Is there a way out after one has been slut-shamed?

[Dana223]

Suppose there is s community. A person (girl) is shamed. Is there a way out of this status within this community? Is this stigma stuck forever? If yes, how?

Slut: Sleeps with everyone. Fucking slut: sleeps with everyone except you.

[JamesDiaz11]

First, you have no idea how men talk with each other- those are drastic mischaracterizations.

Second, if you're in a small community, and you're recognized as being promiscuous, there really isn't any escaping that. As long as there are people who see you that way, they will always spread it to others- your reputation will eventually get out to anyone new you meet. "A prophet is not without honor except in his hometown" -Jesus

Analogy: my uncle used to be a pastor for a rural church, in a small community. He was very successful in this until he was caught having an affair. After this he was essentially forced to move, as not only would he no longer be accepted at the church, he was completely ostracized. While he went to a residential therapy program (out of state), and took the steps to repair his marriage, those types of stains STICK.

In sum, you cannot escape that title in a small town, and let's not pretend that as a woman you're "screwed if you do, screwed if you don't" i. e. if you have sex you're a slut, if you don't you're a prude... Virgins and girls who only have sex in LTR are not labeled sluts, there's a HUGE realm of behavior where women are not considered sluts, and nobody has used the term prude this millennia.

Anyway, now that we've gotten past that nonsense, let's accept responsibility for the title you've earned.

So, what can you do IF you want to escape that? Move. Leave the community and start again elsewhere. If you've truly changed from your hoe-phase (if it was a phase) the way you act in the new place will become your reputation. The other (more nefarious) way out is to simply cry rape. For example, let's say you got gangbanged at a party, and you were fully into it at the time, BUT word got out. You can just say you were raped and escape being slut shamed entirely.

[razelove]

Sure, I would say to only sleep around in other communities. If you're a guy and you screw too many women in your local community you're going to have a similar thing happen. Women in your community won't sleep with you, and men who have women in your community will avoid you.

I dealt with that by going out of town by half an hour minimum to find women to sleep with. Your negative reputation in town will fade away, it took maybe 2-3 years on my end, though I probably slept with over 100 women in that time frame, in their perspective I was "turning a new corner" or some nonsense simply because I wasn't sleeping with many local women, or rather not trying to at all.

I don't see how that would be any different for women and men, except that you would be rejected far less lol

[EmyyWolf]

A SLUT; just means you’re spreading your legs all the way open for anyone.
Or anything.
That, you’d open your legs for old men, your neighbors, all the boys at school.
That basically you’d let the entire male population run through you like; grand central station. 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃

Are you doing that?
So you’re saying that you spread them legs all the way open for anyone? Are you letting in BRos and Old Men in there?
Is your body count 200s and 300s?
You meet a guy at a bar, you let him go deep inside within that first date or that first night of meeting him?

Because otherwise you’re not a SLUT 😒

If you dress like a DADDY ISSUES, but your body count is 5. That’s not a slut.
The only way your that word is if you’re count is at 100. At age 25. That to me is a mental illness. If you as a lady are with 100 men up until age 25. There’s something wrong with you. That’s male behavior because males have no standards and usually they are diseased. They carry Diseases.

[EmyyWolf]

@Dana223



👆👆Would you spread it all the way open to men who look like this?
Ok, that’s what I thought.
A SLUT would 😒

[EmyyWolf]

If you dress like a DADDY ISSUES, 👆
ATTENTION SEEKER 👆

That’s don’t make you a slut. People people might lose respect for you. Because it looks unprofessional. But it doesn’t spell that you’re giving it to everyone. People might think you are but you’re not.

That just makes you ATTENTION SEEKER
& DADDY ISSUES.
There’s a difference

[Anemone978]

Once a lot of people know you get around often... I don't see people changing their opinion of you unless you stick to one person for many years but some people may still see you as a slut... So I don't know... this why girls need to respect their bodies and not think you can use men for sex, because in the end they are still just using you.

