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I wasn't exactly bullied in high school, but there were bullies, and I was a potential target. Some of my tactics were:
1. Hiding/avoidance: I just wasn't around the aggressive people, and I made myself scarce when they were around. A practice of being invisible.
2. Looking dangerous, being mysterious ("Goth"): I wore black, I mean I actually really liked black clothing, I thought it looked cool. I did carry a concealed 9" Bowie knife around, but it wasn't for self defense or anything, and I never brandished it, I just thought it was cool and wanted to get really good at throwing it. I didn't open up to many people in high school other than on a superficial level.
3. Hung with a crowd, "the stoners": not a conscious decision, but I was a broke street kid and so that was who I was most comfortable around. Turns out they were kind of scary to other cliques at school, so for whatever reason, we were more or less left alone.
I never considered martial arts at all until I read a book by Chuck Norris when I was 14 and it changed the way I looked at martial arts. I then wanted to learn but had no money for lessons and no idea how to train myself. When my mother died I was 23 and I took some of the money she left and started to train jujitsu at a dojo. I'm very glad I did and I love practicing martial arts for fitness and the mental focus, but I would not recommend it as a (violent) tactic to deal with bullying. It could help you learn to avoid and minimize violence, but it could also end up getting you into more trouble. Sort of the same way owning and carrying a gun dramatically increases your chances of getting shot, yet at the same time affords you a certain security.
No, not the best way, but ONE way. I did boxing for years, ever since 2015, and used to do mixed martial arts/jiujitsu, and now that COVID has let up a little, I'm doing kickboxing again. I have to go tonight, actually.
As lame and cheesy as it sounds, the best way to deal with bullies is love and acceptance. Kill 'em with kindness. Most bullies act out because they're angry and feel unloved, and such. But then, you have the ones who are just assholes and sociopaths. THOSE guys, yeah, you can kick the asses of, before they grow up to become corporate CEOs.
If you mean by learning self control, than yes. Going in thinking your going to have your hands registered as lethal weapons and your going to kick the ass of anyone who crosses you, no. It does make you fit. And knowing how to handle yourself does make you feel pretty good. In the end you let the bullies vent their pathetic hot air, then go to the studio after school and have fun training with your buddies.
The best way is to have teachers actually recognize bullying and have the school punish it severely. But I have a friend who was the quiet kid in class who got bullied and he ended it with one kick so I am sure it can be effective but it should be a last resort
I know they don't, which is why I would bring it up. It is a problem but it could the best solution if they actually recogniwed it. Because they should do their job and shut it down before it comssnto violence
Your friend's solution was much better. Not only it worked, but it also grows your own self-respect when you stand up for yourself. If you always resort to adults standing up for you, you'll remain weak and have low self-esteem. The bullies will just laugh at you and immediately attack you again when the adults are not there to help you. And what are you going to do when you're an adult and someone starts harassing you and you've never learned to stand up for yourself?
Don't be sad for a guy who had the chance to stand up for himself. That's what makes a man stronger. Not someone who always has to rely on authority to help them. School is supposed to teach, and it's better to teach kids to stand up for themselves rather than relying on authority.
There's nothing wrong in defensive "violence". In fact it's not even violence because violence implies "violation". And he didn't violate any moral principles. Everyone has every right to use physical force as a defense if that's what it takes.
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Sort of, but not because it teaches how to fight. It gives you confidence and that's what scares bullies more than anything. Indeed, I suspect most of the fighting they teach in martial arts would only help a tiny bit in a real fight. Nothing can train you to survive having your head kicked in. You can only hope to train for tips on how to avoid it, but it's a random universe and training only helps to the extent that a situation stays predictable. Even if you win a fight with a bully, the whole thing about bullies is they are "confidence vampires" and you will have taken theirs. They will hold a grudge and you will not be safe if you turn your back on them thinking you have won while only showing them that only a more drastic response has a chance of working out for them. The better solution is to convince them not to fight in the first place by having the confidence to listen to them and try to sort out why they are on this path, then help them off of it.
Of course the people who are supposed to have that responsibility are their parents. Which you are not. So it's an unfair situation any way you slice it. When learning to survive in an uncivilized environment is a lesson forced on children because their parents are busy chasing money, that's a bad economic system.
If we didn't grow up in a school system that treated kids who stood up for themselves and fought back worse than the bullies themselves, I'd say yes. Instead though, having a decently large group of friends that stick by each other is more valuable. I don't recall anyone who had even a couple dependable friends ever really being bullied, but God help a kid who was a loner. Honestly, the girls were the worst especially to each other. I think every suicide my school district ever had even after I was long gone was a girl who was bullied by other girls, usually involving drug use somewhere in there too.
I can't say no. My grandfather learned how to box when he was in the service. He knew that I would be a target for bullies and taught how to box in 3rd and 4th grade. I'm glad he did. People seem to act as if school staff is always going to stop a fight before it starts or prevent bullying altogether and its not going to happen. Teaching a kid how to defend themselves is the way to go. Also they will be ready to do so as adults if they ever need to. Because fights do still happen when you are adults and so does bullying.
