Why is it okay to ask a woman how tall she is but not a man?

[Subarugirl]

[Bluemax]

Personally I don't think that there should be anything wrong with it.

That being said, it's a person's right to ask the question, and it's a person's right to refuse to answer.

Although you believe that asking a man's height is completely different from asking a woman's weight, I believe that they are analogous. Women are understandably sensitive about their weight and its relationship to their attractiveness, and men are likewise understandably sensitive about height and its relationship to attractiveness, though I tend to think weight is more strongly correlated. Furthermore, I think that some of it is linked to height and being bullied while growing up. Over 22 years of teaching I have noticed this. Boys are bullied because of their height. Girls are bullied for other things, but generally not their height. And this can last into adulthood, sadly. Smaller guys are more likely to be picked on than bigger ones.

It's generally only the shorter men who find it unacceptable, if you've noticed. They are much more likely to be offended by the question. I suppose in extreme cases it's a form of body dysmorphia. Bagel Boss's outburst comes to mind (look him up if you don't know who he is). Man, does that man have issues!

Any rate, I for one would like to see a world where people are free to talk and ask about their bodies as well as others.

[Bluemax]

P. S. The guy in your pic looks like a former friend of mine... except my friend has a full head of hair.

[Subarugirl]

I was bullied for my height too

[Bluemax]

Would I be correct in guessing you are taller than average height?

[Subarugirl]

Of course, but also I believe that asking someone’s weight is different than asking someone weight. That is two completely different units of measurement, and the measurement of two completely different things.

[Anonymous]

Even as a short guy I’m fine with being asked for my height. In fact one time me and this girl didn’t ask each other, we met up, and she was more than a head taller than me, which was awkward. We laughed it off, had a good time and stayed friends though. After that I always asked and stated my own height to avoid that.

I think some frustrated guys just get pissed off with women who say that they’ll only date guys who are over 6 feet tall. To be fair, some people, both men and women, will insult and mock short guys a lot for no good reason, and maybe that’s part of it.

Then those guys respond by asking how much the woman weighs, and this often leads to the woman hurling insults at the guy, calling him a shallow misogynist piece of shit etc. They find it funny because they see that as a double standard.

But I suppose to properly answer your question, the difference between men and women here is that we find different things attractive and have different turn-offs, which means that we’re judged for different things. Men are more likely to be judged by women based on our height, while women are more likely to be judged by men based on their weight. Which obviously means that each will tend to also develop insecurities around this.

[TacosRAwesome]

I think its ok to ask anyone how tall they are and you should accept any questions they have in response to that. No one has to answer someone's question though.

[MemeSupreme]

it's fine to ask anyone. i'm tall and people ask me from time to time, which is fine. i just get to expose guys that say they're 6'0 that aren't 😈

[htmndg183]

I'm 5'10. I just don't see the point in lying about my height lol. Similarly, if I match with a woman and she says she's 5'9 but when we meet for a date and she turns out to be 6'1, i will be unhappy that she started off with a lie. Indifferent about her being taller than me.

[MemeSupreme]

@htmndg183 yeah, that's how i feel about it too lol

[hahahmm]

Probably because dudes know that when a woman asks a question she is just seeking an excuse to reject the guy because she already know she's not into him. But when a guy asks he is just curious, like when you sniff the aroma of a plate of hot food you fully intend to eat.

Also because it rubs a guy the wrong way to know that the woman who claims men are shallow is asking a shallow question.

[Lionman95]

I´ve never heard it being a thing to ask a woman how tall she is.

But to answer your question because it´s an intimate information many guys don´t like to share. That´s so because they either made the experience or heard of other guy´s experiencing that height could be a dealbreaker for women in dating so if you´re not in a size that´s trendy you avoid talking about it.

So for some guys that´s a problematic topic while for others it isn´t.

[Finchie40]

I assume it’s coming from guys that are insecure about their height , I guess guys that are short feel a girl wouldn’t like him because of his height , just like some people are insecure about their weight etc. Most people have some sort of insecurity about themselves especially if they were picked on by others about it or they believe most the shit they see on the internet is real , so it can kill their ego

[NathanDavis]

I didn't know it was a problem...

I get asked that often and without being remarkably tall either... lol

and I just answer it because is not really a problem

I also do not go around asking women how tall they are, I've worked in construction before and other things in which you just develop a good eye for these things, lmfao...

