If I’m being honest, as long as whatever is being asked of me, is being asked in a polite way, I’m really not THAT bothered by the absence of the word “please”. Like if a friend asked “Hey Laura, could you pass me that pink belt?” I’d probably never even think about it. However, if there was no “Thank you, or Thanks!” After I passed her the belt, THAT would bother me. I suppose, like most things in life, as in verbal communication, tone is often way more important than the actual words being spoken. (For the following example let’s just pretend my middle name is “Annabelle” and my last name. Is “Smith”) For example, if I was back at 16, and I rolled my eyes (as I often did) and sarcastically said “Oh, thank you SO much mom for this incredible opportunity to grow as a woman, by doing the dishes! My mother would have given me the old “Laura Annabelle Smith, don’t you EVER speak to me that way! Do you understand me young lady?” Now if I’d have tried something like playing dumb, and asked “what? I said thank you!” my mother would have just killed me! Now I know a lot of teens are fond of hyperbole, but trust me on this one, if I EVER spoke to my mother like THAT! She would have physically… physically.. KILLED me! And believe me, my saying in a surprised TONE, “what? I said thank you!” Would not have eased my suffering… AT ALL!
Ummmmm I don't think it bothers me at all. I think it only bothers me if the person rarely spends time with me or doesn't make time for me in their lives. An example is my bestfriend got a boyfriend and completely ditched me. She wasn't busy and lived 5 minutes from me. For a year and a half she rarely answered any texts I sent her because she was on the phone or with him 24/7. She would reach out when she needed something. So it is not the same thing as "not saying thank you", but she also expected me to help her when she didn't regard me as a priority in her life. Other than that it never bothers me if someone doesn't say thank you. I think someones I FORGET to say thank you. Not because I don't appreciate someone;; but becaus I think people don't pay attention, are too busy in a rush in their lives, or something else.
It depends, if I don't know you I'm more sensitive to it. I don't like people who are disrespectful. But all I'm really expecting is a nod or a look, some form of acknowledgement.
Especially if it's someone I know. I don't need people to say please or thank you to me most of the time, I can tell by your actions if you're a respectful person.
Sometimes people just say it to get on my good side and that is a sure way to piss me tf off.
Yes because it shows no sense of gratitude. Even if I do something for you that did cost money I would appreciate a person showing gratitude and acknowledge the effort I did. If that´s missing several times it makes me evaluate my relationship with that person.
Yes, it does. But in all fairness, sometimes a person's mind is elsewhere and it's not intentional. I can easily recognize those occasions. For example, if I hold the door open at a funeral, I hold no grudges against someone who is grieving and isn't with it. The facial expression usually tells me.
Related to but slightly off topic. I was raised to say please and thank you, and when I was a small child was gently reminded on those rare occasions I forgot. All the way through school, if my mom dropped me off at someone's house or at a party her parting words were "don't forget to say please and thank you." She dropped me off at a friend's house for the weekend the latter part of my senior year in high school, and said "don't forget to say please and thank you." It irritated me, and I told her "good grief mom, I'm not a child." Her comeback was "OK, no drugs, no sex, no alcohol. Was that better?" Lol
It really just depends! For example I used to be a checker clerk for a grocery store, many people were super kind and courteous! Always said "Thank you miss" or simply "Mille mercis" which in French is Many thanks.
However, I have had some rather ride people as well, oftentimes would throw their money on the table and totally disregard my existence.
🤷🏽 People are often confusing, it does bother me slightly, I know people can be good, it just irks me that some choose to be that way.
I actually don't care so much about please, but thank you is always nice.
Like @SaoirseS said, sometimes people don't say it as they are a by preoccupied. I'm definitely guilty of this at work. Things get busy and hectic and I'll forget to say it just as some of my coworkers will. We usually try to find each other when things calm down and say thank you.
Yes, as I was taught to always show appreciation/show I'm grateful when someone does something nice for me. So, when I do something for someone, I expect a smile and a little "thank you" Not do something for me in return, but just say "thank you"
Well yeah, that's just common courtesy! As a Southern girl, that's how most of us are raised: to say please, thank you, say sir and ma'am, and just be respectful to others when interacting with them.
I don't expect it all the time, but a little courtesy is nice, especially if you're asking me to do something for you.
Yes it does. My ex’s brother would always want favors done for him, but he would never ask in a polite way.. He also wouldn’t ever say please or thank you.. It absolutely irked my nerves. I still hate him to this day because he was such a rude person.
Yes. Especially my mom. Just because you were the gate for me to get here, doesn't mean I'm your little slave to clean up after YOU everytime. I try to clean up after myself, because then I'm like her. She fails to do such thing. (:
At work, where it can be quite constant and where it can at times go from being impolite to just outright disrespectful way of asking. I do admit that I needed two breathers from in today.
Yes. It bothers me even when I just hold the door for someone and they walk in without saying thanks. That's the time when I usually say "You're welcome".
sometimes, but i am a very sweet person i love to help others. it also depends on the tone and how you say it. i hate it when someone gives me order but someone is saying it in a polite manner i will definetly not mind.
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