How do I ask about racism correctly?

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I'm asking this 'cuz I had a post removed called "Am I racist?" and I'm not sure why it was removed since I didn't receive any notification at all. I thought I worded it without crossing any lines in explaining the way I'm feeling recently due to events here on G@G but it seems I did not.

Maybe I got too specific or something so I will try again. I never considered myself racist in the least and lately I am starting to think maybe I am and it is bothering me a lot. I do not want to be racist.

This started with my DM's. I try to be friendly with everyone and so I keep my DM's open. However, I no longer will accept follows from anyone in a certain geographic location. Anyone from this area has been crude and very sexist despite any attempt by me to actually talk to them in a decent manner. At first , I thought maybe it was just 1 bad apple in the barrel but my experience with anyone from that "barrel" now has been bad.

I try very hard to be open minded and understand their culture and beliefs and where they are coming from but I would like the same courtesy in return and it just doesn't happen with these men. They actually scare me.

I will be the first to admit, I am a very simple, country girl with no "real world" experience of any kind. I have never been out of my home state and have no real idea how things work "out there". I have never been through this before and I do not like that I am suddenly stereotyping a whole race but I am not sure what else to do here?
Am I just seeing this all wrong? Am I being racist? Am I asking about it right? Am I supposed to just ignore it and not say anything?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well i wish I would have gotten to read your question  I dont know what it was even about  But I will say this i use gag as a indicator of where we are headed in life where the world is headed and I can tell you this for all the years i've been on here When are worlds starts turning for the worst  There will become more and more racial questions and put downs Nine out of ten of them are race bait questions They are meant to erupt people to get people excited  Now i don't think that your question was about any of this is what I feel coming from your question here  But what i'm trying to say is that our world is going different direction , again , it's almost as if our politicians have people that want to start fights that want to cause chaos that want to make the world explode is what my vibe always has been Like I said , I don't think your question had anything to do with something like this But what I'm trying to say is there are so many ignorant people out there that do not have brains enough to even look up history, because if they did, they would find out the truth, but it's easier for them to be followers than to be leaders. So anybody that reads this, and you know me, if I get a race paid question, I'm going to belittle that person, because it's all fake it's all bullshit at first i used to get upset pissed off but I dont do it anymore.  Because one day the person who does the race bait is going to have to live out the race , bait question , they're going to have to switch positions and live that life , they might not do it right now , but when they come back , they're going to have to live it  The
Funny part is is that just about all of us have been black or white girl or boy in one or more lifetime But that right there is probably over too many people's heads because of ignorance I felt your question and I don't believe that's who you are , whatsoever, as a matter of fact, you're the complete opposite. And I know that you know this, I'm just trying to tell everybody else when I see
You are a guide, you are a teacher. You are meant to be here because of who you are and what you stand for and there's nothing bad or evil that you stand for  If people would really take the time to really read your questions and answers they were truly know who you are far. I'm concerned you're nothing but a blessing in so many different ways , and if people can't see that it's their loss if they cannot hear that or read that it's their loss But I do understand where you're coming from because of your point that these people are wrong, you feel as if you've been penalized for it, and I agree with you, you have been where those people should have been deleted off of this page. Out of gag, because there's too many of them to get away with saying whatever they want to say in hurtful ways.
In pre meditated ways because they want to cause pain and chaos. In other people's lives , but once again , they have to pay that price and they will

Levin · Accepted Answer

Hello naive country girl from the USA.

Err, well, I think what you're describing is a problem with Westerners in general. They're used to their Western sensibilities and expect everyone to have the same level of conscious development when it comes to the treatment of women. They project their higher sensibilities onto others. I guess we say now that Western people lack survival instincts. For example, I read somewhere that 15% of Sri Lankan males have admitted to raping someone. Add onto that the idea of cultural relativism. This idea that all cultures are equal. Well, they're clearly not.

This is absolutely a problem with boundaries. Boundaries keep you safe. They keep you safe in relationship. They keep your country safe. And now we have no boundaries. But when you let down your boundaries and have bad experiences, guess what? Very soon you will have boundaries again. And thank fuck!

As to the question of racism. This is more of a cultural problem. If you invite a Japanese person into your home, you know, in pretty much every single instance, you're not going to have a problem. In the UK, we have official statistics that show that Afghani men are responsible for 20x more sexual offenses than British people. Don't let them guilt you with that nonsense, because they resort to name calling as a way to shut you down, because they know they have lost the argument. Stereotyping may be a bad thing, but it's also an important survival instinct. If you frequently have bad experiences with certain people, it protects you from having another. And why do we not believe a Japenese person will act in a certain negative way, if we're racist? We behave on the basis of our experience, not racism.

The only responsibility a people and its government has is to ensure the safety of its people and its women. Invading armies rape the women in the lands they have conquered. Here in western Europe, we have a peculiar policy of self suicide.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Unfortunately, the real world does not want to have an honest conversation about race. Many people have the idea that if you say something derogatory about another person, and that other person is a member of a race other than yours, then you are "obviously" a racist.

On the other hand, some of these "enlightened" souls will tell you that race does not exist at all; the question then becomes 'how can you be a racist if race does not exist?' These are the same Einsteins who will claim that men can have babies and menstrual periods.

Determine for yourself what does and does not constitute racial prejudice and judge yourself instead of submitting to the judgment of others. Develop confidence in yourself and your values, and your life will be better, more stable, and more grounded in reality.

purplepoppy · Answer

GAG's always been a bit weird on racism. I've had questions removed for asking what coloured people think of white people's food, and I've even had one asking what colour fizzy drink is best removed. Basically anything with the word colour in it will be removed

But you can go on a vile hate filled racist rant and GAG doesn't bat an eyelid.

