Do you think having kids past age 30 is more stressful?

Question

Explain why and why not.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've had two kids before 30 (ages 25 and 27) and twins at 40 (3 years ago) so I feel fairly qualified to talk about this

In my experience having kids after 30 is WAY less stressful for several reasons
1. Financial security (I'm financially stable now as opposed to in my 20s. Consequently finances aren't nearly as stressful as when I was parenting before 30)
2. Job security (Career wise I've established myself in a place where I have much more flexibility than I did when I was just starting out)
3. I've got 2 teenage daughters that help me out
4. I've got a supportive husband (I put this last because there are plenty of women who have supportive partners in their 20s. However, I didn't, and I had to basically raise my two girls on my own. However, this time around I have a very supportive husband who takes an active role in taking care of our boys. That makes a HUGE difference).

So for me taking care of my kids now is a lot easier than when I was raising my two girls before I was 30.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Yes.

Birth defects, complications, and severe health repercussions (more so than regular childbirth) become exponentially more common over the age of 35.

Even in men, the older you get, the more chance you'll produce a baby with defects. But fertility as a function of age doesn't affect men as much as women.

Where I live, there's enough recognition of this that, if you do get pregnant after 35, your test costs are covered by the government - because you're likely going to need more support and there's a higher chance of something going wrong.

So yes, giving birth as you age is going to be more stressful on the body. But it was never easy to begin with.

And raising a child when you're READY to raise one is much more important than rushing into having on as soon as you can.

Childbirth is one thing. But raising the child you've given birth to? That's the real stressor.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

No. I think it's less stressful because people have more patience as they get older. After they get even older, it has the opposite effect though.

I remember I was with some friends. I think we were in our mid-late 50s at the time. One of the guys asked if we had a chance to have more kids would we do it. Only one out of three guys said yes. The other two gave the same answer - they didn't have enough patience any more to raise a kid. I was in the second group. I wanted to relax when I was 70, not deal with a rebellious teenager.

There are some negatives to having kids in your 30s and 40s, but I think the positives outweigh the negatives.

lofii · Accepted Answer

Depends.

Health wise. If you're physically fit you will be more inclined to handle the stress of carrying a baby and delivering it safely.

Money wise. By that age your life should be together to where you can financially support having a child

If you don't have either or it will get pretty rough. Never heard of anyone really having kids past 30.

shaysh87 · Answer

If you dont have enough money or you don't have an established good career, it will be more stressful.

If you're too old , you won't have enough energy to keep up with your kids. You will likely also work beyond retirement age to support your kids through college, which will be very tough on you.

Ideal age for having kids is 30-35. This is the age where people are financially stable, mature and not too old

ManofHistory · Answer

I think it probably is more stressful and just harder in general. The body is older and thus isn't able to handle as much as a younger body, but also when the baby is at their more stressful, probably teenage years, the mother will be in their 40's or 50's and probably feeling the weight of time on their shoulders in addition to the pain of parenthood.

exitseven · Answer

I had my 3 kids in my 20s. We were not financially stable and I was really not prepared for ll the responsibility. We struggled from day the first one was born until we got the last one through college 25 years later. I really have on regrets but I think I might have been better prepared a few years later.

menina · Answer

No, I don't think so. Having kids is always stressful regardless of your age. They're an huge responsibility and they demand a lot of time and attention.

lightbulb27 · Answer

might depend on your job and support. with age, sometimes comes more financial and job stability, offsetting stress... as well as possible emotional maturity making easier to handle. someone I know just had kiddo at 37.

Avicenna · Answer

My first child was born when I was 37, and I didn't have any problems. But it would be harder for someone who is in bad physical condition because the kids will wear them out.

Guy13 · Answer

Yes because there’s never a better and later time to have kids. It’s never convenient. Do it at 23 and be finished at 46 coming into 25 years worked in Pfizer etc…

Adaeva · Answer

I don't know if it is more stressful but younger women are more flexible so births are easier and they have more energy.

dustybiker · Answer

No. Female in my lines are late bloomers and much later to menopause too. We tend to age slower also.

Anonymous · Answer

No only because my mom had my sister at 33 and my mom was much more financially stable than when she had me at 21. In general yes it could be more stressful on the body but having kids is always stressful

Doom880 · Answer

No, I don't think that's an old age. Most women get married in their late 20s-early 30s nowadays  Now if it's over 40, I guess so

Apple1996 · Answer

Yep more stressful on the mind and body. That's why I plan on not having any more babies past 30

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It depends on how healthy you are. And also it's stressful to have a kid at anyage till you become accustomed to it

Sixgunsound · Answer

Raising kids at any age is stressful, but totally worth it.

OddBeMe · Answer

Actually id say 30s is prime baby making. 1) its harder than teens or 20 yr olds, so you prove to yourself you want one, and 2) you're more settled and hopefully have a career.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I was unable to have kids, so it wouldn't have mattered.

OnKoing · Answer

Cos everyone in their school will think that grandma or gramps bring them in every day

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Physically for her perhaps, but not so much financially. It might even be better considering how high prices are.

curiousearthling · Answer

Many couples under the age of 30 don't have the salary to have a kid, so having them in your 30s or later is not only fine but probably the better option.

Kelly6 · Answer

Not for all if you have good financial support then no

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

For me it would be less stressful because I would presumably have a stable job and a place to live, as well as some cash from working over the years

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Nope. I think people are much better equipped to be parents in their 30s than their 20s

Anonymous · Answer

No, probably less financially stressful and still easier for the mother

RebeccaSJ · Answer

I've had 3, starting at 36.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes, because biology.

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Who wants to be 50 at a highschool graduation

Fuentes · Answer

Probably i got no patients for kids

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s OK you’ll be fine

JohnK123 · Answer

I don’t think it’s a negative thing 🤷‍♂️

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Everything is more stressful over 30.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I'd hope they'd have moved out before then.

Nancyjane · Answer

No, they are good for your future

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

After 35 it's risky

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