What could be the best way to stop/prevent/control rape crime?

[StarWarGirl]

According to you.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I've heard people say things like, "Teach men not to rape," and that seems to make light of a very difficult problem. If only it were that simple; we could end all crime if we just taught people not to commit crimes.

What I do think would mitigate rape as well as crime in general is to teach boys to be gentlemen all throughout their lives, not just in a single course or two but reinforced regularly throughout their parenting and schooling.

I'm not just about the gentleman rituals like walking on the side of the curb next to traffic so that the man is hit instead of the woman if a car swerves, to hold open doors, to arrange and pay for dates, etc.

I'm talking about the deep underlying ethics behind these rituals which a gentleman should strive to adhere to always, beyond courtship and dates, as ultimately a leader, protector, and provider of women.

A true gentleman who takes ultimate pride in protecting women is not going to rape them let alone exploit them. That would be so contradictory to everything he believes a man should be.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I like the idea of trying this on a small scale and evaluate the success based on the crime rates of the students: The School of Gentleman.

The boys will be taught martial arts with a self-defense philosophy, etiquette, contact sports, Stoicism and cultivating inner peace and joy despite hardships, the rituals of the gentleman practicing on women and partnering up this way, how to dance with women, and with a lot of focus on kindness, strength, and courage.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Boys who behave in ungentlemanly ways (belligerent, cowardly, complaining, etc) receive non-corporal physical punishments such as having to do a lot of menial labor, run laps, and do knuckle push-ups.

[Kaneki05]

Your ideal that men been the provider and protector makes it easier for them to also control and rape such women. That very leadership is what makes men think they have the right to do what they want with a woman. So this point is backwards.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Kaneki05 That's not a gentleman type of leadership as I see it. The gentleman type of leadership is closer to the Servant Leadership Model in business. It reflects in the rituals and it does not seek subservient housewives; it's an educated class concept, not a working class concept.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Kaneki05 So it seeks leaders among women as well: educated women who are competent, as with the analogy of the king and queen, or lord and lady: two leaders.

It's very different from the kind of "alpha male" idea today as advocated by people like Andrew Tate and Myron Gaines. Those types want something like a king + servant: a woman who worships them and boosts their status and ego and desire for power.

The gentleman ethic doesn't seek leadership for power and status. It seeks it to take care of others. It's a benevolent leadership, and seeks capable leaders among followers.

[Kaneki05]

You know how most women became queens right? Most were not there to be equal. In a ideal world of respectful people your idea would make sense. But in a realistic world in which people always take advantage of their position all you promote with this idea is going back to a world of those subservient wives who can't speak out of turn otherwise the man slaps her/worse.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Kaneki05 For sure, and I do we have to adapt it a bit for contemporary times. Yet I think a peculiar characteristic of the gentleman is that he seems both submissive and dominant at the same time. He leads but he serves, even gets on his knee to ask a woman's hand in marriage.

There is at least a much healthier set of values that I think we can derive from this basic model, and not just in the context of courtship and relationships, but even in the workplace:
https://youtu.be/J9VJJR7Rh8c

[aceleon]

sorry pal but your optimism is blah.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@aceleon I figure it's an ENFP thing. 😁

"What's the big deal?" when the building is burning down.

[aceleon]

fun thing me being an İNTJ

[Anonymous]

The answer is actually really simple, but making it happen is not so simple. Men who were raised by two good parents rarely rape. The problem we face today is the majority of boys are raised without a good, strong father figure who teaches them how to respect women and treat them well. There are two reasons for that...1) shitty men, and 2) women who breed indiscriminantly with shitty men who they re not confident will make good fathers to heir children.

[laly520]

the issue needs to be handled from day 0

educational lessons about it for kids

mental facilities to treat people with such tendencies

a HUGE change in today's media

I won't mention last point cuz its too much for people

[Berethor]

Legalized prostitution is reduce rape rites by a considerable amount.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2014/07/17/when-rhode-island-accidentally-legalized-prostitution-rape-and-stis-decreased-sharply/

[The_Sexpert]

That's pretty thought provoking

[RebelinSteel]

Personally it cannot be, until you can stop bullying, harassment and other forms of abuse, you cannot stop rapes. It’s not about men or women looking at their own safety, as people get raped in their house by family members or someone known to them, at house parties, in pubs, clubs, malls, etc. It occurs in places that people expect to be safe. It’s a global society thing and some countries will never learn and deep down they do not see it as a problem.

[Kaneki05]

Mostly you can't.
The best defense though is women been there for women. Girl goes to party if she has her friends around her, and making sure some guy ain't taking her somewhere else then that will prevent it happening there.
You could try and rely on a guy but then that's when you enable the guy who will undoubtably be said rapist.

Women working together. Best defense.

[patrick994]

Education from an early age imparted both by parents and in schools, one has to know the consequences of violence from an early age and understand that it is wrong regardless of whether it is from women to men or men to women.

