Im homophobic, am I terrible person?

[Anonymous]

I know everyone hates homophobics and think we're trash, so I keep it a secret that I'm a homophobic and act like I'm ok with gays on the outside... But on the inside I think what they do is disgusting and wrong and I can never change that about me, but I can change how I act towards them... Once a gay guy called me beautiful... And instead of acting disgusted like I wanted to... I instead said hi... Am I terrible person for being homophobic on the inside?
Even though I act accepting of them on the outside

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+1 y

I can never accept what they do in my head on the inside.. that will always be sick and wrong to me, but If I act accepting of them am I still a bad person? I only act accepting of them so I won't be ostracized and outcast from society and my peers, if everyone else hated homosexuals like I do then I would be more open about my secret hate.. and would express it more, but I keep it hidden

[MCheetah]

No. As long as you aren't harassing others or trying to harm them, believe whatever you want. Society DOES work better when everyone gets along, but after so much wokeness and forced "acceptance" of things people aren't comfortable with, I'm fine with saying not everyone needs to kiss each others behinds and sing Kumbaya. As long as you aren't hurting or harassing anyone, you're free to think whatever you want.

Now I'm just waiting for people to give me some BS argument, so I can counter by saying that they have to accept MY personal beliefs on race, religion, sexuality, politics, etc, or else THEY'RE the ista-phobe. There's always some virtue signaling fool with double standards out there...

[Asker]

Great answer

[Asker]

Totally agree

[JustinTimberlegs]

You can't really control your thoughts, but you seem to notice that it's not appropriate and you're controlling your actions which is what matters. Just keep trying to challenge those thoughts when they come up, don't just accept that it's just how you are. As long as you are mindful of others feelings and continue to work on yourself I think you're doing great.

[SnakeBoop]

Since nothing they're doing is "wrong" then yeah, you still kind of are a trash person.
But you're also allowed to say "hi, i'm not comfortable with being approached and called beautiful by men, so please stop"...

[Asker]

So even if I act like a nice person I'm still shit cos I can never change how I am on th inside?
Right. Got it... Oh well... I guess I was. jus born a shitty person. Can't change that

[SnakeBoop]

again dude. You absolutely do not have to AGREE with what they do, but when you then call it WRONG thats where you cross the line and makes you a bad person.

[Asker]

Well in my opinion anything of a sexual nature which is unnatural or out of the norm is immoral to me... beastiality.. pedophilia... Homosexuality... you say it's not wrong.. why? Cos they're harming no one?
Well I could say that about a female teacher who has sex with a male student who the male student was totally up for it and gained pleasure... No one is being harmed so I could say it's not wrong... But most of society would say it is immoral and wrong simply because they find it in natural and out of the norm, so why can't I say homosexuality is wrong since I find it unnatural and out of the norm?

[Asker]

Don't find it natural+

[SupremeWarlord]

But it's the same thing, not agreeing = thinking it is wrong.

[Hanmakev]

@SupremeWarlord if it’s not wrong then why are there two genders

[SupremeWarlord]

@Hanmakev I think it's not wrong because it's harmless, it doesn't matter how many genders there are.

[Hanmakev]

@SupremeWarlord it is harmful though

[SupremeWarlord]

@Hanmakev How so?

[Hanmakev]

@SupremeWarlord Because it doesn’t reproduce if someone chooses to be that way then fine so be it but that behavior shouldn’t be encouraged

[SupremeWarlord]

@Hanmakev If you think that way, then you should think that being single your entire life is equally harmful.

[Hanmakev]

@SupremeWarlord it’s is tho😂

[SupremeWarlord]

@Hanmakev You're being consistent in your beliefs, that's a good thing.

Final argument then, what if the gay guy marries with a man, but donates his sperm to someone else and takes the child for himself? He's reproducing, is he being not harmless in this situation?

[SnakeBoop]

They. literally do that via surrogacy so the reproducing point is null. There's also adoption to make them parents.

