Why do people say it’s feminist to not want kids?

[Anonymous]

Some people simply just don’t want them. Some people simply just don’t like kids or care for them. Also, remember how expensive and time consuming a child is. It’s a huge responsibility… it’s not like taking care of a pet. I don’t think it makes someone a “feminist” if they don’t want to sacrifice their entire life for someone else. It’s something to think about carefully, not just have them and realize it’s not something the individual wants.

[Anonymous]

"Feminist" is this go-to word the men like to throw out, like we're somehow supposed to be offended by it. There are some wacko ultra-feminists, as there are wacko extremists in every movement. It's just caveman mentality on their part. The little boys on this site are frustrated they're alone, so they lash out at us and blame us for their deficiencies that keep them single rather than improving themselves. They are constantly on the search for a completely helpless, mindless woman who lacks the self-respect to stand up to them when needed. If you're not aspiring to sit at home, dusting the end table over and over and mindlessly obey his every command while you wait for him to come home and be his personal baby factory, they let the insults fly. If you don't want kids, that's perfectly fine. Pursue your own aspirations and if you can find an evolved man who supports your life decisions, then keep him. Ignore the insults they throw around. They are merely afraid of independent women who don't need them to be successful and they don't value intellect or self-respect.

[hahahmm]

You really have no understanding. Traditional guys don't want a woman who lacks self-respect. the world is full of them and most of them are feminist. I'm old enough to remember when the vast majority of women had self-respect or at least knew it was important to pretend to have it. Today that's flipped. Most women have less self-respect than hookers did 20-30 years ago.

Of course a traditional dude wants a woman who is respectful towards him. In the past women were respectful to all 'gentlemen' and men were respectful to all 'ladies'. Those who lacked respect were low class losers. Just because it's now normal to be a low class loser doesn't make it a virtue.

"They are merely afraid of independent women who don't need them to be successful and they don't value intellect or self-respect." -- This is hilarious. Men don't need women. It's women who are getting hand outs from government (most tax dollars come from men), ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands. It's women whining about how they should make as much money as the highest paid guy on the job, regardless of how much more & better quality he gives to the company. Just look at the nutcases in the WNBA who think they should be paid the same as NBA athletes despite having far fewer fans, money generated and not even being capable of compete against the bottom of the barrel male NBA player.

[Asker]

We won’t be with traditional men

[Berethor]

It a lie, there was childless feminist that tried to make me accept, but haha no thanks.

[gothbxtch]

not sure! it really has nothing to do with it. we feminists just want everyone to be able to choose. i’m a passionate feminist, and i definitely want kids.

[Berethor]

Feminist goth that want children is actually very rare, you was surprising me girl. :)

[gothbxtch]

@Berethor hehe thanks!

[Berethor]

@gothbxtch good thing that you not Vampire, Undead unable to have Children. :)

allthetropes.org/wiki/Immortal_Procreation_Clause

[gothbxtch]

thank you!

[Berethor]

No problem dark girl, I like vampire lore, and becoming infertile is kinda sucks.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ft_1w6xugUc

[Lionman95]

I would say because the idea or of not having kids and not starting a family was pushed by the feminist movement. It´s part of modern society that you can have a meaningful and pleasured life without having kids. Since nowadays at least in the West there is a structured welfare system people have a choice to have kids or not since in the old days raising kids was the way to get you through life when you were older.

Generally speaking a woman that doesn´t want kids is not per se a feminist in my view she´s rather a progressive minded person or she has personal reasons like infertility or coming from an abusive background she wants to hide.

[Asker]

I agree

[Asker]

I noticed when an independent career woman states she doesn’t want kids, she is automatically called a liberal or feminist. Society has this weird image that everyone should have children. Society has this belief that you are worthless without kids. It’s weird. Humans are unique individuals with different priorities, interests, and feelings in life. Not everyone wants kids.

[Lionman95]

Because having kids and a family is being seen as traditional in some contexts even as the norm. I agree that not everyone needs to have kids or even should have kids because it´s an investment one makes and it´s not easy raising kids right.

[Asker]

Exactly dude. Kids are a huge investment and a giant responsibility. It is something to think about very carefully.

[Asker]

People who have little to no interest in children, should not have them

[Lionman95]

I agree 100% to the last message.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for the MHO.

