Besides me - does anyone else consider marriage and kids to be way too overrated and overhyped?

[Unit1]

But not long term relationships?

Point is these 2 things is basically like willingly committing financial suicide and complicating things beyond necessity.

I don't get why many people act like getting married and kids is an exciting must-have experience for everybody like its somehow better than having sex, winning a lottery, driving a jetski or a Ferrari or going on vacation to the Bahamas.

i guess misery loves company.

me too

kids overrated, marriage not

marriage overrated, kids not

no

i don't care

[OlderAndWiser]

The financial risk in marriage can be solved with a pre-nuptial agreement.

People who will resent the financial commitment that comes with having children shouldn't have children. Maybe you should have a vasectomy.

[Unit1]

It makes sense for me to get a vasectomy but I am not getting laid.

[OlderAndWiser]

Ten years from now, you may feel differently about having kids.

[Unit1]

That's what they say. Like a hive mind, who can't think independently.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Living your life is the way to go & some people live their lives one way & some people live their lives another way. As for me I enjoy my freedom too much & I’ll pass on the three rings as in engagement ring, wedding ring & suffering. As for kids I think kids are wonderful & a pain in the ass sometimes so I think I rather buy a goldfish instead.

[itsalyssaagain]

Marriage and kids is nice don’t get me wrong. But having ambitions, a successful career you love, a hobby you enjoy, a social circle that makes you feel good about yourself, emotional stability and being able to respond to situations that test you accordingly… all those things are so much better.

[AnnacarsiMama2]

That’s the most ridiculous thing ever. Sorry ma’am but having a career is better than human beings? That’s not even sensible if you’re parents didn’t decide to have kids you wouldn’t be here to have a career. When it’s all said and done and your life has ran it’s course do you think your co workers will be at your funeral talking about how good you did your job?

[itsalyssaagain]

In my opinion, having a career that you enjoy can bring a lot of happiness in your life. It’s important to have a partner but we shouldn’t rush into it and settle and then end up with disappointment.

My career won’t wake up one day and say actually I don’t want you or I slept with someone else.

I guess my problem is with settling for a bad partner and being in a rush.

[AnnacarsiMama2]

Well while you’re young find a good partner

[Pinay_ako]

I don’t think it’s overrated at all. Same thing as what others choose to live their life - single blessedness, childless couples, career driven, pet parents … to each their own. Everything comes with risks.

[strateguy632]

despite most of the pictures are true, people with money dont smile like pic BECAUSE they worry about the stock market and scratches on their fancy cars.

vacation? my parents went travel vacations many times despite i was their child they simply arranged their friend to host me so they could vacation as a couple. Pic 3 looks like prayer? but prayer-s teach marriage as a catholic sacrament that even protestants partial agree.

the alarm clock symbolized kids wake you early but... that is caused by the early bed time parents enforce. could make later bed time?

easier to keep clean true no argument from me.

less money out for children so more remains for my selfish needs also part true but... natural love for children healthy parents WANT to give our kids stuff from clothing THEY choose to food they like etc. so not conflict selfish.

baby cry and dirty but... wait so does everybody poop including the rich business guy filthy time. love for kids WANT to clean them and feed them causing next poo if healthy parents with natural love... and wives cry too... so dont marry? well without religion teaching atheist to marry, this propaganda will teach athiests not to procreate so they will be extinct. no problem for me. each generation of 100 athiests most won't even have one kid and the few who do marry, the 2 will be replaced by one child a generation later. thanks.

[Kinkyhubby]

Marriage and kids are fine. It isn't always an easier life. It takes a lot ofnwork and sacrifice, sometimes it is giving up on your personal wants to put their needs ahead of your own. You might want kids to keep your family lineage to continue. Eventually that great life you have traveling and seeing the world, might mean at the end you die alone, and have nothing to past on or anyone to remember you. The young generations are more into themselves, and are the want it now, can't wait generation. I feel like growing up with phones, on demand movie, and streaming service, they don't have to wait and grow patience like we did. I see it, we guys I work with, with these dating. Apps, they don't want girlfriend, they just hang out with girls until they annoy them and then leave them. it takes a lot to stay with someone. You don't go into a marriage thinking it going to end and ruin me financially. That is the wrong thinking

[Twalli]

In my mind marriage is just a piece of paper. I don't think I need a piece of paper to tell me that the person I am with is my wife. She and I have decided that. We'll probably go through the motions if there aren't any issues with it. Yet I don't need a piece of paper to tell me that the person I wake up with every day is my wife.
I don't want to force someone to grow up with my ASD. Being my kid that's almost a guarentee. Even if it skips them, they have to grow up with a father who may not express affection in a way they can understand.

