Do you think marriage is overrated?

[Anonymous]

[Qdbrown]

If you're a man, it's way overrated. It's guaranteed slavery for most men. The little lady is going to get her man into a new expensive house/mortgage, some cars financed for nearly a decade and massive credit card debt to keep her happy so she can weaponize sex to keep her husband on thin ice.

Then as the poor husband has to work long hours and press for promotions to pay for her spending. But she justifies it because she making him. and their children a home. Then when he is never home, she will likey get bored at somepoint, and she will window shop on Tinder because all her friends are talking up all the hunks out there who are a swipe away.

For half of the men,. it will end in divorce. He will lose his kids, becauseas time goes on, for most broken homes, he will only see his kids every other weekend and once a week, if that lucky. Many guys become hard drinkers and suicide is a major factor for men during this time because it all becomes clear that his whole purpose is to be a provider for everyone but himself, and everyone will hate him for it.

[Vesuvius87]

Yet, the innocent ones that just want a life partner and things done the old ways for the right reasons pay the price.

[Anonymous]

Marriage is unnecessary unless you accept its propose is creating a stable environment for children and future financial stability.

Most people are not going into it anymore primarily because its been redefined to be about "love". A ridiculous idea but nonetheless popular as pushed by institutional elites for a 100 years now. As if we needed the permission of the State to love anyone or could be restricted to loving only a single person.

There is a difference between needing to love your wife, and making her your wife because you love her.

[Divinabby559]

Underrated nowadays. I'm married now, but I remember my sister telling me 'marriage is just a paper'. I told her it's a very important paper with many benefits and it is legally recognized under the law, unlike boyfriend/girlfriend. She said relationships don't need labels. To her It's alright to spend a lifetime with someone and still be their girlfriend. A lifetime, as in 30+ years. No legal title. No ring. No automatic legal benefits & claim you are entitled to as a their wife/husband. The lack of weight your title holds in important situations. Like... come on? Is this what's progressive?

If I'm spending my entire life with someone. Birthing our children, supporting & loving them, growing old together... a ring? That's the bare minimum.

[Anonymous]

Honestly yes in most cases. Like half get divorced and only god knows how many of the people staying married are unhappy in their marriages. And regular relationships are even worse than marriages, almost all of them end sooner or later and in many cases they lead to nothing but emotional damage and/or drama.

[nitsuj86]

I actually feel like it's underrated.

Just wait 30-40 years, and see how many old single people dying alone. There are a lot of people right now, forgoing marriage and relationships. Soon we will have the same problem Japan and some other countries are having.

A ton of old single people that can't work, and a handful of healthy working adults having to pay for all of them. The decline of the family will be the downfall of this country.

[Divinabby559]

I agree so much with this comment.

[Qdbrown]

How are you conflating singles and not working?

They might be underemployed, but that is their freedom and decision.

[nitsuj86]

@Qdbrown Well, if follow the logic.

Single, usually means, no kids, or kids being supported by one individual.

If they have no kids, when they grow old and can't work anymore, the state pays for them, or the streets are always there for you. Most single people don't make enough money to retire. That eliminates a good portion of new children right there. Just not being born.

What you are left with...

If they do have children, most children of single parent households don't have the resources needed to help those children reach the next level. Especially with the rate of inflation, now more than ever 2 incomes are needed to raise a family. Sure it's possible, but it's much harder.

Not only that, but it just teaches the next generation, that a partner is not needed, that all you need is yourself, and that is just not true. It breeds selfish behaviour, that is not condusive to building up a country.

Even with those people still having kids, the decline in he birth rates will eventually lead to a smaller youth population, paying for the growing number of single seniors. Family used to take care of these people, but without family, what are you left with? That mean all of us have to pay for those people and their "freedom to choose".

I'm fine with the freedom, as long as they are the ones paying for it.

[nitsuj86]

Google Kodokushi

[Gingerguy33]

Nope I don’t think it gets talked about in a positive way enough in our society I think it needs to be pushed more but lots of people are into hookup culture instead of marriage

[Diodoro]

Even tho I don't want to be married I think a good marriage is beautiful and underrated today.

[VikingWarLord]

Marriage is for SUCKERS it's a big SCAM that fleeces people of their money
and then the DIVORCE INDUSTRY fleeces them for even MORE MONEY

[Medhat-M]

Not really.. I think most married people aren't really in it for the person.. If it was,
it would be great

[GMANN56]

So this is just my opinion. I think if you are a couple who want to have children
together, you should get married and be committed to the family. That is the ONLY
reason I see to get married.

[Blackcupcake]

no not necessarily... it might not be suitable for everyone but that doesn't make it overrated

[tponderingundead]

yeah. i've always thought it was so weird that when people looove each other so much, they just have to get the government involved.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Most young women dont want kids which is the point of marriage. So the people who do get married do so at 30 or 35, think about having kids, end up not having kids or only having one, and then jumping ship to go party again.

[Opinion Owner]

Also the chances of divorce skyrocket once a woman has had sex with more than 2 men

[Opinion Owner]

The chances of her nagging men probably skyrocket too. Alpha widows dont make good wives. 90% of women are alpha widows. Just listen to modern pop music. Its all women crying about being hurt.

[monorprise]

This is true, its also true that most of them regret not having kids by the tie their 50, and there is no one who cares about them anymore.

A lot of young women today are spoiled rotten by attention and opportunities.

A situation that never before in history existed for women, and probably acts like a drug on their brains. Naturally few of them are well adapted.

Like most people they are also not thinking about the future. Unlike men however things will really change for them a lot sooner than they think. Even their eggs are getting older and less fertile by the day. Doctors really should be telling women in their 20's to get them harvested ASAP if they don't plan on marrying soon.

[Opinion Owner]

@monorprise "Even their eggs are getting more infertile" and estrogen SIGNIFICANTLY increases as women age. Causing unmanly boys to be born. Testosterone comes in to balance it out and makes them freaks of nature. Men need to stop marrying old women. Stop entertaining them with dates. Stop being m*therf*ckers too who lie just to smash.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No, I don’t think so.

[TurkishDİxon3419]

No, getting married is people's business. Animals cannot marry.

[Qdbrown]

Humans are animals. A highly evolved erectus monkey that smart and dangerous.

[TurkishDİxon3419]

@Qdbrown
I'm not an animal, man. You can see yourself as an animal.

[driven159]

it is till one partner dies and the legal crap goes nuts

[Kurdistan1991]

happy marriage gives you heaven unhappy marriage gives you hell

[northerngal]

With the right man... no its not.

[Cherry234]

No, I don't think so.

[AviatorTom]

No, but marriage is not for everyone.

[TheFlak38]

marriage serves only the interests of women

[sheikalana]

Not really.

[KatherineJ]

Not at all!

[jahaims]

Underrated

[MasonAlucardthethird]

Yes.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[Kelly6]

Very overrated

[bamesjond0069]

For men, of course.

[In_Trance]

Not really

[zeeeki]

yeah

[Anonymous]

no..