Girl cancels date, goes out with another guy and gets caught?

[hopelessromantic1976]

OK I'll try to keep this story as short as possible. This girl I went out with once showed a lot of interested in me.. flirting via texting and Facebook. So I asked her if she wanted to kick it and tells me she can't cause she has her kid. So I give her two options. When are you free? Well how bout Thurs. or Saturday? She says Saturday.. So I said OK cool I'll hit ya up. She then texts me a 'smile' and I'm like OK.. so this is a Tues. I wait till Saturday to text her again so instead of saying 'are we still on' I tell her hey what are you up to. she replies 'I'm with friends, then I'm going out later' then I reply 'with me'? you know and she replies 'if you want to I'm going to Insert city) <-- I can't mention the city but you get the idea... so I ask her 'who you going with?' she's like ' with this guy I told you about who's throwing a benefit show tomorrow' (note: I play in a band and playing the benefit show the following day) Anyways, so I don't reply back to her... I go out at night cause I went to this other show my promoter friend invited me too and guess what? I ran into this girl with that same guy at the show.. So she looks in shock and tells me 'oh wow I didn't know you were going to be in town' 'what are you doing here?' I reply : well my friend invited me to the show so I'm here'...then I cut her off and say I'll be back going to get a drink' so I cut her off and I'm at the show mind you it's a bar so I get a drink or two and she starts texting me while she's with the guy: hey how come you didn't tell me you were going to be here' I'm like 'well I was going to invite you here but since you said you were going out with that other dude I said 'F@#' it she's like 'not like that' so I don't reply and she keeps texting me and I never reply back... then next day comes and she shows up to my show and she's there texting again. '' when I'll go on stage'' I don't respond: then she texts again , ''hey I'm here when do you go on stage'' I ignore her again.. as I'm going on stage she's there with that dude he's holding her from behind...blah blah I finish my show I ignore and she walks up to me alone and asks 'aren't you going to say hi' so I say oh what's up and again she asks: 'how come you didn't tell me you were in town yesterday'' so I told her '' well I was about to tell you , but since you were too busy '' blah blah...so I said she's like: 'when's your next show?' I'm like look it up on my page then I cut her off and tell her 'hey I gotta go, but have fun with your man'' lol anyways my question you guys think I did the right thing? I was really bummed that she played it off like nothing happened and still tries to talk to me. :(

[Darkfairie17]

Yea that seems kinda sketchy. If she was truly interested why would she plan something else at the same time? Plus also have another guy there too, and him holding her from behind :S Seems kind of obvious what was going on there. I don't think what she did to you was right. She should have at least told you she either had another date, or was busy that night or that something came up. Instead of just not really addressing it and showing up somewhere you were by mistake.

I would have just taken her aside and asked her straight up. Say that you were really looking forward to the date. Find out who this guy is, perhaps she was talking with him at the same time and got suckered into the date and didn't know what to do. I would give her the benefit of the doubt until you find out the whole truth here. But don't let your guard down completely.

She should have come to you, but if she is still talking to you, I would at least talk to her about it. It could have been a big misunderstanding. But I completely understand your disappointment and that's why I think you should ask for some answers. At least then you can know what happened and make a decision based on that information :)

[Anonymous]

She seems a bit needy not to mention dishonest. I would run away from that...

[Collegeruger]

she seems like she was two timing you a lil. but did you ask one of her freinds about the dude and her? somtimes the girls friends can help you out.

regardless she was acting a little shaddy but instead of being rude you should have tried to explain what you were thinking and see if she could explain her actions.

[hopelessromantic1976]

she just posted on her page this:; whatever happend to second chances? so her followeres are putting 'that 2nd chances are earned not deserved' then someone else puts 'u only get one shot' lol she's like you guys are not helping... and then she posted another headline that says: I need to get away to such and such city so I can think

[Collegeruger]

they are right though 2nd chances do need to be earned!

[hopelessromantic1976]

so I guess she wants a shot at me she'll have to earn it or per say deserve it. if she really wants me I should just wait for her to hit me up eh?

[Collegeruger]

thats all up to you. do you think she deserves it?

personally I would just leave her in the past and move on.