What questions bother you in public?

[chick]

I mean, are there any specific questions that particularly bother you when asked in public?

[Anonymous]

"Do you ACTUALLY make any money doing that?" "What was your last event?" "How much do you make a year?" "Why don't you get a REAL job." "Boy, I wish I could sit on my ass all day and play."

I'm an entertainer. Some of the time it's slow, sometimes it's decent. But my income isn't really anyone's business. Unless I'm a renter, trying to get credit (or a loan) from you, or you're my tax person (or we're in a serious relationship), then that's none of your business what money I make. It's also a rude way of putting it. I wouldn't say that to someone working. If I was curious, I'd probably phrase it a lot better; "Oh, I've always wanted to do that... is it worthwhile? Can you give me an idea of what I'd be in for?" I heard people can start out making ____________ a year, but is that realistic?

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"Where do you live?" (What cross streets, etc). Unless I invited you to a party, and you're coming over, I personally don't always like giving private info like that. Maybe some of it is that I am not always proud of where I'm living, but that's not always it. I'm just fairly private.
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"What's your dating life like? What's your sex life like? How many girlfriends have you had? When did you last date anyone?" "interested in anyone? Who? Since when?" etc.

(No, not dating anyone/it didn't work out/etc). "What happened?" "Uh, well, if you must know, I found she cheated." (Oh! Awkward! Abort abort!). "Oh no." "Eh. It happens. Glad I found out when I did." (they start bailing, like suddenly it's too much info). Even if that's all I say, or I'm diplomatic, and keep it short, they act like I just started crying or bawling my heart out, or like I'm being bitter or I'm still pining away, when I'm not.

I don't like to kiss and tell either. Who I've dated, what I've done with them (or not done with them)...

I have learned to keep that stuff private, even if it's just a small interest or "crush." I have learned from the past that if a friend/family member has that information, they'll try to use it against me. People I think are ok to trust; they'll use that stuff to ruin things.
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[ManOnFire]

So I'm struggling with this question because I'm not exactly sure how you mean this. Like, questions in public on the Internet like on here? Or questions in literal public places from a friend, date, waiter, receptionist - who?

I guess the best answers I can give are "Do you remember that episode of (such and such)?" because a lot of the shows people watched are not ones I ever cared for, so they assume because we're the same generation that we all watched the same thing.

"What school did you go to?" - My school years growing up were not good at all, and I don't have many fond memories of it like some other people do, so I really don't like talking about that.

But even with these I can't exactly say these questions bother me so much as I just don't like to answer them, and most people aren't trying to be rude by asking us questions. They're either trying to break the ice, be sociable, or find some common ground we can connect on, and I do get that. Not everybody is trying to be an intrusive dick by asking you a question.

[Anonymous]

Context: When i’m in public alone.

• “Why are you shopping for groceries alone?”
• “Why are you alone? Where is your friend?”
• “You don’t buy anything at all?”
• “Seriously? You EVER eat out alone?”
• “What? You went to the movies ALONE?”
• “I saw you at the mall last weekend, but why were you alone haha?”
• “You’re (my age)?” I’m like yeah i look old because of all the stress growing up
• “Omg hey, where is your friend? Being alone like this isn’t fun”

Like pls stop, yes i do have friends, but i only hangout with them if I feel like I NEED THEIR COMPANY. I like being alone, i don’t think i’m weird. Not that i’m antisocial (knock on wood), i just like to distance myself from people, in hope for them to never bother me… Because i never want to bother them. Keeping a good distance with people puts my mind and mental health healthy.

[Anonymous]

Where are you from? Like wtf? I don’t want someone to ask me this question the first time we meet. What is the purpose of asking this stupid question in the first place.
If i’m from Texas, does this make me less friendly
Or do i look more friendly if i’m from ny?
I will never understand the real reason behind it.

[FeminineHSP]

Any question asked based on assuming something about my personal life when my answer would actually be quite the opposite.

Like people assume that I want kids, people assume that I want some grand marriage. Some internet people even assume that I'm gay just because I'm a feminine guy. People assume everything. Everyone is living a courtroom sort of life.

But none of those assumptions are true. It's the opposite. But I'd rather keep my mouth shut instead of answering. People generalise a lot based on someone's age. People don't understand what preferences and nature are for someone. People judge for something they don't even relate to. Until I get myself an independent and self manageable life, I'd rather keep my mouth shut until my late twenties.

[Apple1996]

I get a lot of strangers out in public that see me with all my son's and will ask if "I'm trying for a girl next?" Get asked this at least once a week

It always bothers me so bad like they act like I can control what gender kids that I have or that I like have to have a girl. 🙄 Just a overall bad thing to ask a mother that type of question

[RandomGuy1030]

Only a lonely person would ask that

[Apple1996]

@RandomGuy1030 it's mostly older people that ask

[Mangospacho]

Wow 😮 But this is the South, right? It’s pretty normal for the South for strangers to inject themselves into your family planning.

[Apple1996]

@Mangospacho yess I live in NC so technically the south. Not sure why it happens so often but it's super weird

[Beatrix7]

nothing much am no shy awl get the questions answerd no joke if i can tell my sisters about how big ma ex's cock was nd show them pics nd tell a bought a vibirating dildo and other diffrent stuff a couldny give a shitam no a shy girl a can tell men i the pub there hot out the blue

[AdithyaR]

If it's a stranger asking me a question, unless they're genuinely asking for help, any question will annoy me. I never understand why someone sees a random person on the street minding their own business and thinks it's a good idea to strike up a conversation with them.

[TrueConfection]

Yes. "Where are you from or where did you grow up?"

I still don't have an answer for that one and I struggle in silence when asked. It baffles the asker and understandably so.

[ManOnFire]

Now that makes me curious lol.

[CubsterShura]

Questions about my sexual experience and my future life goals. I feel like my sexual experience is no one else's business and my future life goals are very private to me but when I'm asked too much it's always awkward to draw that boundary.

[SafiyaHearts]

Anything personal. Normally I don't like people talking to me when I'm busy or leisurely. It's awkward unless they are friendly, and I don't mind it.

[ErnestThompson260]

$95 an hour! Seriously I don't know why more people haven't tried this, I work two shifts, 2 hours in the day and 2 in the evening…And what's awesome is I'm working from home so I get more time with my kids. Here's where I went,
===))>www. cash. hiring9. com

[anon1903]

"Why are you alone?"

"Why are you single?"

"Why did you stop believing in God?"

"Why are you crying?"

Like mind your own business. Keep walking.

[Pinay_ako]

Do you have change to spare? I’m really hungry

I offer them food but they want change… 😑

[CrimsonAngel09]

"When do you start school?"

As in high school or middle school lol. Probably due to how short I am.

[sheenagwapa]

nothing i am a very confident person


maybe before but now i think i'm a very confident person nothing will bother me

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t like guys who ask me about my feelings when I don’t know them.

[DarkWinterNights]

“Do you work here?”


“Ma’am, I look like a bum. I don’t know if you’re being more offensive to me or this establishment.”

[bean2k21]

Me, smoking a cigarette.
Stranger: "You know those will kill you right?"
Me: "So will talking to strangers."

[sheikalana]

Yes, nosy questions like where's your partner from? What does he do for a living? How much money do you make? I mean get a life.

[Flower7]

How old are you?

Where are you from?

[DermalPunch]

Where are you going? Professional beggars not actual needy people.

[JDAC092299]

None really I don’t care for requests though disguised as questions

[Heterosketero]

Yup, fucking peeve that. You already know I am not saying yes and they look me right in the eye too.

[Heterosketero]

Asking if I am insert current thing here. Fuck off.