[madhatters4]

feminism is having the choice and being able to exercise that choice. pure and simple. it's not feminist to want or not want children but having the freedom to make that decision

[Asker]

I guess but a lot of people seem to have an issue with women choosing to have kids or not. The minute i state I don’t, and list the reasons why, im told horrible insults lol

[madhatters4]

well you know what the say about opinions. they're like assholes. everyone has one. live your life and no there is no right or wrong way to feel about wanting children

[Asker]

Exactly

[Asker]

One guy on this post, told me im selfish for not wanting kids and that im lying to myself lol

[Asker]

He tried so hard to convince me of my own feelings when I already know how I feel about this topic

[madhatters4]

isn't it wonderful that people tell how you should live your life when it doesn't impact them in any way. so annoying. live your life. ignore the jerks

[Berethor]

Does impact them if their country is dying because of childless feminists, like in Japan.

www.washingtonpost.com/.../

[Asker]

It doesn’t affect you at all what i do with my life. There are 8 billion people on this planet. We are overpopulated if anything and so far, we are not near any catastrophe event.

[Asker]

@madhatters4 exactly. People who get mad at someone else’s personal life choice, are weird lol

[Berethor]

@Asker only Africa is Overpopulated and I am not Black, I need to have Children.

upload.wikimedia.org/.../...iesbyfertilityrate.svg

[Asker]

I will do as i please. The world is overpopulated and the world is fine if i don’t have kids. We are not dying anytime soon.

[Asker]

Im not a breeder.

[Berethor]

Not being a breeder is being a failure, that's how biologically works, learn it girl.

[Asker]

Humans have the choice if they want to procreate or not. Please understand that

[Asker]

I don’t want to have kids. Please respect me. I don’t really like babies and I don’t care much for children

[Berethor]

Still not too late for you to change your mind, you can still have children at your age.

https://www.yourfertility.org.au/everyone/age

[Asker]

@Berethor i will not change my mind. Please stop forcing your opinion on me. I have made myself clear. I do not need to have children. I am not an incubator or breeder. I do not see my only purpose in life to be a “breeder”. Im not much interested in kids. Kids require parents who actually want them. I could care less. They are a huge responsibility that one must be willing to commit to. I am also not in a relationship either so i am not gonna just have a child with a random guy either. Also, not rushing to get into a relationship.

[Asker]

@Berethor i really could care less about fertility and all. I am on birth control for a reason….

[Asker]

@Berethor Please stop harassing me about my choice in which has no affect towards you. Thanks.

[Asker]

@Madhatters it’s so strange how he does not stop trying to force his opinion on me. It’s pretty sad how other people cannot allow others to just live their own lives how they please😣

[hahahmm]

I won't say it's feminist in & of itself but your reasoning is very feminist when you talk about sacrificing your life. From a male POV, we sacrifice a lot for women. In fact we are expected to take a bullet for even a random girlfriend we started dating 1 day ago, if violent criminals show up. So to tell us about sacrificing your life, & how your life is so precious, isn't going to get sympathy. Women go on and on about how they're nurturers and compassionate and emphatic. We don't want to hear about how you're not willing to take a bullet for a kid. That would mean you're not good wife material. For any traditional type guy that means you're not worth taking seriously and by definition that makes you feminist because all feminists are too selfish and in some way lacking feminine qualities. She could look really good physically but she will in some way have masculine qualities.

Just off the top of my head.

[Asker]

🤷🏼‍♀️I wouldn’t date or marry a traditional man…

[Asker]

Also, i think its weird how men are expected to take a bullet for a woman they don’t know or barely dated. Put yourself first!!!

[Asker]

Im more of a nurturing person towards my friends and the animals i work with. I don’t have motherly instinct towards kids and have never felt “baby fever” or the urge to birth a baby

[Asker]

No I wouldn’t take a bullet for some strange random kid😂I wouldn’t take a bullet for someone I don’t know.

[Asker]

I just never had interest in kids🤷🏼‍♀️never saw myself having them or being a mom. Im more interested in career and animals

[Asker]

But yeah in that case I wouldn’t date someone who wants kids!