Learning to defend oneself with martial arts and supplementing the gym during prepubescence and adolescence, alternatively also the use of a cutting or firearm to be used only in case of imminent danger, so in my opinion a woman can slit her rapist's throat.

[loveslongnails]

Overall, don't covertly condone within your patriarchal society and teach men that it's abhorrent and inexcusable behavior. For women, critical self-defense knowledge and practice, but also to do everything possible to avoid a situation that may endanger themselves. I realize as many of 75% of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim, so this is a very tough position to from which to protect oneself.

[OddBeMe]

I think 70-80%, prob more, the victims know their attackers. So better parenting regulation. Having an unbiased police unit investigate without destroying someone’s life or being tough on a victim.

But ultimately it’s all comes down to poverty. Thats the poison in crime, the economy, etc. And it’s growing.

[Anonymous]

The answer to this question is the same as the answer to the question of how to stop/prevent/control murder, theft, homelessness, and every other problem that has always been a part of the human condition.

You can't. It has always existed, and it always will.

[strateguy632]

be willing to "lie in scool that god sees you" even if you think that is a lie. consistent through high scool. gotta hear this propaganda to lessen total rapes.

[_no_one_]

Teaching consent from young age to get more sensible youth. Plus have very very severe punishments like legit chopping off the dick and possibly make the vid available or smth. I am all for eye for an eye.

[aceleon]

give guys their personal prostitudes and renew them when they get old.

it would halve the rape rate.

[NewgodOmega]

Kill all men
The feminist suggests that be done

[StarWarGirl]

Even male gets raped and even female does rape.

[NewgodOmega]

But killing all the men still solves the problem the feminists insist this

[BLP11520]

Move away from a high crime area. Do not go to suspicious areas at night, especially alone by a gun get firearm training, take up self-defense women should not shop alone in bad areas😊

[BLP11520]

You can get a fairly decent gun for between 250 and $350

[SnackTime]

And buy up more bullets than you will ever need, before the government buys it all.

[BLP11520]

@SnackTime exactly if you have a 9 mm auto loader you can burn through a lot of ammunition practicing trust me. I have done many times you can get 38 special revolvers pretty cheap nowadays you can get 12 gauge shotguns for under $300. Just don’t get Chinese.

[SnackTime]

I have a Smith & Wesson Saturday night special. What gun do I have? Lol

[BLP11520]

@SnackTime is it 38 special?

[SnackTime]

Winner, winner, chicken, dinner 😅

[BLP11520]

@SnackTime cool beans, and sunshine😎

[JacobJordan]

Death. Rape is commited by.4% of the population if they are killed problem solved

[JacobJordan]

For those saying "but that's heartless" fine remove their sexual organs make it a physical impossibility

[Anonymous]

Make the punishments more intimidating

Honestly, few years in prison is not even a problem for most criminals

Rapists if found guilty should be hanged

[Staximus]

This way

[Pohjolan]

There's just a bunch of tradeoffs here on a societal level.

On a individual level a 9mm semiautomatic is a great equaliser.

[Anonymous]

The BEST way? I can tell you but you won't want to hear it.

[StarWarGirl]

Tell me. There is nothing such thing what I don't want to...

[Opinion Owner]

The BEST way is women can make better decisions regarding thier safety. Avoid obvious compromising situations. No it won't eliminate rape but it will eliminate a lot of them.

[tpskchats]

Teach people on their mindset... We have to change their thinking if you get what I mean🥲

[SnackTime]

Chemical castration.

[Dargil]

Don't place yourself in harm's way.

[StarWarGirl]

What's harm's way? Because most of rape is done by the known person or family members whom we trust the most.

[Dargil]

Prove that statement with a link. Otherwise it is fake news. I'm not saying it isn't true, as are vacuous statements about "thousands" of Black men being killed by Police. But such statements must be proven with facts, not emotions ot fabricated opinions. If you are correct in your assertion, it cannot be stopped.

[StarWarGirl]

www.summitcountyco.gov/.../Facts-About-Sex-Offenders

[StarWarGirl]

It's a government official website even the study of other countries shows the same result. So you can verify.

[StarWarGirl]

www.nytimes.com/.../men-rape-sexual-assault.html

www.bustle.com/.../who-is-madhumita-pandey-the-research-student-interviewed-over-100-convicted-rapists-in-india-heres-what-she-learned-2335827

These two links are about the study that happened over how a rapist think about the crime they have done. They got interviewed and the intresting fact that we learn that they deny even that they have had done rape.

They say yes they have done sex forcefully but they didn't rape.

[Dargil]

Two slanted fake news purveyors.

[Kaneki05]

@StarWarGirl don't try to rationalize with a person that say's show me your evidence but provides none himself for his own point. And then afterwards just calls yours fake while still provides no evidence of his own idea that it's just as easy as staying out of harms way lol.

[normalice]

Probably socialized mental healthcare.

[Booklover_90]

Unfortunately, you can’t.

[Vegasrunner]

Legalize affordable prostitution

[Anonymous]

Simple. More armed women.