Are you for or against surrogacy, and why?

[Julie07]

[sawno]

I'm for this. A loving couple who can't convience but would make good parents, someone who doesn't mind being pregnant for them, and then a hopefully happy child afterwards. At least the family with the child wins and I hope the mother gets something from it to that she wants to experience, if not its at least very noble. In the end there is a lifetime of potential as a direct consequence of it and now a new being in this world, makes it a really impactful good deed to do.

That said I also sympathies with people who don't think the world is a good fit for their child currently and don't want kids as a result. I'm one of them, I fear my child would grow up in tyranny and slavery with the kinds of things I fear that are coming and so far I have not been wrong. So I don't want to have their slavery on my soul so to speak. But if you make the judgement that you can provide for a child properly and you do believe the child has a happy place in the world by all means go for stuff like this and make it happen.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

In a vacuum, I'm not enthusiastic about it.

Because I believe pregnancy is a deep psychoaffective experience, with a lot of consequences, for the pregnant woman, the baby to be and the relation between the two. So when I imagine this relation being severed and restarted with another woman, then I feel wrong. But I feel wrong on behalf of someone able to experience something I irremediably can't, so my opinion should definitely look funny.

Morally speaking, I can't be against, this isn't my body and I perceive no objective harm done. I just feel... Uncanny.

[emeraldsaphire]

I wouldn't say I'm for it, but I'm not against it either. Their are a lot of women who can't give birth naturally. I had a friend who was going through a lot of fertility problems and she was looking into surrogacy as an option. If every one concents I don't see a problem with it. The thing is I just had my first baby and you really get connected to a baby growing in your womb. I can't imagine carrying and giving birth to someone elses child. It just feels so surreal to think about.

[sage2021]

Some women do well being pregnant and if they are willing to help a couple to have a family that they otherwise wouldn't have, then I don't see anything wrong with it.
After all, they are grown adults making that decision.

[Kelly6]

@sage2021 some couple already asked me to help them in this.

[RavVid]

A guy than gets to keep his child and the mother can't take the child away from him.

Some soccer player did this I've read but can't remember who because I don't follow soccer. Surrogacy is cheaper than divorce. So there are advantages for a guy.

[MrChinaski]

Allowing people to sell (or rent) their bodies is a slippery slope. What's next... a second-hand kidney market? Live liver transplant? How do you stop people being bred mainly as organ farms?

If someone wants to be a surrogate for personal, non-financial reasons, I think that's okay.

[Anonymous]

Im for. My sister's husband donated sperm so I could get pregnant because my husband has a low sperm count and after trying for years and because his ex never got pregnant despite trying i felt I had no choice. Sure enough after the trying with my sister's husband within 3 months I was pregnant.

[lightbulb27]

is that "weird" for the child, or when do they find out. it's all a matter of explaining I guess. but kids want to know whom their parents are.

[Opinion Owner]

@lightbulb27 my child & husband will never find out.

[lightbulb27]

omg, um yea, they can... I wish you all the best. secrets... are bad, but communication appropriate for age is important.

[Zack-Bann]

I don’t mind it for couples who can’t get it done the old fashioned way.


But if both parents are healthy I think it’s best to have a kid on your own

[Apostate_______]

That's up to the parties in question. As long as the child being born is given love and a home, then all of our online moralizing is meaningless.

[slatyb]

Children are born under all sorts of circumstances. At least children born through surrogacy are wanted by their parents.

[CherryLove007]

Definitely esp for disabled women and men. It can cost 200,000 so it has to be well worth the extra expenses.

[Agape93]

For. Idc what one does with their own body wanna carry someone else's baby for or without money? Go for it

[Dargil]

Onan was to be a surrogate, refused G0d. s 'command out of misplaced moralism and died for it.

[Kelley1]

It is their choice. I believe in freedom of choice.

[Staximus]

Against. People don’t need kids that bad, the world is overpopulated enough and there are plenty of unwanted kids to adopt

[Guanfei]

Against. It's basically putting women's bodies on the market, not to mention the baby factories in 3rd world countries, with kidnapped women, even minors, forced to chain pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

I think I'm indifferent / 😐 to just plain weirded out by it. Same as IVF.

I for one just know that I for one am comfortable living my life without raising offspring 😄

[Tomislav7]

Insane concept to think about. It takes a lot of sacrifice to do that for a stranger and that in of itself is honorable

[Kelly6]

@julie07 no not at all.

even I am thinking to help a couple who are having difficulty

[Taurus_Woman]

I am against all forms of procreation.

[Kelly6]

@taurus_woman why?

[Taurus_Woman]

@Kelly6 I have antinatalist views, but I’m not extreme about them. I don’t judge or blame people who choose to have children, it’s none of my business. However, when it comes to my own life, I know that I never want to give birth. I don’t feel the need to create a new human being for this world. The world is temporary. One life is one death. I don’t want to start a life which will end one day. Life may be beautiful, but pain, loss, and suffering are inevitable. The one who comes into this life will of course experience pain, disappointment, and loss. So why should I do it for someone who doesn’t even exist yet? I am against giving birth because I think of the child's future more than anything and don’t find it ethical to bring someone into an uncertain place without their will. It is not a negative thought, it is reality. I am a realist person. People tend to love sweet lies, but the truth is always bitter. Life is temporary; you come, you grow, you age, and you die the same way. I can’t follow the crowd and do things that go against my values. Moreover, even if life was perfect—no suffering, no pain, like a fairy tale, I would still not give birth in this century where kids start their lives as if they are part of a system, where AI and technology controls humans, where viruses spread every day and threaten us, where wars and conflicts are almost everywhere and very dangerous for human life. We all experience air pollution, climate change, environmental issues, radiation, and overpopulation, aren't we? All these are the main reasons people must think about before giving birth. Nobody has the right to make someone a victim, at least , for my own life I think so...

[Kelly6]

@taurus_woman
Totally understand what you ment.
And everyone has their our propose as I had my 6th baby last month.
I’m very naturist , hehe and also nudist

[Taurus_Woman]

@Kelly6 “Congrats on your baby ! I respect your choice and I’m glad you’ve found your own path. My views are my own and not meant for others or about blaming anyone. I just see things differently for my own life, but I’m happy we can share views respectfully.

[Kelly6]

@taurus_woman
Same from me

[NathanDavis]

love is love...

[SmokinAces2000]

Has nothing to do with me

[loveslongnails]

I truly don't care.

[In_Trance]

Neither