One of the teachers I worked with said, “Oh I’m not nice. I’m not as nice as people think and neither is my parents and brothers.”
I don’t get it, she is sweet, loving, kind and funny but why would she say she isn’t nice?
She is honest, even though she can be blunt and say what she thinks, even if it offended people.
She may be teaching you to see all a person's dimensions, not just the ones you want to see or fear seeing. She may see all her dimensions and believe you'd be disappointed with some of them. We often don't want people to set themselves up to be disappointed or hurt.
On many occasions, women have told me they wish they had a partner like me, yet I'm without a partner, as there are aspects of my life that women aren't generally drawn to. It's not that those aspects are bad or wrong, but not everyone has the same preferences, and the life I choose isn't as easy as many women would prefer. Maybe she's able to hide her moody or selfish side from you, but she still knows they exist and will come out eventually. Rather than be optimistic or pessimistic, maybe she wants you to be realistic.
That's how she perceives herself, but it's not unusual for people to view themselves more negatively than others do. It seems likely that she incorrectly imagines that other people are nicer than she is.
Everyone says I am so nice, patient and caring. While that is true, if you piss me off you will see how quickly I can go from angel to demon.
It means there is a side of them you are not seeing.
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