Is it possible to think you are nice, but in reality, the truth is you are mean, but you don't know it?

[Anonymous]

[Chazmatazz269]

Not really. Since “nice” is subjective, you can think of yourself as nice and others see you as mean.
There’s an ongoing case of that in modern US politics right under your nose. Democrats accuse republicans of being insensitive or lacking empathy because the latter believes in personal responsibility. Republicans think the democrats are insidious because their policies and practices actually disempower minorities, keeping them enslaved to the system.
Think of the old axiom “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”
Democrats think it’s a kindness to give away fish, even if they are stealing those fish from those who have none to spare. Republicans want people to learn to catch their own fish, but once you’ve been given something, being asked to get it for yourself feels like cruelty.
Everyone in that scenario thinks they’re doing the right thing. It’s all a matter of perspective, until you examine our history. Even then it remains a matter of opinion.

[Anonymous]

That's the prime example of being dominated by the luciferic impulse without using it to grow.

That's when your ego is "developed" deep enough (more like imbalanced malformation than development) to be able to ride the waves of pride, something animals can't do, (thus they are incapable of this self delusion that you describe) it is an early sign of mental illness, unless the person receives teachings that explain what to do with the supersensible luciferic feelings, how to apply them harmoniously so that they don't malform into mental illness. ㅤ

[beenherebefore]

If you are a person who thinks very highly of themselves you might not be aware of the way you come off to others.

[Flower7]

Sure, there are tons of people who are jerks and don’t realize it. This is a very common thing, actually.

[Lliam]

Yes.
I doubt if many mean people think they are mean. They think they are good people but justify hurting other by feeling superior and using rationalizations.

I doubt if many mean people wring their hands with glee and go "Bwahahahaha, I'm evil, bwahahahaha." They always have a justification.

[Anonymous]

I'm nice to people who are nice to me... when I sense an evil intention, I can be mean, but I always try not to be... sometimes, people are so mean to me, I don't even know what to do about it.

I'm quite patient, and I'm willing to forgive, but the others should also try to put some effort in achieving peace.

[Sevenpointfive]

my friends new wife is probably this way. she tries to be nice but she comes off in a different way. she could be pulling a psyop on me. if her goal was distance, then it worked.

[Evsisa]

Yeah I guess, if you have zero self awareness or social skills.

[lightbulb27]

yes, some of each.

[exitseven]

Yes. A lot of people are self deluded.

[noohair]

That is possible... meghan markle is one...

[RedInnocent69]

I often wonder 🤔

[jahaims]

Duh.