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Nobody has ever said this is not okay because we get asked this question every single day and women on dating apps ask this as the first question before even talking to us. It’s become normalized now. Some women will flag out just say we have to be a certain height to even talk to her.

[Subarugirl]

Some men do the same exact thing. Why would you want to waste your time talking to someone who isn’t attracted to you?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

It’s not about that. Men accept women of all body weights. There’s a lot of guys that find beauty in bigger women, skinny women etc. But only one height of man is wanted by women which is 6ft plus tall

[Subarugirl]

Then why are the grand majority of men in relationships under 6ft…. ?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Could be due to them being extremely handsome or big penis or extremely wealthy

[Subarugirl]

When why is the average penis under 6 inches and the average male income under 100k?

[20yearsolder]

What is this question keep coming up, it's okay to ask a man how tall he is, usually it's the women that get upset because they're 5'2 and they're not proud of their height but it shouldn't be a problem asking anyone hey how tall are you

[Subarugirl]

Really because there a tons of guys on here that don't think it's okay

[20yearsolder]

And I don't understand why, I've never been offended by male or female asking me my height. I've never heard any man be offended by that question

[20yearsolder]

What is the explanation that you get when they say it's offensive

[Subarugirl]

something about height queens and that their height isn't something that they can change.

[20yearsolder]

Sounds like inferiority complex, the short dudes have a problem with someone asking about their height. It's no different than them asking a woman's breast size, which she can't change. Asking her height, which she can't change. Here's my opinion, if somebody is offended to buy a woman asking them their height, she needs to run away from this douchebag

[Staximus]

When did the fucking snowflakes decide it's not ok to ask a man his height? If women want to know, I tell them. If they don't like the fact I'm 5'7", oh well. They probably don't like the fact I'm old, fat, bald, broke, and cantankerous as a badger either.

[melanieeeB]

Who said that? Personally I think go ahead and politely ask whatever you want but if the other person doesn't like the question, they don't have to answer lol

[bigpauly]

Asking either is fine on the surface.

it’s only a problem when strangers ask someone in public who is an extreme height, then it seems like they are being rude and disrespectful.

I think I have seen you say strangers ask you, and I know strangers ask me in public. I am never ok with this. It makes me feel awkward and pointed out. But if someone asks here that generally doesn’t have an idea or something I don’t care at all.

[Lucifer_01]

Respect woman, or else world will sue you.

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that up message is for world, the thing is
there is no one on this planet who knows this answer

[jshm2]

Because in the case of a man, it can be two different measures.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/6zXDo4dL7SU

[Subarugirl]

Lol 😂

[crossdressingrihno]

Nah
The guys who are insecure will lie
The guys who are are confident? (Further information required)
The guys who don’t care will probably give you their height from like 3 or 4 years ago XD

[exitseven]

Who says you can't ask a guy how tall he is? I had girls ask me all kinds of embarrassing questions. I have a physical defect that I am really sensitive about and I have had girls make comments about it.

[UniquelyBasic]

Probably because mens insecurities are tied into height more than women. Not saying women can't be self conscious about their height but it seems men are far more concerned with it.

[JDavid25]

I'm pretty sure it's okay to ask a guy how tall he is..

[Smoothing]

It is not the question but the intent behind the question that is offensive.

[TheoPfeifle]

Reverse genders, change height to weight... Got your answer?

[Subarugirl]

That’s a totally different question… I’m asking about this one specifically

[TheoPfeifle]

It's a question about physical stature. There's no difference.

[TheoPfeifle]

If there's a difference, you have a double standard.

[Subarugirl]

Do you think that height and height the same?

[Subarugirl]

*do you think that height and weight are the same?

[TheoPfeifle]

I think they are both physical attributes and have the same bearing on a thought of this nature. In this case, the concept is identical... They are both measurements... One on the x axis and the other on the y axis. One is vertical, the other horizontal... Otherwise, identical concepts. 😉

[Subarugirl]

That’s like saying x is equal to z…. No it’s not

[TheoPfeifle]

They are quantified measurements of a person's size... Both or neither should be acceptable questions.

[Subarugirl]

Except weight isn’t… how much do you think I weigh?

[TheoPfeifle]

If wait is not acceptable, then height is not acceptable, either... I don't do double standards.

[TheoPfeifle]

*weight... Talk to text used the wrong homophone.

[Subarugirl]

its only a double standard if it's the same thing...…. That's like saying that pounds and inches are the same thing...