[pervertedjester]

Marriage with kids seems more overrated. All anyone really needs is a partner in crime. Someone to do dumb, silly, scary, interesting and adventuring things with. The bonus would be finding that combo in someone who also wants to bone you on the regular.

[Unit1]

I agree

[midnightmoon05]

At your age…I didn’t think of marriage or kids.
At my age…with 2 kids!! I love that I have a family and joy. Money…they don’t cost much. They don’t ask for much.
Some are creating little monsters out of them… they grow up to be big monsters. They have no idea how to make a loving family/relationship… so each their own… just don’t blame kids or relationships.
it’s a good life… when one can make it… with or without kids or marriage. Chose wisely… not just at the moment.

[TheThingALing]

Marriage and kids isn't the problem. It was hard 50 years ago, and it's hard now. The problem is that usually one of them thinks there feelings are paramount to their kids wellbeing. People put their kids first, were forced to work things out for the betterment of the kids. Now, someone will divorce the other for the lamest thing, and then statistically almost guarantee that their kids future be massively negatively affected

[lightbulb27]

it's your culture and what you've experienced. most people around me married w kids. many doing well.

its choices, you decide what you want to make work and the life to live. what's it going to be when you are older?

[Unit1]

I'll bury my money with investments instructions and dig it up in my next lif---
No, it will simply be the end for me.

[lightbulb27]

you gotta let go of that feeling, whatever it is. There is a control /vulnerability / strength wound going on that is controlling you. A wound is like a jacked up rudder on a boat... it sends you to places ya really didn't have to go to, if it was working properly. sooner you face you are the problem and opportunity, the better.
that's my 56 years of experience in a nutshell...

[Sour-rose]

the last image I can hear and it's hilarious. I'm currently married but the gov or family doesn't know shi. And they don't gotta. kids however... i'll divorce as quickly as we decided on marriage.

[Anemone978]

If you enjoy love, kids are one of the best joys in life.. to be honest my kids are the only thing that bring me joy and the only relationships I actually care about keeping.

[Spongebobssocks]

I agree!

I don't think marrige or kids is a MUST like society is trying to push down our throats. But I do think it can be beautiful if it's done the right way.

[Juxtapose]

Marriage is a worthless institution that is currently designed to rob men of money.

Having children only make sense if you are rich and have time to spare.

[Unit1]

The rich get richer.
The poor get children.

[Juxtapose]

Well one of my parents right now owns a home that is worth over a million dollars. I think that is a good benchmark since I was raised in a good environment and not in some ghetto.

[Unit1]

Does it have a pool, huge garage, big garden or something worth over a million dollars?

[Juxtapose]

It has a basement with a gyn in there, a main floor, upstairs and then the attic. There is also a big yard with a pond.

[Wild_princess]

Kids and marriage is something you don't want, but you need them...😂😂

[Paul09]

Well people love to follow the herd. They were brainwashed as kids to think that way. People are strange. Imagine those who have more than 2 kids, insanity! How rich are these people?

[Unit1]

Debts if anything.
It really makes me wonder what appeal is there to become a slave to the system like that.
I mean OK, we are all slaves to the system (some more, some less) but at least for those like me we are not really slaving away our lives. We'll get something for ourselves out of it too.

[Paul09]

Because humans want to be part of something.

[Unit1]

Misery loves company

[Anonymous]

Modern women: taking care of my family is enslaving

Working 50 hours commuting another 10 hours a week to serve my boss so the company can post quarterly profits & the shareholders can get paid a dividend is empowering

[BCRanger10]

No. Being a husband and a father has been a tremendous blessing to me thus far.

[Nikki1989]

It only seems overrated to those that don't have what it takes to make it work.

[Dargil]

I consider marriage and kids to be undervalued and under emphasized.

[Anonymous]

I have everything most people want: serious level of money, high level career, status, travel, high end cars, spectacular vacations and kids and family are the best.

[Chthou95]

I find it interesting that the new generation dont want kids but the older generation were eager to have kids and raise a family

[MementoMori777]

I'd like to keep my family going for generations

[EpicSnail]

It's reproduction, dude. All species do it.

[linka_pat307]

Am starting to hate that life

[KrakenAttackin]

Kids are great, marriage sucks.

[Slim57]

Kids maybe, honestly doesn't affect me either way

[SandyKandy]

Yes..

[Anonymous]

Me too