Not everything in a relationship is about sexual stuff, sure it might be easier to get hard with a dumb and hot body than with an intelligent but obese body, but enjoying their company as a whole will be harder, depending on the person. That affects the relationship.
When I say "turned on", I don't mean it literally. But who knows? Maybe there are people who masturbate to people talking about brainy stuff.
lol, so people who are sapiosexual, looks don’t matter to them? It’s kinda bs in my opinion. Looks attract me, personality makes me stay. Although, intelligence is a huge turn on
Agreed. But can there be a scenario where intelligence could attract you e. g. you hear somebody talk to a group of friends and he seems really smart. Would you be attracted to such a person if he has average looks?
Sure. I liked a guy like that once. He was average looking, but I was very attracted to him. He was very very intelligent. He knew random science facts and he loved science and yk? He was a very good conversationalist. I never got bored of him. And there was this other guy, who was a model, I was attracted to him at first, but he wasn’t so smart… he was a little dumb, not being rude, but yeah. I had a hard time making a conversation with him, but with the first guy, it was amazing. Looks do matter, but it doesn’t matter much
No. There’s maybe a little point of interest about it, but it’s not *the sole defining aspect of their sexuality*.
People just want obscure labels for themselves because it makes them feel interesting and special. People want to be able to identify as things, it gives them an identify to cling to.
In my case it is. I literally can't get hard if the girl doesn't have a sense of humor or isn't witty, which I consider the easiest way to judge a person's intelligence.
I don't consider it a sexual orientation. That's like saying you're attracted to intelligence and you don't care if they're male or female. Which is ridiculous. Unless you happen to be bisexual as well.
@stri_dante how can you rely on a person who can't think on his toes? Or somebody who can't find effective solutions to your problems. I agree he doesn't have to be genius, but if he needs to ask a friend about any issues that he or you are facing maybe in life or at work, I don't think he can be relied upon.
I'm thinking you're attracted by the behavior of these men. The confidence, how they talk, behave, etc. I understand that these are very intelligent men as well, but that's what I'm sensing from your response.
The reason being I don't consider what I watch people doing or saying on TV as them being their honest selves. I mean Bill Gates recently got called out for being too flirty (for the lack of a better word... ok, I respect the man) and who knows what Dan does in his personal life.
My point is people rehearse before getting on a podium or on a talk show, so that's not the real them. You can only know about people's intelligence really when you know them personally. And I'm not talking about being good at math or psychology. I'm talking about sense of humor, street smartness - things that tell you about their personality.
Intelligence can be attractive, but it’s not the only thing in the equation by any stretch of the imagination. I think most people are mostly attracted to looks, with things like personality and intelligence coming in with a smaller percentage.
But I'm not talking about attraction. Attraction is generally based on looks, I agree. But that's because you can only get attracted to people you don't know.
What I'm talking about is the stage that comes after attraction. What keeps you going? Are looks enough?
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Not everything in a relationship is about sexual stuff, sure it might be easier to get hard with a dumb and hot body than with an intelligent but obese body, but enjoying their company as a whole will be harder, depending on the person. That affects the relationship.
When I say "turned on", I don't mean it literally. But who knows? Maybe there are people who masturbate to people talking about brainy stuff.
lol, so people who are sapiosexual, looks don’t matter to them? It’s kinda bs in my opinion. Looks attract me, personality makes me stay. Although, intelligence is a huge turn on
Agreed. But can there be a scenario where intelligence could attract you e. g. you hear somebody talk to a group of friends and he seems really smart. Would you be attracted to such a person if he has average looks?
Sure. I liked a guy like that once. He was average looking, but I was very attracted to him. He was very very intelligent. He knew random science facts and he loved science and yk? He was a very good conversationalist. I never got bored of him. And there was this other guy, who was a model, I was attracted to him at first, but he wasn’t so smart… he was a little dumb, not being rude, but yeah. I had a hard time making a conversation with him, but with the first guy, it was amazing. Looks do matter, but it doesn’t matter much
Right, got it.
No. There’s maybe a little point of interest about it, but it’s not *the sole defining aspect of their sexuality*.
People just want obscure labels for themselves because it makes them feel interesting and special. People want to be able to identify as things, it gives them an identify to cling to.
In my case it is. I literally can't get hard if the girl doesn't have a sense of humor or isn't witty, which I consider the easiest way to judge a person's intelligence.
Bad for me i guess lol.
lol it's bullshit.
A relationship of only the minds is not a sexual one, it is platonic.
And isn't platonic better than sexual?
No, I like physical intimacy. I get touched starved easily, and you can communicate a lot of tenderness through touch.
There are some chubby comedians I find more attractive than models.
That's a sapio in my book
Humor is a sign of intelligence.
I know, that's what I meant.
I didn't even know there was a word for this, I didn't even know it was a 'thing'.
Well, now you do 😅
It's normal to be, because someone being smart is important, I don't know why there's even a word for that.
I don't consider it a sexual orientation. That's like saying you're attracted to intelligence and you don't care if they're male or female. Which is ridiculous. Unless you happen to be bisexual as well.
I never mentioned sexual orientation in there. It's not who you're attracted to, rather what quality you're attracted to.
Well I do find intelligence sexy... but only in women!
Yeah dude, got it.
Looks are a key factor attractive and turn on. But added intelligence ir clicking together makes it tenfold. A balanced of both is something amazing
Nope.
Only one partif someone have created an obsession that it must be to open up certain kind of feelings.
When it comes to it there are workarounds even if the person in question claims otherwise since most people aren't the exception.
No it’s bullshit. It just means they find intelligence attractive.
Depends on what you mean by truly. I've observed that brain only comes before looks after there's enough looks to go around.
posh nonsense. and at the end of the day, what matters is that your partner is reliable, not so much a genius.
I'll pick you up at 5.
Lol @bean2k good one.
@stri_dante how can you rely on a person who can't think on his toes? Or somebody who can't find effective solutions to your problems. I agree he doesn't have to be genius, but if he needs to ask a friend about any issues that he or you are facing maybe in life or at work, I don't think he can be relied upon.
You have to have some form of physical attraction to a person.
A man is a man and a woman is a woman. I don't fancy all this touchy feely sexuality stuff.
Maybe because you've done so much of it that you got bored?
I found Bill Gates very handsome. Dan Ariely if he asks I marry him without a doubt. So yeah. Intelligence matters to me most.
I'm thinking you're attracted by the behavior of these men. The confidence, how they talk, behave, etc. I understand that these are very intelligent men as well, but that's what I'm sensing from your response.
The reason being I don't consider what I watch people doing or saying on TV as them being their honest selves. I mean Bill Gates recently got called out for being too flirty (for the lack of a better word... ok, I respect the man) and who knows what Dan does in his personal life.
My point is people rehearse before getting on a podium or on a talk show, so that's not the real them. You can only know about people's intelligence really when you know them personally. And I'm not talking about being good at math or psychology. I'm talking about sense of humor, street smartness - things that tell you about their personality.
Intelligence can be attractive, but it’s not the only thing in the equation by any stretch of the imagination. I think most people are mostly attracted to looks, with things like personality and intelligence coming in with a smaller percentage.
But I'm not talking about attraction. Attraction is generally based on looks, I agree. But that's because you can only get attracted to people you don't know.
What I'm talking about is the stage that comes after attraction. What keeps you going? Are looks enough?
Very much so. I have to have a mental connection and see intelligence or it won't work.
IMHO, either can work. It all comes down to the chemistry between the two.
Sure! Some people really are turned on by intelligence. Not many are. But they exist.