Genie23 · Answer

I understand why you feel hesitant after some negative experiences from certain parts of the world. It doesn’t exactly make you racist.

The only part that is bit problematic is you don’t want to accept follow requests from anyone from that region, even when some individuals might be completely respectful and genuine. It's kinda harsh. Not racist though... It can come across like you want to believe all men from that region are the same.

If you want to avoid unsolicited messages from anyone you don't trust/know, you could change your privacy settings to “allow messages only from people I follow back.” That way, no one you don’t want to interact with can DM you. You don't have to chat with anyone you don't want to/don't trust yet.

(Also, just want to let you know that I never hid any of your posts.) If admins don't find anything wrong with your post, it will be reinstated in a day or two. You could even message them regarding this.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

You have nothing to be ashamed of. "Two is a coincidence, three is a pattern" and people everywhere are NOT the same, and not cultures are equal. Your feelings are completely justified, and this is the conversation no one wants to have. Instead of complaining about racism and ruining racists' lives they should say, "Wait a minute, maybe there's some problem with us, that's making people racist against us." People aren't racist for no reason, and I've been in your shoes. Also, "racist" is a very general term. I don't think it's racist to hate people from a specific country/culture. Literally EVERYONE has at least one nationality/ethnicity they dislike. This is nothing unusual. Don't feel bad about them. They only have themselves to blame for your feelings.

exitseven · Answer

the definition according to dictionary. com is

"A policy, system of government, etc., that is associated with or originated in such a doctrine, and that favors members of the dominant racial or ethnic group, or has a neutral effect on their life experiences, while discriminating against or harming members of other groups, ultimately serving to preserve the social status, economic advantage, or political power of the dominant group"

If you think you see something like this going on it is appropriate to act against it or call out the person or persons responsible.

dislikesmath · Answer

I've spoken to you you seem like a great fun all around girl. I'm actually 39 (Mexican) even I my family they want to kick each others butts probably till someone life's stops. Has happened where I'm from 🙂. Even Mexicans from other Mexican states can't stand each other. I myself in California have confronted racism I get mad but I stay quiet because I know not everyone is the same. I'm sad this happened to you.

aaron13547 · Answer

You don't, its a battle not worth fighting. You noticed a pattern. They problem here isn't you. The problem is the pattern the world calls that racism and is going to mistake "your" observation as "YOU" being racist... there is no right way to fix someone else they have to want to do that themselve... I think you once told me that yourself 😉 chin up!

lightbulb27 · Answer

you are very reasonable writer and poster.

GAG has psycho moderators. Im sure they have their reasons. At least 20% of what I write gets trashed and it's not offensive, but it is offensive to them... then I lose xper points.

thats GAG...

and why I leave and go elsewhere.

Summeroflove · Answer

Some of the mods are on a power trip but they seem to let others get away with anything they want.

That’s why I’m blocked by a few former mods who I had to bitch out the admins until they got removed as mods or demoted.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Why are you scared lezzie brandi? Hehe
About which geographical area are you talking about?

Even though i'm on the other side of the planet, we got along very well, even if it's in a weird way, i guess that tou have never felt strange with me, so in my opinion it's all about how you treat others, it's either you make them feel strange or comfortable!

noohair · Answer

Racism is a misnomer, there is only one race, Homo Sapean. You are dealing with different cultures. Most people are the sum of their experiences and if those experiences are negative, then that is how you develop how you feel. I don’t give a flying sh! t what other people that I don’t know say about me. Give that a try, it can be liberating.

Apulu_backagain · Answer

Gag is very weird, they removed my GenZ question too claiming it's a 'How do I look' question.

Sunrising · Answer

I wouldn't worry about it. I had a question and replies removed, probably because the Moderators and Admins have targets to reach every month. My question and replies were innocent of any wrong doing.

Iron_Man · Answer

Do you accept friendship from a guy like me an American?

blueonblack22 · Answer

The real cure for racism is  building genuine relationships with people  and that’s not easy and takes time.

Dargil · Answer

It would be in your best interest to drop the word racist or racism from your posts. It seems like it might set of the algorithm. Use the words bigoted or prejudiced instead.

katiesmuff · Answer

Some of he influencer's on this site seem to judge only on their beliefs and not the site rules.

The-Stud · Answer

Country girl with no real life experience like you said is unlikely to be racist. Real world experience is what makes you racist LOL.

AviatorTom · Answer

The best way to deal with racism is to stop talking about it. (by Morgan Freeman)

ABC1x1x · Answer

Everyone should be racist. When you are in the woods its not the rabit prints you look out for, its the wildly or bear prints. There is an intelligent and correct reason for that.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Make your question as specific as possible. Questions as broad as "Am I Racist?" can come across as race baiting.

Caughtulookin · Answer

The panel seems to be middle age conservative women. Its determined by random girl moods. Badically its extremely subjective.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I'm not sure, I never asked that kind of questions ever.

AgentG111 · Answer

Don't ask it's a waste of time. Because someone will be offended by anything.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Not everyone in a certain location is a racist. Judge them as individuals.

LongLiveBillGates · Answer

All racists should be thrown in prison.

jshm2 · Answer

Yeah, best you don't say anything.

Staximus · Answer

If the shoe fits, the shoe fits

blackeagle007 · Answer

By not talking about it

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