[hahahmm]

"Also, i think its weird how men are expected to take a bullet for a woman they don’t know or barely dated. Put yourself first!!!" -- It's a holdover from back when 99% of women were to be taken seriously because they had self-respect and were likely to be wife material. Plus, the vast majority of people didn't date simply for the sake of dating endlessly and having random sex. In today's world it makes no sense for a guy to take a bullet for any woman he doesn't personally know to be a traditional woman, ideally his own woman. The modern women who want the freedom to do whatever they want at any time must be given her freedom to start drama/attract violent criminals and accept the consequences that come with that on her own. STILL, recently when a woman was raped on a subway you will note that the media and some commentators blamed the men on the train for not helping her. They didn't say anything about the women on the train who didn't help her. So there is still an expectation that guys will rescue women without regard for himself. In an ideal world that would be the way things work but women have made it clear that they don't want "toxic masculinity" so guys are learning to pretend not to be around so as not to upset women.

[Asker]

Ok🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

Im still not required to sacrifice myself for hypothetical children I don’t want nor want. I can find a man who also doesn’t want kids too!

[Asker]

My freedom, is me simply not having to tend to another person. I don’t sleep around or party. I would rather spend my day off being lazy, watching movies instead of taking care of an infant or toddler!

[hahahmm]

Nobody actually cares if you as an individual decide to grow old with 50 cats and be one of these women whining about how they can't get a man like some of the good looking celebrity women do. I'm just answering your question.

[Asker]

Did you know that there are plenty of married couples that don’t have kids?

[Asker]

Cats personally in my opinion are better than kids lol. I would rather deal with them and dogs, instead of kids and infants

[Asker]

Oh, if you have kids just so your not “alone” when your old, that is so selfish and very self centered and extremely narcissistic lol. Having kids as a form of entertainment and as a care taker. I see

[Asker]

Plenty of women are in relationships without kids😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

Like are you on drugs?….

[ProbablyClueless]

The "feminist" part of it is usually whatever else the woman wants to do instead of having kids.

I'm not in the business of telling other people how to live their lives (especially when it comes to women about having children), so all I will say on the subject is this; I am a professionally successful man, I am a tremendously lucky and happy man, I am also alone (not lonely, but I am alone). I did the things I did because they were best option (s) for me. I saw opportunities and I took them. ALL OF THAT BEING SAID: I'm not happy because of my success. I'm happy because of the relationships I've been able to cultivate.

Do not pursue career success in place of interpersonal relationships under the impression that it will make you more happy.

[Asker]

Thats your opinion

[Asker]

I simply don’t care for kids or like them

[Asker]

I don’t want to take care of one or be around one

[ProbablyClueless]

You're right, that absolutely is my opinion, and you should take my opinion with the mountain of salt I expressed it with. Interpersonal relationships don't need to mean having children with the person. My only point is that my life experience has been that personal connections give me more satisfaction than stacking my money.

That's all.

[Asker]

Exactly. Just because someone doesn’t have kids doesn’t mean they are alone. Plenty of couples with no kids exist

[Asker]

I don’t need kids to have marriage or a life partner

[Berethor]

Why would anyone marry a woman that don't want kids? it pretty pointless I think.

[ProbablyClueless]

@Berethor There are tax benefits, and it can help with estate planning.

[Asker]

@Berethor ask my 30 year old brother who is married and hates kids

[boggboss]

Because people that make that comment view having kids as the pinical of being alive so not wanting it goes against the norm and feminists go against what they see as the norm

[Asker]

Best comment!

[NamerOfStars]

Equating correlation and causation. Most Feminists don't want kids, since kids (as any fair-minded person must admit) are one of, if not THE, biggest changes your life can ever have, and that disrupts said life in a way Feminists usually object to.

Of course, there are many reasons to not want kids, and only a handful of them require adhering to Feminist reasoning, but as with any hate movement, it's always looking to legitimize itself by claiming other people's allegiance.

[Asker]

Yes kids are a huge responsibility and requires sacrifice. Not everyone is willing to do that and it’s completely fine

[BlackJeep]

My girlfriend is very traditional and is the opposite of a feminist and she doesn't want kids. Dumb people say dumb things but that doesn't make it true

[Berethor]

She not very traditional, it's dump to say that she traditional, she is childless feminist.

[BlackJeep]

she has medical issues Einstein. The childless feminist stays home and cooks and cleans and looks after the house.

