Why wasn’t the abuse I went through believed by people?

[Anonymous]

The exception to this is when people saw the effects on it on me for example me crying while recalling it etc.

However when I spoke about it and was extremely triggered but still not exhibiting these types of things (crying etc.) not because I haven't done those things behind closed doors but at that moment I was trying to talk about it rationally - I wasn't believed.

This is by counsellors etc. too forget about just another person in society.

Now when I read about forums of people who've experienced trauma - I hear the same types of things from them.

I know that because I was so traumatized I wasn't able to explain properly everything but no one cared enough to properly hear me out either - why?

I started to fear speaking about it altogether as speaking about it was triggering not being believed was triggering so I was caught in this cycle.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

There's a few reasons but part of it is people identify with their past experiences and how it affected them.

When you come with an even worse story it can challenge their own identity. Especially if you're mentally healthy compared to how they see themselves.

I notice a lot of people go through heavy shit but hate people who come out of it without being hopelessly pessimistic.

I've been told to my face there's no way my story could be true and I'm still an optimistic and loving person.

[Asker]

I agree completely.

I also feel they did not understand the signs

For example people with trauma have triggers and it can be as though they are reliving it whenever a trigger is there

My body was stuck in freeze mode for years and years. My nervous system was completely collapsed

But what I did know is abuse is never the victims fault. I was adamant on this part

Maybe at the time I was vulnerable and couldn’t understand why it was happening but that was then

[Telekinetic-Potato]

The cruel part is you want help that most likely you'll never fully get. But the silver lining is if you do the work you might end up with a very charming and powerful personality. The more you work through it, the more confidence in yourself you'll get eventually.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

I'm sorry 🙁. Maybe they just didn't know how to respond

[Asker]

I think the truth made them uncomfortable so they chose to downplay it

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Pribably

[ChicoFromThe305]

How you know people didn't believe you?

[Asker]

I can tell from the reactions etc.

Dismissiveness interrupting me trying to downplay it

It would confuse me. I later realized this is the core issue

[ChicoFromThe305]

Is it possible it can be overthinking

[Asker]

No I can see a pattern

Plus from what I’ve read of people’s experiences online they’ve had similar experiences

Maybe a bit of overthinking but mostly I think this is the main reason

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well if they don't believe you it's their problem, cause its actually happened right, them being too dumb to accept it is on them

[Asker]

Exactly. But at the time I was so traumatized that when they didn’t believe me it would re-traumatize me

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well just ignore stupid people I suppose