Do you have trouble saying "no" to people?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends on the people and thier willingness to take no for answer. I don't have trouble standing my ground but I hate manipulators (i. e. car salesmen for example). So when someone can't or more accurately WON'T take no for an answer I might lose my cool.

I remember the last car I bought, the salesman I dealt with was a young guy (I think he was really green). He didn't fully handle the deal. But they tried to give him as much autonomy as they could I think. We were haggling over the price and at one point he gets up to do the whole " I need to go run this by my boss and see what he says". While I'm sitting there, at the angle I am to his desk, I see a paper packet sitting behind his desk. I grab it and start looking at it. And it was a packet on how to deal with a customer.🤣 Now I don't remember all of what it said. But I remember one of the rules were, "wait till the customer makes an emotional connection to the car". So when he comes back he tells me his boss says they can't do my offer. So I look at him thoughtfully contemplating. Then I reach over grab the packet and look it as though I'm reading then glance back at him and say, "do you think I've made an emotional connection to the car yet"? After stammering for a few minutes he said he'd go run it by his boss again. After that they sent a new older guy to deal with me.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

So context dependent..

I like in Thailand , here its extremely rude to say NO , as you guys may in USA , Asian culture NEVER works like this , its all part of " saving face " , you never treat anything as absolute..

So if you dont want to do something you say " let me take a look at it " or " will check whats happening " , you never just say NO , never ever..

USA Culture is much more " in your face " which is why these thoughts are utterly despised over here , unless just a tourist in Bangkok or Pattaya , also hated is LOUD , and " I " , so.. this is the issue involved , it just cannot happen like this.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

No. If someone asks me for something, of for me to do something for them, I’m more than happy to… IF I have the time. If not I tell them no, but explain why. If they simply want something from me that I am not willing, or wanting to give them, I have no problem whatsoever telling them no! You just have to be self confident, and be willing to stand up for your rights.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Depends on the person and depends what it is. Lots of times I say yes then I just don't show up LOL.

Summeroflove · Answer

Not anymore I’ve just became very blunt with people because there’s only so much horse shit a person can take. Most good understanding people can take no for a answer. Not a mean no…. But just a respectful and honest no sometimes I may explain why sometimes not. It’s the same way with me if I ask someone for something and they say they can’t. I just leave it at that.

Now if it was a life or death sort of thing that would be another story. But you can only do so much for people especially people who won’t do anything for you.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

No
See what I did lol
How to say no seems to be more important. And I’ll be honest I used to say yes more often but I’ve come to realize it’s just not worth it even for people you would think would come through just don’t. At least in my experience.

HawkPerception · Answer

I definitely do. It's one huge negative I have 😅 Except when it comes to food. I know what I like and it doesn't matter who asks me to eat. I'll only eat what I like.

Levin · Answer

I'm pretty arseholey/my boundaries are strong. They didn't used to be. Learnt the hard the way.

Serkee · Answer

Yeah. I'm afraid of disappointing people and I always try to make people around me happy, so I often end up becoming a doormat.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I'm more inclined to say no or doubt things than say yes. I'm not easily trusting of others or easily going along with things.

I am also very reserved with people initially, I tend to observe their behaviors quietly initially.

Cat67 · Answer

Wow sugar plum that was a good one yes and no for me I am somehow asked quite a lot somehow usually I can avoid them lie and get away from so I won't have to but most recently I didn't get stuck in somebody borrowed 180 and said they would pay back but so far just games and games lies and lies and I'm not paid back yet probably won't oh well could be worse right could be more

AviatorTom · Answer

Not yes, though sometimes people don't believe me, since I am usually positive and accommodating.

Lynx122 · Answer

I used to have a lot of trouble with it but now it's gotten a lot better :)

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

The opposite.  I can easily say "no" to people.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Depends at times who is asking, what it’s about. At times I’m a push over

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I used to have trouble saying no, but not anymore :)

Account · Answer

Depends on what it is. For people I am close to and I respect I cannot say no.  For people I don't respect, saying no is the easiest thing ever.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I used to struggle with it. I found that it got a lot easier once I gained more confidence.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah at times, I’m kinda like the guy in the movie “Yes Man” with Jim Carey

dudegreat91 · Answer

Yes that lands me in trouble most of the times

Unit1 · Answer

Is that a trick question?

thearchjoker · Answer

NO and let me make it clear NO as in no nope and nah

mandyfire98 · Answer

😂😂😂 love the choices.

polodude2013 · Answer

Used to be hard to say no. Now it's easier to say it as I've gotten older.

KpopMusicFan · Answer

Nope. You don’t always have to be a people pleaser

laly520 · Answer

used to not anymore

Alex-Snow · Answer

I do... I guess I'm too much of a nice guy

Yannae · Answer

Not at all, it's very easy!

_lexiesplanet_ · Answer

used too but not anymore

Jennz6 · Answer

I’m easy 💃

HumbleDragon · Answer

Saying no is way more fun

Pterodon · Answer

It’s one of my favorite words

Chthou95 · Answer

No. There i just said it

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope I can say no with no problem

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Unfortunately

MK1997 · Answer

No I don't

jahaims · Answer

Nope

gatixek710 · Answer

nope.

Zeropopular · Answer

Not much

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Depends on who

SunnyRS · Answer

Sometimes yes.

andy530 · Answer

Some people yes

Ironco · Answer

No, I do not

CubaPirate · Answer

Noooooooo

Human79 · Answer

Sometimes

12karen · Answer

It's never easy

Iron_Man · Answer

I guess

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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