Why do women feel intimidated by men with money?

[Anonymous]

Do you think a guy with high income or assets "knows his value" and is less willing to "put up with" some things, "less tolerant" of some things, and "expects more" things in a woman than most other guys?

I mean, at the end of the day, he's just a person. Aside from the money, he's still a human being.

I'm just wondering how women feel about men with money, and why they are intimidated or nervous around them.

[Anonymous]

I personally don't care as long as the man works. However, a huge turnoff to me is if the man rubs his money in my face. I am pretty well off considering my age and that (I have my new car paid off, my house over half way paid off, in a nicer area, a really good job etc). I am in no way rich, but for 27 and in this economy I am doing better than a lot of people (upper middle class) and I work damn hard for everything I have. With that said I meet men that are as well of as me and I find that they throw their money around on dates which I think is stupid, a lot of women I am sure love this but to me I think its ridiculous for a first date to go to a restraunt where the meals going to be 150 or more... I have noticed that once a man realizes that I can provide for myself and that they sometimes get turned off and I've had several men I dated be absolutely fine with everything until they realized I made a lot more money than them and they felt they couldn't "give me what I needed" which is ridiculous because I don't need or want anything special.

So Id counter men are more intimidated about women that make more than women of men that are better off. Most women want a man that is better off.

[udolipixie]

Do you think a guy with high income or assets "knows his value" and is less willing to "put up with" some things, "less tolerant" of some things, and "expects more" things in a woman than most other guys?

He might be most rich guys think (and have so it reinforces) that they can buy whatever woman they want.

Old saying guys are only as faithful to you as their options if he can buy better he would be less willing to put up with anything he dislikes- bad breath, not having sex as often as he wants, not doing things he wants (cooking for him, threesomes, anal, facials), having to please her sexually (yep tons of rich guys I know think sex = my pleasure),

Though I don't think that is knowing his value unless his only value in a relationship and as a person = his money.

I'm just wondering how women feel about men with money, and why they are intimidated or nervous around them.

I'm not intimidated or nervous.

I feel the same about men with money as I do men without money.

[Asker]

But, guys with money are usually just good guys. They're the doctors, the lawyers, and then I guess you start getting into businessmen (which is a bit of a gray area). Do you think guys who really busted their @ss and "earned" their money are genuinely like what you're describing?

[udolipixie]

I usually see the rich guys who haven't earned it.

Some of the rich ones who earned it may be. There's a reason most rich professional men don't marry rich powerful attractive women their age they prefer younger & hotter.

[Asker]

That's not true. I'm a lawyer and my brother is in medical school. When I was in school, there was no time to date or have a relationship. Girls didn't want to date a "law student" or "med student" because (1) he was broke, (2) he had no time. Those same girls didn't have any problem dating a "lawyer" or "doctor" though. But by that time, there was so much hostility formed inside the former-student, that he doesn't want anything to do with those girls, so he dates who he meets; younger girls.

[udolipixie]

lol at the excuse.

Plenty of similar/same age female lawyers/doctors in the workplace, social circle, etc.

Like I said most men go for younger & hotter not women their own age.

It's not circumstance but choice.

[Asker]

It is consequence. Women the same age who are "Senior Associate" don't want to date an other "Senior Associate." They want to date a "Partner." It's women who want their life to be going forward and ahead, and a guy the same age as them doesn't do that. Women the same age as me (as a man) just aren't and wouldn't be interested in dating me. Only younger women are interested in dating "an older man." So, it's definitely NOT choice, it's consequence.

[udolipixie]

lol sure.

Plenty of single older women looking for a partner whose also a professional.

Plenty of 18 to 24 year old women looking for a guy.

But whatever.

Just date younger (in your case 14 -16 year old jailbait?). most guys prefer younger.

However don't think women, old or young, are intimidated by the money but do be wary of the young girls you choose who actively seek rich guys.

[Anonymous]

I really don't care how much a guy makes as long as he treats me right. When I first dated my husband I didn't ask him how much he made or what it was that he did for his job. I ignored him when he started talking about work, and barely cared about it. So that's why he liked me. Now that we are married I guess I care a little bit more about him and his job because it affects me in a way (he has to be on call all the time) and also about his career goals (since I will be with him forever) and I also manage our money (I make sure we have so and so much savings set aside for retirement and our future house). I also worked my whole entire life since I was 12 so it's not like I don't help out with zilch but just saying, when a guy makes money it is none of my business and doesn't really affect if I like him or not when we are dating. As long as he treats me nice. When we are married then it is my business because once married, it's "what's yours is mine baby"

[mshaker]

There not intimidated or nervous around the person.. ( the guy) But they feel intimidated when it comes down to other things, like paying and what not..

At the end of the day, when you have money you can talk. when you don't have money you can't talk...

Golden rule for us guys and you should know that...

[Asker]

what do you mean, "you can talk?"

[mshaker]

You can talk means..

For example. You go out, 1 of your buddies just bought a porsche GT3 Cars about $250,000. You drive a honda well say it costs $2000.

At the end of the day, he has more bragging rights then u. Same with girls, if you make more money then her, you have bragging right. They feel intimidated cause you make more. Understand?

[rosemary09]

I am not intimidated with men with money. But, they are more likely to be arrogant, to stray and have huge egos. All of which are undesirable traits in a man, but women who are after men with money (gold diggers) wouldn't care as they just want a rich man.

[Anonymous]

I'm not intimdated, I just don't trust them as far as I can throw them. Men that have money cheat, period. I go for men no other woman will try to steal, I don't like cheating whores & I won't be played for those sons of b*tches men who think they can sleep with whoever they want, screw everyone else.

[Asker]

you feel that men who have money "think" they can have sex with any other woman they want?

[Opinion Owner]

Usually those men are arrogant & it strokes their ego when they can get women. Also, rich men have many women after them, women who are extremely beautiful. Many men give into the temptation, I don't know if they think they have some kind of right. I don't think most of them respect women, so cheating probably doesn't bother them. Also, rich men seem to have lower morals, & it's high morals (usually religious) that stops people from cheating. Rich=Selfish, Selfish=cheaters

[Anonymous]

I recently went out with one of my friends who was richer and I couldn't afford the resteraunt and I felt immediately intimidated.. I just became friends with him and I didn't know how we would react. I'm upper middle class and he's lower upper class. We have a more reasonable amount of money than some of my friends. I felt intimidated for stupid reasons such as 1) I'm not the richest person in the group anymore (it sounds selfish and at the time it was..) 2) I can't pay for all of the things he can 3) ill never have the life experiences he will. I was a little envious of that lifestyle. He sort of occasionally barges about it so that's another thing. Overall I'm just insecure that he would think less of me.

[Anonymous]

Most guys use any asset they have, be it looks, wealth, social status ... to be a total manwhore/jerk. The only time guys are nice is if they can't get away with behaving naturally.

[Asker]

That's such a sad outlook on men. So, according to your POV, if a man has wealth or social status, that is in effect a "license" to behave like a manwhore? That sort of assumes or presupposes as truth that most other women accept him and want him, despite his jerk personality qualities.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with the poster below. Guys are only faithful as their options. Same with niceness. Guys are only kind & loyal because they have no other attractive qualities to get more options...

[Asker]

But again, that presupposes that there are plenty of women out there who would tolerate guys that aren't nice, or kind, or loyal.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, because they don't want to give up everything else to date an unattractive, boring guy in order to do it.

[udolipixie]

+1 for the truth

[SuperCurious]

Umm I'm not intimidated by it haha