[TheoPfeifle]

Pounds and inches are different things, yes. That's not the argument. The argument is that they are both MEASUREMENTS PERTAINING TO PHYSICAL STATURE. Women more typically have body dysmorphophobia issues regarding weight and that's why the question of weight is taboo to them. Men typically have body dysmorphophobia issues regarding height and that's why the question of height is taboo to them. If you can't see the parallels I am talking about, then I believe we are wasting effort. I can communicate until I'm blue in the face, but it means nothing until the listener understands the concept. ✌️

[Subarugirl]

Okay, but pertaining to the question, it’s about height not weight.

[Subarugirl]

I have no issue being ask either, but I am asked about my height all the time.

[TheoPfeifle]

To answer directly (I was trying to get you to extrapolate it for yourself, to cement the point better... But that appears to have failed)...

It's generally okay to ask a woman about her height, and place importance upon it, because women don't typically face body dysmorphia issues regarding height. It's generally not okay to ask a man about his height, and place importance upon it, because men DO typically face body dysmorphia issues regarding height.

Again... Reverse genders and replace height with weight and you can see the parallels. In fact, I'll copy and paste the previous paragraph (verbatim, the same statement, with the following exceptions)... swap genders, and swap height for weight.

It's generally okay to ask a man about his weight, and place importance upon it, because men don't typically face body dysmorphia issues regarding weight. It's generally not okay to ask a woman about her weight, and place importance upon it, because women DO typically face body dysmorphia issues regarding weight.

Different measurements... Same concept.

To reiterate... To directly answer your question:

It's generally okay to ask a woman about her height, and place importance upon it, because women don't typically face body dysmorphia issues regarding height. It's generally not okay to ask a man about his height, and place importance upon it, because men DO typically face body dysmorphia issues regarding height.

[Subarugirl]

Well you could have just asked instead of being vague.

[TheoPfeifle]

I don't recall asking anything... As for being vague... It's a common response to switch genders and replace height with weight, when your exact question is asked. The statement is quite clear. My final answer is exactly what my original response implies... You just aren't good at extrapolation... Or too lazy to think. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[Subarugirl]

You didn’t, but you should have.
And it may be common but it’s a false comparison, apples to oranges if you will.

[TheoPfeifle]

I'm done repeating myself about the concepts you fail to understand, regarding body measurements and body dysmorphia. Again... We are wasting effort. ✌️

[Subarugirl]

lol well I would be happy to talk to you about it if you didn't completely change the question that was asked...

[TheoPfeifle]

I'm honestly of the mindset that you're not going to accept any legitimate answer, because it doesn't fit your agenda for upholding a double standard. You're very belligerent about ignoring pretty simple concepts that you're unwilling to accept.

That, or you're honestly incapable of any level of understanding simile, metaphor, or abstraction.

Either way... This is where I bow out.

[Blueeyes81]

You do like the extremes to try and make a point. You are also aware that there is more to this than tit for tat. But as far as I'm concerned both are fine to ask.

[Sixgunsound]

Anybody can ask anybody anything they want, they just might not like the answer or outcome.

[msc545]

For the same reason it's ok to ask a man how much he weighs but not a woman. God forbid you might offend a woman.

[Subarugirl]

The problem with that correlation is that weight is not synonymous with size.

[msc545]

There is no logical requirement that they be synonymous. The most important difference is that weight is mutable and height is not, ie, a person can change their weight with comparatively simple steps, while changing height, while not impossible, is very close to that.

The surgical procedure to gain height involves severing the leg bones, externally pinning and fixing them in place, and then slowly separating them as they grow back. It is reportedly very expensive and exceedingly painful and is done solely for cosmetic reasons. It is unreasonable for women to expect men to do this to satisfy their aesthetic requirements. Conversely, losing weight is pretty easy in comparison.

[Subarugirl]

Actually limb lengthening surgery is not done solely for cosmetic purposes... but yeah height and weight really isn't much of a comparison at all as you so clearly pointed out..

[msc545]

Other than cosmetics, why else would it be done? I cannot think of another reason.

[Subarugirl]

Specifically for people who are born with limb deformities, such as one limb shorter than the other. It was first developed in the early 1900s, and was originally used to treat a variety of conditions, including dwarfism, limb length discrepancy, and congenital deformities.

[msc545]

Interesting - I am going to look into that!

[Subarugirl]

Good :)

[msc545]

thanks - I am embarrassed that I had not thought of it.