[Asker]

He talks shit all the time, ignore him.

[Asker]

@BlackJeep^

[Berethor]

Feminism is the Reason for why Japan is going Extinct, many Feminists are Childless.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2022/06/03/japan-low-births-population-decline-2021/

[Anonymous]

Not all women who don't want kids are feminists, and not all feminists don't want kids.

HOWEVER, a much larger percentage of feminists than normal women don't want kids, and most of them love to try to convince other women to be like minded.

Also, most feminists don't discover they want kids until they are past the age when it is healthy (and safe for the child) to have one, and then they usually want to do it without a father, which is obviously horrible for the child.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't know where they got that argument from since lesbians tend to be feminists but go an adopt kids.

Hollywood stars tend to be feminists and they have children as well.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Misread your original question. Because feminists at least the modern ones tend to revolt against traditions and having kids (which I love by the way) is the natural and way of life.

Most people desire kids as its something hardwired into us by God.

[Asker]

I never had the desire to have kids. Never

[Asker]

If anything i lowkey find babies and toddlers a bit gross and annoying lol

[Asker]

Honestly being a traditional housewife taking care of kids sounds revolting to me. Personally. I would not want that lifestyle. I enjoy being kept to myself

[Berethor]

Children sounds revolting to you, but dying alone sounds totally fine to you? okay.

[Asker]

@Berethor everyone dies alone.

[Asker]

Visit a nursing home! Who do you think put the elderly in there? their own offspring!!!

[Asker]

Yes, taking care of kids when i have no interest in them, sounds revolting to me.

[Asker]

If you have kids as a form of entertainment and so your not alone, that is so selfish and very narcissistic. I don’t need people to keep me company. I also prefer to be alone and not have someone in my face 24/7

[Asker]

Also, married couples without kids exist!!!

[Asker]

I apologize but i just have no interest in kids. Never did. They are not a goal of mine or a priority. They are a huge responsibility and are very expensive and time consuming. Taking care of a child doesn’t appeal to me:)

[Asker]

Each to their own opinion!:)

[Berethor]

Without children you don't have a legacy, no point for a man to marry you.

[Asker]

@Berethor then why did my brother marry his highschool sweetheart? They are in their 30s now with no kids. They despise children and my sister in law actually got her tubes tied. They don’t want kids

[Asker]

@Berethor or what about my 67 year old aunt, who has been married for 30 years to her husband? They also have no kids and never wanted them lol. Her husband also used to run an abortion clinic😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

@Berethor I don’t really care about my legacy. Im not from royal blood.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

@Berethor: Where your kids at, do you even have any? Why you keep bothering her if she doesn't want any kids?

It's her life.

[Asker]

@Hispanic-cool-guy right? I have argued with this guy before. He is absolutely batshit crazy. He would prefer for people to have kids, even if they don’t want them. He would prefer for unwanted kids to be in shitty environments or with parents that lack motherly instinct. Im not even a “feminist” or democrat. I just don’t care for kids. I have always been this way since i was a kid myself! Never saw myself having my own kids. It just honestly is not my interest and is not a priority of mine.

[Asker]

@Hispanic-cool-guy then he says i will die alone. Everyone dies alone. That man should go visit a nursing home lol. Also, just to have kids so your not “alone” is pretty damn selfish 😂and who says i will be alone? Plenty of married couples with no kids exist😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

I think he prefers me to have a child i will honestly just not have much interest in😒like I literally would love my dog more because animals interest me more. I just simply don’t really care for kids

[Berethor]

@Hispanic-Cool-Guy I don't have kids but it not by choice, I want marry a tradwife.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwife

[Asker]

Cool go marry a traditional wife who WANTS kids. I will find a man who doesn’t want kids. There is 8 billion people on this planet. You think all men want kids? The traditional ones do.

[Berethor]

Men who don't want children would likely just use you, selfish attracts selfish.

[Asker]

Ok! Whatever you say! Bye!!!

[Asker]

Plenty of men have kids and are terrible human beings too. So your statement doesn’t make any sense😂your fucking insane honestly. Bye

[Asker]

I live for myself, not others because it’s my life. You are not in charge of my life. I am. Call me selfish, idc😂im not gonna put myself into a situation i cannot get out of and end up miserable and bring an unwanted life into this world that will be seen as a chore.