The Police Activity League taught me freestyle wresting, folk style wrestling, greco-roman wrestling, judo, and boxing free of charge. All I had to do was show up and not give up… We were the number one ranked team in the state and I was the number one ranked wrestler in my weight class. A number of the kids that dedicated themselves to the boxing program boxed golden gloves... It was very good instruction and we even trained with Olympians on occasion. Money is never an excuse if you want to learn something… That said, sure when you know how to fight well, most people don’t want to be on the receiving end of it… A lot of people do want to see you fight though...
It’s one of the best ways because they train you to hope for the best but prepared for the worst.
I didn’t start my martial arts journey until age of 17. I learned to never use my combat skills unless my health was threatened or someone I know was threatened but can’t defend themselves. Most schools advocate on solving things diplomatically and using your words. The old ancient proverb is the pen is mightier than the sword for reason.
I never was really bullied personally because I never took shit from people and I was very good being friendly.
I voted yes but I think even better is to be social, funny and all around cool person. Even if someone tries to bully you, you'll have friends to help you. And no one wants to mess with someone who has tons of friends to help them.
If that's just not your personality then martial arts is probably the best choice. It'll give you confidence to stand up for yourself and that's the best way to stop someone from bullying you. But you don't want to brag about it, that'll just attract challengers.
Not necessarily, though they will help to instil self confidence which changes the vibes the youngsters put out which bullies will pick up on and they will go after a less challenging target, we did this with my nephew who has attained his karate black belt, which inevitably made him a bit cocky, which I had to knock out of him, he was surprised how easily I took him down as I have not studied any of martial arts, but I’ve worked in jobs were I’ve learned a variety of techniques from different martial arts. As grappling skills are seldom taught in karate these days he has decided to find another art he is comfortable in to learn grappling skills, he has learned that the schooling never stops.
No. I mean, it’s not bad, and certainly better to know something than nothing, but I don’t think it’s a guarantee. My buddy said there was a kid at his high school who was a martial artist, some kind of karate I think, and everyone was like “ohhhh, don’t mess with that guy”, but then he actually got in a fight at school, with someone who wasn’t even known for being a tough guy, and he fucking totaled the karate kid, sent him to the hospital, and everyone was like “oh shit, dude was a paper tiger.”
Yeah. I was a short kid, I was quiet, and I moved schools a lot because my parents moved all the time. We were also working class. So I had to deal with a lot of that.
The only thing thing that would stop them was a punch in the face, and boxing classes were cheap so I went there almost every day. Even if they’re a lot bigger and likely to win the fight, if they know they’re gonna get hit they’ll go choose a kid who won’t fight back at all.
Verbal self defense is what's needed in schools, however, that will probably never happen because of the necessity for underpaid teachers to maintain control of the classroom, physical martial arts, can be a good thing though IF you can control your impulse to use it constantly, if not however, you can actually make yourself more vulnerable, to more potential attackers, this is why you MUST respect the arts if you decide to learn them
No. Martial arts aren't actually all that effective in a street fight where there are no rules, unless you're doing MMA, which is specifically tailored for a more real-world scenario. Even then, it's still not a great way of dealing with things because if you did physically fight back in school, you'd just be expelled, putting you in a different but still bad situation. Though it would feel pretty good.
The best way to deal with school bullies is to alert the school staff, then have your family raise hell when the school inevitably doesn't do anything to prevent the bullying. Then the bully gets taken care of and you can sue the school for a pretty penny, which can help with the exploitative student loans that they will throw at you when you're older.
Martial arts teaches the basics, if you use them in terms of a tournament, then yes, but if you support them and teach them proper footwork, how to counter, deflect, parry, gapple, and throw their weight around, they will do just fine in a streetfight, biggest thing is the mental self-discipline for using it properly
Suing the school isn't a short-term solution to bullying. Bullies pick on the weak. It's no fun for them if the victim fights back.
The best thing about knowing the martial arts is that you are reasonably comfortable with yourself and the knowledge that you can defend or pro-actively attack for your safety in certain situations.
The best of dealing with bullies is to avoid wasting your time confronting them if possible.
* oops. The best WAY of dealing
Absolutely
Parkour and freerunning can help too
Martial Arts is definitely a great way to build confidence and be included in a community. I think most sports have the same qualities, but only Martial Arts help against physically confrontational bullies.
Hail nah I’m not sure what the best way to deal with bullies is but taking martial arts lessons and trying to fight is a very roundabout way to getting your ass beat. Most martial arts are basically useless in an average combat situation (unless it’s one of the few useful ones and even then it’s going to be useless until it’s basically second nature for you which will take years). If someone wants self defense lessons take up mma
Martial Arts teach respect, discipline, and self control. It is done through combat techniques, but it's not about the techniques, it's about the other things. You would be better at fighting, but the best way is to avoid fights or ending them in a nonviolent way.
