Would your 10 year old self be proud of your accomplishment so far in life?

[tierrlamé]

Yes

No

Not sure

[sawno]

I actually think he would be despite the things that haven't gone as planned.
I used to draw little computer books, every page was a screen of what the computer was doing. And I imagined a ton of interesting things in them that I imagined my company "Sawnoplanet" (Adapted from the real name) would be doing.

So i'd have my own PC recovery software disks that could install the PC's, I'd have my own internet provider. I'd have my own online casino (As a kid I loved the slot machines). All kinds of cool stuff like that.

And the interesting part is that I actually ended up doing pretty much all of them in some form. Even if its in a simulated form, like my own dail-up internet provider in my house is a simulation its not real, but I did it. I have my own whitelabel casino I made as a kid, obviously never made money off it and I forgot which site I got it from but I do have the software still. So "Sawnoplanet Casino" technically exists. So did a webhosting service, etc.

He'd find it really cool that my gameserver got the most popular in the world, he'd find it epic what a cool retro computer I own inspired by the one he is still playing games on himself.

And if I told him the kind of stuff I experienced the past years I don't know if he'd even believe it, but when I tell him I'm serious he's going to long for the day it happens.

But then there's of course the things that go wrong, and I think he'd still be proud of me because things just go wrong sometimes and I have done everything I can to deal with it the best I can, and I managed the damage better than I thought I could.

So all in all I think he'd be amazed at what my life has been like so far, and he'd hope I get the two things back I want most.

[tierrlamé]

That's awesome! How you come up with it all?

[sawno]

I loved using computers as a kid, so I toyed around and drew the kind of things I saw. And then toying around I discovered how to do a lot of these things over the years.

[tierrlamé]

Thats really cool actually!

[Somoneelse]

It depends. I think my 10 year old self would be proud to see how I manage to keep myself strong and focus on growth. . While it would also be disappointed in seeing that most of the dreams I had at that age never came out.

When I was 10 year old. I had so many goals and dreams I wanted in life. It was the age before my depression started to become serious/worse. I wanted to become a DJ, moving out on my 18th and become rich. Life was a game to me, not knowing what adulthood would be. So from that perspective my 10 year old self would be disappointed seeing that never worked out. But if I explain to myself what happened during the years, my pains and my growths. Maybe my younger self would understand life is not always like we imagine it would be. My mentor always taught me life is just like a highway, sometimes you have to turn the wheel to stay on the road. Otherwise you would crash into the barriers. And also another one my mentor taught me: "Without the ups and downs, your heart could never beat. You need them both to keep your heart pumping."

[tierrlamé]

I'm sorry about the depression, that shit is a nasty disease and some never get out of it. But seams like you have a good mentor. Thats good. Sounds like he shared some good wisdom with you.

[Somoneelse]

Yep it is a nasty disease which corrupts your mind so badly. I'm very thankful for my mentor and all my friends who helped me with taking off the dark glasses, slowly learn to accept myself and look forward instead of being stuck in the past.

[Somoneelse]

And luckily with their help I kept away from any psychologist, medicine or getting locked up in a clinic. As most of the "mental health resources" in my region are corrupt assholes who abuse their power to make patients get worse than they already were and addicted to the medicine.

[4ngelic]

noooo

at 10 i thought now i'd be some millionaire who went to harvard and works in some $$$$$$ prestigious job, living in a penthouse with sports cars. also thought that adults that dont have that type of life are losers and failures and i never ever wanted to be that. 10yo me would be upset as hell

[wiltingrosepetal]

Of course!! I'm a uni student who gets drunk at parties, drives, and has a boyfriend who treats me with flowers. Little me would flip her lid if I told her everything

[tierrlamé]

😂😂 well. thats good

[CalmUntilAbused]

Nah... A 10 year old me would be somewhat disappointed in me. No dreams fulfilled, no happiness found, some ideals given up on. A 12 year old me would be glad I'm still alive and not behind the bars for mass murder, though. Also, he would be somewhat proud of me fulfilling my dream of working as a programmer, though he would frown at the fact that I'm working at a big company rather than doing my own stuff as an independent developer (again, ideals given up on). The moment he asks about my love life, however, he's getting terminated on the spot.

[tierrlamé]

Alright well its not too late to change that

[CalmUntilAbused]

At my age and in my situation... There's little that can be done. There are some things I simply cannot achieve unless I change the world first so that they are actually achieveable. Fat chance.

[tierrlamé]

you are 26?

[CalmUntilAbused]

More like 25. Not that it's much better.