[Berethor]

Didn't you said bye? it called being selfish, if your mom was thinking like you? :)

[Asker]

My mom put me up for adoption:) she didn’t want me!

[Asker]

And i would do the same too if i had a forced pregnancy or if i had to give birth lol

[Asker]

It would be more selfish for me to have kids I don’t want. But ok buddy! Whatever you think you can believe!

[Asker]

Kids are a huge investment. One must truly want them before having them. IDGAF. That means, I don’t give a fuck about kids or being a parent. Doesn’t interest me. Never has. Please respect my opinion

[Berethor]

Well at least she didn't choose to kill you before you was born, need to give credit.

[Asker]

Ok. That was her choice. She still didn’t want me. So she gave me up. I’d do the same with an unwanted child. Bye!

[Anonymous]

I’ve never heard anyone say that. It’s rightfully a matter of choice.

[Asker]

Oh really? I have had men tell me that im blinded by feminism when i state I don’t want kids

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t listen to what idiots say.

[Asker]

Fuck them kids and fuck what people say. I do what i want :)

[Asker]

I live my life how i want because its my life at the end of the day!

[Asker]

Im also not a liberal or democrat:) i just don’t care for kids and don’t see myself having them

[Asker]

@Berethor completely untrue😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂you are so delusional if you truly believe that. 8 billion people on this planet. Not everyone is a liberal and not only liberal people not want kids. Humans are unique individuals with their own interests, priorities, likes, and dislikes in this world. Politics do not always have to do with that… I don’t care for politics. I simply just don’t care for kids either and they are not an interest of mine. Not a priority either. Its my life and my choice. Sorry you are so ignorant.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve answered askers question Berethor. Get off my comment and take it elsewhere.

[Asker]

@Berethor idc if someone gets an abortion. Its their life their choice.

[Asker]

@Berethor oh my friend who is a huge trump supporter, dislikes babies and has gotten like 3 abortions…😂just saying

[Anonymous]

If you are still saying the same at 35, I'll believe you. You don't have to want or have them.

Until then, it's the same 'me, me' dogma we hear of endlessly from certain quarters.

[Asker]

Because it is about me. It’s my life!

[Asker]

Im almost 30! Im 25! Never wanted kids. Never had the desire to have them.

[Berethor]

You woman who lack maternal instinct, it sad and it happened because feminism.

[Asker]

Nope. I was always like this! Never saw myself being a mom or raising kids. Never.

[Asker]

@Berethor I literally never saw myself growing up, having kids. Its always been to work with animals and have a career

[Asker]

I don’t care much for kids. Its not my interest and not a priority of mine

[Asker]

Never has been really🤷🏼‍♀️its my choice anyway

[Berethor]

It your choice, but it also men's choice to avoid childless women like you.

[Asker]

@Berethor cool! I wouldn’t marry a man who wants kids:) pretty simple! And not all men want kids either! My brother is in his 30s and is married and he hates kids so yeah😊and my aunt and uncle have been married for 30 years and have no kids.

[Asker]

I also wouldn’t make myself miserable for the sake of someone else.

[Berethor]

Sounds selfish, why a man would marry a woman that care only about herself?

[Asker]

Are women supposed to care about kids?… do you only see women as breeders and incubators for babies? You think the minute when a female doesn’t want to have a baby, she is seen as selfish? Oh. What about the men who also don’t want kids? It takes 2 to tango buddy. You are gross honestly

[Asker]

Are we supposed to care about kids? Humans are unique individuals with different interests, likes, dislikes, and priorities in life. It doesn’t always need to involve kids. Children are not a requirement to live. So get off that high horse and mind your own damn buisness.

[Asker]

I guess im selfish. Boo fucking hoo. I come first in MY life before anyone else and especially before a hypothetical child that doesn’t exist. I am not required to put someone else before me. I do not want my life revolved around another human being. I also definitely don’t want to be tied down to the responsibility of someone else either.

[Asker]

Boo hoo. Its my life. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ im gonna do what i want

[Berethor]

Having children is the main purpose of life and if you ruin your family it's selfish.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natural_selection

[Asker]

@Berethor its 2023. Things have changed. People have the choice now.