[MementoMori777]

I'm not saying it's not possible but I haven't met anyone that has changed their slut title, it's why I try to warn women to think before they act because it's an unreversable lifestyle, no one would trust someone that has slept around wreckelessly, the only thing someone can do to try and change it is to change themselves and they stop their old ways, if someone catches that, they might change their mind, if someone confronts them about their rumors then they can say they grew out of those ways and hope for the best.

[RavVid]

Has our hypothetical girl been quite promiscuous and it is widely known for it or has just been called a slut when she hasn't been.

Girls tend to slut shame because it lowers another girls market value. Lots of girls have told me another girl is a slut when I have shown some interest. I think the only answer is to distance from those girls.

Guys tend not to call girls sluts unless they have been cheated on or something like that in which case they do. Quite simply most guys will think they have a good chance of sex with her and aren't going to put her off by name calling. Guys will tend to say a girl is easy instead amongst each other.

If a girl is widely known to be promiscuous in reality than it is going to stay with her for a long time. She could just stop being promiscuous and maybe she recovers a bit but guys will mostly not revalue her.

Moving to a new city is her best option.

[molonski2]

If its as per the cartoon , then all absolute bullsht , like most of these things , just one individuals ludicrous view , the way to react is not to react , and get on with life.

There is no absolute recovery , but it depends how you wear the abuse.

[Makeushiver]

Ignore it. I'd have thought that double standard had disappeared. . You do not need to change because another girl not nearly as hot isn't getting any and spreading rumors. Very hot looking young woman though as I was looking at the photo of your leg but didn't. You holding the skirt in your hand showing the entire leg made me rock hard so I'm not too good at answering your question. I think you're pretty fucking amazingly hot. So to hell with all of the haters but the down side is how much I now want to fuck you. Sorry if too raw

[mommymommy]

To not believe being a slut is a bad thing

If you don't think it is, then why do you care

The only reason "being a slut" is considered bad, is because you risk things when having sex, every time you do. Unwanted pregnancies, std's and jealous ex's, just to name a few. Horny people often forget the consequence of their actions, and often don't up to the results because they didn't think about them

But there's nothing wrong with wanting to have lots of sex. Just don't forget that every time you have sex, you risk something

[888theGreat]

You mean a slut that is a slut is called a slut? That is not shaming. That is calling it like it is. Also sluts should be ashamed. Just diseases spreaders. Not to mention if they get knocked up, they never know who dad is or they give the innocent baby the death sentence using Abortion.

[Littlejugs99]

If you've been slut shamed it means you've done something that you are ashamed of. I would say don't do slutty things because there is no such thing as a secret or confidentiality. Act respectable and find a respectable man.

[Potteplante]

I was viewed as a slut growing up - no one thinks of me that way anymore and I'm still in the same local community.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, move somewhere else. I mean some people will let it go, and to some people that will be you designation. Because people don't typically change who they are at thier core. If you were once a whore and stop, you really haven't changed. You're just simply a whore not currently engaging in whore activity.

[tinydiva1991]

The word slut is used loosely by men. The truth is men love a women to be raunchy. Yet they try and degrade us by calling us sluts. I’ve learned to embrace the term.

[Agape93]

No idea but don't let them shame you for enjoying yourself

[ManOnFire]

Except that guys don't call the girls they slept with a slut. It's other jealous women who call women that. Sorry that you slept with somebody and this happened to you.

[Alpha714]

Be less social... Don't think... Be focus on your goal and be better human

[KrakenAttackin]

Sluts are branded for life. I still know girls from high school who were whores. Even though it's been decades since high school, everyone still thinks of them as whores no matter where they are today.

[Anonymous]

Lisa fucked over 900 guys in 24 hours. She set the gangbang record. She's not worried about slut shaming, nor is her husband.

[richardcory]

Remember that a lot of slut-shaming is really jealousy.

[Staximus]

Bad reputations of all kinds follow people around for a long time. The best thing is to just move to another town and stop being the town bicycle 🚳

[jshm2]

Depends if it's a warranted reputation or not.

[Nikki1989]

You shouldn't care what others think or say. Just be yourself and screw the narrow-minded, judgmental types.

[exitseven]

I dont think it has the same stigma that it had 30 years ago,