My parents think the only way to end racism is by not talking about racism. Do you agree with their approach?

[InsecureLivesMatter]

I live in a household where racism is considered a taboo subject and they almost never talk to my little brother (he is 11) or even to me about Black History Month. However, I have started seeing corporations celebrate it and discuss diversity and the lack of it. Heck, I've recognized it in classrooms when I was much, much younger in middle and high school (not sure about elementary).

Because of my past bad behaviors (often with racial slurs involved), my mom and stepdad banned me from ever talking about race. I only used them in anger and not as a way to discriminate against people, I wanted to feel superior because this is how the media and some angry professors treated me - inferior.

Good approach, I agree with your parents

Bad approach, I don't agree with your parents

[FunkyMonkee]

Morgan Freeman says the same thing!! The more you bring it up, it's like picking at a wound that's trying to heal. Or, having someone talk about a girlfriend you just lost when you're trying desperately to forget about her.

[QuietRunner]

That's also how the COVID-19 pandemic finished

The news stopped talking about it as soon as the current occupant of the White House was elected

[InsecureLivesMatter]

BINGO!

[Aerissa_Jade]

Lets face it, no one is ever going to change a racist. Focusing on race only makes people who never think about racism start to think about it and brings racism outward.

If people would focus on humans as people and stop worrying about skin color, it would be better.

Every time someone brings up a race issue though, it makes them look to their own race issues, as all races have issues.

I don't want all races fighting for special consideration for their own race, I say we fight for the human race and stop worrying about races.

[lightbulb27]

Depends what you mean by racism.

You can stop talking about it and treat others as you'd want to be treated. That is good, but others will keep talking about racism because their perspective is different. In essence, "wounds" control... that is... emotional programming. This is how the human mind works, you can study up on your own. Basically, what we see is not just what is there, it is a projection from our internal state including physical and training/emotion.

So your view of some emotionally impacting event will differ from anothers, you don't see racism and the other cries it out. Culture and environment influences perspective.

Broadening perspectives so that one sees with a different view, that will help. I guess that is the point behind black history, or one of them. Education in regards to ones perspective and challenges which differ from your own.

Black history isn't even that... it is AA history. There isn't much about Africa.

[DeviousD]

Your parents sound intelligent, I definitely agree with that sentiment & wish far more people would understand how this makes sense & would have far more success with eradicating racism than focusing on race in all facets of society where even the classrooms within "higher education" have become racism factories teaching hate for other's & hate for thyself if you happen to be Caucasian. It's an incredibly stupid & dangerous approach that's being implemented for some very specific reasons for the purpose of sowing division & we should absolutely adopt your parent's beliefs.

[kylee2437]

Racism is something that will never end because it’s a superiority complex to seeing difference. It’s also generationally handed down, so if you are taught to be racist by parents - you most likely will be and the cycle goes on. You can’t control how other perceive the world- but you can control it and I think what matters most is making sure you aren’t racist, just like I make sure that I am open minded and not racist.

[kylee2437]

I do think your parents approach is a bad approach because they are teaching you to not see color essentially which is unrealistic. We need to accept peoples differences

[InsecureLivesMatter]

In this rare case it was not my parents that taught me to be racist. I was surrounded by a bunch of internet trolls on "dark" websites I won't mention and the commentators on Fox News discussing so-called white genocide, as well as The Young Turks discussing so-called racist police brutality.

[InsecureLivesMatter]

That's exactly what they say, good point. Never see color as in not treating them different

[findacure4wokeness]

So do you think that If the whites continued to get replaced they won't notice as long as nobody talks about it?

[JamesDiaz11]

The tension can only decrease if both sides are willing to put it down. If only white people have to acknowledge guilt, or shut their mouth, while black people are allowed to throw undeserved shame our way as well as demand we be subservient socially.

White people need to humble them, make them grateful we permit them to live here.

[Kaneki05]

The only way racism will die out is when no one makes a big deal out of race which of course can't happen if people are doing so whether with good or bad intensions.
But with that been said you also cannot just ignore someone when they are been racist because that wouldn't change anything, it's not standing up to a bully which then the bully will just carry on unless put in their place.

[Potteplante]

I don't think you can ever ignore a problem away. The best way to end racism is to educate, to show right from wrong and to be a role model.

I think many parents ignore a lot of stuff when it comes to education and discipling their children & leave it upto the school system and the children to figure it out by themselves.

[Dargil]

In between. It's good to understand bigotry exists. It can be race, gender, political, religious, ideology, ancestry and even boob size. People always find a way to separate you from them. But while the 1619 is hogwash, there's also the truth, be it Slavery, interning the Japanese during WW2 or the Trail of Tears. It is important that we recognize it so we don't repeat it.

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[loveslongnails]

LOL That's like saying "I have a disease, and if I don't think about it, it will just go away". It's not a "stupid" approach, it's a non-approach, and all it does is deny there's any sort of issue in the first place, which any intelligent person knows is bullshit.

[loveslongnails]

LOL Who disagrees? LOL Which part.

[KrisKris81]

Racism is a global issue and won't go away just because a few people choose to ignore it. I think it's great that they are doing their part to stop the problem, but it won't end anything.

I think the issue is more of a culture clash and that skin color is being used to classify it. Over time different cultures will blend together and racism will, to some way, solve itself.

[Sour-rose]

Hhhhm, maybe it's just me but it sounds like sweeping blood under a rug. Just because you don't talk about it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Or it's not getting stronger with every... word...

Wait a minute...

[bigrook]

When you don't openly address racism, it festers in the underbelly of society when it can intensify. Openly addressing it allows people of expose and try to understand their differences and to see how to co-exist given those differences.

[FreyaRed]

Don Quixote and windmills. I think biggest racism promoter in US is their government with glorification and demonetization of different races. Honestly, without this divide and reign tactics of US govt. there would be no topic to talk about.

[AviatorTom]

There needs to be more than those two options. If you're not talking about racism because you accept everyone for who and what they are, that's good. But if you're not talking racism because you don't think it exists, that's not good.

[purplepoppy]

I partly agree, if your making everything about race then it's best to ban the topic. But you do need to recognize when race is worthy of inclusion.

[blueonblack22]

Have race relations actually improved over the last few years with the “anti racist” approach the far left has taken? Is it working?

[KittyKat90210]

I don't agree with that at all. It's important to understand what's wrong about racism, and pretending it's not there doesn't make it go away.

[Pudsmucker]

There is no race in a battlefield. You have no idea. We all belong to the human race. Our blood is all red. If your blood is a different color then we can discriminate. We may have different opinions. But we are all God's children.

[CateM]

Sweeping racism under the rug won't make it go away, it'll still be there if not addressed

[Anonymous]

What good has developed from people talking about racism in the past? To my eyes, doesn't seem to have caused much improvement.