[Asker]

@Berethor I remember school and college always told me to not use Wikipedia as a form of information so i will pass on that. Thanks:)

[Asker]

If birth control and contraception was available back then in the 1900s-1970s, I believe most women would have chosen not to have kids…

[Asker]

My brother is married and doesn’t want kids.

[Asker]

Im not a breeder or an incubator to make children for men. Sorry! I see more in MY life than just being a stay at home housewife spending my days taking care of babies and annoying loud kids. That really doesn’t sound appealing to me im sorry i just really do not want to take care of a baby or child. I would be miserable. Im not gonna make myself miserable and bring an unwanted life into this world that will be seen as a chore and burden. Sorry you don’t understand this. Have a good day!! Im done conversing with an illogical human being.

[Berethor]

If most women would have chosen not to have kids, we would go exist, it's bad.

www.washingtonpost.com/.../

[Asker]

Kids are a huge investment that someone makes and should only do if they absolutely want it.

[Asker]

Ok. Well there are 8 billion people on this planet and so far we are not near any catastrophe so i think the world is fine if I, me, myself, doesn’t have kids. Im not gonna bring an unwanted life into this world that will just be seen as a chore and will be neglected.

[Asker]

Im not gonna commit to something without actually wanting and desiring it. Have a wonderful day!

[gorydetails]

It's absolutely a feminist concept to destroy the family.

[Asker]

But would you want people to have kids that don’t want them?…

[Asker]

But families are not required. It’s not a life requirement to have kids

[Asker]

Kids are a huge responsibility and not everyone is interested in that lifestyle

[gorydetails]

Right, but you're not interested in "that lifestyle" based on propaganda shoved at your constantly and a selfish narcissistic society.

[Asker]

Not really

[Asker]

Idc for politics

[Asker]

I simply don’t care for kids

[Asker]

I don’t want to take care of one or be around one 24/7, or clean up after one

[Asker]

I honestly find babies gross and messy and just not cute

[Asker]

Ever since i was a kid myself, i never wanted to have kids of my own. Not my interest

[Asker]

I also didn’t play with dolls growing up

[gorydetails]

so now you'll devote your life as a corporate drone to some boss who will replace you in two weeks after you pass.

[Asker]

I can always find another work place:)

[Asker]

And i could also devote my life to someone who will just put me in a nursing home when im old🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

I have been in the Veterinary field for 7 years. Worked at many places, went to school and got licensed. I can easily find new work!

[Asker]

I don’t want to devote my life to another human being. Sorry! I like to live for myself, not for others!

[gorydetails]

Right, you're a selfish narcissist. We've established that.

[Asker]

Im a selfish narcissist because I don’t want kids?

[Asker]

A narcissist is someone who has no empathy for others. A narcissist is someone who uses people. Its an actual mental disorder

[Asker]

Im not obligated to have kids

[gorydetails]

You literally just typed you want to live for yourself and no one else.

[Asker]

Right, because im not required to live for other people. Its my life. Is that hard to understand? I don’t need to have kids.

[gorydetails]

Right, so you're selfish.

[Asker]

Ok whatever you think! Im still not required or obligated to have kids or live for other people because it’s my life at the end of the day!

[Asker]

I have a question, do you still want me to have a child that I wouldn’t want?… do you want me to have kids I won’t like? Do you care if i end up miserable?

[Asker]

I don’t care for kids… i literally have no interest in them. So I don’t see why i need to have them still

[gorydetails]

You live how you want. You'll ultimately find that living as a selfish person is unfulfilling. By that time it will be too late. Good luck with your future endeavours

[Asker]

I don’t want to be pregnant or give birth. Kids are expensive. They are very time consuming. They are a huge responsibility.

[Asker]

I hope I can’t get pregnant lol

[Asker]

I don’t live as a selfish person😂just cuz I don’t want to devote myself to someone else, doesn’t make me selfish.

[Asker]

I don’t like kids. Do you want me to still have kids?…. That kid will be neglected

[Asker]

I would see the child as nothing but a chore

[Asker]

Kids throw you into nursing homes. You still die alone with kids.

[gorydetails]

We know you will see children as nothing but a chore. Because you're a selfish narcissist.

