According to research, women can see men as platonic friends whereas men cannot necessarily do the same. Your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

To sum up these pieces of evidence, it seems
as if platonic friendships amongst men and
women is more or less one-sided.
Women, can see men as friends and keep it
strictly platonic.
Men cannot do the same necessarily.

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+1 y

Perhaps it’s well understood in society that the word “friendzone” is in reference to women friendzoning men, not the other way around since men do not necessarily think of women as friends, platonically. There is no friendzone that men have.
It is either if the man wants to intimately be with you or not it seems.

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+1 y

There’s a few advantages to men having female “friends” even ones they do not find attractive. For example, these women can introduce you to their friends or associates who may be what you fancy. It can be a networking maneuver. Also, being around women in general, can boost your sexual value in a certain setting so that you can get the attention of a women that you do want to attract. Women can be fantastic “wingmen.”

[bademoxy]

depends on how physically attractive I find a woman friend. There's some who look like a bulldog but I have a fun time associating with. In fact they're often far better as people because they weren't born with high status beauty , thus haven't the biological "privilege" which opens many doors.

[IceCreamSandwich]

Horse shit. You can be friends with men. You can be friends with children. There's no excuse for not being able to be friends with women. If you can't control your attraction then that's a problem you should address, not an excuse.

[England4eva]

How men fail to recognize the beauty of friendship is beyond me.

[Guy__]

If I'm not sexually attracted to a girl but she is a good person and wants to be friends, it's somewhat painful to deny her. Or if she's attractive and in a relationship, I don't see her as sex material and still can have a normal friendship.

[England4eva]

@Guy__ That's awesome. Women love being friends with guys (certain guys) It doesn't make you a bad person if you are a guy, who cannot fathom this. However, you definitely miss out if for whatever biological reason, you are unable to extend your friendship group :)

[Asker]

@Guy__

Some men have said this, but the majority do the think the same as you from what the research suggests.

As for me personally, I cannot imagine being this way.

Out of respect for the man, I wouldn’t want to be platonic friends with a woman that I would’ve became intimate with had it been an option.

To me, continuing being friends with her would be weird.

Or, if she breaks up, perhaps I’m the first man that she will go to and maybe become intimate with me.

This has happened and is exactly why these things do not work out in the real world.

Online, people can write what they want.

In practice? I know no one who is legitimately platonic friends with women they have zero desire to ever become intimate with even if the option was present

[England4eva]

Can you sum this up better please? Struggling to read it

[Asker]

Try reading it more slowly.

[England4eva]

Cheeky sod

[SaoirseS]

If that’s what you want to believe, knock yourself out.

[Asker]

“According to research”

It’s not what I want to believe strictly

[NathanDavis]

it turns out that... according to research and studies, "Most Published Research Findings Are False" and they do not stand the test of replication... lmao

" Abstract

Summary
There is increasing concern that most current published research findings are false. The probability that a research claim is true may depend on study power and bias, the number of other studies on the same question, and, importantly, the ratio of true to no relationships among the relationships probed in each scientific field. In this framework, a research finding is less likely to be true when the studies conducted in a field are smaller; when effect sizes are smaller; when there is a greater number and lesser pre-selection of tested relationships; where there is greater flexibility in designs, definitions, outcomes, and analytical modes; when there is greater financial and other interest and prejudice; and when more teams are involved in a scientific field in chase of statistical significance. Simulations show that for most study designs and settings, it is more likely for a research claim to be false than true. Moreover, for many current scientific fields, claimed research findings may often be simply accurate measures of the prevailing bias. In this essay, I discuss the implications of these problems for the conduct and interpretation of research. "

journals.plos.org/.../journal.pmed.0020124

[Asker]

@NathanDavis

So, a research piece stating that research is false?

So, this piece must be false then?

🤦🏻‍♂️

I’m not sure where you got this, but it is clearly wrong or misinformed.

Plenty of published research is quite viable.

Not all of course.

[NathanDavis]

[Asker]

You don’t have to believe in it.

It’s a free country.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have had several female friends.

[Asker]

I won’t question you over them.

Just understand where I’m coming from.

I’m sure you’re quite familiar with the notion that outliers or exceptions do not disprove the rule.

I can say “most men have penises. This is just a biological fact based in all sorts of evidence. Men have penises and women have vaginas.”

But you know, someone will say “well, I don’t have a penis” or “I don’t have a vagina” and they are the opposite gender or sex. Through some biological phenomenon, they were born a certain way.

It’s not their fault.

But it doesn’t disprove that men—penises

Women—vagina

You get what I’m saying, we can give limitless examples of this.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I understand the value - or lack of value - of anecdotal evidence. But it is what I know. I understand that other people think that men and women cannot be platonic friends. How often it happens, I do not know.

[penteractgaming]

Asking the other 3 dudebros in the coffeeshop doesn't count as research.

[Twalli]

I can. Those who say it can't happen, say it because they can't.

[KrakenAttackin]

That's because women see men as a source or resources.

[NathanDavis]

and here we go again... lol

[Asker]

Hopefully, I’ll get more diversity in thought on this matter. I’m hoping that evidence/research can appeal to people’s senses.

Also, it is a slightly different topic.

It showcases how different the genders view friendships amongst each other.

[jimmy2]

I don't think so