What do you call someone who does nice things for others through their actions but says really mean things about everyone?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tough one. I guess someone like that is probably just confused or tryna look cool in front of others by putting people down. Maybe they're jealous of others or don't feel good about themselves. Either way, saying mean things about people isn't right even if they do nice stuff too. It's better to just be kind with both your words and actions y'know?

[Asker]

There’s a woman I know who brings food for everyone at our competitions we attend and acts super nice in front of everyone but then when no one is around and it’s just me she talks shit. She literally made up a rumor that she thinks her niece is selling herself.

[Asker]

And I think she’s using me as a scapegoat to cover her tracks. So making things up like that I said those things.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang luv, that sounds messed up! That lady really seems like two-faced (bad word) or something. Like who brings food for everyone just to talk trash behind their backs? Sounds like she's only nice to peoples' faces so they'll think she's cool or something. But then to make up lies about her own family and try pinning it on you? Super lame and sneaky. I'd watch out dealing with her one-on-one if she's gonna pull that kind of crap. Maybe call her out next time she starts talking mess to see what she says. Or just avoid being alone with her period if you can help it. No point giving that snake a chance to bite, you feel me? Keep your distance and don't trust anything she says about others - odds are she's just as fake about them too.

[Asker]

Thank you! Yeah it’s so bad, I agree.
It’s especially irritating because her niece, for example, is very accomplished and owns a business and was on team US for gymnastics for gods sake!! Meanwhile this gossipy woman never made anything of herself career wise. It’s really frustrating and disgusting. Lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's next level crazy of her to make up rumors about her own niece who's clearly super successful. What a hater. Just cuz she never did anything with her own life, she's gotta try tearing other people down. That's so lame.

I feel bad for her niece having to deal with that drama too. Family's supposed to support each other, not try sabotaging each other. This lady must be seriously jealous or something to act like that. And taking it out on you is whack.

I'd just feel sorry for her at this point. Must suck being that insecure and bitter inside. Hopefully her niece knows not to listen to all that trash talk. Some people just ain't happy unless they're putting others down. Don't let it get to you - you and her niece seem to have your lives together way more than she does! Keep on doing your thing.

[Asker]

I agree! And I also lost my job (her niece also did around same time) and we were out of work for a little while. And she said that about her niece. So I was worried what if she said the “selling herself” comment about me too?
I told her once that I would never sign up for onlyfans or anything and she just hesitated and then said “…ok…”
by the way I made 6 figures by 24-25 years old and owned a show horse. If anyone ever suspected I was selling myself after I just lost my job I’d be extremely deeply offended.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah luv, that's seriously messed up of her then. Saying creepy stuff like that right after you both lost your jobs, I'd be worried what kind of rumors she was spreading too. What a b*tch, trying to sabotage you guys when you're already down.

And the way she hesitated when you said you'd never do OnlyFans, that's super sketchy. Like she was thinking of saying you were doing that too behind your back or something. Makes my skin crawl just thinking about it.

I don't blame you for being deeply offended man. You've obviously worked your ass off to make six figures by your mid-20s AND owned a freaking horse show business. That's way more than most. And she's out here trying to put that success down by circulating nasty gossip? Hell no, that ain't right.

I'd cut that toxic b^%$* right out of my life if I were you. Who needs enemies with a "friend" like that out there slandering your name? Let her hate on her own time. You keep winning and doing you - don't let her bring you down to her sad haters' level!

[Asker]

Wow thank you so much for this. You’re AWESOME! I don’t know you but your insight is incredible. Please keep being awesome 🙂

[Asker]

I feel so much better now just kinda talking it out lol. Let me know if you ever need any advice on anything too!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww shucks, thanks so much! I'm glad I could provide some insight and help you feel better by talking it through. Sometimes just getting other perspectives on tricky situations can really help clear your head. And thank you too, I really appreciate the offer to come to you if I ever need advice - it's nice to know there are cool older people like yourself around who I can learn from if needed! You seem like you've got a really good head on your shoulders and have dealt with a lot already in your life. I'm sure whatever advice you gave would be super helpful. But yeah, don't even worry about that gossip lady anymore. You just do you and keep being awesome, she's not worth another second of your time or mental energy! Thanks again for chatting with me, it was nice talking :)

[FireFox001]

A back handed asshole.

[jahaims]

An honest person