What do You Think of Those With a Motive in Mind to be Kind?

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LordMadara · Accepted Answer

Altruism? I always have that motive in mind , I'm generally kind but look where that got me?

Broke

Near homeless, Eternal war with my siblings, The list is endless , all bcoz I was spending my money on helping others and one day I helped the wrong mofo who cost me a job , the feeling of kindness however still has stuck with me regardless of the past , however I'm not that kind anymore , it's completely against my nature and it drags me down sometimes that I have to act like a mean jerk who doesn't gv a fock !!! 😞 It's just not in me , had to learn and read books and study what I don't want to be in order to master being a malevolent person, strange times we live in 🤬

OddBeMe · Accepted Answer

They want something in return.

A_Bell · Accepted Answer

I always try to be kind (in real life anyway). I don't hold grudges nor "get back" at people. Eventually I seem to make friends with even my worst enemies.

However, I do not think that permissiveness or lack of criticality is kindness. Letting someone walk blindly over a cliff is not kind.

MsBrie · Accepted Answer

I try to be kind I think its called Mitenfreuden or something like that.

Minnow21 · Answer

I used to have a motive being kind, and I still do to an extent. I had realized that being kind to everyone all the time ended up affecting me negatively, and I forgot to take care of myself, so I still believe in being nice to people, but I stand my ground and get aggressive when needed. I used to always be kind because I didn't want take care of myself after some of the things I've done but still wanted to do good. I have since forgiven myself and realized that no matter how much I or anyone messed up, we all are worthy of redemption. So to those who use kindness as their primary motive and it seems to be their whole personality, check in on yourself to see how you are feeling. Your own life has just as much worth as everyone else. Take care of yourself like you matter because you matter. You don't have to be kind all of the time to be good person, sometimes you need to stand for yourself.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I dont' believe in altruism, and that's coming from someone who has given away a lot of my time and money for causes I believe in. Doing so advances an agenda that I feel good about, and that I believe makes the world a better place. Even when people sacrifice their lives to save their family/battle buddy/stranger, they're doing so because they feel like it is the right thing to do, and it gives their life meaning/purpose.

All of that said, I don't think there's anything wrong with that motive. You're still making things better when you left than when you arrived, which is how I like to look at all interactions.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I suppose it depends on whether the motive is benevolent or malevolent. Generally I think more analytical and introspective thinkers cannot help but be aware of the governing motivations behind all their actions. They don't remain in the subconscious for such introspective types, so elusive to the conscious mind.

Yet a very introspective person can still give a gift to a person with no motive except to cheer them up, for example. That's still benevolent and selfless in external effect, even if it produces a selfish pleasure in the giver of the gift.

jshm2 · Answer

That would be "manipulation" and not "kindness" in that regard.

But you get positive and negative manipulation. For example rewarding a child doing what you like, and punishing them when they don't.

It's more about intentions rather than motives.

superchan2011 · Answer

Well really it depends on what the person's motive is behind their kind acts. If their motive is to simply do something nice out of the kindness of their heart then the person is truly being selfless. If their doing it though hoping or even expecting to gain something out of you, then those type of people are still selfish even if the act itself can be considered nice.

SotiCoto · Answer

Sounds like bullsh! t to me.
If you try to teach people they ought to be kind, all you'll get in practice is people pretending to be kind while using it as an excuse to harass and criticise anyone who they don't believe is kind enough.
Honesty is better. I'd rather a thousand honest arseholes than one idiot trying to be "kind" (i. e. lying to themselves).

lightbulb27 · Answer

I don't understand. are you saying they are lying and putting on a show? what's the underlying emotion?

82lynx · Answer

I don’t like to keep score, or expect to be paid back. I figure if I’m going to be rewarded at all for a good deed, it’s up to the Lord to decide how.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

An obvious motive for kindness means I am skeptical.

joehypo1 · Answer

Some peoples motive for being kind is to make themselves feel good

Iron_Man · Answer

They are being kind to you Paris so they can get a free Dennys dinner off of you. Be very careful lol 😂

Exterminatore · Answer

I think it’s good to be kind for the sake of being kind with no ulterior motive.

Sharkstealth · Answer

Like baking for bribery? How about pussy for that new car or kitchen?

Wiredone · Answer

They just want to spread kindness in the world. Being kind also shows respect for others.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

They're after something. Simples...

laly520 · Answer

I am that person

DJB72 · Answer

My only motive is to be real.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Isn’t that most people anyways?

Yannae · Answer

Good or band depending on your motive.

Likes2drive · Answer

Self-centered I guess

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