[Asker]

Cool. A narcissist is someone who has no empathy and who uses other people. Its an actual mental disorder. Im not a narcissist lol

[Asker]

You know what? Fuck them kids!

[Asker]

Children are a chore to me cuz i have no interest in them. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Asker]

I don’t want to deal with kids or a baby. I don’t want to be around them

[gorydetails]

Enjoy your cats and wine.

[Asker]

I will:) and my dogs.

[Asker]

So much better than crying screaming smelly babies that just crap in diapers and waste your money and restrict your freedom. at least my cats and dogs won’t throw tantrums in public embarrassing me. at least my pets don’t cuss me out or demand things from me. at least I don’t need to pay for college tuition. at least my pets are not as big of a responsibility

[Asker]

I don’t want kids because they are extremely expensive. They are a huge responsibility. They restrict your time and freedom. You barely have privacy. You are constantly on your feet, taking care of someone. You wake up throughout the night to a crying infant. Changing diapers and cleaning up after a baby is disgusting to me. I don’t want to deal with vomit or feces from a human baby. Toddlers blabber nonstop never shut up. Babies don’t stop wearing diapers until around 4 years old whereas a dog shits outside, and a cat poops in a sand box. I don’t want someone elses baggage. Meaning, if my partner leaves me, for whatever reason, I don’t want their baggage meaning their offspring. In that case, i would just give full custody and would want my life back. I can find a man who doesn’t want kids. Married childfree couples exist! Ask my 30 year old brother who is married with no kids… or ask my aunt who is 67 and has been married for 30 years! I don’t need to have crotch demons in order to have a relationship with someone.

[Asker]

Oh and what if the child comes out severely disabled? Yeah im not trying to be a caretaker for the rest of my life. Or oh! Kids also have the possibility to become serial killers! No its not how their raised, it’s usually genetics too. Just FYI. Not risking any negative outcome possible.

[Asker]

Many serial killers and mass shooters had amazing childhoods..

[Asker]

Lastly, I simply don’t care for kids. Period. I have no motherly instinct and never had “baby fever”

[gorydetails]

lol, no they didn't. For someone who claims to be happy with her life choices, you're spending a lot of effort trying to justify it to a stranger.

[Asker]

Im not justifying, im explaining my reasons and their all valid.

[Asker]

Kids are for people who WANT them.

[Asker]

You need to understand that.

[gorydetails]

You're absolutely trying to rationalize it to make yourself feel better.

[Asker]

Kids are expensive and a huge responsibility

[Asker]

Because what im saying is true

[gorydetails]

No, because you're trying to convince yourself.

[Asker]

How about i have a kid I don’t want and neglect it!

[Asker]

I will just birth unwanted kids then and neglect them and use them for government money. Does this sound better to you?

[Asker]

You need to understand kids are for people who actually want them

[gorydetails]

you can lie to yourself but I'm not buying it.

[Asker]

Lying to myself? About what exactly?

[Asker]

How many more times do i need to make myself clear?

[Asker]

Do you want people who clearly have no interest in kids, nor want them, to yet still have them?

[Asker]

Do you not understand how big of a responsibility a child is?

[gorydetails]

boy, it's deep. You really need me to agree with your decision. Sounds like it's very shaky on your end.

[Asker]

I don’t care if you agree or not. At the end of the day it is MY choice to have kids or not. Nobody else’s.

[Asker]

No its not shaky. It’s settled. Im never having children. I do not want the baggage or responsibility of a child. It does not appeal to me at all.

[Asker]

I might get tubes tied too

[Asker]

Im on birth control for a reason. So an accident doesn’t happen and ruin my life!

[gorydetails]

Do you think the more you type it the more you'll believe it?

[Asker]

Believe? Excuse me? So my thoughts and feelings don’t matter? Wow lol

[Asker]

Again am I supposed to have kids? Like wtf? Are humans not allowed to have different interests and priorities in life?

[gorydetails]

eventually you'll convince yourself you're making the right choice.