[Hanmakev]

Homosexuality or heterosexuality surrogacy alone is wrong itself because at the end of the day that’s not your child and that scars and damages everyone involved

[SnakeBoop]

But it is their child... they use their sperm... the only damage comes from ignorance of those who would then label the children as wrong like you

[Hanmakev]

It’s not their child and the third party will know that and it will hurt it’s selfish to have a baby with someone else because you and your s/o can’t and what about the woman involved what mother doesn’t love her baby you mean to tell me she will feel no ties or connection to this person who grew in her for 9 months and just give it away I don’t think so surrogacy does more harm than good you should’ve said adoption plenty of orphans in the world who’d be happy to have parents gay or straight and my point still stands because if the same sex could reproduce on their own there would be no need for a surrogate so that’s a mute point

[SnakeBoop]

Simply being ignorant of the world of surrogacy doesn't mean your opinion is fact.

[Hanmakev]

It is fact two men can’t reproduce FACT‼️😂

[SnakeBoop]

.. hence surrogacy being a thing... fact.

[Hanmakev]

The point was that they can’t reproduce surrogacy requires male and female input

[Hanmakev]

Please tell me your not one of those people who can’t admit when they’re wrong 🤦🏽‍♂️ did you even read the whole conversation

[Zeldaismyqueen]

yeah you are. You are painting millions of people with the same brush, which is legit a bad thing to do.

[Asker]

Don't society do the same to people have incest sex. One could say they are hurting no one and what they do behind closed doors should be no one's business.. yet many people call it sick and it's illegal... Why? simply because they find it disgusting

So why can't I do the same to homosexuality since I find homosexuality disgusting. It is sick to me

Why are society allowed to called incesters sick fuckups but I'm not allowed to call homos sick fuck ups

[Zeldaismyqueen]

Incest can lead to genetically mutated children, so it has a stigma around it. Even animals are not incestuous for that reason. Homosexuality hurts nobody. So yeah if you think being gay is disgusting, you need to re-examine your beliefs or you are indeed a terrible person

[Asker]

One word. Condom

[Asker]

I jus don't think it fair society can accept one sexually but not another... So until all Is fair... Then I will accept homosexuality...

[Zeldaismyqueen]

I mean, if the incest is consensual, and there is birth control. I guess that would be fine. So now you are ok with homosexuality? Good. You would be a bad person if you discriminated against like 6% of the population of earth.

[Asker]

Yes. If incest was made legal then I would accept homosexuality

[Asker]

Lawl

[Asker]

I'm glad your smart and actually understand my point. Most people would jus fight me off and say incest is wrong and homosexuality is ok without explaining why. I'm glad your patient n actually try to understand the point I'm making unlike most people

[Anonymous]

I don’t have anything against gay people but there is some of them that i hate those who tries to force you into becoming gay and those who acts like clowns but i dont have anything against those who acts like a normal person who you could be friends its okay if you dont like gay people but just dont be mean to them it really hurts for them

[BeMuse]

What do you do jump in the bushes when you see gay people? What's your flight response?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

No exactly terrible just…. I’d saw Misty. It would be nice if you meet one of my……. I guess we can call her an asset for now. (Name for Race is not official).

[rcljr]

Who says you have to be around them or interact with them? Just ignore them.

[SmokinAces2000]

I wouldn’t say your a terrible person but you are pretty close I mean who hates a whole group of people based on something they can’t control smh

[SupremeWarlord]

No, I wouldn't call you that, but keep treating gay people well.

[Anonymous]

No, you are a very good person. You are fighting for good, justice, beauty, and respect. You should not use that word though, as you are just a normal good person. "Phobic" means to be scared of something, a dumb meaningless term.

[Hanmakev]

Yes you are and that’s okay it is very disgusting what they’re doing your not a terrible person

[Anonymous]

You're probably just overstressed. Find some nice guy to give you a blowjob

[OddBeMe]

Certainly a negative trait.

[Tunasub]

No just ignorant...