It's not the best but it's still effective. They don't only attack their victims physically tho but mentally or emotionally too and if you're mentally/emotionally weak, you're a target. I'd say verbal judo is the best one. Because even if you're weak physically, you still know how to embarrass them and get them in trouble.
It helps. Though my solution was to accept the title as the kid who's got no friends and sits in the corner of the class. however. I did beat the fuck out of three guys at once, so nobody would try to start anything.
They left me alone, but everyone else also left me alone.
10/10 would recommend.
Probably. This guy use to pick on a lot of people when we were in middle school he ended up pulling my hair when I wasn’t facing him and I just got up and punched him in the nose. He cried and kept his hands to himself the end.
it is one way but another way is that 10 of us surrounded these black bullies who were ganging up on individuals. We held them down and someone cut through their Achilles tendons with a knifge. That is the price you pay for tormenting and assaulting others while in a gang. Their black parents were outraged, then extremely embarassed when it all came out.
It doesn't have to be particularly Martial Arts, as long as as it's geared for self defense.
Probably learning a single very efficient punch has the same effect. You don't need to channel your inner Chuck Norris, you just need to show your bullies you're someone they shouldn't mess with.
Naw, you can just pump iron and beat the crap out of them. That's what I did. It was pretty fun actually. Once you bulk up they don't fuck with you anymore anyway.
After retirement of instructing offensive martial-arts 35 years... the more disapline you've gathered upon your class ranks , the less you ever have a reason to be in a position to accually need combative retaliatory measures to attack.
The best way? I think so, when you’re talking about the individual person (s).
My little cousin is age 7 and has been taking Martial Arts for 2 years now and she has a great instructor
One of the best ways perhaps. Wish I had close combat martial arts classes. But due to my degenerate family being penniless losers (I grew up so poor I was literally on starvation and my rib cage could be clearly seen) I turned into a helpless victim of bullies. I could fend some of them off by physical assault but there were a few, who were much stronger than me.
The only way to make bullies piss off is to do whatever they do to you many times worse to them.
Literally nothing else puts them in their place.
The best way to deal with them is to face them and get them to back down. Most bullies will back down.
I think boxing is the best way you keep your hands up you dont punch from your waist
I don’t think so. I did martial arts but never got any good, some people just aren’t good at fighting
Take possession of your mind. That is the only solution to anything personal. And everything is personal though is appears not. #YoungerAndWiser
Because they will not let you go, if you are beaten up again and again. You have to stand up against them. For that you would need to learn martial arts.
Yes, violence deters people from bullying you again, standing up to bullies should be glorified
Attempting to learn arts wouldn't be effective if you are not naturally athletic.
It helped me a lot.
After 3 months at about 14 y. o., changed my life completely, in a good way.
It's not a good way to deal with bullies but it's a good form of self defense.
Martial arts build character and confidence, it will take a few years, but it definitely helps.
The best way to deal with bullying, if someone is still in school, is to tell someone. Tell a teacher, tell your parents, but you have to tell someone.
It can be if you're willing to use the martial art you are trained in.
No it's not. The best way to deal with bullies is to stand up to them.
talking from experience hell yea!
just make sure you dont over do it and then have dumb teachers think that you are the real bully
You could spend years practicing martial arts, or just buy a knife or gun.
Martial arts and a combat sport are two different things. Practice a combat sport and kick their ass.
Pretty good way teaches you discipline as well
Really good for increasing self esteem.
I have always wanted to learn, it looks so cool!
What's a few gold dots between friends? 💛
There's also verbal karate.
I think that's a great idea.!
Bring a gun and just blow them away
That’s excessive.
Or alternatively, not kill someone. But whoop their ass and proving you’re the better man, the champ, the ultimate warrior. Giving him a chance to reconsider his horrible behavior and do better in the future so he can be a good person one day.
Alright..
@Celtero We are talking about school bullies. It doesn’t need to get that violent. Automatically bringing a gun into a physical altercation can jump it to manslaughter/ murder.
People respect you more if you whoop someone’s ass then show kindness after. Yeah he might want a round two but he also deserves a chance redemption than ending his life immediately because he’s being an asshole
@FriendlyDrugDealer You underestimate the intensity of some people's bullying, it can extend to violence, molestation and humiliation. If the man says he wish he'd have killed him, you can assume he had a damn good reason to. Who cares about the bully's life? What are you, some kind of bully apologist?
@Celtero No, Im not a “bully apologist”. I never have ever bullied anyone or haven’t been bullied. I’ve been interactions that led to physical altercations and I got lucky based on my background in mma I can defuse the situation before it escalates too much such as putting them in a choke hold, arm bar, etc.
I did pure striking till I was 22 then I learned wrestling and some basic submissions which I relied heavily on more to calm things down instead of straight knocking someone out and causing heavy damage to their body. If it gets more intense then I will do everything I can to end them if I have to but most martial artists are trained to give their opponents a chance to reconsider before it gets too crazy beyond repair.
To go straight to killing is unnecessary, it’s one thing to have a gun which I understand but we are talking about kids and teenagers. That’s excessive.
Not unless you want things to always get physical.
Helps.
It depends, I guess.
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