[tierrlamé]

You are only 25 bro you can find someone fosure

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... I'm positive I can find "someone", it's just that I don't want to find and settle for someone like a certain Amber that was Heard about lately due to her appaling mistreatment of a certain Johnny Depp. While I'm a somewhat less tempting target, I'm also not financially capable of defending myself at all against such a vicious torture and betrayal. Thus, the main point in this aspect is to find not just "someone", but someone I can trust. Building that trust from the scratch itself is 5 years at the very least, with 10 years being a decently secure option. That's 5 years per attempt in the most optimistic scenario, and given that the first attempt cannot be expected to be successful (with a single notable exception, where due to multiple circumstances the timespan could also be safely reduced to 3 years), I might fail to achieve that during my lifetime, especially given that the longer the solitude, the less I even care about whether I live or die. Now, of course, if I do succeed in finding that very special kind of "someone", it's not the end of the road. Given the general legislative and social circumstances in most of the sphere of influence of the "progressive" West, maintaining a healthy family in these regions would be pure hell anyway. This can be overcome, and it might actually be a fun adventure to maintain the family while basically on the run, but this kind of lifestyle would require incredible level of dedication and cooperation within the family, much above what a sane person assuming the world is "not that insane" might expect.

[tierrlamé]

Yeah I understand but there are good women out there. Just dont go for the woman half naked in clubs or on onlyfans. Try to ask women out in real life like coworker, friend of a friend etc.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Coworkers? Not really an option. There are three types of female coworkers:
Superiors - even if they are kind to me on a daily basis, I'm not even human to them as a man. I make less money than them and my status in the hierarchy is lower, as well. Maybe if I literally saved the life of such a coworker (we're talking about terrorist attack-level threats here) I could get a chance for her to acknowledge me as a human being, if I do it twice, I guess I might be allowed to pursue her romantically.
Equals - they know how much money I make, and as it can be summed up as "as much as them", it can also be categorized as "not enough". However, if I happened to excel in some field such a coworker is interested in, it might not be out of the question to enter at least a friendly relationship with her. However, I'm hardly a dominator, so the idea of "excelling" in any field is pretty much unknown to me. I can easily be "good enough", but to be "the top of the top" is pretty much out of my reach.
Subordinates - sure sounds promising, as some of them might look up to me. However, engaging in any closer relationship with a subordinate screams "abuse of power/authority". There's little I'd flinch if faced with, but court battles are one of these things. Thus, I do not intend to ever agree to become a mentor of a new female employee, shifting this kind of deadly risk to willing male coworkers or nullifying it by getting female coworkers to do that.

Now... As of today, I have no information whatsoever about any female coworkers on "equal" footing with me, which is the only potentially hope-inspiring option. Thus, coworkers are no good. I'm thinking of searching through those "friends of friends", though.

[tierrlamé]

I've dated women who made more than me lol. You need to have the confidence to ask women out. If you never ask people out you will never get a yes. Trust me I know broke ugly men who are average height who get pussy left and right. But it depends what your end goal is too. If its just sex or if you want a commitment.

[CalmUntilAbused]

In my case, the end goal is obviously commitment. That's exactly why I would be unable to act overconfident. Anyway, I know I could make my dream come true... It's just that it would require an unnerving amount of luck, finding the single right one for me.

[tierrlamé]

Yeah i dont believe in luck but I dont think its a good idea to not be open to meet someone good when you are only 25 years old

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... In the Western world, it's an extremely tough order. However, it's not impossible, especially since there is still some non-zero probability that the Girl I have on my mind right now reciprocates my feelings. It's not like She's really outgoing, so it's possible She's trying to kill Her own feelings to regain Her composure, and I'll just have to disrupt this attempt.

[tierrlamé]

Go for it. Many women do that shit so its better you stop her before its too late

[Lynx122]

Yes I think so. Well when I was a kid I had completely unrealistic expectations of what I would achieve partly because I was a kid and partly because everybody told me I was smart and I would be able to do anything later in life. So from that point of view not. But if I could talk to my kid self and explain what growing up is actually like and all the things I had to go through I think I'd be proud of myself :)

[tierrlamé]

very understandable!

[midnightmoon05]

She should…although … at ten… she had no idea how her life transformed…by 11… by 20…by 30…by 40….

she worked so hard and so smart that she is now a millionaire from a little farm girl without shoes to wear and food to eat.
she had no idea she would become a role model to many young minds… 😊

[tierrlamé]

Thats cool, glad you are successful

[Anonymous]

Would they be able to get their head around the complexity of adult life, the hardship, worry, stress, effort that goes into everything I've now achieved?

Would they understand what it all means?

Probably not.

But I imagine at 10 they would understand the basics and be happy that I'm still around, that I achieved most of my life goals, and that i have been successful by my own standards. The only standards that actually matter.

[tierrlamé]

Wisely said! Glad you made it.

[IslaTheWitch]

she would be happy :D

I wish she knew...

