Is it a deal breaker if your date is voting for a different candidate than you in the 2024 presidential election?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

No, I'm very tolerant of people disagreeing with me as long as they don't arrogantly insist that they are right and I am wrong. I dated a fairly left-leaning liberal for two years and we simply avoided political discussions. For two years, I spent almost every weekend with her and we were very comfortable with the relationship.

I also dated a girl for about two months because she suddenly discovered (it was not anything that I had hidden) that I was one of THOSE people: a conservative. I considered her behavior childish and shallow, and walked away assuming that her abrupt breakup simply saved me the cost of the next date.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't ask her.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, it doesn't matter to me.

PWEAVES · Answer

I was just thinking about this the other day. Here’s where I landed…

In short, it doesn’t really matter who they vote for.

Ultimately, I think it comes down to your shared values. It’s highly possible for you to have a lot of shared values and core beliefs but still be voting for different candidates. Maybe you think your candidate embodies your values better and they think they’re candidate does. That’s a great discussion to have at some point in the relationship.

It’s definitely best to leave politics out of the conversation to start. First you need to determine if you have the same beliefs about human nature, and ultimately, right and wrong. If you don’t share the same core values, chances are you will never agree on a candidate anyway.

When you feel like you’re ready to include politics in the conversation, I think it’s a great conversation to have but it’s definitely tricky to approach. It can be difficult not to come off as preachy or with an “I’m right, you’re wrong” attitude.

WintersDaughter · Answer

Ehhhh, potentially. If they're voting one way because that's their party and they haven't done any research or don't have a real reason for voting for that person... well, I don't really want to date an idiot, but it's not necessarily a deal beaker.

If they're moderate and just slightly leaning towards the opposite side, it's easier to have conversations because we probably agree on more issues than not.

If they're heavily on their political side, I'd say it's a deal breaker. That means we disagree on a LOT. To the point where we probably want to raise our kids differently.

loveslongnails · Answer

There's no way I could, or would, ever date a maga or trumper. I dated someone who voted for Romney, and that was fine because she was smart, offered logical reasons for her choice, and wasn't an extremist. She believed ALL of Congress needed to focus on what's best for ALL the people, so I respected her. That's all changed now. Repubs, maga's, trumpers - they're all authoritarians in denial and follow the incompetent idiot, even though he's deranged. I have nothing in common with a woman who supports that.

molonski2 · Answer

On the assumption I was a USA citizen , it wouldn't matter if they were simply a Democrat , that would not be an issue , Buffet votes Democrat , the problem would come if extremities were involved , so this particular time some potential problems on both sides , so on this occasion and not residing in a swing state , we may well agree to simply not turn out..

The reality is that very few votes will seal the outcome this time around , and these votes need to occur in the correct seats , there are massive problems with what the Democrats are putting forward , and really due to time restraints the correct candidate was not even sort after..

Its become a crazy sht show , with zero logic , as long as all understand that , the dating part would not be an issue.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't even vote... never have

so, whoever they vote for, it would be different than me, it doesn't really matter much to me

there's a whole full list of many other things that are much more important for me, to know about them and who they really are

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, I'm glad my wife and I see things the same and there was no convincing required.

others in family see it different and I talk with them peacfully. Opinions are that.

But underneath the differences, there might be issues lurking and have to pay attention to that.

Some people though are intorant... and that, would not be ok.

RavVid · Answer

It would matter to me because political persuasion is really life style now. I really couldn't take a girl seriously if she told me her pronouns.

Dez_37_46 · Answer

My partner and I don’t need to vote the same way. There are lots of things that we don’t necessarily see eye to eye on. But for the most part we do and that’s what I appreciate about her. If everyone was the same, life would be pretty boring.

DrPepper12 · Answer

She has to support my values and I know I CANNOT support her Q MAGA BS. Yes, I am happy to engage and learn from MAGA but I don't have to live with them!

AviatorTom · Answer

I hope not. I know many couples who split their vote. Not every couple has the same political beliefs. My wife and I share some beliefs, and differ on several others.

Lucy68 · Answer

Not really to be honest, I mean if they like a different party in my opinion it shouldn't affect the relationship

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

As long as they themselves aren't going to be a confrontational activist, then it's fine and idc. We can actually discuss how we view things like adults but to automatically say deal breaker I think is crazy for either side.

A lot of people vote and they're largely ignorant or lack general interest in politics but a presidential election is a bit different.

slatyb · Answer

If it's Trump, that's a definite deal-breaker. Our values and our world views are completely incompatible.

Arwen06 · Answer

Both parties are capitalist and neoliberal, they are the same thing. I would respect someone more for not voting and instead going on protests and community organizing

exitseven · Answer

No, but if she tried to push her toxic ideas on me it is sayonara.

MemeSupreme · Answer

yes bc DONT BREAK UP POLITICS ON A DATE trying to have fun and if a dude i barely know is bringing up that... it's a red flag lol otherwise no

Anonymous · Answer

Gross I don't want to date one of those lunatic trump supporting women.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No I don't care at all unless they are trying to push their stupid views onto me.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

No. Unless they're mindless and always go mah authroity.

thundernugget · Answer

It doesn’t truly matter to me. What does matter is if you are trying to make me change my opinions.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. I've never really cared how a girl votes. If she doesn't pay any attention at all, I'd consider that a HUGE plus.

Anonymous · Answer

not but she has to be able to justify why she voted for a certain candidate emotional arguments won't work and any shame tactics i. e. racist, sexist etc. can GTFO

Juxtapose · Answer

I would actually prefer to date someone who disagrees with me and can engage with me a lot. But they would absolutely need to be able to agree to disagree, and pretty frequently at that.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Yes, one hates patriarchy, that means you Daddy.

llorando · Answer

As long as they are able to be respectful and civil about us choosing different candidates, then no, it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

HighValue · Answer

Yes. I won't even be friends with anyone that votes democrat anymore.

robocop666 · Answer

Ivanka Trump is a democrat and Donald is a republican. He fancies her and would like her to be his partner. he said if she was not related to him he would have sex with her.

LiamJHayden · Answer

None of my closest friends is even voting for Chase Oliver like I am, so yes.

Pterodon · Answer

My girlfriend is black so yeah we definitely clash politically but it’s not that big a deal

Caroline91 · Answer

It would be if I were dating.

TrueConfection · Answer

Only if he was voting democrat

the29thhuman · Answer

It’s a deal breaker period, if he votes.

Anonymous · Answer

For sex or to date?

Julia987 · Answer

Yes

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah

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