhausting to men who can't just knod their head. Phew. Thanks for the vent and sorry I talk to much too
More specifically, I'd replace the nasty cramps, pains, mess and moodiness that comes with them monthly with the reflexive type found in multiple animal species.
It'd make life easier for all women and to a lesser extent, men (insert cheesy angry girlfriend joke here).
Aside from alleviated pain though, couples may find the pre conception portion of their infantile production process to be significantly more enjoyable, especially for the women.
The ability to lie. Im not saying i dont lie, but thats what id fix and i hope that women would fix the same about men. I don't know if being honest would help or hinder everyones ability to get along but i think that if 2 people meet and can get along with eachother without ever having any trust issues it would be better then sex. Could you imagine meeting a woman that you know isn't faking it, when she says she likes football, or when you tell her she's beautiful she has zero doubt that it's true. Youd have better sex and a life that you had no doubt was being spent with your Soul mate
I would change how courts "protect" women. On the criminal side, their word should not be more or less valued than a man's. If a man has no video or other evidence to back his story in a domestic then he will probably be the one arrested, regardless of who started it. In family court, women win primary/sole custody waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much for no other reason than they are the mother. The men get shit on with the visitation rights that do not get enforced. Also, child support as it stands is a death sentence. Point being, if I could change one thing about women, it would be to take away their abilities to unfairly destroy a man's life. Not saying men should not pay child support, but the payments need to be more fair to his lifestyle as much as hers and more accountability of how those funds are used by mothers need to be in place.
The ability to express their thoughts in "executive summary" format rather than the encyclopedic version. Actually, I'd really like both sexes to have empathy for the way the other thinks and processes thoughts and info.
Here's a fun 8 minutes on YouTube - "Mark Gungor, Tale of Two Brains. " It will help you to understand the thinking of the opposite sex, and have a good laugh (I think we all need one right about now).
Yes, I've seen that Mark Gungor referenced before. He's a bit long-winded and not technical enough for my taste. Sort of a watered-down version of brain physiology etc. talk.
@zollo Lolol. Yesssss! You can't be a part of the all-girl clubhouse if you don't tell the whoole story, right?
I agree that Gungor's presentations certainly sacrifice some technical detail for the entertainment and acceptance value, but if people won't listen to it, they will never really know the truth about the differences.
I would make it so they understand the female anatomy, especially below the waist and regarding breasts. Most guys don’t seem to be in tune with how women’s bodies work. If they actually understood all the parts and how they work together I think that sex would be so much more fulfilling for us (and probably them too knowing how to really make a woman orgasm).
OK, I'm just gonna say it even if I might get disliked in mass.
I wish women would put more value in their sexuality and consider on saving her virginity until marriage.
I would wish men to do the same too but this is about the opposite gender
I think our current culture gives the wrong idea of sex. We pressure ourselves to have as much of it as possible and we live this YOLO lifestyle without thinking about the possible consequences in the future. People (men and women) want to have tons of sex while their young and next thing they know that they have an STD, they have children before their ready, their broke from child support, they can't find someone to settle down with because nobody wants to marry a slut.
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