[Subarugirl]

Its okay, most people to don’t think about it that way. Just like most people think that a rhinoplasty is a just cosmetic procedure.

[OnTheLevel]

For the same reason it's ok to ask a man how old he is or how much he weighs, but not a woman.

[Subarugirl]

…. Which is?

[OnTheLevel]

Societal norms

[Subarugirl]

Is is? How often are you asked how much you weigh?

[OnTheLevel]

Not often, but it isn't considered offensive to ask a guy his weight where asking a woman her weight is generally considered offensive or at least tactless.

[Subarugirl]

Because those are two completely different things

[OnTheLevel]

You just like to argue, don't you?

[Subarugirl]

Says the boy who thinks height and weight are the same thing….

[OnTheLevel]

You also have a bit of a reading comprehension problem 😂

[DavidRaul]

Who said it isn't ok to ask a man about his height. We don't get offended by this question

[Anonymous]

Cause women’s feelings get hurt w just about everything you ask them.

[Subarugirl]

Re read the question honey….

[loveslongnails]

Where does this question even come from? It makes no sense to me.

[bowenw]

I did not know it's not okay to ask a man's height. I've been asks hundreds of times.

[Juan4574]

It must be because all the women are midgets, the tallest in my class is only 177.

[Grubhub]

I never heard where it wasn’t okay. When a woman asks me how tall I am I know know she’s really interested in something.

[Heolurt]

Same reason why it's ok for females to fat shame guys but guys can't fat shame females.

[Subarugirl]

What are you talking about? That’s never been okay

[Heolurt]

Really because I see it all the time, it's why overweight females are plus sized but overweight guys are just overweight guys, there's no such thing as plus sized men and that's body shaming guys, so how does that make sense.

[Subarugirl]

uhhhh yes there is...…

[Subarugirl]

www.bing.com/search

[Heolurt]

Yet all the clothes on there are for guys still small enough

[htmndg183]

Its ok either way. Ask once, curiosity addressed, end of. No need to bring it up again and again. Really isn't a big deal. Thats how i see it.

[maximumpower]

No problem with either as long as it isn't posed as a question intended to be insulting/degrading/exclusionary.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Honestly, I don’t know and I’d be happy to say I’m 168cm (5’6”).

[Luopio27]

Im 188 cm tall and never will be offended by question of my height.

[TheBigGuy9]

Never knew that was a problem, though I’m 6’6”. If men are not okay with that, that’s pathetic.

[LordOfThePines]

When did it become not ok to ask how tall we are?

[Chthou95]

Why do women have a problem with being asked how much they weigh

[Subarugirl]

That’s not the question

[Chthou95]

The point is people don't like to be asked certain things about themselves even though im all for freedom of speech and you can ask them whatever they want

[MrReliable12]

Who said it’s not? Also you look absolutely gorgeous in your photo!

[innerman]

I mean. Why is it okay to ask a man their age and immoral to ask a woman

[Jouth]

Why is if okay to ask a man his weight, but not a woman?

[MrsTurkleton]

What’s with the whataboutary?
I wouldn’t think to ask a guy what he weighs. I don’t think people do that in general.

[Jouth]

It's acceptable. That's my point.

[eagle1951]

didn't know it wasn't alright to ask the guy

[TheMajesticKing777]

Who said it wasn't okay?

[Subarugirl]

Tons of but hurt men lol Just read though a few questions that have to do with height it's all right there

[TheMajesticKing777]

Really? I didn't think it was a problem, I guess I was mistaken

[ZS007]

i don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️

[FunkyMonkee]

Why would it be a bad thing?

[FunkyMonkee]

That's pretty strange that you can ask her her tit size and she has no problem answering but you can't ask her how TALL she is? WHY?

[Andres77]

💁🏼‍♂️💁🏼‍♂️💁🏼‍♂️

[MountAverage]

I wasn't aware of that.

[pizzalovershouse]

Wouldn't know most girls I know just ask

[Echosoul]

I get asked all the time but I am tall

[JohnK123]

Bc we don’t wanna get woken triggered

[EaterPeter]

Stigma attached questions.

[TallAnon]

That's fine, feel free

[Zolly99999]

Double standards...

[Anonymous]

Because men are bad? 🤷‍♂️ 🙄

[BLP11520]

Tall questions should be okay period.

[Kingofkings1992]

Huh? We can get asked that

[Gman66]

What's good for the goose is good for the gander

[Iron_Man]

It’s ok

[KenzoTak]

I never knew this