Are guys intimidated by rich girls (girls whose families are wealthy)?

[Anonymous]

I know that men care less than women about wealth but I also know that they are sometimes intimidated by successful women.

So this has nothing to do with my success. It's my parents success and I'm lucky for them because they bankroll me, basically.

I don't go out of to show off my wealth or anything but I do wear TR jeans, have a nice car etc but I work at a non-profit organization where everyone else is paying their own way through school and stuff.

So I like this guy who works with me and he's middle class but we don't know each other that well, I know he has student loans, takes the bus etc. Anyway, he's been giving me a lot of mixed signals. My coworkers think he may be intimidated because of my perceived wealth.

Guys, do you really care about that? And if so, how much? Would you stop being interested in a girl because her dad is rich?

I do care if her parents are wealthy

I don't care if her parents are wealthy

I prefer it if her parents are wealthy

It doesn't matter either way

[J_White90]

To be honest, yes I care. This is a biased answer but I was seeing a girl who was rich as hell and although I never met them, she always seemed to give off this vibe that her parents wouldn't approve of me (even though I'm an intelligent, articulate person). I felt like I would never be able to spoil her the way her dad could and, whether you ask it or not, most rich girls are pretty spoiled and "Daddy's little princess." While it's ingrained enough on a middle-class girl, a girl who actually CAN get damn near anything she wants is not someone I, personally, would wanna date (since I can't give that sort of lifestyle to her). But if you're truly as modest as you say you are, then it shouldn't be that big a deal.

[Asker]

I wouldn't say I'm modest, I might be more humble but it's all perception right? That's what I'm worried about. You had a bad experience with a girl but you say it'll definitely turn you off in any case. But he doesn't know me well enough but would he assume that I'm spoiled anyway just by the way I dress, my car, phone etc?

[J_White90]

Humble's what I actually meant. And when I say I'm biased, I REALLY am (just ended it with her on Monday, she never cared about me the way I did her, etc.). Yeah, if you look rich, then he's gonna assume your dad bought it for you (I don't know what your car is but if it's nice, and at our age, no one's gonna think you paid for it with your own money).

[J_White90]

Honesty, its less stress as a guy to date someone who comes from less because no one (especially women I think) wants, as adults, to live worse lives than they did as kids (which becomes a lot more restricting when you're well off). If he likes you enough, then it truly won't be that big a deal, though.

[Asker]

No, he definitely wouldn't think I bought it for myself- he makes more money than me at our workplace. I don't mean to bring up bad memories but it didn't stop you from asking her out when you were unbiased, did it?

[J_White90]

No, it didn't. May I ask, are you actually working at a place for a career(like have you graduated college) or just something where he's been there longer?

[Asker]

That's better to know :) I really don't want guys to be intimidated but I don't want to hide it either because eventually they'll find out.

We're all in school and working part-time. He's planning on applying to law school and I want to work for another non-profit organization. It's good work experience.

[Phoenix1991]

Sorta, I'm intimidated by their fathers, I try my best to be respectful/polite and someone he can trust with his daughter. No man wants to disappoint their girlfriends parents, they worry about that more then they do about bills or STDs. ( bit too far I know, but I'm trying to prove a point lol) Anyway, if I really care about a girl , I would still remain under pressure to still make an impression with her parents, but of course its easier said then done.

[Asker]

Out of curiosity... would you not ask her out in the first place just because she's rich?

[Phoenix1991]

Yeah I would still ask her out regardless if I knew about it or didn't , just means I hit the jackpot (lol just kidding) . That kind of pressure doesn't hit me till I meet the parents for dinner or something, but I would still hang in there for her.

[Asker]

Sweet. That's reassuring, thanks for your answer.

[Phoenix1991]

Lol your welcome.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't bother me at all. The only times when it would be an issue is 1) you try to hold it over me, 2) you expect things that I may not be able to give you, 3) you listen to your family telling you not be be with a guy like me... Things like that. If you like me for me, then everything is fine.

[internet_user]

Yes, I am intimidated by rich girls because even if she does like me, her father is going to disapprove our relationship because I do not earn as much as her father. :-/

In the first place, no rich woman would like me at all. B-)

[ANNUIT_OCEPTIS]

He shouldn't be intimidated becasue he'll be dating UP the social latter, whereas you'll be dating DOWN the social latter.

[J_White90]

As a guy, that IS intimidating...

[Anonymous]

If you like someone you should definitely talk to him. You’re talking yourself out of this. You don’t know where it will go unless you ask.

[Anonymous]

yes and the one I love is a rich girl. life's hard