[tierrlamé]

Thats good😆, now knew what exacly...👀

[IslaTheWitch]

that I made it :D that I found friends, solved problems and was loved :D

[tierrlamé]

Thats really good to hear!😌

[OfMiceandMen]

I wanted to be an oceanographer when I was 10 and study sharks. I study other plants and animals and I suppose my 10 year old self would be somewhat impressed.

[tierrlamé]

Thats awesome! Glad to hear

[JacobJordan]

My 10 year old self would probably hate me. Because my 10 year old self hated everyone

[tierrlamé]

why the hate?

[JacobJordan]

Cause he didn't like people and the bullying I went through started at that age

[tierrlamé]

I hope not anymore right?

[JacobJordan]

No I stopped caring what people thought about me when I was 15 after failing to commit suicide and realizing that the fail was a reminder that most people don't matter and what they think matters even less

[tierrlamé]

Glad you made it alive!

[MemeSupreme]

not sure bc ik she'd be surprised im alive and like doing better but when you're that young you kinda hope for more at the same time lol

[tierrlamé]

Why wouldn't you be alive?🤔

[MemeSupreme]

just bad upbringing and environment growing up poor too, so i didn't know if i'd be alive, some addict, in jail, or somethin else

[tierrlamé]

Thats rough. We problaby relate on some stuff there. But good you are alive.

[FlowerChild94]

Yes and no but she would definitely be happy that I’m so pretty and can dress how I want 😂😂😂

[tierrlamé]

Haha if you say so, cool!

[Sonorous]

Well 10 year old me was chill & vain, so he'd see my muscles & just automatically be proud of me. 🤣🤣

[tierrlamé]

Thats good. If he was chill you could have been fat and he'd be cool with it too tho😂😂

[Sonorous]

Yeah he would have been cool with it for sure but slightly disappointed since I always dreamed of being in great shape when I was younger. I was that one fat kid always telling people that he was gonna come back the next school year jacked 🤣 but never did

[tierrlamé]

Oh yeah I remember you told me you were fat as a kid. Yeah well young you is proud its good😂

[Sonorous]

the old me is dead 🗿 I killed him off a few years back

[tierrlamé]

Well only you can justify it so fair enough lol

[Sonorous]

Bro wut

[tierrlamé]

jk😂 you the killer tho so blame yourself

[Sonorous]

bro blame myself for wut 🤣 I killed him with the blackpill I'm glad he's dead. Mofo was always trying to jester maxx as cope

[tierrlamé]

He had it coming😂 jester maxx is crazy🤣

[Sonorous]

u know it's over when they block you before you can even jestermaxx for them 🤣🤣

[tierrlamé]

Blocking is for the weak😂 I let the haters watch me🤣

[AviatorTom]

Yes. Me as a 10-yo wanted to be an engineer, build things and help people. I've been fortunate in my career as an engineer to do just that.

[tierrlamé]

Wanting to become an engineer at 10 is rare dream I think? Cool that you reached your goals!

[AviatorTom]

@tierrlamé My older cousin was an engineer. He was like a second father to me, taught me all about engineering. In 5th grade, with his help, I wrote a paper on how electric power can be transmitted without wires; that's something that is real today.

[liggang]

My 10 year old self is proud that I did not kill myself after what I've been through.

[tierrlamé]

That's rough man but glad you are still here with us.

[Dinklex3]

Yes 🤗

She’d be like “Wow! We were able to do that? 🤗”

[tierrlamé]

Thats really nice to hear!

[CheeseMonster]

My 10 year old self had zero plans for the future. Literally anything would have been considered a success. I did not care.

[tierrlamé]

Well there's some good in that one

[bobby_bush_eater]

My 10 year old self would be confused af at the path I ended up... A 10 year old wouldn't be able to conceptualize my job in the military nor the finance work I do now

[tierrlamé]

yeah that makes sense. But glad you do important work, its good.

[Seinna]

I think my 10 year old self would prefer if I was a girl boss lol

[tierrlamé]

I see

[andreasderjuengere]

That's too young to understand my life. But I guess that he likes me and is kind of impressed by some things.

[tierrlamé]

Cool!

[NathanDavis]

definitely so... relieved as well, and shocked

happy...

[tierrlamé]

Thats cool, am glad to hear that

[NathanDavis]

fortunate, thank you

[Flower7]

No, I think she would be disappointed in me for not being farther ahead in life.

[tierrlamé]

Damn, why you think so?

[Flower7]

My career isn’t where it should be. I don’t have a very good job right now.

[tierrlamé]

Hope you find the job you want

[BrookeS]

I know the feeling

[Unit1]

Neither.

My 10 year old self is way too depressed to look that far into the future. Suicidal.

[tierrlamé]

Thats sad, how come?

[Unit1]

Toxic and abusive parents. Starvingly broke. Escaping from a shithole region by the time i was 27 years old. I feel like i escaped from a gulag.