[Asker]

Of course im making the right decision. Im selfish! I shouldn’t have kids. Kids require sacrifice, and parents who are willing to devote themselves to them. They deserve parents who want them, and would do anything for them. Im not any of those things!!! It doesn’t make me a bad person. I just simply do not care for kids. I don’t desire them. I don’t necessarily like them either. So someone like me, should not have kids. I also do not have a motherly instinct either. I have a few friends who have babies, and i pay no attention to their child but to their pets. I simply just feel no emotions towards babies or kids. So therefore people like me shouldn’t have kids because they would be seen as a chore, not a blessing or and enjoyment. Clearly nothing i say makes sense to you even though it’s all valid. Good bye!

[Asker]

I am my own individual with her own thoughts and feelings. I am not required to have kids. It’s my life and nothing i do affects you at all.

[gorydetails]

then why do you keep trying to convince me it’s a good idea?

[Asker]

Bye. Whatever you think is your opinion and whatever i do doesn’t affect you anyway. So you shouldn’t care if its a good idea or not.

[Asker]

Fuck them kids! Bye

[Asker]

Just wanted to add that in lol

[gorydetails]

You really are desperately trying to make yourself feel better about your life choices.

[Asker]

You are so desperate about caring what a stranger does

[Asker]

Its so sad how you feel affected

[Asker]

If i have a kid i would see it as nothing but a chore and i would regret the child

[Asker]

So yes im smart about not bringing an unwanted child into this world

[Asker]

Unless you like kids being neglected

[gorydetails]

Are you that smart? Cause you are still trying to convince yourself

[Asker]

Again, im not trying to convince myself of anything. Its how i feel. Im sorry you don’t like to hear someone else’s opinions. Bye

[Asker]

Why do you care if a stranger has kids or not? Seriously, answer my question. How does what i do affect you?

[Asker]

Why do you want someone who doesn’t like kids to still have them?

[Asker]

Since when are kids a must in life?

[Asker]

Do you only see yourself as a breeder? Is your only purpose in life is to breed and have babies?

[Asker]

I don’t want kids. Im not having them. Why should i if I don’t want them?

[Asker]

Im not gonna put myself into a shitty situation where I regret the child

[gorydetails]

How many more replies do you think it will take before you believe it?

[Asker]

Your a fucking idiot in all honesty.

[Asker]

I know myself and i know how i feel.

[Asker]

Its sad you cannot accept that. Very sad

[Asker]

How can you sit there and tell me im lying to myself? Are you me? Do you experience my feelings or thoughts?

[Asker]

Why are you so bothered by my own life choices?

[Asker]

Why do i need to have kids? Am I supposed to want them and like them?

[Asker]

I look at babies and i feel no emotion, i look at a dog and i feel joy.

[Asker]

I never want to deal with a baby, let alone even hold one😂😂😂😂

[gorydetails]

You’re trying awfully hard to convince yourself at this point.

[Asker]

Bye. Im done with this pointless conversation. Its not going anywhere and you are braindead

[Asker]

I don’t need to convince myself of feelings and thoughts I already have a conclusion and opinion towards.

[gorydetails]

Yeah, definitely 1000 replies saying the same shit over and over surely sells that you’re 100% confident and happy with your choices, lol.

[Asker]

I definitely am

[Asker]

Im sick of people like you who troll around and don’t listen to another person’s opinion

[Asker]

I kept repeating myself because you speak for me. It’s gross and weird

[Asker]

You don’t know me or know how i feel. So you can’t talk for me.

[gorydetails]

Don’t worry, eventually you’ll believe it.

[Asker]

Good bye.

[Asker]

Im sorry you cannot accept another person’s opinion or feelings.

[Asker]

Your a troll

[gorydetails]

It’s “you’re”.

[Asker]

Cool. BYE

[gorydetails]

Adios.

[In_Trance]

because some people are idiots

[Asker]

Right? I always get told im blinded by liberal propaganda just cuz I don’t want kids but I simply do not care for them and I thought about all the possible outcomes of a child, including the cost and responsibility and it’s not something im very interested in🤦🏼‍♀️

[DextroShade]

Feminism is anti-family.

[Asker]

So anyone who does not want to have a family, is a feminist?

[Berethor]

Yea any woman that want to die alone is a feminist, feminism is ruining women's lives.

[Asker]

Cool! Everyone dies alone! Go visit a nursing home! Who do you think puts the elderly in care homes? Their own god damn offspring 😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

Everyone. Dies. Alone. With or without kids. You will die😂

[Asker]

I like being alone anyway:)